Before I get too deep into my post…
Please note the name in the author line! With all of the changes on the blog nowadays, I figured I would throw one more at you: me, cagedmokey, SHALL BE HENFORTH KNOWN AS…
JonMustWait 🙂
Why, you ask? Well, you’re in luck because I just happened to be writing a post about that very subject!
With the… ahem… “expansion” of our kinky lives over the past little while, Michele has been able to fulfill her desires in different ways involving both John and me. John’s focus has been more about chastity (along with some other things we will get to, in good time), while my focus has shifted more towards tease and denial. What this means for me is that my cock spends a lot less time being caged…
And a lot more time being endlessly edged over and over to new and deeper depths of frustration.
And I’m not complaining! Well, I’m not complaining much… except for when I’m desperate for an orgasm, and Michele tells me no while at the same time not letting my stop having sex with her. To be honest, while I enjoyed the chastity components of our lifestyle, I always got more enjoyment and excitement out of the orgasm denial aspect.
Now, this isn’t to say that I won’t be wearing the cage anymore. In fact, there may be a new cage to show off in the near future 😉 All this means is that my focus is going to be more on denial and control… of my orgasms yes, but also a lot more than that. You’ll still hear about how Michele delights in denying me, telling me no, and telling me I need to wait for what I’m so incredibly desperate for.
Among the three of you, does the focus on the guys’ “denial” differ from Michele’s desire for “control”? For example, does Michele’ control (for now) mean that Jon is going to be waiting long (very long?) times between “releases”, but maybe with John it is more of a when and where and on what terms thing? Are there times when either or both of the boys get sent over the top because that is what the lady wants?
Absolutely, shanon! It all comes down to Michele’s control. There will be times where either (or both) of us are denied, times where we will be allowed pleasure…. and (very rare) times where it will be “forced upon us.” 🙂 Michele just seems to lean more towards the fun of saying “no” 😁
And to answer your last question: yes, there are times where she lets us both cum, but it’s always on her terms – if she wants me to go slow and drag myself over the edge, or if she wants John to clean up everybody’s mess afterwards… It’s all up to her!
the lady’s desire for control, versus a boy’s impulsive or long term desires can be the most complicated part of the dance. sometimes a lady is going to want a result a boy is not ready for, but dancing through that tension is the fun part. it seems like you all have a good vibe going on. will enjoy hearing how you maintain intimacy and keep the dance going.
Do you think that the importance of cages can be overstated because of the Internet? it’s easy to describe a cage on a blog or a forum, and folks with denial kinks know what you are talking about. It’s a tangible embodiment of control, domination, tease, denial, bondage, etc. For me, cages have always been a novelty within the idea of getting into the subspace of tease, denial, and control, and the enhanced sensuality that goes along with that. You can’t quite capture the intangibles of “erotic denial” as easily. “erotic denial” is how i would best capture my umbrella interest.
Very good question! I will probably answer this more deeply in a post, but the short answer is: while chastity and denial can be done without the use of a cage, the cage brings with it a unique feeling of being controlled – being held, trapped within the confines of the cage.