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Feedback & Questions

Posted by Lady M on October 28, 2018
Posted in: Conversations, Mail Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

We got some awesome feedback today about the podcast and a couple questions, as well, that I figured I’d take a moment to answer. We always appreciate when our readers or listeners give us feedback or just want to write and say, “Hi!” Don’t be shy! 🙂

Love it! The punishment /funishment thing to me is one of countless blurred outlines of that classic BDSM conundrum… if I want to be punished then how can it be a punishment? In my head, it still can be – especially (to your point) if you know your partner and love them enough to exploit that knowledge.

Love getting feedback like this. This is why we love having the conversations we do on our podcast. Having a relationship, kinky, vanilla or whatever really does come down to communication and knowing your partner. Amazing things can happen when you know, just as this gentleman states, how to exploit the knowledge!
I confess that I’ve only listened to a couple podcasts now (just found you guys on Friday), so I apologize if you’ve gone over all of this stuff many times before, but man I have so many questions 😛 Feel free to ignore them…
That’s ok… some times answering things again is a good thing for someone who is new around here. We have answered these before here in the blog and possibly on the podcast but I don’t mind answering them again.
Do you still control / keep other guys in chastity besides caged M? If so, how many? How do you find the time and energy to keep up with that?
I no longer have “subs on the side” and there are two reasons for this. A) I tend to be a bit too intense for most people and they end up not handling being dominated by me very well. The whole fantasy vs reality thing… I make things very real and the intensity of the reality becomes too overwhelming. When I have subs I put my whole self into it and when boys get overwhelmed by me I tend to get myself hurt in the process. And then, B) well like you mentioned, time. I just don’t have it anymore. When I was a stay at home mom I had a lot more time to spend focusing on kinky things. Now I work outside the home, have to take care of my home, kids and they are very active kids and we are involved parents… It leaves very little time for extracurricular activities.
I remember hearing caged M adamantly defining a limit about physically playing with other people, but that you guys might role play with the idea from time to time. How does that generally look for y’all?
There is a really great post here on the blog about Pseudo-cuckolding that you may find helpful in regards to this question. We do not play outside our marriage… At least not with men. We have talked in the past couple years about me having an Alpha sub female to play with but so far we haven’t found anyone that fits.

For me, chastity is inextricably linked with cuckolding, but the reality of that fantasy carries potentially damaging emotional remnants… I’m so curious on how you guys feel about that and if the implication exists in some form within your D/s dynamic.

We have seen how a lot of times people automatically think chastity = cuckolding but we try hard to get across that that’s not necessarily true. That chastity is not specifically one thing or another. It doesn’t have to be this or that. Just because someone is in chastity does not mean the partner goes out fucking other people. Chastity is exactly what the couple wants it to be. It certainly CAN be all those things or none of them. It’s up to the couple to decide what chastity is for them.
Thanks so much for sharing your story so openly and responding : ) I fucking love the internet.
Thank you, so much, for the great feedback and the questions. Hopefully I’ve successfully answered them but please feel free to ask whatever else you want to ask! 🙂 and yeah the internet is pretty awesome!

A Girl of my Very Own – Cuckolding my Hubby with a Woman

Posted by Lady M on April 25, 2015
Posted in: Bondage, D/s, FemDom, Male Chastity, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 2 comments

Some of you may know and some of you may not but for a while now, I’ve been looking for a submissive girl to have as a plaything. A good little girl to be mine, to play with how I want, to corrupt. Not just any girl, because I actually want to build a friendship and a relationship with this girl. Sort of like having myself a girlfriend on the side. I have been looking locally, only to find that most were fake or just playing games and not really into actually meeting. I am looking to experience real life play but decided I would expand my reach a bit.

I started with a simple f4f post on Reddit in the BDSMPersonals and, good Lord, some of the responses from Reddit are simply comical – in a not so good way! I have met a couple good people and gotten to be friends from there but the crazies made me pull my ad down and take a break. I was still looking through, though, in hopes of finding a f4f post by a sub looking for a Domme. I should say I put hubby on the task of finding them and passing them along to me. Basically I was making him look for a girl for me to play with. Which, in itself is kinda hot and very frustrating to him to think about the fact that I want him to find the girl in going to make him watch as a cuckold him with a woman. Tied up and locked in his cage as he watches me get pleased by a woman, as she makes my pussy cum and it’s dripping down her chin.

