Lost and Found

Posted by Lady M on November 24, 2019
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It’s interesting what things get stirred up when you find something from the past. We were unpacking and found a box with a bunch of books… Wait a minute… Let me back up a bit, do you even know? I don’t think we’ve been here since we moved… again?!?!

Maybe I should start over. I’m pretty sure so much has happened in the past few months that you’ll need an explanation. 😉 Back in summer on a random Saturday cagedmonkey and I decided to buy another house… Who doesn’t? That’s what everyone does on a Saturday, isn’t it? lol the thing is… The house we bought is pretty perfect. It’s not much bigger than our previous house – same 3 bedrooms etc with the exception of a second bathroom and a family room. Most important about this family room is that it’s on the other side of the house from the bedrooms! More about that later! What that meant for our time, summer into fall, was a mad dash pack up a house while doing some repairs and getting things ready to sell a house while doing so the things necessary when you unexpectedly decide to purchase a house. We did, everything went… ehhh relatively smooth. No major hiccups. So that’s a good thing. We finally moved into the new house in September and then closed on the other two weeks later!

I’m not sure we mentioned a while back the trouble hubby was having with his back. So yeah, there was that. He was showing some lumbar spine issues but at the time we didn’t think they were that horrible so he was seeing the chiropractor and physical therapy trying to get it back to feeling better. None of that was really working and then we decided to move a whole house a few streets over, which meant lots of solo trips lifting heavy boxes and furniture and we think he damaged his back more. Fast forward to a few weeks ago he got 4 shots in his spine to try to alleviate some of the stupid pain he was in. They have seemed to take the edge off but in no way did they fix anything and he’s still being very careful (or I keep telling him to be anyway!). A lot of nights I’ll have him sleep without the cage because even getting those night time erections can cause him back pain pushing on herniated and torn discs in his very low back (CM: it’s not as bad as Lady M thinks, but I’m not going to complain if she wants my cage off, hehe). He is also under the instruction, during the night, that if he is sleeping in the cage and he gets that bad pain he is allowed to remove it so that his pain isn’t keeping us both up at night.

Aside from all that we were awfully busy as a family – hubby working, me working, hubby teaching at the university and he’s taking master’s classes on top of that and the kids sports and other activities… but hey, we won’t have young kids in sports and all that forever so it is what it is.

So, now that that’s out in the open, let’s move on to the point of this post lol. Recently CM and I were going through boxes and found our “communication notebooks” from back when we started this whole chastity and WLM journey. It has been really fun going back through reading about how we felt exploring different things. Ohhhh and how awesome it was the day the Mature Metal device arrived. We got a good chuckle out of the entries where we were so excited hubby stayed locked for 4 days straight. Such a huge difference to be locked every day all day. I feel like finding the books was such a good thing… It’s brought back some ideas of things we used to do that felt good and made each other feel good. The things that had us crazy horny all day long and kept my panties soaking wet.

Anyway… It’s been fun reading back to 6 years ago when all this started.

Podcast Episode 12 – Sex & Intimacy are Important

Posted by Lady M on June 23, 2019
Posted in: Marriage, Podcast, Sex. Tagged: , , , . 2 comments

Hey, guess what!?!?! We uploaded another podcast! Aren’t you super excited??? Cagedmonkey and I had some alone time in the house for once and took the opportunity to record for you all. We started having this conversation about intimacy and sex being important in relationships and decided we wanted you all to hear it and talk with us about it!! We look forward to hearing your comments.

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Conversations: Matching Needs

Posted by cagedmonkey on May 21, 2019
Posted in: Conversations, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Pictures. Tagged: , , , , . 5 comments

CM: The other day, when I was putting my cage on while getting dressed for work, it occurred to me how lucky I am that I have a wife that enjoys doing this whole chastity thing with me…

LM: Why do you feel you are lucky? When I think about it, I feel like I’m the lucky one. I have a husband who enjoys being locked in chastity for me. 🙂

CM: I don’t know… I mean, we could have ended up being your garden variety vanilla couple; but instead, you keep my cock locked in a steel chastity cage and I love it. Not that being a vanilla couple would be horrible – our sex is absolutely incredible just by itself! But the chastity and orgasm denial add elements to our sex life that make it so much more complex and exciting.

