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I’m So Glad… Grateful… Happy…

Posted by Michele on June 27, 2015
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Cagedmonkey and I don’t normally talk about the specifics when we bring up how important communication is in a relationship. I just wanted to describe one thing that he and I both say often because we remember what it felt like, up until 2 years ago (this month), when we fixed this whole union.

We often say things like “I’m so glad I can say (sexual) things like that to you now” or “I’m so happy we can show each other how horny we are for each other now” or “I’m so grateful we went through all that to be where we are now.” It’s not bringing up the past, it’s not resentment, it’s quite simply appreciation for the mess that our relationship was and the work we went through for the past two years – and will continue to go through – to clean up the mess, the fear, the anger and the resentments.

It’s almost liberating and makes us feel so good to say “thank God we went through that” so we know it is a place neither of us wants to be again. Sometimes old feelings come up, past behaviors or situations and each of us has gotten anxious at one time or another. The difference now is, right away, we speak up and take care of the worry. We both love where our intimacy is, we love loving each other and we aren’t taking that for granted anymore!

Communication truly is an amazing thing! If I can offer one bit of advice to anyone it would be to be honest with your spouse about your feelings, wants and desires. Even if you don’t understand them or why you are feeling them. Just get them out there because NO one knows what you’re feeling or how to support you if you don’t tell them.

Mail Chastity: My Wife Isn’t Into BDSM

Posted by Michele on June 25, 2015
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We got an email the other day and I’ve been going over and over it in my head and chatting with cagedmonkey about how to respond… Honestly, I don’t know! So I wanted to post it here and give all of our amazing readers a chance to share their opinions and offer their advice. I know this subject often comes up on the Chastity Forums and there are many different stories told and suggestions offered. Please take a moment and comment if you have something to add. 🙂

Frank wrote and asked:

I have been reading your blog for about a year and have really enjoyed it. I’m a fifty something who wishes he’d learned about chastity 30 years ago. Survivor of prostate cancer who had a radical prostectomy and now can not get an erection. Sex life is almost non-existent. Married for 37 years but wife not into BDSM. She is very vanilla. Might get her to tie me up once a year. Any suggestions?

Thanks, Frank, for being a loyal reader! I appreciate your email and I wanted to respond here. This is a pretty common subject. Since I really do not have any magic words or advice as to how to get someone’s partner into BDSM or chastity… I will just tell you that the things that helped me the most were honesty, communication (the why is big for me), non-judgemental listening and most of all… Time!

For me I freaked out at first – which I know there is a post around here about it somewhere – but after months of my own reading and research and lots of communication, without feeling pressured, I was able to see that the chastity part of it all had nothing to do with hubby not wanting me or not wanting sex with me but everything to do with control and tons more sex and sexual energy between us!

So there is my “advice” if you want to call it that. I do hope that some of our readers will share their story about how they got started or brought up the subject with their partners.

I wish you luck and encourage you to continue to be open and honest with your wife.

Tongue in Ass

Posted by Michele on June 24, 2015
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This morning I was feeling particularly dirty and horny. Such a lovely combination for making my sexy subby hubby my service slut. I stood at the side of the bed with my wand in one hand and ordered him to get on his knees behind me. I bent over on to the mattress and positioned the wand at my clit. I flicked the dial to a medium vibration as I pushed my ready and waiting ass toward him slightly. He knew that was his signal to get to work. I love the way his warm tongue feels as it slides into my tight ass.

As the wand got me closer and closer to orgasm, I bucked against his face, pressing him deeper and harder into me. Using his face to push myself to the edge. Then at the perfect time, with his tongue in my ass, he slid his fingers into my pussy, filling up my aching horny hole. It wasn’t long after that I went the edge, stiffened my legs and every bit of me tensed up. He had to work harder to push his tongue into me as my muscles clenched down.

