Controlling the Man

Posted by Lady M on November 11, 2015
Posted in: D/s, Female Led Relationship, Male Chastity, Marriage, Wife Led Marriage. 6 comments

One of the things I am asked often is Do I or why don’t I have cagedmonkey shave completely or dress in panties or [insert sissy/feminization reference here]? The simple answer is: I don’t want him to.

The more complex answer is something interesting I’ve been realizing slowly about myself. Over the last couple years, traveling along this kinky road, I’ve often analyzed my reasons for liking certain sexual things. Sometimes I’ve given up on analyzing some stuff because there is no rhyme or reason why that thing turns me on. Most things, however, I can link to a good event or even a trauma (mostly traumas!) in my past and that act is simply helping me work through the emotional baggage from the past.

I’m not going to get into my childhood traumas but simply put, I was sexually abused by a man early in life and, as you can imagine it left that little girl very vulnerable and helpless. So, for me and my complex answer as to why I don’t want some sissy, feminine guy for a submissive husband, it’s simply that I get off on controlling a man. Knowing that this man who could on the outside obviously take care of anything he needed to but is submissive to me, kneels before me and is locked in a chastity cage for me and is controlled sexually by me.

For me, it’s more of a turn on to control the big strong man and to have myself a submissive man for a husband.

Good Vibrations in a Bondage Sack

Posted by Lady M on November 8, 2015
Posted in: Bondage, FemDom, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 1 comment

Last night I decided to see how long Cagedmonkey could stand being in the bondage sack while being tortured in his cage. I got him in it and strapped down and I took the vibrating cock ring, stretched it around his cage and turned it on high speed.

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He was almost instantly bulging out of his cage, I had to be careful putting the cock ring on so I didn’t pinch skin against the bars. I loved hearing him start moaning and I could see him trying to struggle in the sack but he really could not move while strapped in there.

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I left him like that for a good hour, periodically unzipping the zippers on his chest to pinch and pull his nipples. Grabbing the post on his cage to pull and push it in all directions, moving rooty around. I’d even gotten to the point of snuggling in to go to sleep. I was totally prepared to go to sleep and leave the vibrator to wear itself out – I’d just fully charged it before that with my phone charger! 🙂

I made sure, before I got comfortable, that I could trust hubby to use his safeword if he had to. I wasn’t sure with his sensory and elbow issues if he could truly stay in the sack all night. Once he assured me, I was able to relax. A little while later, I’m not positive when because I know I had fallen asleep, I heard him calling me. I know he didn’t want to but he had to use his safeword. We found that restraining him with the bed straps is doable for him to sleep but keeping him long term confined in the bondage sack isn’t going to work for a couple of reasons.

I’m glad we tried this and I’m glad I got in at least a good hour of cock torture. It was fun and made my pussy so wet. It was amazing to see that look in his eye while I was leaned over him tightening the straps down. That “I’m completely helpless” look that turns me on so much!

Crushed

Posted by cagedmonkey on November 7, 2015
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 6 comments

I haven’t had a full night’s sleep for the past three nights. I’ve woken up at 4 am each night with an extremely painful cage-strangled erection, and the only way to calm myself down is to get out of bed and do something to take my mind off it. I try to lay in bed and relax – think about boring things, do math in my head, etc. – but nothing works. The pressure of my erection starts to ache, which is kind of a turn on for me, which keeps my erection from calming down… there’s no escaping the problem at that point.

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Maximum rootage.

The worst part is that I’m suffering through all these aches and pains, and I’m nowhere near getting the pressure relief of being unlocked that I so desperately need. It’s only been a little over a week since My Lady locked me up tight in the Jailbird, and the intensity of the ache feels like it’s been a month. And I have more than a month to go before I’m released!

I can tell ML is enjoying making me feel this way. She relishes the idea that it is her that makes my cock ache the way it does, and that thoughts of her are what keep it going strong. She’s been ultra horny over the past week (time-of-the-month or not, she’s feeling it bad!), teasing me just a little bit extra and getting off on it a lot bit extra. She’s even having sex dreams pretty much on a nightly basis now… I thought that was my thing!