LM: I completely agree… I love our sex life and without chastity it would still be amazing. For me, the chastity adds such an amazing element. I love having you locked all the time because it’s a physical reminder of.. Basically ME, all day long. If w didn’t do this it would still be great but I love the added bonus that chastity is. I just love that it makes you think of me! Do you feel like it’s a reminder, too, of me and my control, all the time?

CM: I do, although I would probably be thinking of you all the time anyway… especially when you send me pics at work like this:

LM: Hehe… yeah, pics of my boobs will do that to you.

CM: Yes, pics like that definitely keep them in my mind. But yeah, I would probably be thinking of you because I’m just that horny for you, anyways. I think what makes the chastity and orgasm denial special from my standpoint is the fact that YOU choose to have this cage on me. I wear the chastity cage for you – when you want me to wear it, which one I wear – these are all decisions that YOU make. And the fact that you are making these decisions show me that you are consciously thinking about me and my cock, and it shows that these things are important to you.

LM: They are definitely important to me. If someone were to ask me why I have you in a cage or what I get out of it, I think it seriously comes down to the fact that I’m through and through a cocktease… and I mean that lovingly! It’s the best way I can describe it. I love that you are always thinking about and wanting me, thinking about and wanting my control and just physical FEELING something that reminds you of that is awesome. For someone else that could simply be a wedding ring… And for us that is part of it. I would be uncomfortable without my wedding ring… The chastity cage, for me, is an extension of our connection with each other… It’s just a connection to the sexual side, I guess. I love that I’m the one that chooses if, when and how you wear it. I choose if you feel that tightness when getting hard if I tease you either in person or by pics when we are apart. It’s just… Awesome! 🙂

CM: And I need to know that you are choosing to be sexual with me in this way – I know that when you tease me when I’m locked up, it’s because you want me to be so frustrated and want you so badly. And I know that when you unlock me, it’s because you want my cock out so you can play with it and tease it. I need that attention from you, and the chastity puts a spotlight on just how much attention you are giving me. I think I’d hate it if you just locked me and didn’t give me any attention; I need to know that you want me and desire me for your sexual pleasure.

LM: I definitely do, and that’s why I unlock you when I do – because I want to play with you!

What are you doing to me?

Posted by Lady M on May 13, 2019
Posted in: FemDom, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Pictures, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 1 comment

Cagedmonkey and I had a little chat, before bed the other night, about my plans for his denial and chastity. As he mentioned, in the last post, life things have been exceptionally busy and play time has been extremely rare. I definitely miss it and want to try to get, at least, something in to spice things up a bit. I miss him being so super hair trigger horny from constant teasing. I love it when he desperately wants me and needs to feel me and aches to feel my pussy.

My plan is to keep him denied of orgasm for the next couple months. We will be going on vacation at the beginning of July. During that time we will see one of our kinky couple friends and being in that environment will certainly help to intensify the horny and his denial. It’s always nice when you’re with sexy people and can have a nice, normal, flowing kinky conversation. I haven’t decided if I’m going to let him cum that weekend or save it for another special day… We will see when he will actually get some release.

As for chastity, that’ll just stay the same for now. He’s locked every day, unless it’s a day that I want to use the cock I control. It really is a large amazing cock and it’s very hard for me to keep locked away… there are times I need it and I am not one to deny myself what I desire. Denial isn’t something I’m necessarily into for myself. 😀

In the mean time, I plan to send him more pics of my big beautiful boobs and my big round ass while he’s at work. Things like these…

I plan to give him some tasks, when possible, to help keep him teased for me. I love having him unlock on the way home, if I know I plan to use him that evening, and make him stroke and edge and keep himself hard on the way home. Sometimes, I’ll have him run an errand on the way home and he’ll have to do it while hiding a hard cock hehe! I do miss all the fun little things we used to do to keep things interesting and build his crazy horny… So I want that back. I just need to work out fitting it in to the craziness that life has become!

Last night was so amazing, I stood at the side of the bed, above him, while he sat on the edge. I put my hands to his cheeks (I love his sexy beard I made him grow!) and held his face and kissed him deep. He ran his hands all over my body and God it felt good! I stood there as he sucked my nipples and squeezed and fondled my big boobs in his hands. I loved feeling his want for me, his hands all over every part of me he could touch. Such an awesome feeling!

