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Coffee Talk – I would suck that dick

Posted by OwnedsubJohn on February 4, 2026
Posted in: Coffee Talk. Tagged: , , , . 8 comments

As I was enjoying my coffee this morning, I was chatting with Michele like we do every morning…

OwnedsubJohn having morning coffee

I was up earlier than she was (I live in an earlier time zone) so I started my day with some grooming. I cut my hair and trimmed my beard and then I moved a little lower. Michele likes me to keep my pubic area neat and my balls shaved. As you can imagine it is a bit difficult and takes longer since I am always locked in my steelheart. I am not let out for grooming so I have figured out a pretty good method for keeping myself neat.

While I was doing this Michele got up and started her day so she asked what I was up to. After I let her know what I had been doing she asked for a pic, so I obliged. What I didn’t expect was her response

“Well that IS all cleaned up for sure…. Damn, I might suck your dick if it looks like that lol 😁”

Well that IS all cleaned up for sure…. Damn, I might suck your dick if it looks like that lol
OwnedsubJohn cleaned up and well groomed wearing Steelheart chastity cage


So needless to say, I am going to try to make sure it looks like this when I see her this weekend. I don’t expect that she will suck my dick although I probably will not resist if she wants to. Being as submissive as I am I still have to learn to accept this is something that she truly likes to do on occasion. And boy is she good at it, what a wonderful treat when she does. What really feels good is that an old man like me can still be attractive to a young lady like Michele.

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Real life chastity – TSA Security

Posted by OwnedsubJohn on January 23, 2026
Posted in: In Real Life, Male Chastity. Tagged: , , . 8 comments

This is a light story about my experience with airport security.

As you may already know I don’t live near Michele and Jon. They live in Texas and I live in Virginia. Michele and I do a lot of traveling to see each other and because of the distance this always involves travel by air. I don’t live with anyone, have no kids at home, no pets, and a reasonably flexible work situation so I tend to do a lot of the traveling. I like it this way because I worry a lot when Michele is traveling.

When we first started making these trips I would unlock myself using my “emergency” key before I left for the airport. If I was leaving on a weekday evening that meant I would unlock in the morning and be that way all day. I would have my Steelheart in my backpack. Once I got through security at the airport I would find a bathroom and put my cage back on.

I really don’t like the feeling of being unlocked. I especially don’t like the feeling of being unlocked without Michele being the one to do it. Chastity is a core foundation of our relationship dynamic. Not being locked in my Steelheart causes me to feel a little anxious and separate from Michele, not under her control. Of course I would never do anything that I am not allowed to do but the cage not only enforces that but it reminds me of who I belong to. That my sexual pleasure is not for me to decide, it belongs to Michele.

I also don’t like re-locking. I like being locked again but I don’t like the process. I have a fairly small cage and it takes a bit of work to get myself in to it. Once I am in it takes a while for everything to adjust back to the way it should be. Sometimes this can take hours or longer. It’s not painful, it just isn’t comfortable, it isn’t “right”. And then I would get right on a plane and sit for three hours. Not exactly the time you don’t want to be comfortable in your cage.

It didn’t take long for me to get tired of doing this. I just went and checked, it was after my fourth trip, so eight times through TSA security. I decided I was done with it and was going through with my Steelheart on. If I got pulled aside I was just going to tell them I had “semi-permanent body jewelry”. I know that many in the kink community say not to put your kinks on someone else that hasn’t consented to it. And I agree, to a point. I feel that the security checks are an invasion of my privacy and I only consent to it because it is required in order to fly. Obviously I am not going to put something in anyone’s face and would be as discrete as possible.

So off I go to the airport. I have my emergency key just in case but I am locked up tight. I am a little nervous, less than I thought I would be, but I was committed. I had TSA precheck by this point so normally I would go through the metal detectors. I knew there was pretty much no chance of that not going off but I went through anyway. They really don’t like you to go straight to the full-body scanners. I told them I had metal in my body (true but in my arm not my groin area) and they sent me to the full-body scanners. Nervously I stood in the machine with my arms over my head as they scanned my body. I stepped out and waited for the results, the screen came up green “clear”. And that was that. I went and caught my flight. About as uneventful as it gets.

Since then I have taken more than 120 more flights over three years. Most of them of them were direct non-stop so even accounting for the occasional connecting flight I have been through TSA security over 100 times with absolutely no issues. I have had a pat down at least twice. Once because they didn’t have a full-body scanner and once because something was indicated on the scan. I don’t remember where it indicated but it was not my groin but close. Luckily for me this didn’t happen until I had already made many flights so I was very comfortable going through security locked.

