When the Disconnect Hits

March 9, 2026

It’s been a little while since I’ve written on the blog; I’m not sure why, but I’ve been feeling a little bit disconnected from my kinky side of things lately.

It’s not a disconnect from sex or kink in general – Michele’s recent post about our venture back into the munch scene described how I was very much connected that morning. But when it comes to my specific denial kinks, it’s been difficult for me to keep my mind attached to it.

Denial kink can be tough to manage, in its own right. There’s a fine line between being denied sex and simply not having sex. It’s not easy to draw attention to negative space, the absence of something. With me specifically, it’s more about what I can have, but not allowed to rather than what I can’t have at all.

I’m not quite sure if I’m making sense with this or not 😂 I think with me, basically, the intensity comes with the fact of being reminded that I’m deliberately being denied because Michele enjoys it that way… otherwise, it can start to feel like she’s just not having sex with me…

It gets even more complicated when you consider the fact that, in our dynamic, there are multiple kinks that need to be balanced. While my kinks include sex and orgasm denial, John’s kinks include eating the cum out of Michele’s freshly fucked pussy. It’s pretty clear that one of us is going to have to compromise  – to paraphrase a well known saying: “you can’t keep your cum and eat it, too.”

Have no fear, dear reader – I haven’t disappeared. It’s just a matter finding a way to reconnect considering all of the challenges involved.

Nobody ever said this kind of stuff was easy.