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I Control If, When and How He Orgasms

Posted by Michele on November 5, 2016
Posted in: Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 4 comments

We all know that, in our relationship, I’m in charge. I decide if cagedmonkey will have sexual pleasure, when and even how he will have that pleasure. I can make him go without orgasm for a few days, a week, a year or I can even make him cum over and over in one session. I used to refer to what we did as orgasm denial but that’s not what it is, I was naive in thinking that’s all it was. I know my husband likes to be denied and I’ve known that for over 16 years but in the past 3+ years I’ve realized it’s SO much more than that. There probably are guys out there that just enjoy the orgasm denial part but it isn’t just about denial. It’s about control, orgasm control. It’s about being in control of the very deep pleasure that someone can have, it’s about controlling the existence of that pleasure. You control if they feel that feeling, when they feel it and how they feel that explosive, intense, feeling from their chest to their toes. You are in control of the most intimate of pleasure that someone can have. That’s powerful! Isn’t it? Does the thought of that power excite you? It truly is an awesome power!

Speaking of orgasm control and, control and power in general. The other morning cagedmonkey and I had a pretty hot moment. I was kissing him goodbye in the morning, as I do everyday, and I happened to reach up and grab him near the throat. I felt that twinge in my crotch and was instantly turned on. I grabbed a little harder, squeezed and tightened my grip around his throat as I kissed him. I felt and heard him let out such a delicious moan. I felt my pussy quiver and get all warm between my legs. I love the way that feels!

Immediately I got this incredible urge. It was the urge to make cagedmonkey cum… But not just make him cum in the “normal” way.  As I felt him there, in my hands, holding his very existence in my grip, I wanted to control it all. I wanted to feel the control I had over his entire body in that moment, his breath, his orgasm, his pleasure, his pain… his everything. I could almost see it in that split second, I wanted to have him laying beneath me, under me, while I was riding his cock, choking him while I make him cum nice and deep in my warm wet pussy.
I have no idea why that came over me in those few seconds but it did and it turned me on so completely. The amazing powerful feeling! Anyway, I just wanted to share with you because often I get asked what it is about all this that turns me on or any woman and for a dominate chick it really does come down to the power and control… That is the exciting part!

Desperate for Orgasm After 10 Months of Denial

Posted by Michele on October 25, 2016
Posted in: Male Chastity, Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 5 comments

I bet you expected to see this post from Cagedmonkey, huh? Well, too bad, it’s from me. We are just about at the tenth month of this year long orgasm denial which, in itself, is pretty amazing. I’m pretty proud of myself for getting this far through this. So toward the end of last year, when we talked about this whole year long denial we always said if I wanted to stop for any reason we would. If it ever wasn’t fun anymore, or we weren’t enjoying it, we would stop. There is no way I would take something like that lightly or just decide on a whim that I was done.

For about the last month I’ve had off and on feelings about this whole year of denial thing. I’ve thought a lot about if I want to continue. It’s taken me about a month to finally get to a point where I knew I needed to actually make a decision. I noticed, recently, that when I thought about the denial, I’d almost start feeling down about it. Even more recently, thinking about sex was making me feel horny and, yes, excited but also I felt down… I’d start to feel blah and almost not want to have sex. Not that I didn’t want to but that feeling was there. I had to ask myself, why? Well, that why is because sex, for me, was not feeling satisfying. I wasn’t feeling fulfilled after. Yes, I get to cum and get pleased like crazy all the time but for some reason not seeing and feeling CM satisfied (especially inside me) is not giving me what I need. There is some part of our intimacy missing and it’s that moment when we are both in an intensely sexy moment, feeling that amazing feeling that I’m missing. In a way I feel sort of let down and maybe kind of lacking because I’m not getting his satisfaction. It’s so weird, I know, but that’s how it is.