After a couple of months of going through security without issues I turned my emergency key over to Michele. I haven’t had an emergency key, or a need for one, for almost three years now. Apparently Michele is much stricter about security than the TSA.

I have become so used to it that I literally forget that I am locked and don’t even think about it. There is an amazing feeling of comfort in knowing that my normal of being locked in my Steelheart really is just normal. I don’t get anxious or worry about it, I can just be me.

Now there have been some fun experiences going through TSA security. I have some funny stories about the times that I did get patted down and Michele and I both have some fun experiences with “toys” that we brought with us in our carryon luggage. I will save those for another post in the future.

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From One Focus to Another

Posted by JonMustWait on January 16, 2026
Posted in: Male Chastity, Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 5 comments

Before I get too deep into my post…

Please note the name in the author line! With all of the changes on the blog nowadays, I figured I would throw one more at you: me, cagedmokey, SHALL BE HENFORTH KNOWN AS…

JonMustWait 🙂

Why, you ask? Well, you’re in luck because I just happened to be writing a post about that very subject!

With the… ahem… “expansion” of our kinky lives over the past little while, Michele has been able to fulfill her desires in different ways involving both John and me. John’s focus has been more about chastity (along with some other things we will get to, in good time), while my focus has shifted more towards tease and denial. What this means for me is that my cock spends a lot less time being caged…

And a lot more time being endlessly edged over and over to new and deeper depths of frustration.

And I’m not complaining! Well, I’m not complaining much… except for when I’m desperate for an orgasm, and Michele tells me no while at the same time not letting my stop having sex with her. To be honest, while I enjoyed the chastity components of our lifestyle, I always got more enjoyment and excitement out of the orgasm denial aspect.

Now, this isn’t to say that I won’t be wearing the cage anymore. In fact, there may be a new cage to show off in the near future 😉 All this means is that my focus is going to be more on denial and control… of my orgasms yes, but also a lot more than that. You’ll still hear about how Michele delights in denying me, telling me no, and telling me I need to wait for what I’m so incredibly desperate for.

Out of the Cage and in to the Fire

Posted by Michele on September 26, 2025
Posted in: In Real Life. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . 11 comments

Hello, my lovelies—

Have you missed us? 👋 It’s been far too long since I last sat down here to share our life with you in our little corner of the internet. Life has a way of sweeping us up and spinning us around, and that’s exactly what happened. But here I am, heels planted firmly, ready to catch you up.

A lot has changed since our last post in January of 2021. I can’t believe it’s been that long. Since then our family made the big leap to Texas. There is so much new! New home, new cars, new jobs, new schools, new routines—it has been a whirlwind of fresh starts. The Lone Star State has been an adventure in more ways than one.

And then, 2022, something even bigger began to shift. Our dynamic—our rhythm, our dance—started to evolve. But you don’t think I’m going to spill all my secrets right now, do you? You know me better than that. I am, after all, a tease. And a Domme never shows her whole hand at once. That story deserves its own post. For now, I’ll simply say this: monkey has been uncaged 🔒 for maybe a couple of years now… and oh, what fun it’s been to play without bars. Don’t worry though, I still get my fill of keeping a chastity cage locked 🔒 🔑 24/7. You’ll hear all about that, in time. Savor the moment, will you? ❤️

The journey has been messy, beautiful, eye-opening, and yes—deliciously wicked at times. There’s been tears, laughter, lessons, growth and plenty of stories I’m itching to share. And through it all, one thing hasn’t changed: my love for tease and denial (and so many other things!) and telling you all about it.

So thank you for waiting, for peeking 👀 back here now and then, for holding this space for me. I’ve missed it. I’ve missed you. And now? I’m back.

Thinking of you all,
And you will now address me as Madam… If you address me at all.

226 Days Without Orgasm

Posted by Michele on September 1, 2020
Posted in: Male Chastity, Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 10 comments

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to go a year without an orgasm? I’d imagine quit a few of our readers have thought that, tried it or done it!

The longest I made it – yes me… I couldn’t handle it last time – was 299 days. Cagedmonkey probably could have held out longer but I struggled with the connection of cumming together. There is something about feeling that feeling at the same time. I missed being filled up. The last time we tried doing a one year… or longer denial we also tried to do a lot more locked up time. So I made it quite clear that this time I’d be using him as much as I wanted. It has definitely helped this time around because we are already 226 along and I’m no where near feeling a disconnect. We are intimate at least a few times a week, one way or another. So that makes it that much easier to keep him denied.

