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From the Archives – The Day She Became the Keyholder!

Posted by Lady M on December 18, 2013
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , . Leave a Comment

Once in a while, for fun, Lady and cagedmonkey will go back through their communication book and revisit experiences, thoughts, feelings and ideas they had. The communication book was something they started for and with each other at the beginning of this journey. These posts will be written exactly as they are in the book.

The following entries are about the day CM handed over the keys!

10/14/2013

ML: “OMG!! Last night you decided to give me your key! You handed over complete control! I wasn’t expecting it or really ready with what to say or do. It was unexpected and empowering at the same time! I have been more than ready to take the control and the responsibility. I’ve been waiting to officially become your Keyholder. I really, truly appreciate the level of trust you have in me and I promise to be an awesome Keyholder. Well as best as I can!

The craziest thing is that we’ve only had the cage since Saturday and by Sunday night you were handing the keys! You wore the cage for 7 hours + straight yesterday and even through the Emergency Room visit with darling daughter! Like a champ I might add.

After a pretty amazing night with lots of talking I took my cock out of his cage because he did such a good job in there during the day and through the teasing last night too! I wanted him to know that, when I want, he will get out and he may even get to cum the way I want him to. I loved watching while making my cock cum all over my hand last night. I don’t often get to see it. After I let my cock have a little release, right back in the cage he went. You’ve been sleeping in the cage all night so I guess we’ll see how you’re doing mentally and physically when you wake up. 🙂

P.S. I loved seeing, feeling and tasting the cock in his cage while we were 69 and you were servicing my pussy. – Oy! I have more feelings that I just thought of! Will write later.”

CM: “I wasn’t expecting to give you my keys last night, but I just needed to. It felt right. I know it was the right thing to do. And I feel great about it!

This feels amazing – I feel safe with you. I enjoyed servicing you and pleasing you last night. I’m starting to get the whole “focus on you” thing, but I’m glad that you enjoy hearing about my frustration, etc. You’ll be hearing plenty about it!

I think I’m going to work on my ‘list’ before playing with the kids. I love you!”

ML: I just wanted to get this written down. Last night after you have me your key I had a slightly different feeling about some things. When I straddled your lap and had your face in my big boobies and made you suck and kiss them and was I was kissing you deep and hard from above I felt this real feeling of ‘oh he looks so good servicing me.’ I haven’t ever used those words and really felt them but last night they seemed to come naturally!

I love you so much and I’m still excited about how everything is going! <3 You're my best friend and I couldn't be this without you!"

My Favorite Kind of Orgasm

Posted by Lady M on December 12, 2013
Posted in: KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Sex. Tagged: , , , , . 8 comments

I wanted to take a few minutes to talk about my favorite orgasms – to give to cagedmonkey! For the purposes of this post I’m going to refer to two types of male orgasm, the full orgasm and the ruined orgasm.

I’m sure I don’t need to describe a full orgasm to anyone. You boys have likely had plenty of them… before chastity and orgasm denial that is! You all know this is the full spasm having enjoyable spurting cum orgasm. Even though it’s not necessary to expel cum by the way! You can have a full orgasm, spasms and all but not release any cum.

Now on to the ruined orgasm, which I’m sure you can figure out. Basically it is bringing your guy to the edge and juuuuuuuuuuuuuuust getting him to the point where he will drop of the other side and completely stopping all stimulation. Usually, if you get it just right, cum will ooze out but there will be no pleasurable spasms.

Now the ruined orgasm is my favorite one to give hubby since it leaves him still frustrated and horny. However, my absolute favorite ruined orgasm is giving him one while he is still in his cage. I just love that he is so horny, so turned on, so ready to explode at any minute that I can simply stimulate him through the bars in his cage and get him to have a half sorta kinda orgasm. The look on his face and the way his body moves and the moans that come out of him are wonderful and the just make me giggle! 🙂

Holding Up My End of the Bargain – Discipline

Posted by Lady M on December 8, 2013
Posted in: Discipline, Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Marriage, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , . Leave a Comment

When cagedmonkey and I started out on this journey we came up with an agreement, typed it up, printed, signed and dated it. In our agreement we set up guidelines for discipline. I’m not going to get into what they all are here but they’re pretty simple. Follow the rules or two things may happen, you may receive a “Correction” for minor offenses (ie: getting sassy with me, being lazy etc) or a “Punishment” for major infractions such as breaking any part of the agreement.

