It’s amazing to think how far we’ve come. I remember starting out with male chastity and being so turned on by it I could barely keep him locked for days at a time. Let alone weeks or months like we do now. I wasn’t able, back then, to even deny him that long because I just NEEDED it. I needed to feel him inside me filling me up, exploding his warmth deep into me. I really love it. I love that feeling of his cock throbbing and pulsing with each spurt of his cum.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying it’s any easier or I’m not turned on by keeping my husband in a chastity device and controlling his orgasms. It’s just as bad and I need him just as much. The difference is I think we both enjoy the thrill much more now that comes from the longer term denial. The intense horny feelings inside that grow and grow and never seem to stop growing. I think we both enjoy the sexual pull between us, that constant want and desire to be with each other, to do for one another, to please the other.
Yesterday I was chatting with someone who told me they were basically climbing out of their skin by the time they were locked 3 or 4 days. It got me thinking… How long had it been now for cagedmonkey? I counted the days, 80. It’s been 80 horny, frustrating, intensely sexual days and I’d barely noticed the actual time involved. I’d only known that it’d been awhile and fuck I’ve been frustrated but, yeah, it’s been 80… Well over 80 now… days since I’ve allowed my husband to have an orgasm.
I will say that some part of me is not happy with this arrangement lol I had a bit of a breakdown yesterday about how I didn’t want to do this anymore. But it was short lived after having a good chat with cagedmonkey. He did express that he wanted to cum so bad that if I was looking for support in not letting him that he wasn’t able to give it. He would only be able to encourage me to let him cum. LoL He’s so cute when he’s this horny.
I guess when he starts to get comfortable with his horny level and I’m not seeing the frustration, it feels like I’m not good enough at my job. My job is to tease and frustrate the living hell out of him, to make him so horny he’s asking and begging to cum. During these longer term lock ups every so often we get to these plateaus and that’s when we need some intense tease our domination session to kick that horny in the ass and ramp it up a bit more.
I need know what I’m doing is working. I need to know what I’m doing is worth it. I need to know I’m worth it.
Very good. He-he-he!
I am a man and have gone up to three months without cumming. Though I have, during those three months, fucked my wife and masturbated — but without orgasming during this time (90 days) and these, um, ‘activities’ (fucking, masturbating).
I am not caged, by the way. I too feel the it is more pleasurable to feel horny, hopelessly horny, than to give in to the rather quick and fleeting pleasures of an actual orgasm. The pleasure of an orgasm lasts, what?, 10 seconds at the most. While the pleasure of being horny is a constant, unending pleasure. Nay, it is more than just a pleasure: it is a mixture of pleasure and pain, a mixture of release and frustration — and that mixture is pure INTENSITY.
Now there’s the word: intensity. That is what I seek. Intensity is far more pleasurable than pleasure, far more frustrating than frustration.
So… I would not give up chastity or denial for anything in the world. If I could, I would never again ejaculate in the whole of my life.
But alas accidents do happen. And that is really the only time that I will have an orgasm: by accident. Sometimes, I will have thrust just a little too vigorously while inside my wife. At other times, it is my wife who, while giving me a hand job, will, by mistake, stroke me just beyond the edge.
These accidental orgasm, I will even try to ruin them — by stopping all movement and thus all friction.
Thanks for your comment and you are so right! 🙂