chastity, male chastity

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Ever since I woke up this morning I have been the target of My Lady’s extremely agressive sexual advances. My wake up call this morning consisted of ML crawling into bed with me and squeezing my naked ass cheeks (our agreement requires me to sleep naked) as she licked and sucked on my neck. Then she began whispering in my ear pretty much everything she said in her previous post as I moaned and squirmed on the bed. It was not long before the cock was filling up the cage and more, pressing the cage up into a vice grip on my balls. She continued kissing my ear and grinding her body against mine as I moaned louder – a mix of pleasure, frustration, and of course pain from my poor tender ballsack. I had to lay in the fetal position for a good five minutes after she left just to get a handle on the pain.

And if I thought being in the house all day with the kids would grant me a little break from ML’s torments, I was badly mistaken. She cornered me in the kitchen numerous times, pressing me up against the counter and kissing me fiercely. She also told me how badly she wanted to pin me against the counter and fuck my ass right there in the kitchen with the strap on. When she said she wished she could do it at that exact moment, I told her she’d never do something like that with the kids just a few rooms away. She proceeded to slide a hand down the back of my pants and shove one finger into my asshole as she continud to kiss me. I yelped in surprise, then I nearly fell over because it felt so good.

With the kids getting ready for bed, she came and sat next to me on the couch and began to sleathily rub my cage through my pants. After a few moments she began squeezing harder as she looked deeply into my eyes. I could see how much she was loving the power she had over me – the tiny hint of a smirk on her face, her chest heaving up and down as her breath quickened, her eyes on fire from the passion that was flowing between us. Once again the cage assaulted my balls, strangling them and pulling the skin tight to the point where it felt like the skin itself was on fire. I was again reduced to the fetal position as I said goodnight to the kids.

Usually things heat up between ML and me after the kids go to bed, and today was no exception. ML had me lay flat on the couch. She started rubbing her wet pussy up and down my chest, matting the hairs down when she stood up. It was then that she decided to fulfill her ass craving – the took Red (our small red strap-on dildo attachment) and began to slide it in and out of my asshole. She started off slow, but eventually she picked up the pace and gave my ass some rough treatment. ML’s pussy was within reach, so being the good sub that I am, I began fingering her to the same pace that she was fucking me. It was amazing! I could see it was getting her turned on, shoving the dildo into me and feeling the same sensation inside her pussy.

After a few minutes of thoroughly using my ass, ML rolled over and laid down on the floor. Then ML ordered me down on my hands and knees to eat her pussy until she came. I didn’t need to be told twice. I happily dove in and began eating my wife’s beautiful, wet, delicious pussy. She ended up cumming three times before she was fully satisfied with my efforts.

So here I sit at work, ML’s cock throbbing in it’s cage, my asshole pulsing from the rough treatment it received, and the faint smell of my wife’s horny pussy in my beard.

I couldn’t get her out of my mind even if I wanted to.  🙂

I figured since I was having a particularly horny day lol that I’d come here and express myself.

My beautiful cagedmonkey has one sexy, yummy ass – at least to me! For some reason today I’ve been thinking about nothing but his ass. I love feeling it, squeezing it, pinching it, rubbing it,spanking it, kissing, it, licking it and some strap-on play. 🙂

It’s been crazy in my mind playing through these little scenarios. Ones like me wearing my high heeled boots, taking him naked and bending him on to the kitchen counter pushing his cock cage up against it and making sweet slow love to him… Damn that makes me quiver again just thinking about it!

I also have this craving to spank him… to feel my hand smack his cheeks and make them rosy red. To get that slight burn when I spank just right. Mmmm so hot!

I seriously have no idea why I’m feeling so nutty about his ass today but I already told him that I may have to take care of my craving this weekend! 🙂

Ok just wanted to share. Hope you’re having a good night!

Last weekend, My Lady allowed me to spend some time unlocked after getting a surprising orgasm on Friday night. It was a semi-honeymoon of sorts, our first one since starting this chastity lifestyle. It was very nice to have the ability to be free with my sexuality. I began to think that although being locked and being unlocked are two different situations (and honeymoon being a third completely opposite one), each situation has its own reasons for being enjoyable.