I guess it’s difficult to explain how hard it is to keep someone denied for so long when you’re sexual with them on a daily basis. Sex, for me right now, just feels incomplete. I feel like I’m left hanging and really I am not one who enjoys denial or frustration. As much as I love denying him and frustrating him, I do still love seeing his satisfaction. It makes me feel good and like I’m doing something right. Like I said, it’s weird and hard to explain but it’s just what it is.

Someone asked earlier today, when I was telling them about all this, what is so important about the 12 months? What made us decide to do it? Honestly, there isn’t anything all that important about it. It was just something to try after trying so many other things lol. We really just wanted to see if we could do it, I guess. Other than I know I could do it, the past 10 months has helped me see that I actually do need to see and feel CM satisfied, at least once in a while! 

So, give it a couple days and then feel free to ask CM how it feels to cum after being teased and denied his orgasm for about ten months! Haha 🙂 I guess he’ll know, at some point, I’m going to tell him to cum after he reads this! 

I Got to Know Locked Up Love

Posted by Michele on October 23, 2016
Posted in: Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . 4 comments

I had the pleasure recently to chat with the owners at lockeduplove.net and learned a bit about their site and how they got started in the chastity business. In 2007, LUL began selling their products via eBay. In 2008, they developed the LUL website and continued selling the CB products and providing customers with advice by telephone and/or email. Though small and family-run, their business has continued to grow every year since then. Through the years, other companies have approached them to request they sell their products and accessories in the male chastity arena on their site, and many of these products they still carry, how cool is that? They have even developed some proprietary products, such as the Guardian for CB models and for the Holy Trainer® that they also provide to some retailers outside of the USA.  They certainly seem to be the largest retailer of Holy Trainer® and Birdlocked products in the USA.They also carry a lot of chastity accessories making locking up your love an easy process! 

I know many people in this lifestyle that have used their services and continue to. Locked up Love prides themselves on customer service, and always go the extra mile to please people (like adding a note to some packages when it is a gift). This has led to a strong reputation from those knowledgeable in this lifestyle, and they get many referrals and repeat customers as a result. If you are looking for a place to start with chastity and you are not looking to go custom just yet, check them out!

Podcast Episode 6 – We’re Drunk!

Posted by Michele on October 18, 2016
Posted in: Conversations, Podcast. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

Monkey in a Cage is back with another episode of the podcast! I know it’s been a little bit since we’ve gotten one up but here it is. If you follow us or subscribe to our podcast on Soundcloud.com you already got the notification that we posted a new podcast. Go you!!

Cagedmonkey and I were quite inspired by Drunk History, so in this episode we decided it might be fun to answer some questions from our readers and followers on a podcast while intoxicated. We were asked some questions about pegging, how it feels teasing and communication. Thank you again to our followers who asked questions on Twitter before and during our recording. We didn’t do a whole lot of editing to this so you get to hear all of the drunken slurs and tangents we get off on. We hope you enjoy!! 🙂

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Where Did You Get Your Key?

Posted by Michele on October 17, 2016
Posted in: KeyHolder, Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . 2 comments

Recently I’ve had a few people asking me about the key I wear on a necklace around my neck. They key they are talking about is the key to my husband chastity cage. More specifically it is the key that loosens the security screw we use to keep his cage locked on his junk. 🙂 I have a picture (on the contact page, maybe) that shows the padlock key I used to wear before getting the security screw from Mature Metal. However we realized that having the screw was much more convenient, quieter and less bulky. 

Back when I ordered the security screw option I found out it came with two keys. One we use as an emergency key that hubby keeps on his keyring and it’s tamper evident. That one is the regular size. I asked Mistress MM if it would be possible to cut a key shorter because I didn’t want to have a long metal pendant that would draw attention to itself. The shorter one does that just fine! Anyway, Mistress MM told me that the key could be cut shorter and redrilled so that it was small enough to wear on a necklace. There is a very small fee associated with resizing the key but in my opinion, it’s worth $25. 

