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Committing to the Cage

Posted by cagedmonkey on August 10, 2020
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After coming back from our vacation, (shameless promo link for our Mature Metal podcast!) I’ve been trying to focus more on wearing my cage as much as possible. Over the past few months, it’s been difficult to wear the cage 24/7 due to my back pain. Yes, my back surgery was successful, but (thanks to COVID concerns) I was not able to go through a full rehab-type regimen after surgery. This has made my recovery a little rough at times.

Specifically, it was very difficult for me to wear the cage overnight because I would often wake up to very painful cage-erections. They would really hurt, and not in the good “sexual confinement” way. After an extremely bad night, ML and I decided to have me take the cage off at night until things got better.

To be honest, My Lady was able to enjoy the situation by having easy access to morning sex… and, damn, do we have good morning sex! But I still felt that ML was being deprived of her total control of my cock. So over the past couple of days, we’ve decided to try the 24/7 lock up again and see how i handle it.

Good news report: I’ve been wearing the cage since Friday, and it feels great.

Yes, I’m still getting those “4am wake up” erections in the cage… but I’ve decided that I just need to figure out how to deal with them. So now, I’ll change position to take pressure off of my back or something, which usually works enough so I can get back to sleep. Most of all, I’m realizing how badly I miss being locked up for My Lady. Yes, I’m still crazy horny because I haven’t cum all year, but there’s a different intensity to having my erections denied as well. I already feel it building up over the past couple of days, and I’m glad it’s back.

It might take a little while before I can get start wearing it for weeks at a time, but I’m honestly looking forward to it. I know how much ML enjoys having me wear it according to her desires, and I’m excited about getting back to that.

New Year, Same Us

Posted by Lady M on January 17, 2020
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With the start of the new year – in more ways than one, wink wink – we’ve seen a slight uptick in our blog visits. Okay, maybe it’s because we actually got up off our butts, stopped being lazy, and started posting again…. but who really cares about the why, right? Anyway, we’ve also had some new followers, both here and on Twitter, so we figured it would be a good idea to go oover a little basic Q&A on what we are all about. And, to help us out with the “Q” portion of that equation, one of our followers wrote to us asking us some things about our relationship.

johnsk writes:

I am fascinated by this. Single guy here from USA. Although my cock is not large, I cannot get even the largest ring to fit. I have tried lube, etc. Very frustrating.

I’ll allow it.

The most common device I wear is the Jailbird from Mature Metal. I use an oval base ring, which may end up helping in your case. I know that I had trouble with the circular rings of other cages (although the Revenge ring is circular, and that one works fine).

Moving on to johnsk’s actual questions:

How often are you allowed to orgasm? Is it strictly her decision or a joint decision?

When and how I get to orgasm is 100% her choice. The frequency of my orgasms can vary depending on My Lady’s mood – sometimes it will be every few weeks, sometimes every few months. I have been cumming a lot more often than I am used to these past couple of weeks, but that is going to come to a stop VERY soon – ML and I are planning to once again try at a complete year of orgasm denial for me starting from our anniversary, which…..

*checks notes*

…. is TOMORROW!!!!

johnsk continues:

I also wonder if you employ butt plugs and spanking in conjunction with chastity.

ML is certainly a big fan of spanking me, although we haven’t had much opportunity to do so recently. As expected, spankings tend to generate a lot of noise; and, as a married couple with two children, it gets difficult to find time for that. Butt plugs are much easier to be discreet with, and ML will have me wear one from time to time.

johnsk finished:

Thanks for a great site on this topic.

And thanks for reading! We really do enjoy posting and doing all of this blog stuff – not just because we are kinky fuckers who like to show off all of the fun stuff we are doing, but also because we like the education aspect of all of this. There are a lot of sites that preach a specific kind of chastity play, and claim that it’s the “right way to do it” and no other way is “real” chastity… well, that’s all bullshit. Chastity can be whatever it means to you: you can lock up your cock without having a keyholder, you can have a single keyholder, or even a committee! You can be in chastity for an hour, a day, or a week… or longer, even. There’s no wrong answer, as long as it works for you.

So, thanks to johnsk and all of our other readers/followers! We look forward to you visiting us as we continue our fun far into the future.

*Knock Knock* Are You In There?

Posted by cagedmonkey on March 4, 2019
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It’s been a week since ML locked my penis in the Revenge, hiding it away from being touched or even seen in any meaningful capacity. Although I’m not 100% on this, I’m pretty sure that this is the longest I’ve been locked 24/7 in the Revenge – we have tried before, but hygiene issues have led to me being let out at smaller intervals. This time, though, I’m being extremely diligent about keeping the inside of the cage clean as much as possible; I’m scrubbing the inside as best as I can each day with soap and water (and making myself extremely horny in the process).