The fun part is, I want to do the same to her, tease her, deny her and force her to watch me get pleased when she is dying to be the one making me cum. I want to dominate her, bind her, spank her, control her. I really had given up hope, if I’m being quite honest. I didn’t think this girl even existed.

Then I got a link texted to me from cagedmonkey. At first I left it sit in my messages without clicking on it. I just really was tired of people. After a bit I gave it a chance, when I read it I was like, “yeah right, he must be crazy, she’s half my age!” Ya know what, I said fuck and sent her a message. I quite simply said “I want to chat more, message me,” pretty much because I figured she wouldn’t so why prove myself haha. I mean, what could happen, she’d be fake, we’d talk for a bit and then conversation would trail off like it always does. Well, not so much! Haha the weirdest thing happened. This girl, we’ll call her Lizzy here, and I clicked like crazy and couldn’t stop talking. We both actually wanted to hear from the other and we talked, for days! It was so much fun – it IS so much fun – getting to know each other. Now an even hotter thing is that she and hubby have started chatting and getting to know each other too. They are almost exactly alike! It’s like I found the girl version of him, I love it! I find it interesting to think that my hubby is chatting away and becoming friends with someone who is basically my girlfriend and who I am hoping I get to see in person to cuckold the hell out of him with.

I have had so much fun, recently, taking bits of control away from Lizzy. I love to hear her call me ma’am. I love to make her follow my instructions and do things to her body for me. She’s my little pain slut too and I love to hear her whimper. I can’t wait to dig deeper with her, to touch her deepest darkest fantasies.

For now I leave you with these images – I mean how could I not be turned on and want to control that body?
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And damn! She’s just so delicious looking, I can’t wait to get her on her knees, bind her arms behind her, wrap my hand in her long dirty blonde hair and just rub her face in my sloppy wet pussy.
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More Talking & Fantasizing About Bondage Equipment

Posted by Lady M on November 5, 2014
Posted in: Bondage, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . 3 comments

Recently hubby and I have been talking a lot about some bondage equipment and boy do I wish we had the money to buy it and try it out. Anyone wanna get me a gift? Hehe Really though, it has so much potential for long term teasing, predicament bondage and even some humiliation.

If you’ve been following our journey you know about a local friend I met who we were doing a pseudo-cuckolding type thing with. For the blogs proposes, his name is Adam and he’s also who I named my favorite very very realistic dildo after. Well, he and I started talking again in the past couple days and I brought up this piece of bondage equipment. You see we’ve wanted to play in person with Adam for quite some time. Not that we are ok with me fucking another man – we aren’t – but that doesn’t mean he couldn’t come show hubby what a nice hard cock looks like when it’s stroked and cums. Especially when he’s all locked up in his steel cage and been denied for a month.

So last night I mentioned to cagedmonkey that I was thinking of inviting Adam over for some playtime. I told him if we had the equipment it would make his visit that much more interesting. I also told him I wanted him to take some time to think about what other exciting and deliciously evil things Adam and I could do in front of him and/or to him while locked into it. So here is what he emailed me from his assignment last night:

“as you requested My Lady, a continuation of my thoughts/fantasy from earlier – involving the stocks and you (and possibly Adam) masturbating while I was forced to watch – ways to make it even more frustrating for me by playing some porn within my view. You could be enjoying the porn while I’m forced to watch, unable to do anything about it, and you could do any/all of the following:

– force me to watch him jerk off to the porn
– force me to watch the cumshots in the porn
– stroke me to the same rhythm that the he strokes himself
– stroke me to the same rhythm as the fucking in the porn
– use my body to get off repeatedly
– edge me constantly
– or anything else you can think of

These are all such wonderful things. I’ve thought of a few others such as using him as furniture of sorts while I masturbate, pegging him while he is locked in the stocks – especially if Adam is masturbating in front of him, kneeling in front of him and (a big maybe) letting Adam cum right on my big titties… I mean, as I said, the potential there is almost unending!