I enjoy being locked by ML mainly because of the feelings I get when I am controlled by her. The lock on my cage gives me no option but to bend to her wishes and to serve her desires. The fact that she chooses to keep me locked and to hold this control over me makes me feel valued, as if I am a prized possession of hers. She keeps me safe and secure so only she may play with me when she wishes. I also get a feeling of safety and security when locked, knowing and trusting that she will only use me in ways that please her. It may not be the best thing to satisfy my wants and needs, but because of the decision I’ve made to put ML before me, it is exactly what I want.

Being unlocked is a little different. And let me be clear – by “unlocked” I mean not kept in a device, but still under the sexual control of My Lady. For example, yesterday I was released from my cage and ML spent the day forcing erections on me, riding her cock when she saw fit, denying me orgasm all day long, and eventually giving me TWO back-to-back ruined orgasms before putting me back in my cage. At no time was ML not in control. I was unlocked, but still every bit the sub that I am when wearing my cage.

Anyway, as I was saying… being unlocked is different. The feelings of excitement come from different places. While I feel valued and treasured like a prized collectible when locked, I feel wanted and desired when unlocked, like ML’s well-worn favorite toy. And while being caged gives me a sense of security, being free gives me the exciting feeling of uncertainty, that anything can happen at any given moment (and often does). Sometimes the worst teases happen when I’m not in my cage, simply because ML can bring me so close to the orgasm I so desperately crave and desire, yet I have no idea when these moments may come and I have no way to prepare for or recover from them.

Even though I am thoroughly enjoying our lifestyle of enforced male chastity, I still do look forward to our honeymoon periods. It’s not that I don’t want to be controlled. It’s just nice to know that we can still be normal after being so kinky. It almost seems as if things have reversed – most couples use kink to spice up their sex lives and prevent things from getting boring, while we use our vanilla honeymoon time to do the same. Which is perfectly fine by me… I’m loving this “new normal” every exciting step of the way!

Epiphany: a sudden, intuitive perception of or insight into the reality or essential meaning of something, usually initiated by some simple

It sounds weird to say this but it feels almost as if a weight has been lifted from me. After our conversation last night I got to thinking about what I really wanted and how I wanted to play with hubby. After all, he gave me the beautiful gift of regaining my natural dominance, so I’m in charge.

So what do I want from the chastity? Well, easy, I want the device on at all times unless I unlock him for play time, tease time or for my using. It’s my toy locked up in my toy box. 🙂 *giggle*

So, what about the Tease & Denial? Well in all my pondering last night, I realized what I want is not called “Orgasm Denial.” It’s called “Orgasm Control” because I want to be in control of if he cums, when he cums, how he cums and how much he cums! If I feel like spending an entire day using him over and over to drain every bit of cum from him then so be it. I unlock him, use him and lock him back up. If I want to deny him for 40 days for the fun of it then so be it! If I want some mix of the two, I can have it. If I change my mind in the middle of it all, I can! 🙂

I’ve finally got my brain on board knowing that all of these things are my decision. No more feeling like I promised to lock him up for a length of time and not wanting to disappoint him or upset him or “do it wrong” or not the way he wants it. I’m in control, I hold the power to use him for my pleasure in whatever way I choose. I hold the power to allow him an erection or force him to have one all day, if I want! I hold the power to deny him orgasms for as long as I feel like having him behaving in an awesome attentive way towards me. If I feel like asserting my dominance and taking him as mine every night for a week, I hold that power.

I hold all the power when it comes to his sexual feelings, sensations and releases. The one part I want to explore more in our relationship is the Wife Led part. I’m curious about what it would feel like to be completely in control of everything he does. I don’t want this all the time because I’m not into having a slave but I think once in awhile having a very submissive session of play would be fun. I have no idea as I’ve never done it, never been overpowering dominant and/or demanding but maybe I want to see what it’s like! We were talking the other day and he mentioned scrubbing the kitchen floor naked while I supervised (probably half joking, I’m sure lol). At that moment something happened to me I was not expecting… I suddenly got extremely aroused at the thought of him serving me that way. Though at the same time my head was like wtf that’s so wrong! Cagedmonkey and I have said that it can never hurt to try something… we might like it. He’s not all into serving that way (not into being a slave nor do I want one) but he’s not against the session happening once in awhile if it is something we both enjoy. So we’re off to try new things once again and explore what feels good!

Ok so that was my epiphany overnight… see what happens when you stay up until after 4am!

Wish me luck! 🙂

cagedmonkey: We’ve found out so much about this lifestyle in such a short time. It really is amazing!!

