How long was it into the new year until you had your first orgasm? I had to wait 299 days.
As teased earlier this week on Twitter, ML brought to an end our long run of orgasm denial and gave me my first orgasm of 2016. I was WELL passed the point of wanting to be done with it, but ML finally reached the endpoint for her. And, of course, the thing that EVERYONE wants to know is, “How did it feel?” Well, it felt pretty much just as I expected it would…
Pro tip: if a guy who describes their first orgasm after months and months of denial as being this massively explosive sexual experience, gushing gallons and gallons of cum all over the place… there’s a decent chance he’s full of it.
Don’t get me wrong: it was nearly ten months since my last orgasm, so obviously it couldn’t be bad. But usually the first orgasm after a long denial is sort of mellow – it can be underwhelming if you are expecting something bigger.
The second, third, and fourth ones are MUCH better. 😉
My Lady has some difficulty after allowing me to cum – she was wrestling with feelings of failure. We were trying to go the entire year without an orgasm for me, and we didn’t make it. There were a few people who felt the same way when ML was talking about it on Twitter – “Keep pushing, you can make it!” was a popular response. “Don’t give up, you’ve gone so far!” was another. But I don’t think it’s a failure at all.
Yes, we set out to do a year of denial… but anything we’ve ever done in our chastity/orgasm denial play has always been done with the concept of “if we aren’t having fun, then we won’t do it” attached to it. And for the past couple of weeks, the denial was becoming less fun and more work. Although ML was having fun teasing me, she was tired of waiting for some good, hard fucking from me (instead having to settle for slow, careful sex).
So, My Lady decided to let me cum. She didn’t break down, she didn’t lose her nerve… she decided. And, deep down, that’s what we both want: for her to decide.
I’ve never gone 299 days between orgasms. But recently I went 72 days (once again I’m up to 28 days) between orgasms. It was pretty epic. I think that was because I was teased and edged mercilessly before I was allowed to cum. Previous to that my longest time between orgasms was 27 days. That time my orgasm was disappointing–I think because there was no buildup on the day in question. So I think that preparatory work of teasing does a lot to making the orgasm powerful. Just my observations and I will add to them as I slowly build my orgasm after denial totals. lol. Glad you had an orgasm but in a strange way sad too. I know that the excitement and horniness builds for me the longer I go. Living with that is strangely fulfilling. At least to me. All the best to you both!
I agree that tease/buildup does increase the intensity of the orgasm, but usually I don’t want to wait that long! 🙂
I think I agree with you about the build up… The build up is so great at around 3 months and it continues still up to about 6 months. For some reason I feel after 6 months of denial with pretty much daily tease and torture things kind of level off by way of build up… After 6 months I feel the intensity is the same level, it can’t get much more intense than that, it seems. Plus at about 9 months is where I started missing the build up period. The getting him to the extremely horny point over and over. It gets lost with that length of denial.
Hi guys,
You definitely shouldn’t view this as a failure, because it isn’t. Okay you set out with a target in mind and you didn’t reach it but so what? If it stopped being fun and became more of a chore then it wasn’t worth it, the only thing you’ve missed out on is being able to say you went a year without cumming… does it really matter?
Even with my relatively short periods of denial (72 days max so far) I kind of get the picture that longer and longer periods aren’t really going to be the be all and end all. Better to go 60 days being edged daily than 120 days with less teasing. I also notice a period around the 35 day mark where it seems to get difficult and then I kind of get over it and settle in to denial being normal. And when I am allowed to cum I want to cum again, so I think there maybe comes a point where the body almost forgets what it’s like to cum and that need dissipates because it’s so long ago…
RA