Again, these are things we agreed on, not something I decided that he had no say in. It’s not like I was all “I’m going to spank you with a paddle if you are a bad boy and there is nothing you can say about it.” We thought these things through and its what we feel is best for our relationship.

I was chatting with a like minded friend and his wife recently and we talked about how hubby’s and wives often times get irritated with each other and out of fear of their spouses reaction they don’t say anything. Those feelings tend to hang around and grow and fester and resentment builds. I know this from a lot of experience.

Cagedmonkey and I are both guilty of doing this for quite awhile in our own marriage. The great thing about adding discipline into our marriage is that those things that irritate me/us can be talked about, let go of and resolved within a short period of time and no need for any resentment.

On to why I’m writing with this post. You see, I’m not some cold hearted bitch who is into beating my hubby into submission. Rather I’d like to never have to discipline him! I don’t like it and I don’t want to have to do it. With that said, I signed that agreement too that said I would hold up my end of the agreement. If a “rule” is broken I must provide a correction for the behavior or a punishment.

Up until now I’ve only had to give one punishment for having an orgasm without permission. Whew! That was an easy one! Hubby got one week not being allowed something he really enjoys, which meant he was not allowed to look at or touch my breasts. He’s obsessed with them so this was a difficult punishment for him. 😉

I’m finding that it is much more difficult to give a correction than a punishment! Tonight hubby will be receiving a correction for being lazy and more specifically for not following through on something that was asked of him. I’ve chosen to give him a good spanking for it. Plus, well I’ve been craving spanking his sexy ass so well it’s a good choice. Yum!

My point is, it’s not always easy for the wives in a Wife Led Marriage. We have responsibilities to keep our boys in line and on the right path and behaving properly.

I know some couples in FLR/WLM are a bit deeper into the discipline and have regular (weekly) maintenance spankings to help solidify their roles in the relationship and they also keep a log of offenses which are weighted and take care of them all in one punishment session at the end of the week. I’ve been researching again as to why this would be and I don’t have a specific answer for that but I have discovered that there is a kink(?) out there called F/m Domestic Discipline. That’s a whole different post on its own.

For now, I’m off to warm up my hand in preparation of giving cagedmonkey some nice red rosy cheeks later. I know it won’t end up being that harsh of a correction since I’m right handed and I have a pretty significant tear in my rotator cuff that is heading for surgery.

Ok maybe I’ll post a picture later of the results! 😉

When the Other Shoe Drops – Domdrop

Posted by Lady M on December 6, 2013
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , . 6 comments

I borrowed this from another website (can’t remember which now, sorry) to help me explain something I experienced for the first time last night.

“During BDSM play, both the dominant and submissive partner may experience feelings of euphoria caused by endorphin rush. After play is over, in addition to the drop in endorphins, the after-effects of power exchange, physicality, and emotional release during BDSM play may leave one or both partners feeling lost, sad, or anxious after play is over. Dominants may also experience feelings of guilt for having used and/or hurt their subs.”

The above quote is discussing Domme drop (or Top drop) which refers to the specific and temporary reaction one can have after an intense scene. It can happen anywhere from half an hour to a couple days after a session. Dominants can have a very strong reaction to the sudden dump of emotions. We play hard, we let out parts of ourselves that have likely never been exposed, we explore our predatory natures. Our bodies fill with adrenalin and endorphins. A Dominant can find themselves suddenly crying, depressed, guilt ridden, insecure, scared, or any combination of emotions and physical reactions. Some just become suddenly exhausted. Some have little or no reaction.