My key is cut to one inch total. If I remember right that is about 3/4 of an inch smaller than the normal size of the key. One thing I want to mention is to make sure you get yourself a good rope style chain for the key with a clasp that fits through the hole! It would be a good idea to get the necklace after you get the key, just to make sure it fits. It is still possible to use my key to unscrew the security screw, though it is more difficult than using the regular length key. 

I know that Mature Metal can get a bit more creative and custom about their keys but keep in mind the more creative you want your key, they more expensive it might be due to the handmade nature of it all. If you are interested in shortening your key for your keyholder you just need to let Mistress MM know and it will be done! 🙂 She’s extremely good like that. She even knows what you mean if you mention you want the “key like Lady M wears.” Hehe 🙂

Hope this helps! 

Teasing Hubby While He’s at Work

Posted by Michele on September 28, 2016
Posted in: Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 1 comment

Today I’ve been extremely horny. Before hubby left for work I had him eat my pussy to a couple of good orgasms. I’m pretty sure this is hubby’s favorite time of the month. I usually have a really horny few days or so before I start my monthly cycle. That happens to be right now so I spent part of the morning, after getting kids off to school and starting dishes and laundry, doing my best to tease hubby and sent him a few pictures.

I had this craving earlier to just turn my wand on low and just let it sit on my clit and have it drag me slowly to an orgasm. It’s so nice just letting it go and build and build. I love, sometimes, letting hubby just lick and lick and having his mouth and tongue get me going, slowly building me up to a big orgasm. Most of the time I’m not having him spend too long down there because it feels so good and I just want to cum. So today I messaged back and forth with him, telling him everything I was doing and thinking about. I told him, for some reason, I was having some really dirty, naughty thoughts. I was thinking about wearing my strap on and seeing him kneeling in front of me, looking up at me as I force him to be kinda slutty for me. I imagined seeing him there, eyes watering after I made him gag a few times. I guess I’m getting into a using him mood. Whatever my mood it’s a wonderful horny mood making my pussy nice and wet and making me want to tease hubby bad!

Of course cumming like that only made me a bit hornier so I had to get out “Adam” and give myself a good filling up. With that first orgasm, I started craving that feeling and really wanted to feel CM’s big thick cock stretching my pussy and filling me up but my toys had to take his place since he’s at work. So I set that wand on my clit again, slid “Adam” easily into me. I was already so wet and horny, I took it no problem! It really was not long at all before I was clamping down on that lifelike dildo and it wasn’t much longer that my tight pussy was squeezing it right out as I came. My pussy was such a mess after that and I only wish I would have had subby hubby here to clean it up afterwards. 

Catching a Cheater Penis Microchip

Posted by Michele on September 27, 2016
Posted in: Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . 9 comments

There is a new ridiculous hoax floating around on Facebook, claiming something along the lines that you can have a microchip planted into your partners penis and get a cellphone notification that would tell you if he were cheating on you. At first I giggled and was like what a dumb thing to start passing around the internet and then I actually felt sad that there are probably people out there that feel they might have a need for that. If they do feel that way they probably should not be in the current relationship they are in, just sayin’!

microscopic-tiny-computer-microchip

Then I got to thinking – what if there actually was something similar to this that a keyholder could use? That certainly gives new meaning to chastity and /or orgasm control. Do you think you would like the idea of a microchip in the penis to detect chastity or denial or do you prefer the chastity cage? For me, I definitely like the cage. I love how it looks and I love that it is completely a physical reminder that I own that. I get to see it, he gets to see it and feel it. It is so much more than just holding off the orgasm, a chastity cage is gives you the feeling of control and not just the mental part of it. It’s not just about knowing I control orgasms. I love that chastity is so much more than that. I control orgasms, erections, and all sexual pleasure. The cage is such a hot reminder of that.