My penis is in there, somewhere… I assume…

Things have been… okay, I’d say. I mean, it should go without saying that I’m extremely desperate for some sort of sexual attention…. preferably with my unlocked penis, but I’ll take anything right now. It’s not about me, though, it’s about My Lady’s satisfaction… and she seems more than satisfied at this point in time.

Take last night for example: after a little bit of kissing in bed, ML directed me to fuck her pussy… only with the Revenge still on. I will say that fucking ML with the Revenge on is different from using the Jailbird. With the JB, I can feel her wet, warm pussy all over my cock but I can’t get hard to fully enjoy it. When the Revenge is involved, it’s a different kind of frustration because I can’t feel anything at all except the steel around me. I still get hard in the cage when I see how much ML is enjoying herself, but I don’t get any of the other great feelings from being inside her.

After a little bit of cage fucking, ML needed to cum, so she used the wand in combination of my fingers to get a nice good orgasm or two. Before we went to sleep, though, she made sure to tell me that the reason she got so turned on and needed to cum was because she kept reminding herself that I couldn’t feel anything while I was fucking her. Frustration for me equals satisfaction for her.

I am hoping that she soon realizes that I can’t feasibly stay as long in the Revenge as I would in the Jailbird (if she thinks I’m making it three weeks straight in this thing, she’s nuts). Even if she lets me out, I won’t be able to touch or see my cock, as we are planning on doing a “no look, no touch” game for the next little while. I just wonder when the first time we get to try it out will be. For now, I am left wondering when ML will decide to take my cock out of this cage… and how she plans to tease and torment it when she does.

Time Flies

Posted by cagedmonkey on November 4, 2018
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Under normal circumstances, a week goes by pretty quickly – it’s crazy that it’s already November this year! But one thing that always slows time down is having my cock locked up 24/7.

ML has had me wearing the Jailbird since Monday, and she’s making up for lost time by making sure I’m locked up tight for a while. And “tight” is an understatement at times: I was reminded earlier in the week that I usually start having trouble sleeping about 3 days into a 24/7 lock up.

There hasn’t really been any talk of when I might be unlocked; the fact that it will be at least a month is kind of assumed, but after that… who knows? My Lady is keeping me denied of orgasms until Christmas at the earliest, could she also keep me locked unto then?

Plotting Revenge

Posted by cagedmonkey on June 21, 2017
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Yesterday afternoon, after a nice quick bout of doggy style sex (which I was not allowed to cum during), ML locked me up in the Revenge before sending me off to work.

I’m not sure if it’s just the fact that I don’t wear it very often, but there is something very sexy about this device – my cock locked away, almost entirely encased in steel. I don’t even get the cursory brushes with clothing or ML’s teasing touches through the bars, just the cold hardness of my chastity cage.

As I said, I haven’t spent a whole lot of time wearing the Revenge for one reason or another – at one point, the integrated lock mechanism was broken and we were waiting for a replacement. But, if things go according to plan, that should be changing. The “plan” involves acclimating myself to the Revenge, testing to see how long I can safely wear the device, and possibly trying to extend that time period.

Wearing the Revenge is very much like starting over from scratch: I really need to take it slow and not go for “too much, too soon.” The closed-style of the Revenge differs from the open-style Jailbird in a number of ways, with comfort and hygiene being the two most notable contrasts. I haven’t had much problem with comfort in the past, but hygiene can be challenging when using a closed-style device for long term wear.

With that said… My Lady really wants to try locking my cock in a full steel device for a good amount of time, just to see how crazy and desperate I get for any type of stimulation (I’ll admit, I’m very interested in it, too). So we are going to treat it like we did from the beginning: small steps leading to big steps.

I’m going to wear the Revenge for a week only at first, doing my best to give it a good flush with the showerhead every night before bed in order to keep it clean and avoid any skin reactions. After a week, ML will take me out and “inspect the goods.” If all is good, we will try to do two weeks with the same cleaning routine. If everything is okay after two weeks, we will move on to… hopefully not much longer than two weeks.   🙂

Basically, we want to see where my tolerance limit is, if there is any at all. When we find it, we will know what we have to work with. And if we find there really is no tolerance limit… then ML will know she can keep me locked in the for as long as she wants. I’m not 100% sure which one I’m rooting for…

Locked Away Again

Posted by cagedmonkey on June 7, 2017
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My Lady gave me a wonderful birthday present this weekend – I fucked her nice and hard from behind and was allowed to cum deep inside her pussy. It was a really great orgasm and I made sure to get as much pleasure out of it as I could by continuing to thrust into her as my cock throbbed and pulsed inside her. If anything, this was the opposite of a ruined orgasm; I made sure it was as full and total as it could be.  🙂

It’s a good thing I enjoyed it, because it’s going to be a little bit of time before I even get close to feeling that again. Unbeknownst to me, My Lady had plans to keep my cock locked up for a nice extended period after my birthday – she says I will be locked up tight 24/7 until July 4th, at least.