I look forward to increasing his desire and frustration 🙂

The Planning Stages

Posted by cagedmonkey on May 11, 2019
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ML and I have been somewhat chill with our kinkiness lately. This has been due to a number of factors:

1) both of us have been very busy at work,

2) it’s hard to find alone adult time now that the kids are getting older (and staying up later), and

3) we’ve been spending a lot of time binge watching Game of Thrones.

(Tangent alert: seriously, we only started watching GoT a couple of weeks ago, and we are frantically trying to get caught up before the series finale. We are only up to the end of season 5, so I doubt we will make it…)

Although the kinkiness may be at a low, we are still enjoying our awesome fucking sex; I’ve been enjoying it very much so, as My Lady has allowed me to cum quite a few times over the past month. I guess I’m doing a good job when she tells me not to stop. 🙂

With that said, I have been feeling the desire to get a little more focused on the chastity/orgasm denial dimension of our sex life. This evening, I sneaky-texted ML to see what her thoughts on the subject were:

“Later” is still later, as the kids are still up and around… when is bedtime again?

I wonder if she’s planning a long denial period, increased chastity, perhaps both… or maybe something even more creative – I can never be sure exactly what is going on in that brain of hers, but that sure makes things exciting!

Birthday Spanking

Posted by Lady M on April 8, 2019
Posted in: FemDom, Marriage, Spanking. Tagged: , , . 11 comments

Yesterday was my birthday! It actually all started Saturday night, we went to munch with our friends and hung out afterwards. It was lots fun and I even got a “Chocolate cake shot” for my birthday as well. Lots of laughs, lots of fun. I even got a few of the whole lots of birthday spankings that should have gone on. I believe there are still like 31 to go. I’ve decided, since I didn’t have time over the weekend that I’m going to give Monkey the rest of my spankings.

Yesterday was a fun day with just us as a family. The kids made me breakfast all by themselves, we went out in the afternoon to see Captain Marvel (I really liked that movie, like a lot!) And then my wonderful monkey boy naked me a cake in the evening! What could be better than that? I felt very loved, it was so sweet!

Anyway, CM and I were talking recently about how much I’ve missed leaving marks on his ass. He found a picture from a bit ago when I used a cane on him and left a beautiful mark for days! I need to see that again. 🙂 So today I’m going to look and see if I can find a good cane, or a few, to buy and have for when Cagedmonkey and I get our date night (without kids at home). It’s supposed to be soon and I look forward to sharing pics!

I used to think we were busy before and that it would slow as the kids got older but, apparently, that’s not the case. Apparently, it only gets busier as you start to have teenagers! One big bonus is the possibility that our oldest one, that I homeschool currently, could possibly go to school next year. That COULD free up some time for hubby and I to get some “day time, play time” in. I really, really, really want to work out getting her back in school. Then, I want to schedule some time off together once in a while to have time together. We miss each other, yet we see each other every day! We just haven’t had the opportunity for any good intense kinky playtime and it sucks. I want to fix that so bad. I feel like I’m letting CM down sometimes, because we don’t have the opportunity to get into good play. I need to figure this out for both of us. I want us to have that time together. It’s such a great release for both of us… And I get really wet and horny during it so I want it, damn it! LoL

Does anyone have a suggestion on where to get a good (inexpensive) cane? What kind should I look for? Do you have a favorite? Can you link me in comments? Don’t be dumb and spam, be serious please. Thanks!! 🙂

Dick Inspection Time

Posted by Lady M on March 18, 2019
Posted in: Chastity Device, FemDom, Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 6 comments

I felt very much in control last night as I had deemed it “Dick inspection time!” Haha I instructed Cagedmonkey on exactly how to take his shower and that he was to call me in to the bathroom so that I could unlock him and wash him properly. He is, very much, still not allowed to touch or see his penis. It was not a sexual washing, at all, it was very clinical. That doesn’t mean the minute he was let out he wasn’t already half way hard lol because he totally was. That poor cock had been locked up for 3 weeks in that Revenge, he was totally ready to stretch out. 🙂

After the shower, CM had to pee but since he’s not allowed to look or touch, he had to keep his eyes closed while I held his penis and let him pee standing up. Something he doesn’t often get to do these days. I think he was grateful! 🙂 Then I took him to the bedroom and he was put in the blackout goggles we recently got/made (I’ll have to tell you guys about them! Super easy and inexpensive.). This made it much easier to inspect how being in the enclosed device has effected my beloved penis. I’m not sure anyone has used that phrase but, now I have! During my inspection, I had to gently run my fingers all down the shaft of his cock, tickle the head, and just touch it all, in general… to make sure there was no loss in sensation, of course! Hehe Then I made sure to stroke it and edge it to be sure everything was in working order… It was all clinical, I tell you! Necessary steps in the inspection process, haha. I did noticed some dry skin so I had to, of course, rub some lotion on it, too. I made sure to rub it in really good from balls to tip. Then I added some more just to make sure that it was fully moisturized. I loved hearing that it was all working fine. At least that’s my assumption from all the moaning noises coming from the blindfolded man.

