Tease & Denial

A New Year

Posted by cagedmonkey on January 13, 2021
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So let me start off by saying – hello again, everyone! It’s been a crazy last few months for us; we’ve tried to do our best to post to the blog when possible, but it’s been admittedly spotty due to everything being so freaking crazy (both at work and at home).

We are going to try to update you guys on more detail over the next little while, but here’s a quick rundown of how things are going with us:

  • We had to move our blog to a new server (so if you find any old posts with dead or broken links, please let us know)
  • ML got me a new cage to wear for Christmas!
  • We’ve been able to stay safe and healthy so far
  • No, I STILL have not had an orgasm since last year

I’ll talk about that last one in a bit, but first a little more catch up on what we are hoping to do with the blog over the next year or so. Moving to the new server, while necessary, was also something we wanted to do in order to give ourselves more freedom with our content. We are hoping to do more podcasts – in fact, we have one that needs to be posted, we just need to find an option for hosting/uploading that works better than our current situation. We are also hoping to interact with you guys more – we really love our readers and our audience, and it’s so much fun to know you guys are enjoying what we do. Hopefully we will have more details on that soon.

Speaking of more details: it’s getting VERY close to the 1 year anniversary of my last orgasm; I’ve gone well past my previous record of 299 days of denial. I probably should be getting excited due to the anticipation… but honestly, I’m not feeling that way. Not because I don’t want to cum – trust me, I do, VERY badly – but mainly because I have a strong feeling that My Lady is not going to allow me to cum at the 1 year mark. She’s been having too much fun teasing and denying me to stop right now, and I can tell that she wouldn’t mind pushing me further.

I would love nothing more to be able to have an orgasm this coming Monday (our anniversary, and also the 1 year mark), but I have a feeling that ML is just going to smile and tell me that it’s not time yet. I would honestly be more surprised if she lets me cum!

Mail Chastity: What’s in it for Her?

Posted by Lady M on September 24, 2020
Posted in: D/s, Mail Chastity, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . 3 comments

A couple weeks ago we posted a blog post about how it’s been 226 days for Cagedmonkey since his last orgasm and a friend, at She rules the Rooster, had some really good questions I figured we should answer in a post as opposed to them getting lost in the comments section. I’m sure other people have had the thought about what I’m getting out of such a long denial period for hubby. I mean, if we were poly or into cuckolding, that answer would be easy but we aren’t so it becomes a bit more complicated in the “what does Lady M get out of it” area.

When it comes down to what I’m doing daily… My sheer extreme sexiness is what teases him, don’t you know?!?! Lmao Seriously though the daily stuff is all about the little things. I’ve pointed out in posts before and even in a podcast if I remember right about the little things. Keeping things talked about, even if it’s in text message or little flirty butt grabs when the kids aren’t around. Making him kneel in front of me while I sit on the couch… It might look innocent enough like daddy is snuggling with mom giving her a hug but to CM and I there is much more behind it.

Making sure that we both know the why’s behind the denial and the lock up are so important. Otherwise, it just becomes an afterthought and can actually become work. So talking about and knowing that I love to see and feel the frustration he is going through makes my pussy wet causes an amazing circle of turning him on which again just turns me on.

At the moment, pleasing me in some fashion is at least three times a week but we say there is so much more to intimacy than actual sex so much more becomes pleasing. CM is pleasing me daily but that wouldn’t look like him eating my pussy or making me come or any of that… It’s more like a back rub or spooning snuggle time or maybe just some boobie play time. Yes most days of the week I am having him give my pussy some mouth attention and maybe some fingering. The day to day stuff though isn’t some long intense teasing session. During the week we are usually tired and in bed early for a 4:30 or 5am wake up. So they are quick “my pussy needs good night kisses” while I run my nails across his back and butt type nights.