I feel the energy building between us quickly and strongly. We’ve been talking a little bit about our desires, and when our horny feelings get really intense, we both start to want the same things. I’m not entirely sure, but I feel us moving towards a possible intense kink scene if this buildup continues. Come to think of it, we don’t have any plans this weekend. Who knows what ML has been dreaming up for me this past week…

Pinned Down and Face Fucked

Posted by Lady M on November 6, 2015
Posted in: Anal, Ass Play, FemDom, Male Chastity, Oral Sex, Pegging, Tease & Denial. 4 comments

Cagedmonkey has had a few very rough days. I mean he is still denied even after all the goings on the weekend our friends were here. Added to that, he’s been told he’s going to be locked and denied even an erection, until Christmas! Add on top of that things like the other night when I tried out a new toy on his sexy little tight asshole.

Just about every night, now, I have him eat my pussy. Just like he used to go to sleep in the mornings tasting me and having my juices all over his face. It’s become a nightly thing before we go to sleep. Even if I don’t cum, I love feeling his face between my legs and his tongue gently flicking my clit. Even more recently, I’ve loved the 69 position so that I can add some to his tease and torture. I will usually play with his bulging cock through the cage, squeeze and rub his balls and run my fingernails from his ass down to the underside of his balls. Sometimes he even gets a little tickle of his tight hole when I put my finger against it and just rub a little, not penetrating, just rubbing it, teasing him more. Making him completely ache.

A couple weeks ago I ordered a new toy and we haven’t had a chance to play with it yet. I decided I wanted to try it out the other night since I had his sexy little ass in the air and he was eating my pussy, anyway. It’s a smaller probe with “bumps” along it that remind me very much of anal beads. I’m not really a fan of the whole anal bead thing but I get the whole idea of it. I figured it would be a fun one to play with without much prep needed. Just a little lube and this one easily slides in for some fun ass play.

So the other night while I had him in the 69 position, him on top, I started playing with him a bit, which was causing him to moan and grunt and groan into my pussy. That gets me so completely and utterly turned on that at some point I couldn’t take it anymore and I made him lay on his back and I straddled his face. Running my pussy down onto him hard and fast. I grabbed him by the thighs, toy still stuffed in his ass, and pulled his legs up under my arms. I had him pinned there, face in my pussy and me using the toy to stimulate his asshole and prostate. At one point he tried to buck against me as I licked the length of his shaft, bulging from the steel cage on his cock. I slid my pussy hard all over his face, sliding the toy in and out and making him moan harder as I chose when he’d take a breath. Making him breathe me in, fucking his face so hard and cumming all over him while he could do nothing but take it as I had him there pinned down under me.

Fuck it was such a fantastic time, I couldn’t… No, I can’t stop thinking about it! It turns me on every time I think about the control I had over him and how turned on I was by his moaning.

Makes me want a repeat tonight… But we will have to wait for mother nature to run her course.

Unforseen Circumstances

Posted by Lady M on November 5, 2015
Posted in: Family. Tagged: , , . 6 comments

This is just a quick post to let you all know that due to some unforeseen circumstances we have had to remove some recent content. The posts promised to describe the rest of our weekend fun will have to be aborted. Although most of the good stuff was already written. The only other thing we were probably going to mention was how I got an entire tray of drinks dumped on me at Applebee’s by a waiter… in a much more funny post, I’m sure. If you have any questions or want to hear more please feel free to chat with us privately through our Contact page.

Due to these unforeseen circumstances a couple of our blogger friends had to leave the blogosphere. They are doing well and if you need to be in touch I would be happy to pass along a message.