This is exactly what happened to me last night. We had a particularly intense session of submission for cagedmonkey. I grabbed ahold of my power and took him pretty rough with the strap on by the end of it. I was revved up, hot, horny, aggressive and feeling very powerful. It felt so good to push him around, position him where I wanted, do what I wanted to him. He both hated and loved every minute of it. He is definitely not a butt slut but does like that I want him like that. That I will use him that way, for purely my pleasure.

Last night was a work night for hubby so our time together was very limited but I was very much craving that power over him and wanted to force some submission on him. Usually after an intense session we end with some cuddling aftercare. It’s in our contract that I provide this for my subby hubby and I just love holding him after anyway. It’s beautiful having him lay on my chest and me hold him and tell him everything is ok and I love him. So last night the aftercare was extremely short. Cagedmonkey had to rush out the door to work.  

I think last night I realized that I, the dominant, need that aftercare just as much as a sub. About a half an hour after hubby walked out the door I was sitting here alone and just burst out crying for a few minutes. I started to freak out as to what the fuck was going on and even caused myself an anxiety attack. I took some anxiety meds and calmed myself down and started to research (yes, you’ll find I do a lot of that!). I just had to know what happened to me.   Let me tell you not to worry it is a short lived reaction. It was a sudden dump of emotions and my body needed to deal with them however it knew how… crying was that reaction apparently.

Dom and sub drop may happen for several different reasons. One cause is chemical. Adrenalin and endorphins are powerful chemical hormones in our bodies. When the hormones start to leave our systems it is not unusual to have symptoms similar to withdrawal. Fatigue, mood swings, depression, these are all common reactions to both Dominants and submissives. People process the chemicals in their bodies in very different ways and react to them in their own way too, so there is no way to know how a person’s going to react.  

The point of this post is help others Dommes (and subs) know that it’s important to understand what is going on in your body. It’s also important to understand that it’s normal to have these reactions, and they will go away shortly.

I’ve Got an Ass Obsession Today

Posted by Lady M on December 5, 2013
Posted in: Chastity Device, Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 2 comments

I figured since I was having a particularly horny day lol that I’d come here and express myself.

My beautiful cagedmonkey has one sexy, yummy ass – at least to me! For some reason today I’ve been thinking about nothing but his ass. I love feeling it, squeezing it, pinching it, rubbing it,spanking it, kissing, it, licking it and some strap-on play. 🙂

It’s been crazy in my mind playing through these little scenarios. Ones like me wearing my high heeled boots, taking him naked and bending him on to the kitchen counter pushing his cock cage up against it and making sweet slow love to him… Damn that makes me quiver again just thinking about it!

I also have this craving to spank him… to feel my hand smack his cheeks and make them rosy red. To get that slight burn when I spank just right. Mmmm so hot!

I seriously have no idea why I’m feeling so nutty about his ass today but I already told him that I may have to take care of my craving this weekend! 🙂

Ok just wanted to share. Hope you’re having a good night!

Keyholder Epiphany

Posted by Lady M on December 3, 2013
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 3 comments

Epiphany: a sudden, intuitive perception of or insight into the reality or essential meaning of something, usually initiated by some simple

It sounds weird to say this but it feels almost as if a weight has been lifted from me. After our conversation last night I got to thinking about what I really wanted and how I wanted to play with hubby. After all, he gave me the beautiful gift of regaining my natural dominance, so I’m in charge.

So what do I want from the chastity? Well, easy, I want the device on at all times unless I unlock him for play time, tease time or for my using. It’s my toy locked up in my toy box. 🙂 *giggle*

So, what about the Tease & Denial? Well in all my pondering last night, I realized what I want is not called “Orgasm Denial.” It’s called “Orgasm Control” because I want to be in control of if he cums, when he cums, how he cums and how much he cums! If I feel like spending an entire day using him over and over to drain every bit of cum from him then so be it. I unlock him, use him and lock him back up. If I want to deny him for 40 days for the fun of it then so be it! If I want some mix of the two, I can have it. If I change my mind in the middle of it all, I can! 🙂

I’ve finally got my brain on board knowing that all of these things are my decision. No more feeling like I promised to lock him up for a length of time and not wanting to disappoint him or upset him or “do it wrong” or not the way he wants it. I’m in control, I hold the power to use him for my pleasure in whatever way I choose. I hold the power to allow him an erection or force him to have one all day, if I want! I hold the power to deny him orgasms for as long as I feel like having him behaving in an awesome attentive way towards me. If I feel like asserting my dominance and taking him as mine every night for a week, I hold that power.