Lady: It’s been a whirlwind that’s for sure… but I’ve realized some things since our last go at your orgasm denial.

cm: What things, exactly?

Lady: Well, after this last time having you completely locked and even denying myself I kinda feel like I’ve tested out all that I need in this. I really just want to get on with it. I don’t want to set dates of when you will be locked or unlocked trying to reach some imaginary goal. I’m not going to worry about “oh I shouldn’t unlock him because I said 10 days in!” I’m going to do what I want, when I want, how I want but you will not orgasm… you will please me and I will use you to please myself but you will wait until you have permission to cum. I will see my cock hard & play with it when I want though. All other times you will be locked in your device.

cm: I was actually thinking the exact same thing! We’ve proven that I can safely wear the cage pretty much indefinitely without problems – indefinitely meaning however long you want, not forever (I hope!!!). We have also seen that I’m able to be trusted not to cum when I’m out of the cage, even when giving you the penetration that you crave. The only thing that I’m concerned about is the strength of your resolve. Will you be able to deny me even when I’m seriously trying my hardest to convince you to let me cum?

Lady: I’m pretty sure the denial part will be a piece of cake! The hardest part for me was feeling like I had to keep you locked up to enforce the denial. That’s not true so it should be easy enough, when I’m getting what I need and want, to keep you all crazy. You know I absolutely love when you’ve been reduced to a heaping, begging, desperate mess! Oh boy, it turns me on so much! Are you here with me in my desire to take more control over how I want to use the cage? This starting out thing has been not only about me but lots of worrying about you and what you feel or think and some caving to what I think you want. I’m ready for that to be over.

cm: I’m ready, too. I want it all to be you decision. If you want to tease me until I’m crying out for you to stop every night for a week, then so be it. If you want to keep me locked up constantly for three or even four weeks straight (or more!!!), then please do it. There will be times where I want it to end, where I just want out, or I just want to FUCKING CUM GOD DAMMIT. But what I truly want is to cum only when I’m allowed by you, my Keyholder.

Lady: Awww now that’s the perfect answer from my perfect boy! <3

My Lady and I don’t use a specific “release date” like some people do, because we feel it takes some control away from her. What if, for example, my release date comes and ML wants to keep me in chastity juuuuuuust a little bit longer? Is she obligated to give me an orgasm? Or, what if it’s not release day yet, and she just REALLY needs to have her cock?

Such was the situation last night. 🙂

My Lady and I had semi-date night at home – it was one of the rare nights I was actually at home and we had nothing to do. So we laid down with each other on the couch, had a few drinks, and got a bit touchy-feely with each other. I pleased her with my oral skills for quite a while, but she still needed more. Describing her pussy, in her own words, “she [was] frisky!”

After ten full days of constant lock up, My Lady needed to feel her cock inside her. So she unlocked me and allowed me to enter her. I’m pretty sure she enjoyed it very much.  🙂   I held off as long as I could until she gave me permission to cum inside her… and I wasted no time in doing that!!! It was so wonderful and intense. I nearly collapsed on top of her afterwards. We both seemed spent, although shortly after we were right back at it again!

I’m locked back up this morning, in the Birdcage this time – we will be sending the JB back for a size adjustment. Although every day is a possible release day in this house apparently, my next official “Maybe Day” is Christmas. I’ll certainly be dreaming of a white Christmas for the next 25 days!

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It’s not always easy being a wife or girlfriend AND a Keyholder. When cagedmonkey first handed me the key to his chastity device, it was a bit of an emotional moment. First of all, it happen much before either one of us thought it would. Second, I felt a huge amount of trust from him but also a load of responsibility. I may have even gotten some tears in my eyes!

I know we haven’t been on this journey nearly as long as some but we have experienced our share of emotions. The first few times I had cagedmonkey locked I was very influenced by his whining and was very sensitive to him wanting out. We’ve had plenty of discussions now about how he desires me to be in control and not at all influenced by his begging. He wants every decision about his sexual needs and wants to be mine. Even if he is begging and crying to get out or cum, he wants me to only allow him out if I want him out. If I have a desire to see him get hard, to play with him or to even allow him to cum.