Going until July 4th means I will be locked up for a month straight: no erections, no feeling her pussy on my cock, definitely no orgasms… just a month of steel-encased frustrated flesh. A month is longer than we’ve ever done 24/7 chastity before –  we usually make it to about 3 weeks-ish before ML misses my hard cock too much to wait any longer, but there’s no reason to think that she will have any mercy on me this time around. She has already denied me the chance to groom once more before being locked away, so I had to do my best shaving around the cage in order to get the job done.

I think I did a pretty good job. 🙂

The thing that gets me a little worried, though, is the “at least” part at the end. Could ML be thinking about keeping me locked up in chastity for longer than a month? She actually does enjoy feeling me inside her… can she go for that long without? If yes, how long can she wait? I honestly have no idea. The only thing I’m certain of is that my cock will begin to ache long before I’m unlocked. It’s going to be so long in between erections for me, I wouldn’t be surprised if it genuinely hurts when the skin stretches out for the first time in who knows how long!

P.S. My situation could be much worse than what it is now, to be honest: ML and I were talking a few weeks ago about trying out the Revenge again, but we haven’t unpacked any of our toys yet. How bad would it be to be fully enclosed in steel for a month, or even longer than that???

An Old Familiar Friend

Posted by cagedmonkey on April 15, 2017
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For those who follow us on Twitter, you may have seen ML’s excitement over the arrival of the Revenge’s new lockset in the mail. Her excitement is pretty well justified – it’s been almost two years since I’ve worn the closed-style chastity cage. Although it doesn’t really matter how My Lady keeps me in chastity, it is always nice to have options. Also, it really is a beautiful device, very sexy and stylish.

ML didn’t waste time with getting my cock back in the Revenge – I’ll be wearing it for most (if not all) of the weekend. ML thought it would be best to have me wear it at home, just in case I needed to get used to it again. It’s not much of a different feeling compared to the Jailbird – both are stainless steel cages locked around my cock and balls, after all – but it is a different device than I’m used to wearing lately. Better to get acclimated while I’m at home than at work.

I said it’s not much different, but it is a different feeling: while my cock tends to bulge around the bars of the Jailbird when I get hard in the cage, the Revenge compresses me all around and gives no ground. It’s just a little bit more claustrophobic, a little bit more compete constriction.

I asked ML today if she feels any different about having me in the Revenge as opposed to the Jailbird, whether she likes me bulging out of the cage or being squeezed by the steel. She said that it is different: the Jailbird is more of a tease, letting me feel what I can’t have; the Revenge is about frustration, isolating me from what I truly need. She did say that she doesn’t really prefer one over the other, thoughl both give her control over my cock, just in different ways.

This weekend should be a very frustrating reintroduction to the Revenge. ML is excited to see and hear what it feels like when I get one of my strong “rooty” erections in the Revenge, and she is also interested in exploring her new love of caged sex with the smooth steel inside her pussy.

How Does a Cock Cage Feel?

Posted by cagedmonkey on April 9, 2017
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I get asked this a lot: what does it feel like to wear a chastity device? Does it always feel weird? Does it ever get comfortable? How is it possible to live a normal life when your cock and balls are locked into a steel cage?

Well, it’s sort of like any other new thing: it takes some getting used to, but it becomes normal after a while. It’s almost like a piece of jewelry that you need to get used to wearing… except that it’s padlocked to your junk.

I remember when ML and I first got married, I was very much aware of my wedding ring when I was wearing it. I’d play with it, fiddle with it, and I could feel it between my fingers. I wasn’t used to it, so it felt really weird. But now, after more than 13 years of marriage, wearing it is more normal to me than not wearing it is.

Obviously, I haven’t been wearing the chastity cage for 13 years (although, sometimes, it seems like it’s that long between erections!). But I have been wearing it for a decent amount of time – it’s getting close to 4 years of being in chastity, going to work wearing my device, sleeping with it on, etc. It’s part of my normal routine now.

