11 comments on “Getting Into Character: What I’m Scared of as a Domme & Keyholder

    • I’m sure it will be great but there’s that fear of will he get upset if I sound harsh… like I said, we’ll see! 🙂 thank you for your comment.

  1. Well I guess it could piss him off, but a pound to a penny says it won’t. I guess it depends… I would imagine the way to do this would be to bring this ‘character’ into the room while you are playing, get it established and then let it bleed into everyday life. I don’t know how much CM likes the whole chores thing, some men get off on it I know, it doesn’t appeal to me tbh.
    When I read your blog and read how ‘sexually demanding’ your are of CM I wish my Mistress was a bit more like that, it’s a very gradual process though. I think if you suddenly turn into that character it will feel forced for you and perhaps a bit ‘fake’ for him.

    • Oh Robert, I wasn’t referring to a list of chores, like housework. I meant more like service to me, or butt plug time etc. Sexual tasks but, yes a few little housework things thrown in when I need help.

  2. You write as if I’m going to be like “no way! I’m done with this!”
    Yeah, right! 😀
    You know that I love how much control you have over me. Your strength and firmness as a keyholder is absolutely amazing, and I know that the increase in the depth of your control over me will lead to you being even more horny for me. That’s obviously a really good thing!
    As always, if there is a problem, we have ways to talk through it, whether it be out-of-role conversations or safewords.
    I think this is a wonderful idea, ma’am. 🙂

  3. “When he begs for me to let him cum, I want to say “hell no! Go do the dishes” but instead, out of fear of being mean, I say something like, “ohhh sweetie, I don’t think so… maybe later.”

    What I quoted above is exactly what I want when I am with my wife. I want her to really feel that way. I want her to really send me away to do something “of service” to her. I do not want her to be sweet and say what she thinks I want to hear.

    As for being mean. I try to explain this to my wife but she doesn’t get it. She is not being mean when she does this. She is showing that she loves me and cares for me enough to trust and believe what I tell her and that this is what I want. Even more, it is what I *need*.

    • Awesome, awesome comment! Thank you Atone! Cagedmonkey and I talked after my post and this is basically the same thing he told me. He still wants me to be cute and lovey and have those things be sexually charged – like telling him how it would please me or reminding him I’m in charge. That way he knows I’m not just being a bitch but that it’s something I really want and that it really WOULD please me for him to do it. 🙂

  4. I think when you start to have doubts about what you are doing, you would do well to take a moment and remind yourself of these simple things.
    1. I am dominating CM out of love for him.
    2. I am loving him the way he wishes to be loved.
    3. As CM’s dominant spouse, I know what is best for CM and our relationship.
    Also, it may be helpful to, once a week, have CM kneel before you with his head in your lap looking away and have him close his eyes and express honestly all his feelings about what he has experienced at your hand the previous week without fear of retribution or punishment. That should give you reinforcement that you are on the right track. Absolutely love your blog and the dynamics of your relationship.

    • Thank you wishful4 for your comment. You are right, I do do this out of love and I do know what’s best for our relationship. It was great getting this out and all the communication that has come of it… here and in real life.

      I do like the idea of a weekly “recap” of sorts and he knows very well his feelings are always welcome and never punished.

      Thank you again. 🙂

  5. Mrs Edge has similar concerns. Here’s the thing to keep in mind: *At the time* when she gets super mean, I may not like it. But… later on, I’ll think back on it and go “Yeah, that was hot.”

    Obviously, the thing to do would be to try it first, then make a point – a day or so later – to talk about it in order to make sure your boundaries aren’t being crossed.

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