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Long Locked

Posted by cagedmonkey on November 2, 2015
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, Male Chastity, Marriage, Orgasm Denial, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , . Leave a Comment

(Taking a small break from the group sex weekend posts…. Don’t worry, the rest of the weekend will be posted)

I have to admit, I haven’t been the best sub I can be lately. I’ve been serving My Lady, being a good boy and satisfying her whenever and however she wishes, but I haven’t been submitting fully and completely to her. I’ve been wanting too much, and I’ve been making my wants known just a little too often.

There’s a difference between sharing my fantasies with My Lady, and telling her what I’d like her to do to me. I’m usually pretty good at avoiding the whole “top from the bottom” thing, but I’m far from perfect. My attitude has been contributing to some of ML’s down mood over the past week or so because she is afraid she is disappointing me. I shouldn’t be disappointed about anything because I shouldn’t be expecting anything.

Why am I having such trouble submitting? I’m almost sure it’s because of ML’s chastity plans for me – she wants to keep me locked 24/7 until Christmas. Forget having to go 2 months without an orgasm; I’m going to go 2 months without have a single full erection. And, honestly, that scares me.

When facing such a long lockup, I naturally want to have one last whatever-it-is that I want. In the past (both childhood and in our marriage), if something didn’t happen on a regular basis, there was a chance that it would be forgotten/phased out/etc. My mind thinks that if I have to wait that long (or, for some activities that we haven’t done for a while, even longer than a few months), will ML be interested? Has she already lost interest in some things that have faded from view? Are there things that we’ve done once and I’ve enjoyed, but will never happen again just because “it’s not something we do anymore”?

I hate these questions, because I hate not having the answers. But the beauty of submitting is that I don’t need the answers to these questions. All I need to know is that I belong to My Lady, and she wants what she wants. The answers to those questions are irrelevant if my focus is on her pleasure and fulfilling her desires.

No Time For a Title

Posted by Lady M on October 17, 2015
Posted in: D/s, Family, Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , . 2 comments

Recently I’ve noticed I have been feeling off and unsettled about our tease and torture and our D/s side of things because there isn’t much. I feel so busy lately and unorganized because, even after a month here, the OCD side of me is uneasy. Things aren’t just where I want them, days don’t go exactly as planned… I admit I’m a control freak and I feel like all the little things added up mean I have no control. It’s weird, I know, but there is so much I want to accomplish and so much I’d like to do – in regular vanilla life as well as our sexual, kinky, intimate one but I never seem to have enough time to do it.

Flipping our schedule around after soooooo many years is a lot harder to adjust to and still, things are changing! We recently found out that homeschool kids here in our new state are allowed to take a couple classes in the public school and that the school offers homeschool kids all the curriculum and textbooks, etc that the kids are using in public school. So we have begun looking into getting our daughter into a couple classes a day at school so I could have an hour or so to myself on weekdays. I’ve actually considered the fact that she may do well and like it and want to actually try going full days at some point… Which has me thinking stupid and emotional for all kinds of dumb reasons. I’m excited that that might happen but scared and anxious over it too.

All of these things with kids activities (it’s our son’s team won their 2nd round of playoffs for football today! They are off to the Superbowl!), school, errands and all that has left me with little time to get the rest of the boxes unpacked or taken over to our storage unit. Which I just got the other day because there is no storage here at the house and we can’t even get in our closets because we’ve tried to pack everything in there. Let alone having room to set up and use our sex toys! Haha

That’s been another struggle. I have no room to set things up which, with the little time we have, needs to be done before we can play. We don’t have time to set things up at night when we want to use them and then play and put it away after, etc. Anyway, excuses excuses! I really want to get our room set up in a better way, get the boxes and bins of decorations and stuff put away so we have room to actually play. I want to get a rug for the floor so we are able to set up the stockade. Really, can you see my dilemma? There is so much I want to do and so little time to get things done. Which is why I actually think having my daughter gone for an hour or so a day might be good so that I can do some of the things I want to do.