Plus, I do absolutely love how crazy horny he is. He’s so sweet and loving too! I really do love that just touching me or even sitting and talking and being cute and fun and lovey dovey gets him all hard. He, most times, is struggling in his cage but sometimes I have him unlocked so he’s usable.

Recently, we got a Double Locking Cockring from Mature Metal which is super fantastic for having him available but still locked in something. That way he’s constantly feeling my control over that big cock of his. It doesn’t hurt that the Cockring kinda forces him be hard for a long time, and not just any hard, but super hard hard lol!

So much enjoyment out of this denial, like I said, it’s been much easier this time keeping him aching to cum. I have no doubt he will not orgasm again until sometime in 2021!

Seven Years in a Chastity Device

Posted by Michele on August 13, 2020
Posted in: Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . 1 comment

It was over seven years ago that Cagedmonkey and I started this chastity journey. No, we didn’t start out in steel nor a custom device. However, seven years ago was when we purchased our first steel custom device from Mature Metal and that changed everything about our journey.

I was chatting yesterday with Mistress MM at Mature Metal and we got to talking about CM’s cage sizes so I had to go look up my old emails from our last cage purchase. It ended up being exactly 5 years from yesterday that we had purchased our most recent cage.

As you can see, this cage, is a Jail Bird like he always wears but we had an extra ring added to the cage itself. I really like the look of this cage. It’s definitely my favorite out of all of our cages.

Since it’s been 5 years since we have gotten anything new… I was thinking about possibly getting a new cage or maybe looking at the locking cock rings and other fun stuff william makes. I’m pretty interested in the base ring with the dildo option. That would certainly keeps things exciting without having to remove the cage.

Cagedmonkey wrote recently about committing to the cage and I have to say, I’m actually very happy to have him back in 24/7. There is something about it that just makes it so that much more exciting and intense. I told him, the next time we have sex, I may still not let him out. I certainly do love how big and buldgy he gets through the cage bars.

Committing to the Cage

Posted by JonMustWait on August 10, 2020
Posted in: Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 3 comments

After coming back from our vacation, (shameless promo link for our Mature Metal podcast!) I’ve been trying to focus more on wearing my cage as much as possible. Over the past few months, it’s been difficult to wear the cage 24/7 due to my back pain. Yes, my back surgery was successful, but (thanks to COVID concerns) I was not able to go through a full rehab-type regimen after surgery. This has made my recovery a little rough at times.

Specifically, it was very difficult for me to wear the cage overnight because I would often wake up to very painful cage-erections. They would really hurt, and not in the good “sexual confinement” way. After an extremely bad night, ML and I decided to have me take the cage off at night until things got better.

To be honest, My Lady was able to enjoy the situation by having easy access to morning sex… and, damn, do we have good morning sex! But I still felt that ML was being deprived of her total control of my cock. So over the past couple of days, we’ve decided to try the 24/7 lock up again and see how i handle it.

Good news report: I’ve been wearing the cage since Friday, and it feels great.

Yes, I’m still getting those “4am wake up” erections in the cage… but I’ve decided that I just need to figure out how to deal with them. So now, I’ll change position to take pressure off of my back or something, which usually works enough so I can get back to sleep. Most of all, I’m realizing how badly I miss being locked up for My Lady. Yes, I’m still crazy horny because I haven’t cum all year, but there’s a different intensity to having my erections denied as well. I already feel it building up over the past couple of days, and I’m glad it’s back.

It might take a little while before I can get start wearing it for weeks at a time, but I’m honestly looking forward to it. I know how much ML enjoys having me wear it according to her desires, and I’m excited about getting back to that.

Podcast Episode 13 – Chatting with Mature Metal

Posted by Michele on August 7, 2020
Posted in: Conversations, In Real Life, Male Chastity, Podcast, Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 9 comments

Cagedmonkey and I had the wonderful pleasure of spending time with the Beauty and the brains behind Mature Metal male chastity devices. Featured here in this special edition, extended length, podcast are not only us but Mistress MM, herself and william!

Thank you again for having us and also agreeing to chat with us a bit about your company and yourselves! We love you guys and can’t wait to see you again for more fun times in Texas! Hehe

Why are you still reading this?!?! Go listen to the podcast! Now, go, do as I say! And then be a good little boy and share it with friends!

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A Mature Metal Get-a-Way

Posted by Michele on August 6, 2020
Posted in: Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . 5 comments

A couple months ago, after we were already a few months into this time we are living, cagedmonkey and I decided we needed to get away. We didn’t want to go too soon so we planned it out for August 1st. Definitely thought the world would have a better handle on a virus after 8 months but whatever, we wanted a break from reality. Little did we know that this little break we planned would be one of the best trips we’ve ever taken!