What I did actually notice, on the underside of CM’s penis, were a few sore spots. It appears they are in spots where the penis folds on to itself. Or bunches up, might be a better way to explain it? Being on the underside, there isn’t really a way to straighten it out or anything so the skin can’t get air. I think, even though he was washing lots, that area just can’t be squished up like that long term. It’s where I have noticed the sore spots in the past, as well, which is why I did this inspection.

This doesn’t mean he won’t be wearing the Revenge. What it does mean, though, is that I’ve required him to take a small break and wear the JailBird today – with explicit instructions not to touch or look at his penis… He has no reason to anyway! Then once he’s had time to heal up those sore spots, he will go back in the Revenge. However, we will be having weekly inspections and thorough cleanings so that I can try to prevent this from happening and he can stay longer in the Revenge. If they still occur with the once out weekly, we will have to reconsider how the Revenge is used. This entire time, Cagedmonkey is not allowed to see or touch his penis. That is mine and only for me to touch or use. So that means he will be wearing the blackout goggles each time and possibly be restrained, depending on how much inspecting I plan to be doing that week. 🙂 Functionality is certainly super important!

Trade Off

Posted by cagedmonkey on March 14, 2019
Posted in: Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Sex. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , . 7 comments

The clock continues to tick, and it is now about two and half weeks since my cock was locked away in the Revenge.

Two and a half weeks since I’ve been allowed to have a full erection.

Two and a half weeks since my cock has felt anything other than steel.*

*Not counting the rough, clinical scrubbing during showers… and now even THAT gets me sexually aroused…

Two and a half weeks since I have even seen my penis.

Think about that and really process it for a second – it’s really hard to imagine that long of a time period without having any access at all to your main source of sexual pleasure. Two weeks doesn’t sound all that long when it’s just an idea; when you’re actually living through it, it feels like an eternity.

I started thinking this morning about which is is more valuable to me at the moment – being able to see my penis or having it touched. Obviously, I’m missing ML’s touch on my cock in a bad way… hell, I’m even missing my own, or even just the softness of my underwear! But, to be honest, I really do enjoy seeing my cock when it’s nice and hard. Yes, I have a big cock and yes I’m proud of it, and yes it’s REALLY nice to see it in action.

So, if I had the choice between the two, would I trade one for the other?

Conceptually, either way could work: ML could simply blindfold me when (if???) she lets me out of my cage, not allowing me to see my fully hard penis; or, she could allow me to see my penis but only while restrained, and use toys on me to tease and edge me without giving me skin-to-skin contact. It can be done, the question is which would I choose if given the opportunity…

It’s not an easy answer.

Being able to see my cock would be nice, but being teased with toys only would drive me crazy – after all, I would be denied feeling ML’s pussy for the duration of the game, which would be really tough to take. Not seeing my cock doesn’t preclude me from having sex with ML, but could also put me in some very strange-feeling situations – I can very easily see ML tweeting or posting pics of my cock being teased or toyed with in various ways, but not allowing me to sneak a peek at the pics. How humiliating would it be for all of our readers and followers to be able to see my cock and the things she does to it, meanwhile I’m the only one who can’t?

If forced to choose, I would probably end up giving up my right to see my cock – I don’t think I could handle not having the skin-to-skin connection with ML, it’s just too fucking good to give up.

And now, my mind immediately begins to wonder just how long I would be able to handle that type of situation…

ML and I have tried to go an entire year denying me orgasms, and fell a couple months short. Do I think I could go a year without seeing my cock at all? I don’t know, that is pretty extreme. But, I guess if it came down to it, I would have to. It’s not like it would cause any major physical or mental harm to me, which is usually my standard for safewording these days. I guess if ML were to decide to try this out, I would have no choice but to hang on for the ride as best as I could.