There are nights I make him sit or kneel at the side of the bed with his arms clasped behind him. I will take my boobs and smoosh them in his face, make him smell and lick under them so he can’t really get an idea of my day. Then I may run my nipples across his lips, not allowing him to open his mouth. It’s so fun to watch and feel his breathing as he gets so frustrated, desperately wanting to feel it in his mouth and on his tongue. He will even whimper and beg sometimes, “please.” hahaha I love it so much!

I’ll be honest with you… I have in no way been counting how many orgasms I’ve had. I just have them when I have them and when I want them. Most nights our pleasing and teasing is a short thing so I don’t even really want to cum. It’s more work on a woman than you think lol. It takes a lot of thinking and then there’s this whole body muscle tightening thing that goes on. With my chronic pain, orgasms tend to last a few days within my muscles and make things sore so it’s just as good to enjoy the pleasing than to have some intense orgasms all the time. If I were to really think about it is probably been about 1 a week average… So you figure that out… About 300 days divided by 7 lol!

Anyway, thanks for the comment and I do apologize for the delay in getting it posted… It’s sat in my drafts and been worked on as much as I can when I get a moment! I appreciate you reading and being subscribed! If you haven’t checked out She Rules the Rooster, yet, what are you waiting for? It’s always fun to see how other people live their lifestyle… Get on it!

226 Days Without Orgasm

Posted by Lady M on September 1, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, FemDom, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 10 comments

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to go a year without an orgasm? I’d imagine quit a few of our readers have thought that, tried it or done it!

The longest I made it – yes me… I couldn’t handle it last time – was 299 days. Cagedmonkey probably could have held out longer but I struggled with the connection of cumming together. There is something about feeling that feeling at the same time. I missed being filled up. The last time we tried doing a one year… or longer denial we also tried to do a lot more locked up time. So I made it quite clear that this time I’d be using him as much as I wanted. It has definitely helped this time around because we are already 226 along and I’m no where near feeling a disconnect. We are intimate at least a few times a week, one way or another. So that makes it that much easier to keep him denied.

Plus, I do absolutely love how crazy horny he is. He’s so sweet and loving too! I really do love that just touching me or even sitting and talking and being cute and fun and lovey dovey gets him all hard. He, most times, is struggling in his cage but sometimes I have him unlocked so he’s usable.

Recently, we got a Double Locking Cockring from Mature Metal which is super fantastic for having him available but still locked in something. That way he’s constantly feeling my control over that big cock of his. It doesn’t hurt that the Cockring kinda forces him be hard for a long time, and not just any hard, but super hard hard lol!

So much enjoyment out of this denial, like I said, it’s been much easier this time keeping him aching to cum. I have no doubt he will not orgasm again until sometime in 2021!

Podcast Episode 13 – Chatting with Mature Metal

Posted by Lady M on August 7, 2020
Posted in: Conversations, In Real Life, Male Chastity, Marriage, Podcast, Spanking, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 9 comments

Cagedmonkey and I had the wonderful pleasure of spending time with the Beauty and the brains behind Mature Metal male chastity devices. Featured here in this special edition, extended length, podcast are not only us but Mistress MM, herself and william!

Thank you again for having us and also agreeing to chat with us a bit about your company and yourselves! We love you guys and can’t wait to see you again for more fun times in Texas! Hehe

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Fashion Show, Part 2

Posted by cagedmonkey on July 22, 2020
Posted in: Orgasm Denial, Pictures, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 1 comment

I recently posted about ML wearing some sexy undies for me, and DAMN did she look good. I also mentioned that we had bought a couple of sexy outfits for her, but they didn’t fit her humongous boobs.

Well, great news! We went shopping again, and we got ML an outfit that fit beautifully… and ML looked absolutely amazing.

Unfortunately I wasn’t able to get any pictures…..

Just kidding! I’m not that mean.

I’m so glad that ML allowed me to post some full body shots of her in this. She looks SOOOOOOO sexy!

The way this outfit hugs her curves makes me crazy!