I even wonder what my husband would think about something like this – I do think that he agrees that the cage is something spectacular that has added such a deepness to our relationship. Even if there was no orgasm control associated with it, I still think that chastity and that sense of control that I have really is what it’s all about. I really think he would agree with that – I’m sure he will comment since he has no clue that I’m even writing this post and will likely have some thoughts when he reads it. lol

I’m interested in your thoughts, too. Do you use a cage for orgasm control or for control in general? Are you just on the honor system? Would you prefer something like a microchip that would alert your keyholder of any time you cheated?

Podcast Episode 5 – Holding Off Orgasm

Posted by Michele on September 25, 2016
Posted in: Podcast, Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 1 comment

Finally! After the crazy week with the trip to the ER, Monkey in a Cage is back with another episode of the podcast! Sorry it’s taken a little extra long. If you follow us on Soundcloud.com you already got the notification that we posted a new podcast.

In this latest episode I interview cagedmonkey about how he actually manages to hold off having an orgasm while being denied almost 9 months and still being allowed PIV (that’s penis in vagina) sex. We hope you enjoy and please feel free to let us know what you want to hear about in the future.

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Edging All Night Long

Posted by Michele on September 18, 2016
Posted in: Male Chastity, Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , . 2 comments

You would think with that kind of title that I would have set myself an alarm and edged cagedmonkey all through the night. However, instead I made HIM edge himself, all night long… in my pussy! I unlocked him last night to tease him and get myself as much of him as I could since he’s leaving today on an overnight business trip. I gave him a pretty good teasing and edging but sitting between his legs on the bed and stroking him and making him watch ass he came so close to exploding over 8 months of cum on my huge boobs. I gave him an awfully nice tittie fuck (sorry guys, no pics!) And then I made him “sex me” as we’ve so loving started calling it. I just love how it feels when his big thick cock stretches my tight pussy. I love how it feels when he slides out and gives me those looooooong thrusts, pressing deep into my warm softness. It doesn’t even bother me one bit that he can only manage a few thrusts before he needs to stop and get himself under control before he cums without permission. It makes me feel good, actually, that I’ve gotten him to that point. I have teased, edged, tortured and denied him so much that he’s super sensitive and just ready to explode any minute. At one point when I made him edge a little further than he wanted (by humping back up at him) and I giggled as I said “aww I’m so mean to you.” Truth is, I know I’m not mean, I know this is what he wants, what I want, what WE want and I absolutely love it and get such a happy, joyful feeling from seeing his frustration. I have no idea why I love to see a man so frustrated at my hand but I do, I love it intensely. 🙂

Once we were done doing the sexing thing, we said it was time for bed. I had plans though, since he’s going to be gone and I won’t have time to physically play with him I decided he had to be edged all night. I certainly wasn’t going to wake up and do it so I required him to wake up through the night, get himself hard and use my pussy (while I was asleep or not) to edge himself, over and over again, all night long. I don’t know how many times it was that he woke up to spoon me and slide that horny hard cock in my pussy but I do remember how it felt. I admit, I loved being woken up to my pussy being stretched and feeling his cock running against my g-spot. I’m not even tired this morning from it, I thought I would be but I’m not. Which means I’m more likely to do something like this again in the future. 

Cagedmonkey may be going away for the night on business but that doesn’t mean I won’t be sending along a few things to help him remember who owns and controls his sexual pleasure. Not to mention, I’ll be overloading his inbox with sexy pictures and reminders of how much I love him, want him, desire him and love to tease and deny him. 

Podcast Episode 4 – Extramarital Submissives

Posted by Michele on September 3, 2016
Posted in: KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Podcast. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

We had quite a bit of fun on Twitter this past week and it sparked some questions from a few people about just what it means for me to take on an extramarital submissive. We thought we’d take a few minutes to chat about what works for us and how we do things.

I did write a post on this subject a while back and had some of the subs I had during that time to write a comment on that post just telling what it is that I do for them.

Another post I wrote on Male Chastity & Cuckolding can be found here. This could be helpful for some. 

We hope you enjoy the latest podcast, right click here to download or listen now!