I did email Adam to see his thoughts and fantasies about the whole thing, so I’m pretty eager to see what he says. I’m so sure my pussy will be completely dripping wet after reading his response. Just talking to hubby this morning, for the few minutes before he went to sleep, soaked my panties!
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My Out Of Control Horny!

Posted by Lady M on March 15, 2014
Posted in: Breath Control, Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Sex, Tease & Denial, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , . 15 comments

You would think this post would be coming from the guy in the chastity cage who hasn’t seen or felt his own dick in days. Who hardly gets a chance to even get hard, let alone cum!

BUT, it’s not! It’s ME who has a crazy out of control horny problem haha! It is to cagedmonkey’s benefit because he loves when I dominate him and make him be submissive to me by demanding he get on his knees and lick my pussy any time I get a chance. God, I just love holding the back of his head and pushing his face into my extremely wet dripping pussy. Seriously, my crotch is dripping wet today it’s on my thighs! If he’s not there cleaning it up as much as possible how else will I keep from leaking through my panties and pants?

This all started yesterday, cagedmonkey and I had a visit from a friend and the whole situation made me kinda hot. It was almost purely a vanilla visit but, you know me, I love to be a cock tease so I just had to make sure he left with a view to remember. He got an eyeful of my big tits on his way out hehe. 🙂 He told me later how hard he got and how it wanted to bust out of his pants. *giggle* that’s just drives me crazy because I love to know I turn someone on and tease them enough to go masturbate!

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Now before you all get crazy saying we’ve said before that cuckolding is not our thing… it isn’t! Not in the true sense of the word. I’m not looking to have sex with anyone else but my hubby. However, if you read our post on “Pseudo-cuckolding” you would understand our boy toys are all about being used to make my hubby jealous that they can do what he can’t and desperately wants to… meaning getting turned on by me and then getting an erection, touching, holding and stroking their own cocks and cumming when, where and how they want. Now, me getting to tease, encourage and/or provide the visual stimulation to help our boy toys get to that point is just a bonus because I truly get off on being the thing that arouses men! 🙂

So, today, from the minute cagedmonkey got home this morning he’s been touching, fingering or licking my pussy. 🙂 I pretty much attacked him when he walked in the door. With his coat still on I pushed him up against the door and kissed him hard and deep. He had his hand in my pants almost immediately flicking his finger over my very wet horny clit. I finally let him get inside the house and settled and I went to make the kids breakfast. While I was in the kitchen I couldn’t stand the dripping between my legs making me hornier so I called cagedmonkey into the kitchen to “help me for just a minute.” I pointed down, motioning to him to get on his knees, he whispered, “yes ma’am” and did as he was told. I lifted my nightshirt, put my hand on the back of his head and pulled his face into the hot wetness between my legs. Ahhhhhh that felt good!

When it was finally time for him to go to bed this morning I went up to “tuck him in” and made him, again, lick my sopping wetness to a couple orgasms. I am just so damn turned on today that even that wasn’t enough. I had him get my favorite dildo (man I can’t thank the friend who gave me that gift enough!!) and fuck me nice and good with it til I came another couple times. 🙂

I think I’m satisfied… for now, but I totally feel my horny building again ready to drip down my legs. I certainly hope I don’t see an email from our young friend to cagedmonkey telling him all about how exactly he masturbated thinking of me yesterday. How it felt to hold his hard cock in his hand and stroke it slowly, then building faster and faster. Oy ok, enough of that Lady! Shhhhhhhhh!

I’m sure in a bit here hubby will be waking up to my wet pussy over his mouth as I sit on his face and make him drink up my warm wet juices!