At first this was a very hard thing to really do. It’s not easy to grab a hold of the dominant role immediately when it’s handed over. It can take some time to fully grasp the power you can have over your man. I’m naturally a controlling person and enjoy the dominant role in life. I prefer knowing things will be done my way and to my satisfaction. Even though someone says “here, control me” you don’t really know until you are in it, living it, experiencing it how much control they really want you to have. You don’t really know what they will really do for you. It takes time to grow into being dominant over someone else and ultimately being their Keyholder.

Although it’s only been a sort time, I’ve settled into my role quite nicely. I no longer feel a need to release cagedmonkey because he’s whining or even because I see him wincing in pain from the cock straining so hard in his cage and pulling on his balls. Afterall, isn’t this what he asked for? He asked me to take control of every part of his sexual being. He asked to be locked up and controlled. Last night, is a prime example of how much I’ve changed and that he’s in a very rough spot. He was begging, whimpering and whining to cum. He was even begging (very hard) for a ruined, in-the-cage, orgasm! I just giggled because I think it’s so hot to hear him get like that. It really just causes my pussy to get sopping, drippy wet knowing I make him get like that. To hear him begging me, knowing I control any and everything about that beautiful locked up aching, needy cock.

The reality is, he’s getting everything he asked for… and a whole lot more! 😀

Sorry to all you other guys, but it’s true. My wife is the absolute BEST keyholder in the world.

For me, at least.  🙂

It takes a certain kind of relationship to make this chastity thing work. My wife and I have been through a lot, but nothing would have been able to prepare us for this if we didn’t fully trust each other. When we are fully open and honest with each other, we often find that we are not only on the same page or even paragraph – we are on the same freaking word!

I think back to when we were writing out our chastity agreement. Even though I was giving My Lady complete control over sexual abilities (including the ability to orgasm or even simply getting a hardon), I knew there were some neighborhoods and areas I’d rather not explore. I was struggling with how to explain this oxymoron of a situation – “I want you to do whatever you want, but not if what you want is one of these things” – I was kind of worried it wouldn’t come out right. What a pleasant surprise it was when I found out that ML was not interested in those same things! Writing up our agreement went so much easier than I expected, and we were both more than happy to sign it.

My keyholder knows just how to play me. She knows where all of my buttons are and she presses them often. She knows that a subtle change in posture can flip the switch in my brain and instantly have me wanting to kiss and lick her body all over. And when my brain is stuck on sex, she knows how to push me and push me until my chest is tight and I can’t breathe. And when she gets me alone…. well, from her previous post, it’s obvious she can turn me into a quivering, whimpering puddle of frustration and need pretty much any time she wants.

And that’s what I need. I need a keyholder who will use me for her pleasure and amusement. A keyholder who won’t take my requests or pleads into account when deciding what she does. A keyholder who expects me to worship her mind and body every moment of every day.

Nobody else could do this for me but My Lady.

(Lady and cagedmonkey feel that communication is the key to a healthy relationship, and especially important in a chastity relationship. Occasionally, Lady and cagedmonkey will shed some light on what these conversations are like. What follows is a discussion between the two of them, all while posting to the blog.)

cagedmonkey: So today marks a week for me in the cage, 24/7 straight except for a small release time due to switching devices. This is usually about the time when I start feeling the need to cum grow stronger, and the feelings of frustration really start to take hold. I’m curious: is this change obvious from where you are standing, or is it a gradual slide as the days go on?

Lady: It’s really obvious when you are physically showing your frustration and your horniness. It does seem to occur day to day and sometimes can be triggered by how much physical attention (teasing) I’m offering. When you are only using your words to express it I don’t feel your level of need, other times you are basically “jumping my bones” and then it’s very obvious. LoL

cm: The only reason I haven’t been “jumping your bones” in the last few days is because we haven’t been in the same room alone for very much time. If I had more chances to do so, I would be definitely taking advantage of them! Believe it or not, pleasing you and serving you relieves some of the frustration for a short while. But the feelings come right back when you turn the focus back to driving me nutty.

Lady: So you’re saying times like this morning when I come upstairs, wake you up and end up teasing you help your frustration level? 😉

cm: I don’t know if I’d use the word “help.” 🙂 But yes, it drives me nuts! I want to be inside you, feel you without the cage around me. It feels so good, and I know it’s so far away. You don’t even know how frustrating it is at times.

Lady: No, you’re right, I can’t imagine how frustrating it is but I certainly can imagine many ways to make the frustration worse.

cm: You’ve definitely shown that you are capable of increasing my frustration. When you let me inside your wet pussy but only in the cage, it is very difficult for me to be so close to what I want but still not getting what I need.

