You know, I always say how I really can’t stand punishments and discipline. I say how I’d rather just have someone fucking behave themselves and do as they say they are going to do. It just makes things that much easier.
Anyway… It’s been a few days now that cagedmonkey has had to deal with my punishment from his falling asleep on me the other day. It’s also been a few days that *I’ve* had to deal with it. Quite frankly, in bored to bits with this shit already. I really truly need to come up with much more acute, direct, strong corrections that do not last more than a day. I’m so bored with having to decide which plug to stuff his ass with or having to stuff whatever I want in him to punish him. It’s just really no fun anymore. It was sure fun to think about when coming up with the idea but it has quickly lost its power.
So, this might be some big “no, no” in the D/s world but fuck that, I’m in charge and if I say I’m done with a punishment (or part of it as it is) then so be it. Am I being soft? No, I don’t think so, because it’s not like he’s whining and begging me to not punish him anymore. It’s my choice to do this. So I’ve decided that I’m letting go of the whole butt plug and ass violating thing. He will, however, continue to be in his cage for as long as I want without a break and continue wearing his collar every night.
I really am going to have to come up with some fantastic, though short, corrections instead of these long intense ones… that ultimately become too fucking long, boring and annoying to me.
With that said… I’m off to shop for a new paddle, any suggestions?
Haha apparently I have a “trucker mouth” today even when I write. 🙂
Hi Lady M, sorry but I can’t offer a suggestion, we submissives need to stick together.
However, hypothetically speaking, I would have taken something from him, non-sexual, like preventing him from possibly being in a position where he could fall asleep again. So that it only impacts him and takes little effort on your behalf.
I have a punishment dynamic, but punishments are NEVER sexual or play-type attention (that’s a reward!) and they are NEVER work or effort for me (because of exactly your situation where you end up punishing yourself by having to do tedious stuff).
My punishments are boring as fuck and to be avoided. If possible, they fit the transgression (e.g. left the toilet seat up? “Go in there and kneel by it and put it up and down 50 times: let me hear you count them”), but dull go-tos if there isn’t really anything are things like writing lines: “I will always put the toilet seat down” or doing chores like cleaning the toilet.
Hopefully you won’t have the need for any punishments any time soon :).
Ferns
Thanks Ferns for your comment… yes I usually do “fit the crime” for example one of my subs has a speeding problem lol so I make him drive under the speed limit as punishment (ugghhhh annoying!) or talking back gets you gagged all night. My thought in this punishment fitting the crime was to abuse the very hole I wanted to enjoy when he fell asleep. lol That ultimately back fired haha
Oh well, I’ll stick to the boring, annoying, taking away enjoyment things I normally do. Because, in the end, it did just punish me trying it this way. 🙂
Have you ever thought about having him write out punishment lines (or type them)? It is a childish, tedious, and very boring punishment that requires almost nothing in terms of supervision or work on your part. Google “Fond of Writing Program” and check it out. There is no doubt that those tasks are severe punishment.
Thank you for your comment!
Yes, writing lines is a super annoying punishment. It’s really a great long distance punishment too, if you have online submissives. 🙂
My sub has a butt plug inserted and both ankles cuffed to a hard, uncomfortable old kitchen chair while typing out her lines on Fond of Writing program. To be really mean, she sometimes has to wear these thumbcuffs while typing:
http://www.thehomesecuritysuperstore.com/thumbcuffs-w-double-lock-and-keys-mt-s4508tc-gmc-p=2969?gclid=CLTIkIizm8QCFYQ8aQodCqsAtA
Very nice! Thank you for your comment and the link to those cuffs! 🙂