Hope you have yourself a happy horny day! :)~

Male Chastity & Cuckolding

Posted by Lady M on January 15, 2014
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, Male Chastity, Sex, Tease & Denial, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , . 4 comments

We wanted to write a post about cuckolding because a lot of assumptions are that couples who engage in male chastity are almost always into cuckoldry. This is actually not the case. While it seems that traditional cuckolding is more popular these days in the world of kink is not a necessity of couples who practice male chastity. It’s definitely not something we get into… in the traditional sense – which I’ll explain in a moment. Being a cuckoldress or “HotWife,” in my opinion, takes some emotional sacrifice. I’m not the person who can have sex with someone without some emotional connection. I’m also not into sharing my toys, but that’s another story.

So what exactly is cuckolding?
I got this text from The Daily Beast and I feel like it describes it pretty well.

Cuckoldry is defined as a wife’s infidelity. Chaucer and Shakespeare characterized it as the ultimate shame. So perhaps it’s no surprise that today it’s developed into a fairly popular fetish. The Internet is rife with husbands enthusiastically soliciting other men—often larger, hotter, sexier men than themselves—to have sex with their wives while they watch.

“The high point of cuckolding is when your wife says she wants the other guy all the time and never wants you.”

This isn’t like swinging, and it’s not a threesome. Cuckolded men (aka “cucks”) only observe their wives’ infidelities, they don’t participate. And that’s why they find it a turn-on: They’re left out, looking on as the woman they love climaxes with a better man than them. It’s a form of psychological sadomasochism. Some people get turned on by whips, chains, and physical pain. Cucks get aroused by mental anguish.

Cuckolding is rapidly emerging as the alt-sex fetish of choice for American intellectuals. Just check out the online forums like OurHotWives.org/forum, where letter-perfect postings celebrate cuckoldry as a cerebral pursuit, transcending ordinary voyeurism and S&M as a dangerous game involving jealousy, misery, gratitude, shame, sharing, sublimation, lust, and trust.

Now, I’d mentioned that we aren’t into cuckolding in the traditional sense and that’s because I feel like this type of thing, being as psychological as it is, can come in many different forms. Our “pseudo-cuckolding” is more of a humiliation/jealousy thing in regards to the husband. Let me tell you a little about what the fetish is for us. And maybe this isn’t cuckolding at all but, whatever, did I ever say I was an expert? 🙂

So, for us, the thing that gets my hubby the most is knowing, in very great detail (reading/pics/video), about another having what he is aching to have. In this case an erection, being able to touch himself and of course an orgasm. Think about that guy friend of yours who was sleeping with every girl he could and telling you all about his encounters when you couldn’t even get a date with your own hand.

It’s one thing to talk about another man getting those things but what really drives this fetish home is having a “boy-friend” willing to brag like crazy to cagedmonkey all about getting hard, even morning wood, stroking himself and of course squirting that hot load of cum wherever he wants!

This is where we’ve made things interesting. I’ve made “friends” with a boy who is just a young horny little thing and loves to stroke himself multiple times a day. He also loves to talk and brag about that fact, so he works perfectly into my little plan of jealousy. What brings the humiliation and pseudo-cuckoldry into it is the fact that I make cagedmonkey email this particular boy-friend with erotic photos of me and he has to ask this guy to enjoy the pictures of his wife and to stroke his cock and cum from them. He then has to email and thank him for doing so. In return the boy-friend will then email him back to brag all about what it felt like to have an erection while looking at me, to stroke while imagining cumming on my big beautiful tits and then to explode cum from his cock in response. Even sending pictures of his erect penis, hand mid-stroke and end result. Videos of those things happening are also fantastic ways to frustrate my locked up man.

These online (and sometimes text message) encounters can be very frustrating and, at the same time, arousing to cagedmonkey. There is also great potential in making things much worse for him if there was ever to be a speakerphone conversation!

Could you imagine if we ever met up with this boy-friend in person and he pulled his nice hard cock out in front of us, stroked it and came? It just makes me giggle thinking about it. 🙂

There are many ways to make a fantasy or fetish work for you… even if you aren’t into it in the traditional sense. Sometimes you just need to think out of the box and keep your fantasies alive and kickin’. Then again some fantasies are better left in the mind and worked in words. Whatever makes you an your partner happy is what you should be doing!

Enjoy!