Last week we hopped a plane and flew to Texas (kids, too!) to finally meet and hang out with friends we’ve known for about 7 years. The weather was warm but actually really great all week. It stayed mostly in the upper 80’s to 90 and sunny and just gorgeous. We spent the week away from other people and the hustle and bustle of the world. It was quiet and relaxing and much needed. Lots of time spent swimming, talking, laughing, enjoying amazing food and getting to know each other. The kids went lizard hunting and 4 wheeling and fishing, and so much more. It was lots of fun! I could seriously get into more but I’m sure you’re sitting there wondering why I’m telling you about some vacation we took with the kids to Texas when this blog is about chastity, right?

First of all, you know us and we like to tell you stories about how chastity fits into real life and marriage with kids. So I’ll start off with cagedmonkey did not fly to Texas caged! I know, I know, you all are disappointed with me that I didn’t send him through TSA with his steel cage on so he could be searched. Lol Honestly, I would have had no issues with him wearing it or sending it through in his bag, however, I really didn’t need a show when our kids were with us. Had we been alone, that little bit of humiliation would have been fun. TSA really is discreet and are not announcing what they find or are searching for in your bag. They are calm and quiet and very nice. So… We had an uncaged monkey for the week we were in Texas.

Now, to the most exciting part… Why Texas?!?! Well because our friends from Mature Metal are in Texas, of course!

Now you see why I mentioned the uncaged thing lol. I found it ironic that we finally get to meet the creators and makers of the cage I have hubby’s cock locked in every day and he’s not even locked in it!

We had such a fun week getting to know Mistress MM & william and we even got to see where all the magic happens! I really did think the shop would be a little bigger than it was. It totally makes sense, though, for ease and suited everything is just about in reach. One thing we noticed all over was the abundance of keys and M’s all over their house. I mean it is Mature Metal and it’s all about keeping important things locked up!

It was really wonderful hearing about how they got started and how it truly is a family owned and run business. Heck, I’m pretty sure we became family being down there lol Mistress MM even put the kids to work! Just think, next time you order a cage, your Keys could have been packed by my kid. Lol

My favorite things we learned while visiting were about Mistress MM & william as people, how they met, what their kinks are and how life is for them. And it was weirdly exciting to find out how alike Mistress MM & I are! We think so alike, like the same things and even finished each other’s sentences! It was like I found my long lost sister!

I certainly don’t want you thinking we kept it all completely vanilla while we were there with the kids. We did find some time to sneak in some impact play with our boys one night. That was lots of fun too! We even found out we like to beat the boys just about the same haha! I was able to get some good marks on cagedmonkey that night but they didn’t last too long into the next day. Maybe I needed to beat him a little longer but somebody was hungry for some ham & cheese! Hahaha

Anyway, keep an eye on the blog over the next couple days, we are working on putting up a very special podcast for your enjoyment! Also, a special thank you to our friends at Mature Metal for an amazing week and letting us into your world! Love you guys and your definitely our family now! Can’t wait to see you again soon!

I Want To Be Unlocked… Right?

Posted by JonMustWait on March 9, 2019
Posted in: Male Chastity, Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

Coming up on almost two weeks straight locked in the Revenge, and I’m really getting agitated. I need to be unlocked soon, my cock is in bad need of ANY kind of attention.

But, on the other hand…

It’s weird. Part of me is SOOOO turned on by how ML has kept me locked for so long this time. Part of me actually is starting to like how it feels when my cock struggles against the steel of the Revenge. Part of me (dare I say it) wants ML to keep me locked even longer…..

What am I saying?!?

It feels like Stockholm Syndrome, in a way, where I’ve come to love the cage while still wanting out of it. It’s kind of stressing me out, because I really don’t know how to feel about what may happen:

– If ML keeps me in the Revenge, will I feel ignored and isolated?

– If ML lets me out, will I wish she would have pushed me further?

It’s at times like this that I need to remind myself that I’m the sub – I need to focus on what ML Lady wants and be satisfied by that. If she unlocks me, it’s good because she wants my penis out; if she keeps me in, it’s good because she wants to keep controlling my cock.

One thing I do realize is that if ML continues to keep me locked (which, I’ve come to realize writing this post, wouldn’t be that terrible of a thing), I am hoping that she realizes that I may come to need more sexual attention by other means. There aren’t many options for that with my cock locked away, but I will most likely need something to keep me from feeling ignored. Both of us have been very busy lately, which makes it difficult to make time for sex; but even if it’s just a few moments of me serving her sexual needs (or her teasing my non-locked body parts), it goes a long way towards knowing she still wants me in a sexual way even though my cock is not available.