Lady: It’s very easy for me to create frustration for you but that doesn’t mean I’M not frustrated too! It’s not the same frustration but it’s hard just the same. Like it’s easy wanting so bad to feel you? Easy to want to feel that cock sliding in and out of my pussy and cumming deep inside me? Easy to want to feeling the warmth of your skin touching mine and the heat we create between my legs when we make love… that doesn’t frustrate me?

cm: Omg……….. what were we talking about? Oh yes, FRUSTRATION!!! I understand that you can get frustrated at times, too. But look at the situation: you can unlock me at any time you want and get the things that you desire, with or without allowing me to orgasm. Your frustration is sort of self-imposed; you can end it at any time. I, on the other hand, have no choice but to suffer through the frustration until you are willing to grant me release. You have to admit, those are two completely different experiences.

Lady: Ah true but what good is getting it anytime I want when I get to enjoy all the build up before I do finally allow it and/or take it? Living in an aroused state is a wonderful feeling… but frustrating still the same 🙂 Yes, if I wanted it, I could come to you, unlock that beautiful ready and willing cock and slowly slide it in my already wet pussy and make you cum within a few thrusts… but what’s the fun in that when while you are in your super aroused state you are so sweet, physically loving and mega attentive. Once you cum that’s all over for at least a week!

cm: Ugghhhhh…. how much longer until I’m out????

Lady: Well let’s just say you’re going to be a needy, aching, desperate mess by the time Christmas gets here and I’m going to love every single minute of it 🙂

I admit, I do not have extensive experience with chastity devices. The only device I’ve ever worn besides the one I am currently wearing was an “off the shelf” Birdcage. I did want to give my impressions on my newest device, a custom made Jailbird from Mature Metal. Most of my comparisons will be against the Birdcage, but some of my comments will just be what they are, not a comparison to anything.

For starters, the device is very cool looking. After My Lady and I initially settled on the Birdcage, we really started to enjoy the look of a steel cage. The Jailbird is very stylish and also very sturdy. The cage is well put together, with no spurs or pinch points that I have found so far. There have been a few occasions where pubic hair has gotten caught in various places, but I think that’s more of a result of me needing a trim than the device itself. The device is slightly wider than the Birdcage. It feels like it should be heavier as well, but it is actually lighter due to the material it is made out of (surgical steel vs. chrome plated steel).

I was surprised by how freaking comfortable this thing is! The Birdcage was very comfortable, but this Jailbird is seriously amazing. It might have to do with the fact that we ordered the oval base ring. I happen to be blessed (cursed?) with rather large testicles, and the oval ring gives them more room to breathe without allowing them to slip backwards. I think the better fitting oval ring also prevents the cage from pushing upwards when the cock attempts an erection. This was a MAJOR issue with the Birdcage, to the point where it would cause near- debilitating pain. Sure, the Jailbird is not exactly comfortable when it squeezes my balls upward as the cock tries in vain to get hard, but it’s not nearly as bad as the Birdcage.

Speaking of trying to get hard… the bars of the Jailbird are just a tiny bit thicker than the bars of the Birdcage. It’s almost hard to tell – ML insisted that I was wrong, but trust me, I’m the one wearing it and I can tell.  🙂  This comes into play when the cock gets hard and tries to press through the cage. The bars of the Birdcage sometimes felt as though they could dig into my skin. They didn’t, but I swear sometimes I got so hard in the cage it felt like it was possible! This is not a problem with the Jailbird. The bars are wide enough to distribute the and reduce the pressure. The bars are also wider apart which reduces the amount of protrusion that happens when the cock presses against the cage (when the cock would bulge out between the bars and rub on my clothing, it would cause an oversensitive pain-ish sensation… not good). The wider arrangement of the bars also allows ML better access to torture her desperate prisoner.

Overall, the comfort of the custom measurements is just one feature that makes the Jailbird a great chastity device. My cage needs to be tweaked just a bit; ML and I have decided that her cock has too much room in the cage and we must shorten the length of the shaft by about an inch. This adjustment will cost a little bit, but it is important to invest in quality when using a device for extended periods of time. For anyone participating in prolonged 24/7 chastity and are looking at this style of device (steel, open shaft), I would highly recommend the Jailbird. Even with a price tag upwards of $300, it is definitely worth the cost.