When Your Kinks Don’t Match: The Smart Way to Compromise in Kinky Relationships
Most people think great kink happens with perfect matching fetishes. Spoiler: that’s fantasy. Real kink is about getting creative when your…
I Turned My Boyfriend Into My Personal Anal Slut: Face-Down, Ass-Up Live on Cam
I told him to get the heavy stainless steel one that we affectionately call "Big Boy" and pretty much makes him whimper every single time. I…
Guacamole, Glockenspiel, Gremlin – Shit, what was my safeword again?
Having a safeword, and the trust that goes with it is what allows us both to push our limits a little. I know that if something is going too…
Why “Never” Becomes “Maybe” in BDSM: Understanding Hard Limits
Recently, I’ve been thinking a lot about hard limits in BDSM and how they can change over time and whether I like that or not. When we started…
Barriers
We don’t always get what we feel we need – a statement that rings true not only with chastity & denial, but also life in…
Dominate Me, Control Me, Force Me, Fulfill MY Fantasy
Most of the time Male Chastity, Female domination, BDSM and things like that are often fantasized about by a man. It’s those fantasies…
Does the Thought of Causing Someone Pain Excite You?
poppet asked an amazing question in a comment and I really wanted to address it in a post because it’s not as simple as “Hi, I’m…
The Power of withholding: What He Gets & What He Doesn’t
I’ve been thinking a lot, recently, about what it means to truly control pleasure, not necessarily by force, but by intention. By choosing…