Fuck…. her ass is just…. I really have no way to describe what it does to me.

Just like last time, ML really enjoyed watching my reaction to taking these pictures. I couldn’t take my eyes off of her beautiful body, she looked incredible! I also couldn’t help the reaction of my cock getting hard, which ML also liked seeing. She wanted me to fuck her while wearing the lingerie… how could I say no? 🙂

The sex only lasted for a few minutes – ML looked so fucking good in that outfit, I was ready to cum almost within seconds! But I tried hard to last just a little bit longer, and somehow (I have no idea how!) I succeeded… temporarily. I ended up trying to pull out and ended up ruining my orgasm all over the mattress!

If ML had planned to ruin my orgasm, it would have made for a super hot sexy pic to see the cum from ruined orgasm on her tummy while wearing that outfit. But, to be honest, the ruined orgasm was a complete mistake!

I’ve really been enjoying these fashion shows, and I LOVE seeing My Lady wearing these sexy outfits. We are looking at some more things to buy, so hopefully we can pick some new outfits and do some more photo shoots after our upcoming special “mini-vacation.”

Oh, we didn’t tell you about that? Oh yeah, we should really tell you about that…. stay tuned. 🙂

Still Around

Posted by Lady M on March 25, 2020
Posted in: Male Chastity, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . 6 comments

Although life has been exceptionally busy, we are still around. It seems like 2020 has started out one of the craziest years of our lives. With injuries, kid issues, hubby’s surgery, “vacation” and then this whole thing going on in the world. It’s a bit unbelievable actually. It’s even comical at times.

We’ve had zero to little time to think about anything kinky in the past few months. You’d think that with hubby and I having essential jobs we’d be even more stressed out… Funny thing is, since I’m working from home right now I’ve had way more time to think about hubby and chat with him and tease him through text. I can even sneak away (since schools are closed and the kids are gone too!) sometimes and get pictures and have been turned on and excited to drive him crazy!
Hubby has still been denied since our anniversary in January and it’s still my plan to keep him orgasm denied for the year. I’ve enjoyed having him out of his cage enough to edge for me sometimes, and to have sex with him when I feel like it. He’s been doing something recently again and that’s getting on his knees for me. When we started this whole thing he would get on his knees every day and tell me who’s he was, that he was mine and no one else. Lately, he’s been doing that and I love it!

He’s also been taking time to kiss and love and worship different parts of my body. He’s remembering that it’s not all about intercourse and that sex can be in many forms. It’s feels extremely good to have him loving all the parts of me! It’s been a lot of fun finding time to get in those little things that remind each other that we are still enjoying our life together. That we still enjoy the kinky, even if we can’t get as kinky as we want due to the kids being older.

I know we both miss it and wish we had time for it… The kids won’t be kids forever, they won’t need us forever. I’m trying to remember this is temporary. They are only ours to enjoy and do things with for a few more years and if we keep pushing them away we will miss these last few years. I DO want time for hubby and I but I know the time we do get together will grow as the kids get even older.

As bad as this whole thing is in the world, it’s been a blessing for us as a couple and a time for us to reconnect to our tease and denial and fun times. It’s also helped to open some communication and while we know we don’t have an the crew time in the world we at least have been able to talk about what we are missing and what we’d like to be doing.

What do you want out of Chastity and Denial?

Posted by Lady M on December 27, 2019
Posted in: FemDom, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , .

After Cagedmonkey wrote his post the other day about Looking Ahead he asked me a question. He wrote “if we are going to try to do a year denial, what do you want from it? What would you like to see happen, what would you like to do/see/try?”

My answer isn’t so simple, it’s almost like there isn’t words to describe what I want. I did end up telling him, physically, I want to see him so horny he struggling against the bars of the cage, I want to see him aching and his cock leaking precum like it has during past denial periods. I understand there will need to be some amounts of trading line there was in the past but I do think the denial in general helps to move that along. I want to physically see him desperate and wanting. I want him so horny that he will find any way to turn me on, sexual and non-sexual. Not things that turn me on the way he wants me turned on but more thinking about my needs and desires and turning me on in ways that I want to be turned on.