I hold all the power when it comes to his sexual feelings, sensations and releases. The one part I want to explore more in our relationship is the Wife Led part. I’m curious about what it would feel like to be completely in control of everything he does. I don’t want this all the time because I’m not into having a slave but I think once in awhile having a very submissive session of play would be fun. I have no idea as I’ve never done it, never been overpowering dominant and/or demanding but maybe I want to see what it’s like! We were talking the other day and he mentioned scrubbing the kitchen floor naked while I supervised (probably half joking, I’m sure lol). At that moment something happened to me I was not expecting… I suddenly got extremely aroused at the thought of him serving me that way. Though at the same time my head was like wtf that’s so wrong! Cagedmonkey and I have said that it can never hurt to try something… we might like it. He’s not all into serving that way (not into being a slave nor do I want one) but he’s not against the session happening once in awhile if it is something we both enjoy. So we’re off to try new things once again and explore what feels good!

Ok so that was my epiphany overnight… see what happens when you stay up until after 4am!

Wish me luck! 🙂

What Do You Mean “Service You?”

Posted by Lady M on December 2, 2013
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , . 3 comments

When we first started out in male chastity and embracing a bit more of the wife led marriage I had no clue what this “service” thing would be… I don’t want to be “serviced,” I’m not a car, I don’t need an oil change!
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I really had no idea what that phrase even meant. So over the course of this journey I’ve been reading other blogs and websites about chastity and wife led marriage or female led relationship (whichever you choose). It’s been interesting and has given me ideas to try and mainly I try things to see if I like them… not so much hubby. What we have come to find out is that we often think very much alike and enjoy the same things. Part of this whole control thing, this chastity thing, this wife led marriage thing has been exploring what I enjoy sexually and non-sexually. Whatever those things happen to be, when they come up, are the things that cagedmonkey can then “service” me with. I’ve found that no two wives or Keyholders can be serviced exactly the same. It really comes down to trying things and seeing how your mind and body respond. If you like it you keep doing it, if you aren’t sure, you try it again another time and if you really didn’t like it you don’t have to do it again. The thing is, you won’t know what you enjoy unless you try and knowing what tickles your arousal makes directing your hubby or partner to serve you that much better. Just going about it the same old way you went about your vanilla sex life makes it much harder and it also makes this journey lose it’s appeal that much faster. I’m all about keeping things fresh, new and interesting.

Like I mentioned in a previous post, I know I am a dominant person but never was I aroused by being dominant. I did not connect sexual energy with my natural dominance. I actually was turned off by the thought that someone would enjoy making someone clean, cook and/or wait on them hand and foot. Once I started to research the whole FLR/WLM I started reading about the sexual side of it. What I did kinda get was the dominance in the bedroom. I’ve always been pretty dominant there and loved the whole teasing thing so that really was nothing new. I understand the desire to be told what to do and how to do it and controlling another person’s sexual pleasure. Especially a big strong alpha male being tied up, ordered around and even spanked by a seemingly lesser female. Now we know that those are all looks on the outside but behind closed doors we know who really “wears the pants” in our relationships! 😉
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The thing I had the most trouble with was how cagedmonkey could possibly “serve” me other than orally and, honestly, I really wasn’t all into oralsex that much. It was just too much work! I always felt pressured to have an orgasm so he knew he was doing a good job – which he was, he’s always pleased me so well in that area! It really wasnt enjoyable to feel like I had to perform. Oh and not being “fresh” and worrying about smell or not having hair trimmed just right… all that stuff makes it so hard to enjoy oral for a woman! I’ve noticed over time and with him desiring control of being told what to do that feeling has evolved for me as well in all this, I know now that I can sit back and enjoy a good pussy worship and not be required to cum unless I want or need to. I can just enjoy the fact that I’m being kissed, licked and sucked in all the right places. The greatest part is knowing that I can use my words to tell cagedmonkey what a “good boy” he is and how I love when he does this, that, or the other thing and praise him verbally to give him that “I’m doing a good job for her” feeling.