I Need to Please You

Posted by Lady M on March 13, 2019
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Tease & Denial, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 2 comments

It’s been weeks since my hubby has been locked in the Steelworxx Revenge. He hasn’t seen his penis and the only thing it’s felt is that steel around it. I find that pretty fantastic lately. This is literally the longest he’s ever been locked in the device without it being removed. Usually I’d be worried that it was getting stinky or might develop sores from the constant touching of the cage… But this time I just told him I don’t know when I’m unlocking him so he’d better keep care of it! 🙂

I’m really enjoying what being locked in the Revenge is doing to CM. He’s so overly horny and sexual and touchy. Usually that takes a good while of being in the Jail Bird but, it’s happened way faster this time around in the Revenge. I love how it feels like he wants me so bad he can hardly stand it. Like he’s aching for me and NEEDS to have me.

It’s not so much that need he even needs intercourse with me. He has said, “I just need to please you!” Which is very interesting. He just needs some kind of sexual connection and he’s not so much begging to get out and have sex but more just wanting to touch my body, kiss me and my body, feel my sexual bits. He wants to see and feel that I’m turned on. He very much loves being able to eat my pussy, to make me cum and to give me that level of pleasure.

Now, I’m not locked up and denied orgasm or even access to my intimate parts so I’m not feeling that overly crazy horny-all-the-time feeling. That’s not a bad thing at all it just means that “pleasing me,” like he so desperately wants to do, isn’t always about sex or getting me horny or anything. Sometimes it’s more of a turn on to feel him just rub his hands on my body, almost avoiding the intimate parts. Just touching and gently running his fingers over me as if to activate my nerves all over and give me lots of the good feels. This morning was a great example of that. Just as we were about to get up, I sat on the side of the bed and he slid behind me and just ran his hands all over my upper torso and kissed my neck… It felt wonderful. It wasn’t him trying to get me all horny so we could have sex… It was sensual. That sensual stuff has much more of an effect on me than anything. Don’t get me wrong, I love him coming up and grabbing my ass or cupping my huge boobs but, the sensual stuff is by far more effective.

Something I don’t want any of you to forget is that “pleasing” your partner isn’t about what you want or what you think they want. It is one hundred percent about what makes your partner feel good, about what turns THEM on. That may not necessarily even mean touching them. Maybe they love the sexual and sensual stuff but maybe they are “turned on” and made to feel good when you make dinner or bring them flowers or just do anything for them that fills that part of them and gives them those feelings of love and being thought of. I’ve found that the sexiest thing, and thing that pleases me the most, is when I know that my likes, wants and desires have been considered. I am pleased when I’m thought of and something is done because CM knows it’s what I would want and not what he wants me to want. 🙂

A New Frontier

Posted by cagedmonkey on March 12, 2019
Posted in: Chastity Device, Female Led Relationship, Health, Male Chastity, Medical. Tagged: , , , , , . 1 comment

This latest lockup stint in the Revenge is certainly bringing up some new things. First, I’m finding out that my penis really does enjoy the feel of at least anything besides steel on it (i.e. clothes, skin, even if I’m still locked in a chastity cage); and when I don’t have that softer touch, I start to lose my mind really quickly.

Second, I discovered, unfortunately, that I can make it through an exercise class while wearing the Revenge (I was really hoping for some sort of problem in order to have an excuse to be unlocked).

Now, it’s another new territory I’ll be stepping into: I have a doctor’s appointment on Thursday, and My Lady still had no intention of unlocking me.

In the past, ML has allowed me to take my cage off for doctor appointments and such in order to avoid any awkward moments (more for the doctor than for me, if anything). This time around, I’m meeting with a new doctor – she sees her already, but I haven’t switched over yet. Although she hasn’t mentioned anything about our kinky lifestyle, ML thinks she’s “cool” if it were to have to come up in discussion.

The good thing is that I doubt that I’ll be examined that closely at this appointment; I don’t think my cage will be discovered. But what if it does?

“Well,” ML answered when I asked her that very question, “you’ll have a little explaining to do, won’t you?”

Well, yeah, I guess I will!

Honestly, one of the reasons we’ve been looking for a new doctor is that we felt we needed to find a physician that was somewhat understanding to the things we do – not necessarily “kink friendly” but at least somebody we would feel comfortable sharing our lifestyle details due to health reasons. Both ML and I are getting up in years, and we want to stay healthy and horny for as long as possible.

But is this how I envisioned talking to my doctor about male chastity?