When I started thinking about his question more, I realized it wasn’t so much about that stuff that I wanted. It wasn’t necessarily what I wanted to see or do and that it was more about what I wanted to feel during this denial. I want to feel irresistible and not just sexually. I want to feel his frustration. I want to feel loved and woed and made a fuss over. I want to feel thought of and made to feel important. I want to feel the gratitude of him being locked in a cage and denied and teased. I want to feel his need, his aches, his desires.

Don’t get me wrong, I want to tease him and drive him nuts and make him want things and flaunt in front of him what he is being denied. I want to make him do daily things as a reminder of who he belongs to and who he serves sexually. I want my mornings to begin with kisses to my pussy, so the very first thing he smells & tastes in the morning is me. He has much better days when they start off that way. I want to try to get in some impact play, I love the feel and sound of spanking him so even if it’s once in a month, I want it. I’d like to try to get in more bondage, more forced things… If he’s bound he can’t really not be used for my sexual pleasure.

Anyway… So there’s a lot that goes into the answer of what do I want from chastity and denial… And most of it is feelings.

What are you doing to me?

Posted by Lady M on May 13, 2019
Posted in: FemDom, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Pictures, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 1 comment

Cagedmonkey and I had a little chat, before bed the other night, about my plans for his denial and chastity. As he mentioned, in the last post, life things have been exceptionally busy and play time has been extremely rare. I definitely miss it and want to try to get, at least, something in to spice things up a bit. I miss him being so super hair trigger horny from constant teasing. I love it when he desperately wants me and needs to feel me and aches to feel my pussy.

My plan is to keep him denied of orgasm for the next couple months. We will be going on vacation at the beginning of July. During that time we will see one of our kinky couple friends and being in that environment will certainly help to intensify the horny and his denial. It’s always nice when you’re with sexy people and can have a nice, normal, flowing kinky conversation. I haven’t decided if I’m going to let him cum that weekend or save it for another special day… We will see when he will actually get some release.

As for chastity, that’ll just stay the same for now. He’s locked every day, unless it’s a day that I want to use the cock I control. It really is a large amazing cock and it’s very hard for me to keep locked away… there are times I need it and I am not one to deny myself what I desire. Denial isn’t something I’m necessarily into for myself. 😀

In the mean time, I plan to send him more pics of my big beautiful boobs and my big round ass while he’s at work. Things like these…

I plan to give him some tasks, when possible, to help keep him teased for me. I love having him unlock on the way home, if I know I plan to use him that evening, and make him stroke and edge and keep himself hard on the way home. Sometimes, I’ll have him run an errand on the way home and he’ll have to do it while hiding a hard cock hehe! I do miss all the fun little things we used to do to keep things interesting and build his crazy horny… So I want that back. I just need to work out fitting it in to the craziness that life has become!

Last night was so amazing, I stood at the side of the bed, above him, while he sat on the edge. I put my hands to his cheeks (I love his sexy beard I made him grow!) and held his face and kissed him deep. He ran his hands all over my body and God it felt good! I stood there as he sucked my nipples and squeezed and fondled my big boobs in his hands. I loved feeling his want for me, his hands all over every part of me he could touch. Such an awesome feeling!

I look forward to increasing his desire and frustration 🙂

I Need to Please You

Posted by Lady M on March 13, 2019
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Tease & Denial, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 2 comments

It’s been weeks since my hubby has been locked in the Steelworxx Revenge. He hasn’t seen his penis and the only thing it’s felt is that steel around it. I find that pretty fantastic lately. This is literally the longest he’s ever been locked in the device without it being removed. Usually I’d be worried that it was getting stinky or might develop sores from the constant touching of the cage… But this time I just told him I don’t know when I’m unlocking him so he’d better keep care of it! 🙂

I’m really enjoying what being locked in the Revenge is doing to CM. He’s so overly horny and sexual and touchy. Usually that takes a good while of being in the Jail Bird but, it’s happened way faster this time around in the Revenge. I love how it feels like he wants me so bad he can hardly stand it. Like he’s aching for me and NEEDS to have me.