In fact, it feels different now when I’m not wearing it rather than when I am. Now, I’m surprised when I reach down to adjust myself and I don’t feel the hard steel of the Jailbird. I’m reflexively careful when I wrestle or snuggle with the kids, automatically trying to avoid an awkward explanation. Sometimes I even surprise myself when I go to use the bathroom and I find myself uncaged, completely forgetting that My Lady had unlocked me earlier that day. I’m just so used to being in chastity for ML, I hardly ever give it a second thought.

That’s not to say that wearing the chastity cage is always as comfortable as can be. There are times when I get so hard and full in the cage that it’s almost painful. Sometimes I get woken up in the middle of the night by my cock fighting a losing battle against the steel bars locked around it, and the only way I can get back to sleep is by reading or playing games on my phone until my cock calms down.


See how badly I’m bulging against the bars in that pic… doesn’t look all that comfortable, does it? Honestly, it’s not… but it really is worth it. It’s worth the time getting used to it in order to wear the cage for My Lady, to be able to be locked and kept for her. It doesn’t start out natural, but it becomes natural.

Crushed

Posted by cagedmonkey on November 7, 2015
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I haven’t had a full night’s sleep for the past three nights. I’ve woken up at 4 am each night with an extremely painful cage-strangled erection, and the only way to calm myself down is to get out of bed and do something to take my mind off it. I try to lay in bed and relax – think about boring things, do math in my head, etc. – but nothing works. The pressure of my erection starts to ache, which is kind of a turn on for me, which keeps my erection from calming down… there’s no escaping the problem at that point.

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Maximum rootage.

The worst part is that I’m suffering through all these aches and pains, and I’m nowhere near getting the pressure relief of being unlocked that I so desperately need. It’s only been a little over a week since My Lady locked me up tight in the Jailbird, and the intensity of the ache feels like it’s been a month. And I have more than a month to go before I’m released!

I can tell ML is enjoying making me feel this way. She relishes the idea that it is her that makes my cock ache the way it does, and that thoughts of her are what keep it going strong. She’s been ultra horny over the past week (time-of-the-month or not, she’s feeling it bad!), teasing me just a little bit extra and getting off on it a lot bit extra. She’s even having sex dreams pretty much on a nightly basis now… I thought that was my thing!

I feel the energy building between us quickly and strongly. We’ve been talking a little bit about our desires, and when our horny feelings get really intense, we both start to want the same things. I’m not entirely sure, but I feel us moving towards a possible intense kink scene if this buildup continues. Come to think of it, we don’t have any plans this weekend. Who knows what ML has been dreaming up for me this past week…

Jail Bird vs. Jail Bird, Part 2

Posted by cagedmonkey on August 9, 2015
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So I woke up today intending to write my “wearer’s review” of the new Jailbird device ML purchased for me, hoping that it would be a good reference for anyone interested in buying it from us, as well as a general review/information post. Lo and behold, today I found out that ML has already gotten offers on it without my post being written. I guess writing my review of the new JB will be for informational purposes only, then! 🙂

The Cage

As My Lady mentioned in her post, the dimensions of the new JB cage are smaller in both length and width. When I look at my penis when it is locked in the older cage, it looks as though there is room to tighten up just a little bit – there is often a little bit of space when I am flaccid. In practice, though, the new cage is just too tight; I would often find my penis crunched up against the side of the cage or twisted around inside., and I would often feel slight pinching when moving around at work. It wasn’t painful, but it did make wearing the cage uncomfortable. It was also difficult to adjust myself because of the extra crossbar because it was located right where I’m used to grabbing the bars to move the around when needed. I’m sure that the crossbar issue was something I could get used to, though.

The Base Ring

ML was hoping that the double ring would help keep the cage more stable against my body. I’m not sure if this was the case. The double ring did cause some discomfort issues in my sack area, however; I don’t know if the increased surface area compressed my skin more than I’m used to, if the gap was affected by the double ring, or if the added weight pulled down on my skin. All I know is that it didn’t feel right. I’ve gotten many questions lately on whether a single or double ring is better, or which shape ring is best (circle/oval/anatomical/etc.). I think that whatever fits your own body best ends up being what you get used to. I’ve worn devices with a single ring for so long, a double ring just isn’t right for me. The reverse could be true for someone else.

Overall

The new JB doesn’t have any major issues – it’s not cutting off circulation, and there are no rough spots or anything like that. There are just a bunch of small discomforts that all add up to the conclusion that it’s not the right fit for me. I do think that the extra crossbar is a nice look, which is why ML and I are going to try a cage with the new bar style and the old measurements.