It’s really taken a lot of exploration, trial and error to find even a few things I love that he can service me with. We’d taken a few showers together in our relationship but over this past summer that picked up and it wasn’t until recently that I realized I really loved the shower time with him. I love him washing my body and especially my hair. I love seeing the smile on his face when he puts the body wash on my loofa and starts to rub it all over me. Oh boy and when he washes my hair! I love when he uses his fingertips to rub, scrub and massage my scalp. It makes me just tip my head back and just feel everything as he moves his hands through my hair! I just love when he runs his fingers through my hair or rubs my head anyway so washing it is a big bonus.

Another thing I’ve found that I really enjoy is the full body massages. I used to feel bad about asking for anything like that but I realize now (through lots of communication) that he enjoys doing those things for me and wants to make me feel good, to hear me moan in delight, no matter what he’s doing for me. Throughout our relationship cagedmonkey has, a few times, licked and sucked my toes. It was cute and yeah it felt good but it was also kinda ewwww and felt dirty. Since we both feel embracing my dominant role in our marriage is a good thing this has become another thing I really enjoy. Of course I prefer when my feet are clean and cleaning them can totally become part of the foot worship too. I do enjoy the kissing, licking and tongue massaging of my legs as well! 🙂
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I guess what I’m ultimately getting at is if you are ever going to know how your man can truly “service” you, you have to be willing to try and explore new things. Perhaps even be willing to talk about things with your partner to find out why others might find those things exciting or arousing. You might even find that you start to get aroused thinking or talking about it.

Keyholder Motivation: Why Do We Keep Them Locked?

Posted by Lady M on November 30, 2013
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , , , . 2 comments

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It’s not always easy being a wife or girlfriend AND a Keyholder. When cagedmonkey first handed me the key to his chastity device, it was a bit of an emotional moment. First of all, it happen much before either one of us thought it would. Second, I felt a huge amount of trust from him but also a load of responsibility. I may have even gotten some tears in my eyes!

I know we haven’t been on this journey nearly as long as some but we have experienced our share of emotions. The first few times I had cagedmonkey locked I was very influenced by his whining and was very sensitive to him wanting out. We’ve had plenty of discussions now about how he desires me to be in control and not at all influenced by his begging. He wants every decision about his sexual needs and wants to be mine. Even if he is begging and crying to get out or cum, he wants me to only allow him out if I want him out. If I have a desire to see him get hard, to play with him or to even allow him to cum.

At first this was a very hard thing to really do. It’s not easy to grab a hold of the dominant role immediately when it’s handed over. It can take some time to fully grasp the power you can have over your man. I’m naturally a controlling person and enjoy the dominant role in life. I prefer knowing things will be done my way and to my satisfaction. Even though someone says “here, control me” you don’t really know until you are in it, living it, experiencing it how much control they really want you to have. You don’t really know what they will really do for you. It takes time to grow into being dominant over someone else and ultimately being their Keyholder.

Although it’s only been a sort time, I’ve settled into my role quite nicely. I no longer feel a need to release cagedmonkey because he’s whining or even because I see him wincing in pain from the cock straining so hard in his cage and pulling on his balls. Afterall, isn’t this what he asked for? He asked me to take control of every part of his sexual being. He asked to be locked up and controlled. Last night, is a prime example of how much I’ve changed and that he’s in a very rough spot. He was begging, whimpering and whining to cum. He was even begging (very hard) for a ruined, in-the-cage, orgasm! I just giggled because I think it’s so hot to hear him get like that. It really just causes my pussy to get sopping, drippy wet knowing I make him get like that. To hear him begging me, knowing I control any and everything about that beautiful locked up aching, needy cock.