I felt my pussy gush as I came. It’s been so long since I’ve squirted that standing in that position made it simply gush from me. I covered his hand, tongue, face and the floor below with my delicious musky juices. I laid there on my stomach a minute, wand dangling, feeling the aftershocks of my orgasm while he knelt there behind me, used and aching in his cage.

I stood up, straightened my jammie shirt, patted my good boy on the head and told him to sleep well as I walked out of the room.

I Thanked Him Today

Posted by Michele on June 23, 2015
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I realized today that I’m pretty grateful that my hubby and I work so well together. That our sexual needs and desires perfectly compliment each other. I thanked cagedmonkey today, I thanked him for being everything that I need and for allowing me to be everything that I am with him.

I can be a very aggressive person, if you’ve been reading along, I think we’ve established that. I get rough, I grab, squeeze, scratch, bite, pinch, pull and take what I want. I enjoy letting go and naturally letting my aggression take over, I love feeling my hand around his throat, under his chin or grabbing his face as I pull him in and kiss him very deep, hard and forcibly.

I love how powerful it feels to push him up against the wall, to pinch his nipple before I slide my hand up and hold him there by the throat. I love how it feels to move him exactly where I want him to kiss him or make him suck my titties or I shove his face in my pussy. I love that feeling of making him do exactly what I want him to do and I love when there is hungry, horny, aggression behind it.

No I am not like that all the time nor do I or would I enjoy it all the time… But there are those times when I, quite literally, get off on that powerful feeling.

With an Ass As Cute as His

Posted by Michele on June 22, 2015
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The other night before Cagedmonkey went to work I couldn’t help but get in a little play time. I mean, damn, when my man has an adorable little ass like he does, how can you not want to just bend him over the couch and take him?
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We were just sitting on the couch getting a little flirty, he happened to flash me a little hip… Oh his hips are sexy! I straddled his lap and started kissing him hard. I was getting extremely turned on and I started pinching his nipples. I got more turned on by the sounds he was making as I pinched and twisted his nipples. I kissed him harder and deeper and more aggressively. I could feel how hard his cock was trying to get in his cage between my thighs.

I could feel that fire starting to burn inside me, that powerful aggressive burn, aching to just do things to him. To make him feel things and react to things. That need to have him in whatever way I wanted. I stood up to catch my breath and couldn’t help myself, I grabbed him by the hip and pushed him over on his belly, bent over the couch, face down in the cushion. I yanked down the back of his shorts and knelt behind him as if I was making him my little bitch.

I reached down and slid my middle finger in his ass and he moaned this growly moan into the couch cushion. Damn it was hot! I continued rubbing his prostate as I moved my hips back and forth as if I were pegging him, listening to him moan over and over. I had one hand on his back, pressing him into the couch, it really was like I was using him for my little ass slut.

I really enjoyed the powerful feeling I got from just taking him and doing what I wanted to him. When I was finished with him his cock was dripping like crazy and trying desperately to bust out of his cage.

Mail Chastity: One Device

Posted by Michele on June 19, 2015
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Shane wrote and asked: “If you were to chose ONLY one device for CM to wear…which one would it be and why?”

Thanks so much for writing and asking this question! This is actually a really easy question to answer. If I had to have cagedmonkey in one device for the rest of our lives it would definitely be the Mature Metal Jail Bird.
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The reasons I like the Jail Bird device are pretty simple too… First, it’s sexy as hell seeing his cock locked up behind those steel bars. I also love to be able to tease him through the bars. I love seeing his cock trying it’s hardest to burst through as he attempts getting an erection. I even love seeing the dents the bars make in his shaft. I also love the hygiene factor. The Jail Bird allows me to keep him locked as long as I please, days, weeks, months, years and I never have to worry if he’s staying clean. There is also no smell like there is with other devices we have used. The open design of the JB let’s air and water flow through. I do also love the security screw, however I wish there was a better way to keep that part even more secure. Though it’s not like I have much to worry about in that regard. Cagedmonkey isn’t about to cheat his device… He’d really be sad if we had to stop enjoying chastity because he cheated.