With all of this stuff I want to get done and feeling like I never have time for any of it, I find myself doubting my ability. Doubting if I’m a good mom, a good wife, a good teacher, etc. I start getting anxious and worrying if I’m keeping my hubby satisfied. Does he know how much I love and adore him and that I find him incredibly sexy? I start to worry if I’m teasing him enough, if I am good enough for him, pretty enough for him, sexy enough for him. My mind races and races in 90 directions of stupid. When I’m not in control, I worry and I am not liking the ups and downs and changes and the lack of flow!

Another note for you all is that we found we really like it here and we have talked about and started looking into sticking in some roots. That means we put the wheels in motion to either buy or build a house! That in itself is scary and exciting!

Ok I think I’ve caught you guys up on my anxiety and my crazy and what’s going on in our lives!

How are you all doing these days?

Cocktease at Work

Posted by Lady M on October 17, 2015
Posted in: Ass Play, Bondage, D/s, FemDom, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . Leave a Comment

Yesterday, Cagedmonkey and I were chatting while he was at work and, of course, I was teasing him and getting him all kinds of excited and turned on. One of the things I love most is teasing him with pics and video while he is not with me – usually that means he’s at work – and getting him all tight in his cage. It’s such an incredible turn on for me to know that even being 40 miles apart I can still make his dick (attempt to be) hard and get him horny for me.

Yesterday was lots of fun as I sent him some hot pics and video of me all soapy in the shower. He really loved it. Just to share a little of what I sent him, I was sending him pictures like this, today:
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And this…
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Not only was I sending him pictures but we started talking about the things we were wanting. A little bit of fantasizing together, which is something I absolutely love about our communication. We both know it’s not our responsibility to force things to make fantasies happen but the fact that we talk about sex with each other gives us the opportunity to make those fantasies real if we want!

If you’ve followed along on our journey you we have the doggy style Stockade and recently got a new hood. Well, CM and I started talking about how much we miss the extreme side of bondage and having the time (and space!) to do it. I mentioned to him that I was wearing his pants yesterday without panties. I told him I was sure that they were going to smell like my pussy and how I was going to make him wear them when he got home, which I did. 🙂 That kinda kicked things into gear and we started talking about how wet my panties get and how hot it would be if I was to gag him with my potent panties and lock him in the new hood. To make things worse I could have him locked in the stockade, with the vibrating buttplug in, leaving it until his prostate milked all over the floor. We talked about how incredibly frustrating it would be if I were to remove the hood (while he thinks I’m giving him a break) and I cover his face with more of my juices by cumming on him and then putting the hood right back on and leaving him like that longer. Not knowing when it would truly end because I’d just tell him I didn’t think he’d been milked enough. Maybe he wasn’t empty so we had to keep going until I felt like he was done. We talked about adding white noise headphones to completely take away his senses… Except the ones being forced to smell and taste my pussy.

Shortly after, he told me about how he was getting tight in his cage and sent me a picture to prove it. Of course all the squeezing from the cage and the horny talk gave him some nice wet with precum underwear! Yuuummmmmmy!
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I really do love seeing that bulge and knowing that I’m the one that caused it. I really do get off on being a cocktease! 🙂

Ooh by Je Joue on Fab.com Review – Who Doesn’t Like Mix & Match!?

Posted by Lady M on October 14, 2015
Posted in: Oral Sex, Reviews, Sex. Tagged: , , , , , , , . Leave a Comment

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My Lady and I had the pleasure of trying out a new line of sex toys called “Ooh” by Je Joue, that recently launched on Fab.com. These are sex toys you can mix and match to create your own special collection of sexual enhancement. It’s pretty simple, you can purchase one of the “pleasure kits” which contain a motor and two shapes and then purchase others beyond that or purchase a motor and whatever shape or shapes look intriguing, provided they fit the motor. To be honest from the start, we weren’t sure what to expect mainly because ML has never really been a “vibrator girl.” The only toy that has managed to get her off with vibration was her wand, and that is one heavy duty summbitch. But, being the horny people we are, we couldn’t turn down some good old fashion sex toy fun!