The reality is, he’s getting everything he asked for… and a whole lot more! 😀

I Have the Best Keyholder in the World!

Posted by cagedmonkey on November 30, 2013
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Marriage, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , , , , . 2 comments

Sorry to all you other guys, but it’s true. My wife is the absolute BEST keyholder in the world.

For me, at least.  🙂

It takes a certain kind of relationship to make this chastity thing work. My wife and I have been through a lot, but nothing would have been able to prepare us for this if we didn’t fully trust each other. When we are fully open and honest with each other, we often find that we are not only on the same page or even paragraph – we are on the same freaking word!

I think back to when we were writing out our chastity agreement. Even though I was giving My Lady complete control over sexual abilities (including the ability to orgasm or even simply getting a hardon), I knew there were some neighborhoods and areas I’d rather not explore. I was struggling with how to explain this oxymoron of a situation – “I want you to do whatever you want, but not if what you want is one of these things” – I was kind of worried it wouldn’t come out right. What a pleasant surprise it was when I found out that ML was not interested in those same things! Writing up our agreement went so much easier than I expected, and we were both more than happy to sign it.

My keyholder knows just how to play me. She knows where all of my buttons are and she presses them often. She knows that a subtle change in posture can flip the switch in my brain and instantly have me wanting to kiss and lick her body all over. And when my brain is stuck on sex, she knows how to push me and push me until my chest is tight and I can’t breathe. And when she gets me alone…. well, from her previous post, it’s obvious she can turn me into a quivering, whimpering puddle of frustration and need pretty much any time she wants.

And that’s what I need. I need a keyholder who will use me for her pleasure and amusement. A keyholder who won’t take my requests or pleads into account when deciding what she does. A keyholder who expects me to worship her mind and body every moment of every day.

Nobody else could do this for me but My Lady.

Teasing Him to Tears

Posted by Lady M on November 29, 2013
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , . 5 comments

I know I’m always trying to find that new unique way to tease cagedmonkey. I’m constantly worried about becoming a predictable, boring wife and Keyholder. I also know I’m not the only one since I’m asked quite often from other wives and Keyholders about how to keep things interesting. When you search online looking for tease ideas you never get actual descriptions of how to tease your guy but rather a very vague “if you know what they like, do that!” It’s one thing to know what they like and another thing altogether to try something they MIGHT like. Personally, I’d love to know some great trigger words or actual descriptions of what a regular couple does. We’re not all hardcore into BDSM so the tying up and spanking, humiliation or feminization is just not our thing. I guess you could call a lot of what we do: Vanilla Tease & Denial. 🙂

So I decided I would describe one of our prolonged, pretty intense tease sessions where cagedmonkey had tears in his eyes. Prolonged edging could be considered a bit of torture, I suppose… then again, when I make him read this post those feelings will come rushing back, so those sessions can linger! Hopefully here I will accomplish two things: 1. I’ll help give other Keyholders a specific idea to tease which they can use in full or part or change up as they please and 2. I’ll end up teasing the hell out of any of you chaste boys reading our blog and make you press against the confines of your cage. Really that will be helping your Keyholder as well because it’s one less time she will have to tease you! 🙂

