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I Guess it’s Going to be a NOvember

Posted by Lady M on October 29, 2018
Posted in: Ass Play, Chastity Device, D/s, FemDom, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 5 comments

Football and Cheer season is juuuuuuust about over here in Monkeyland lol. We’ve had a very long season that felt like it’s gone on forever. We actually have one more cheer competition coming up this weekend but football and practice is done. Which means no more reason for my super horny, long denied, hubby to take off his cock cage. I don’t regret it at all since our kids won’t be young forever and I know that they will look back and remember that we were very involved parents when it comes to their sports and other activities. Now that we have time to get a little more back into our kink, I did some thinking today. We won’t have a ton of time but more than we did and, like I mentioned, now there isn’t the excuse of coaching to remove the cage.

This morning I realized that I’m really wanting CM to remember just who owns him and his body and his sexual pleasure. I also want him to remember what is important in this dynamic. That’s my pleasure and what I want. What I want for about the next month is to have CM locked him his cage 24/7. He needs that intense reminder that I control his cock and I’d I want it locked it will be locked and if I want it out it will be out.

The other part of this will be that each evening he will be having some kind of ass play while his cock is locked. That could mean he’ll wear one of our butt plugs – the njoy’s or even the remote plug – or he could be instructed to use a toy on his ass and maybe the wand as well to get his cock dripping precum from his cage. On the nights, when possible, I will likely have him get out the little tripod or selfie stick and take me some really slutty pictures. It would be so humiliating to have to take pics & video of himself violating his own ass because I told him to. Then I can choose to show friends the pictures or maybe even post them on the blog.

I did explain to him that I want him to do this for me and use these toys to keep his ass ready for me… You know, should I have a need to use his ass for something it would be ready. I know, after a couple weeks of being used daily with no use of his penis he might get to a point of wanting to stop… And it won’t stop until I say it stops. He really has no choice in the matter.

So, hopefully, we have a few exciting weeks coming up here in November! 🙂

Feedback & Questions

Posted by Lady M on October 28, 2018
Posted in: Conversations, Mail Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

We got some awesome feedback today about the podcast and a couple questions, as well, that I figured I’d take a moment to answer. We always appreciate when our readers or listeners give us feedback or just want to write and say, “Hi!” Don’t be shy! 🙂

Love it! The punishment /funishment thing to me is one of countless blurred outlines of that classic BDSM conundrum… if I want to be punished then how can it be a punishment? In my head, it still can be – especially (to your point) if you know your partner and love them enough to exploit that knowledge.

Love getting feedback like this. This is why we love having the conversations we do on our podcast. Having a relationship, kinky, vanilla or whatever really does come down to communication and knowing your partner. Amazing things can happen when you know, just as this gentleman states, how to exploit the knowledge!
I confess that I’ve only listened to a couple podcasts now (just found you guys on Friday), so I apologize if you’ve gone over all of this stuff many times before, but man I have so many questions 😛 Feel free to ignore them…
That’s ok… some times answering things again is a good thing for someone who is new around here. We have answered these before here in the blog and possibly on the podcast but I don’t mind answering them again.
Do you still control / keep other guys in chastity besides caged M? If so, how many? How do you find the time and energy to keep up with that?
I no longer have “subs on the side” and there are two reasons for this. A) I tend to be a bit too intense for most people and they end up not handling being dominated by me very well. The whole fantasy vs reality thing… I make things very real and the intensity of the reality becomes too overwhelming. When I have subs I put my whole self into it and when boys get overwhelmed by me I tend to get myself hurt in the process. And then, B) well like you mentioned, time. I just don’t have it anymore. When I was a stay at home mom I had a lot more time to spend focusing on kinky things. Now I work outside the home, have to take care of my home, kids and they are very active kids and we are involved parents… It leaves very little time for extracurricular activities.
I remember hearing caged M adamantly defining a limit about physically playing with other people, but that you guys might role play with the idea from time to time. How does that generally look for y’all?
There is a really great post here on the blog about Pseudo-cuckolding that you may find helpful in regards to this question. We do not play outside our marriage… At least not with men. We have talked in the past couple years about me having an Alpha sub female to play with but so far we haven’t found anyone that fits.

For me, chastity is inextricably linked with cuckolding, but the reality of that fantasy carries potentially damaging emotional remnants… I’m so curious on how you guys feel about that and if the implication exists in some form within your D/s dynamic.

We have seen how a lot of times people automatically think chastity = cuckolding but we try hard to get across that that’s not necessarily true. That chastity is not specifically one thing or another. It doesn’t have to be this or that. Just because someone is in chastity does not mean the partner goes out fucking other people. Chastity is exactly what the couple wants it to be. It certainly CAN be all those things or none of them. It’s up to the couple to decide what chastity is for them.
Thanks so much for sharing your story so openly and responding : ) I fucking love the internet.
Thank you, so much, for the great feedback and the questions. Hopefully I’ve successfully answered them but please feel free to ask whatever else you want to ask! 🙂 and yeah the internet is pretty awesome!

Podcast Episode 11 – Rewards & Punishments

Posted by Lady M on October 27, 2018
Posted in: D/s, Podcast. Tagged: , , , , , . Leave a Comment

Maybe you’ve noticed we have some missing numbers in our Episode count. Don’t worry, we aren’t going crazy we actually had to do that on purpose! We had a couple of podcasts that were going to get posted ahead of this one but we have had a change in plans so we just went with this one. So pardon the numbers and just go with it. You will also notice, during this podcast, that it was recorded at the end of July. Sorry it’s taken so long to get posted. There is a whole story there that we will not get into!

Anyway, as you can tell, from the title, this podcast covers things like Rewards, Punishments and even goes over “funishments.” I hope you enjoy it, even with it’s delay.

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How Do I Know?

Posted by cagedmonkey on October 22, 2018
Posted in: Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 3 comments

Someone asked me an interesting question recently:

How can you be sure that Lady M will ever let you cum again?

Well, honestly, I can’t be sure.

Part of me is pretty sure that she does want to give me orgasms, infrequently as they may be. In the past, she has expressed that she doesn’t want to deprive me of orgasms permanently; she actually does like to give me that pleasure.

That was in the past, though, and things have changed since we first started our orgasm denial play.

I used to need a “maybe day” from My Lady because of this very train of thought – I wasn’t ready to give up total control of my orgasms just yet. The chastity, teasing, and orgasm denial were great fun, but it was still difficult to not have a target date in mind. I gave up the idea of having a maybe day a few years ago, and I don’t regret the decision one bit. However, I do realize exactly what it means to give full control of my orgasms over to ML.

I can hope she hasn’t changed her mind about things, but the bottom line is that if ML decides to never allows me to have another orgasm again then that is what will happen. She will let me cum when it pleases her, and if it pleases her more to keep me in a state of perpetual constant horniness and desperation for an orgasm for the rest of my life, that is what she will do. It’s not what I’m hoping for, but it’s exactly what I asked for.