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THE MOTOR

The heart of the line of toys is the interchangeable motor that comes with the accessories themselves; some of the toys could be used without the vibration feature, but whats the fun in that? ML and I had the opportunity to try out the large size motor, but they do have a mini version coming soon, as well. The motors are interchangeable with the products they fit. Each motor fits a few different products because they vary slightly in size. The “shapes” come listed with a number and each motor fits certain products. The large motor we received lists that it is compatible with the shape Numbers 1, 2, 3, 5 and 9. We were very impressed to find out that the motor is waterproof (*when the shape and motor are securely connected) and rechargeable. The motor comes with a micro USB charger and doesn’t take long to charge up to full power.

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The motor features 3 vibration speeds and 2 patterns, ranging from soft to strong straight vibration to pulse and wave patterns. The motor is pretty quiet and packs a strong punch for its size. The different vibration patterns are fun to play with as well. I will say the straight vibration seemed like it got a little uneven after a few moments of use. ML had some difficulty getting off with the patterned vibe – not sure if that’s just her, or if the patterns work better for male use. It was certainly effective on me!

THE ATTACHMENTS

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The attachments are REALLY well made. The are made from 100% body safe silicone which make them firm, but not too hard like your garden variety vibrator. The surface of the toys almost feels like it’s micro-textured, which gives it a unique feel against your skin; sensory play with these toys can be really amazing! I didn’t find any raised seams or anything that can scratch or cause injury; these toys are extremely well manufactured. It really is a smooth satiny silicone which is very soft to the touch. It’s incredibly comfortable in and on the body.

THE No. 1 PEBBLE

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The first toy ML and I tried out was the “Pebble,” a smaller sized vibrator that somewhat resembles the shape of a tongue. This toy is great for performing vibration-assisted oral sex, although ML does prefer the feeling of my tongue over the toy (I’ll take that as a compliment). ML also got creative with it and tucked it into her panties for a few minutes. It got her pussy pretty soaking wet, I must say!

We also used the toy on me, tucking it under my balls and caged cock. The vibration got to me pretty quick, and I was bulging in my cage in no time. When ML changed to the different pattern settings, I couldn’t help but squirm around. I can only imagine what being left to myself, having to endure that for hours would feel like. Such torture!

THE No. 2 CLASSIC

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This one was more up ML’s alley (pun intended).

The Classic vibrator, again, is exactly what it says it is – a classic-shaped vibrator. It has a slight curve to the tip, designed for g-spot simulation. It also slims slightly up the shaft before widening at the tip, aiding in deeper penetration…. I would guess, I don’t have a pussy or anything (Note: we didn’t try any anal play for either of us, although I’m sure the firmness and surface feel would do just fine for that).

The toy worked just great, ML was turned on and was really enjoying the feel and depth of the it. But, and this is another one of those “to be honest” things, ML had trouble fully getting off with it. Her issues with finding a truly good insertable that works for her is well documented, so I really don’t think that it’s a problem with the toy. I really just think that she prefers the feeling of my real, hard, flesh-and-blood, cock deep in her pussy (again, I will take that compliment and run with it).

THE ELECTRIC BLUE No. 3 COCK RING

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The name of this one pretty much says it all – it’s a blue cock ring. The material used to make this toy is stretchier than the others – I was afraid it wasn’t going to fit around my cock, but the ring actually had plenty of give. The ring stays snug and hugs pretty tight, but not so tight as to cause a safety issue. ML had fun putting it on my cock while I was still a little soft and watching my cock grow into the ring and stretch it. She also applied a little extra lube and stroked me with it a little bit. That, plus the vibration was a mind blower!

I think it goes without saying that there wasn’t much for ML to do with the Electric Blue, due to her significant lack of having a penis… but she sure did enjoy teasing and torturing me with it!

imageThank you to Fab.com for asking us to review these great products. After checking out this line we noticed some other great looking products by Je Joue that we might want to try!