So cagedmonkey and I have only a couple nights a week where we get to actually play for an extended amount of time. Most nights we only have like an hour once the kids go to bed and he has to leave for work. So this particular night we decided to go upstairs to watch a movie on Netflix while I had him unlocked and I would play around a little but he knew he would not be cumming. We decided on a movie and got it started, that’s when I told him to check the length, it was a 2 hour and 9 minute movie. That’s also when explained that I would be teasing him non-stop through the entire movie. That he would spend a good portion of that two hours on the edge of orgasm. The movies opening credits started and so did I. I started with just some regular moderately paced stroking. This didn’t take too long to get him right up there to the edge of orgasm and then once the moaning and slight hip action starts on his part I slowed down my strokes to just keep him there, hanging on. I did this for quite awhile, non-stop, leaving him linger on the edge for all that time. I love how his breathing gets faster and shorter and he sometimes grunts and moans at the frustration. I know he’s loving it just as much as me though. Once I had done that for a good half hour (you really don’t have to if you don’t have the arm stamina – a mix between your hand and a vibrator would work too, ladies!) he’d gotten plenty of precum built up and it started to pour out in gobs. Precum makes for great lube on the penis head! So I took advantage of that and took my left hand near the base of his shaft and pulled down on the skin of his penis until it was tight and held my hand flat against his pelvic bone and with my right hand I made an “ok sign” with the thumb and forefinger and stroked the head of his cock over and over and over. When using this technique be sure most of your stroking stays around the head. If it got too dry I’d grab a handful of shaft and drag it upward so another big drip of precum would come out for lube. I also found this fantastic new way to tease the head of the cock during this! I opened my palm and kinda made a small cupped shape so the top side (stomach side) of the glans was in the cupped part. Making sure to have it lubed well with precum I just moved my hand up and down just pushing the head of the penis in and out of that tiny cupped spot in my hand. He was bucking like crazy when I did that! I continued this for a good half an hour as well and I did throw a few strokes in here or there to keep it interesting. After that I did go back to stroking a bit but this time I added a ball massage to it… so stroking, head stroking (while pulling the shaft skin tight) and the ball massage just about four the next half an hour. Just a few minutes on each thing bringing him to the edge each time. The last half an hour I made sure to add my mouth into the mix. By this time he’s extremely sensitive so anything I’m doing is causing him to moan and groan and whimper. He knows better than to beg me to stop because nothing I’m doing is causing him pain or giving him reason to beg for relief. He just takes every ounce I have to give.

So that’s the physical part of the tease – yes arm stamina is crucial if you plan to do these things manually but a vibrator, masturbator and other toys are also a huge help. Another thing you can obviously do, if you have a wriggle worm like I do, is to tie your guys arms and legs spread eagle. That I will do if I know for sure he can’t truly handle what I’m going to give him… or if he’s feeling quite horny that I don’t think he’ll be able to keep his hands to himself. During this particular night it was about a half an hour or so into teasing him when I had to pause and tie his ass down! :)~

Now the other part to all this, ladies, is screwing with your guy mentally and emotionally. This is probably the more important part. If you’re not a big talker, trust me, when I say, that after a few times you will get better and better at “mindfucking” your guy, especially once you hear the reaction you get from doing it! This is where knowing his fantasies (or even common male fantasies) is a huge help. It’s not that hard to get started talking dirty during your tease session. The easiest way to get started is to literally describe what your doing and be sure to ask questions… even if they are rhetorical. Using phrases like “aww poor baby” or “that’s too bad” and even “I bet it feels that way.” Say things like “you love it when I stroke that cock all nice and fast, don’t you?”, “Ooo baby, how about if… I… Go… So… Sloooooooow?” It just takes that much and, of course, you can’t forget to throw in “I bet you’d love to feel my tight wet pussy wrapped around that cock cumming hard all over it” and even more importantly bringing up how long you’ve been teasing him and how much longer he still has to endure it. Not to mention talking how long it’s been since he came or how long it’s going to be until he gets to cum. Another thing that usually drives our guys crazy is us masturbating in front of them, making them watch. They want to be the ones pleasing us and we even have the power to take that away. They get to feel those jealous feelings seeing us do what they can’t do while locked up and denied. Reminding them how they can’t touch themselves, get an erection or even cum without your permission. These things all play right into the mindfucking.

One of the things I’m noticing with the chaste boy is that they love us being in control and being confident in that control. Like from across the room showing them our naked breasts, grabbing them, squeezing them together and giving them that “this is no accident, I know exactly what this is doing to you” look. It’s that kind of arrogant, sassy attitude that really gets them!

Hopefully somewhere in the length of this post you’ve found some information to help you! I always welcome questions so feel free to use the comments section. I look forward to hearing from you!