It’s not so much that need he even needs intercourse with me. He has said, “I just need to please you!” Which is very interesting. He just needs some kind of sexual connection and he’s not so much begging to get out and have sex but more just wanting to touch my body, kiss me and my body, feel my sexual bits. He wants to see and feel that I’m turned on. He very much loves being able to eat my pussy, to make me cum and to give me that level of pleasure.

Now, I’m not locked up and denied orgasm or even access to my intimate parts so I’m not feeling that overly crazy horny-all-the-time feeling. That’s not a bad thing at all it just means that “pleasing me,” like he so desperately wants to do, isn’t always about sex or getting me horny or anything. Sometimes it’s more of a turn on to feel him just rub his hands on my body, almost avoiding the intimate parts. Just touching and gently running his fingers over me as if to activate my nerves all over and give me lots of the good feels. This morning was a great example of that. Just as we were about to get up, I sat on the side of the bed and he slid behind me and just ran his hands all over my upper torso and kissed my neck… It felt wonderful. It wasn’t him trying to get me all horny so we could have sex… It was sensual. That sensual stuff has much more of an effect on me than anything. Don’t get me wrong, I love him coming up and grabbing my ass or cupping my huge boobs but, the sensual stuff is by far more effective.

Something I don’t want any of you to forget is that “pleasing” your partner isn’t about what you want or what you think they want. It is one hundred percent about what makes your partner feel good, about what turns THEM on. That may not necessarily even mean touching them. Maybe they love the sexual and sensual stuff but maybe they are “turned on” and made to feel good when you make dinner or bring them flowers or just do anything for them that fills that part of them and gives them those feelings of love and being thought of. I’ve found that the sexiest thing, and thing that pleases me the most, is when I know that my likes, wants and desires have been considered. I am pleased when I’m thought of and something is done because CM knows it’s what I would want and not what he wants me to want. 🙂

I Want To Be Unlocked… Right?

Posted by cagedmonkey on March 9, 2019
Posted in: Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

Coming up on almost two weeks straight locked in the Revenge, and I’m really getting agitated. I need to be unlocked soon, my cock is in bad need of ANY kind of attention.

But, on the other hand…

It’s weird. Part of me is SOOOO turned on by how ML has kept me locked for so long this time. Part of me actually is starting to like how it feels when my cock struggles against the steel of the Revenge. Part of me (dare I say it) wants ML to keep me locked even longer…..

What am I saying?!?

It feels like Stockholm Syndrome, in a way, where I’ve come to love the cage while still wanting out of it. It’s kind of stressing me out, because I really don’t know how to feel about what may happen:

– If ML keeps me in the Revenge, will I feel ignored and isolated?

– If ML lets me out, will I wish she would have pushed me further?

It’s at times like this that I need to remind myself that I’m the sub – I need to focus on what ML Lady wants and be satisfied by that. If she unlocks me, it’s good because she wants my penis out; if she keeps me in, it’s good because she wants to keep controlling my cock.

One thing I do realize is that if ML continues to keep me locked (which, I’ve come to realize writing this post, wouldn’t be that terrible of a thing), I am hoping that she realizes that I may come to need more sexual attention by other means. There aren’t many options for that with my cock locked away, but I will most likely need something to keep me from feeling ignored. Both of us have been very busy lately, which makes it difficult to make time for sex; but even if it’s just a few moments of me serving her sexual needs (or her teasing my non-locked body parts), it goes a long way towards knowing she still wants me in a sexual way even though my cock is not available.