There really isn’t much else to say… The Jail Bird is definitely my favorite device.

MonkeyinaCage.com

Posted by Michele on June 18, 2015
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We are so happy to let everyone know that we finally are monkeyinacage.com! It’s been quite a long wait but it feels so good to finally have our domain where it belongs. So much easier to type the name you know! 🙂

Thanks for following along with us on our journey and we hope you continue!

Lady and Cagedmonkey

Baseball with a Side of Tease

Posted by Michele on June 17, 2015
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Sunday was such a great day. We drove down to watch the Mets play the Braves… Boy what an awesome come back by the Mets after that stupid dickwad of a pitcher… Oh wait… I’m getting off track! Anyway, it actually was a good weekend all together. Our daughter turned 10 on Saturday and had her dance recital. She was awesome by the way! Always makes mom tear up. And the weekend ended with an awesome time as a family at the game.
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I do want to mention that I was in no mood to deal with metal detectors at the gate to the stadium so I did have cagedmonkey go sans Jail Bird to the game. However, I don’t think there would have been an issue whatsoever if he did wear it.

After the game we had the long drive back home through NYC traffic and the kids ended up falling asleep in the back seat. Which left me the perfect opportunity to give hubby a good teasing while he was driving 70mph on the thruway. One of my favorite ways to tease him is to stroke, squeeze and fondle his cock in rhythm to whatever song is playing. It was quite a few songs that I made him endure my teasing through. It was awfully fun listening to him try to muffle his moans or cough to cover them up. I loved the times I would hit that sweet spot and the sounds couldn’t help but escape his mouth. It turns me on so much to tease him and make him want me!

It really was a wonderful weekend and I enjoyed very much spending time having fun as a family! Such a needed break from all the stress we’ve been going through.

Edging, Teasing, Begging

Posted by Michele on June 8, 2015
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It felt so good to edge him and tease him last night. Feeling him get harder in my hand as I stroked him. I started out with slow long strokes and as I got faster, my strokes got shorter. I loved looking into his eyes, smirking at him with a sexy little smile, as he got closer and closer to the edge. I watched his chest rise and fall as his breathing quickened. He started to moan this sexy little moan, almost a whimper – I do love to hear him whimper.

“Please”
“Please, baby”
“Oh God, please”

In a whispered moan, he begs me to let him cum. I could tell as he got closer and closer to the edge. I could see it in his face, stroking him at the perfect pace, building, needing, aching…

And I stop.

I don’t just stop stroking, I STOP, I quickly let go and watch his cock bob to and fro and listen to him moan.

I love to tease him, to bring him so close to the edge that he’s practically dangling. Taking him to that point and leaving him there.

Another Year Older and Birthday Boobies!

Posted by Michele on June 4, 2015
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Happy Birthday to my amazing boy! Since last night I’ve been thinking a lot about how I’ve watched cagedmonkey grow as a person. We’ve been together almost half of his life. We met when he was 19 and still very much a boy. I have watched him grow up into this amazing man who I love more and more every day. He’s come so far and hurled lots of challenges and I couldn’t be more proud of him.

So happy birthday to my sexy monkey boy! I’m so happy and blessed to be your wife!

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Of course hubby’s birthday brings with it so many thoughts in my head. I mentioned a few things to him this morning while tucking him in. I would love to cuff his wrists to his ankles, put on my strap on and look into his eyes while I take him slowly and lovingly. I know the best birthday gift for him would be for me to use him and take him entirely how I want to. I thought about how intense it would be for him to feel me staring deep into his soul, slowly penetrating him, while I stroke his cock and make him shoot a load of hot cum all over his stomach.

It’s too bad we don’t have the time to do that tonight, because he works, but I did tell him I’m looking forward to making that a reality on the weekend! I want him so bad!

In the mean time, happy birthday boobies!

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