Monkey is Back 😁

Posted by JonMustWait on October 2, 2025
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Hello everybody! It’s great to be back and posting on the blog. As Madam has alluded to, there have been some significant changes to our lifestyle; however, the soul and the foundation of our kinks haven’t changed: Madam is still controlling my cock, teasing and denying me of my orgasms (and some other things, as well). While I don’t spend as much time in a chastity cage as I did in the past, Madam still gets her kicks over keeping a cock locked and under her control. How exactly do we manage that? Well…. that will be explained in due time, I promise.

As for now… it’s wonderful to be back and posting on the blog, and we’re excited to catch you up on all of the developments that went on during our absence!

Becoming a Madam

Posted by Michele on October 1, 2025
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In October 2013, my husband and I began this blog to chronicle our journey into male chastity. Back then, I chose the name Lady M. It felt elegant, mysterious, and perfectly suited to who I was at the time — a woman stepping into her dominant side, learning, experimenting, and exploring what power exchange could mean for both of us.

For over a decade, Lady M has been my identity here and, in some ways, in my life. Through her, I discovered my voice, my style, and my passion for the intricate dance of Male Chastity, FemDom, BDSM, and the intoxicating psychology of control and power. She was the beginning of something extraordinary.

But growth is inevitable. Over the past 13 years, I’ve changed — not into someone different, but into someone more. More skilled. More experienced. More deliberate. More aware of the depth and power of my Dominance. What once was exploration is now embodiment; what once was curiosity is now mastery.

And so, my name must evolve with me.

From this point forward, I will be known as Madam Allure.

You may be asking yourself, why did she choose that? Well that’s pretty simple:

“Allure” captures everything I’ve grown into. It speaks of temptation, magnetism, control — the ability to draw someone in, to hold them there, to keep them wanting. It embodies not only the sensuality and elegance I’ve cultivated, but also the confidence and skill that years of experience have forged.

This is not a farewell to Lady M. She will always be a part of me, just as those early days of chastity exploration with my husband will always be part of our story. Rather, this is an evolution — a claiming of who I have become, and an invitation for you to step with me into the next chapter of our journey.

Until next time,
Madam Allure

Out of the Cage and in to the Fire

Posted by Michele on September 26, 2025
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Hello, my lovelies—

Have you missed us? 👋 It’s been far too long since I last sat down here to share our life with you in our little corner of the internet. Life has a way of sweeping us up and spinning us around, and that’s exactly what happened. But here I am, heels planted firmly, ready to catch you up.

A lot has changed since our last post in January of 2021. I can’t believe it’s been that long. Since then our family made the big leap to Texas. There is so much new! New home, new cars, new jobs, new schools, new routines—it has been a whirlwind of fresh starts. The Lone Star State has been an adventure in more ways than one.

And then, 2022, something even bigger began to shift. Our dynamic—our rhythm, our dance—started to evolve. But you don’t think I’m going to spill all my secrets right now, do you? You know me better than that. I am, after all, a tease. And a Domme never shows her whole hand at once. That story deserves its own post. For now, I’ll simply say this: monkey has been uncaged 🔒 for maybe a couple of years now… and oh, what fun it’s been to play without bars. Don’t worry though, I still get my fill of keeping a chastity cage locked 🔒 🔑 24/7. You’ll hear all about that, in time. Savor the moment, will you? ❤️

The journey has been messy, beautiful, eye-opening, and yes—deliciously wicked at times. There’s been tears, laughter, lessons, growth and plenty of stories I’m itching to share. And through it all, one thing hasn’t changed: my love for tease and denial (and so many other things!) and telling you all about it.

So thank you for waiting, for peeking 👀 back here now and then, for holding this space for me. I’ve missed it. I’ve missed you. And now? I’m back.

Thinking of you all,
And you will now address me as Madam… If you address me at all.

A New Year

Posted by JonMustWait on January 13, 2021
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So let me start off by saying – hello again, everyone! It’s been a crazy last few months for us; we’ve tried to do our best to post to the blog when possible, but it’s been admittedly spotty due to everything being so freaking crazy (both at work and at home).

We are going to try to update you guys on more detail over the next little while, but here’s a quick rundown of how things are going with us:

  • We had to move our blog to a new server (so if you find any old posts with dead or broken links, please let us know)
  • ML got me a new cage to wear for Christmas!
  • We’ve been able to stay safe and healthy so far
  • No, I STILL have not had an orgasm since last year

I’ll talk about that last one in a bit, but first a little more catch up on what we are hoping to do with the blog over the next year or so. Moving to the new server, while necessary, was also something we wanted to do in order to give ourselves more freedom with our content. We are hoping to do more podcasts – in fact, we have one that needs to be posted, we just need to find an option for hosting/uploading that works better than our current situation. We are also hoping to interact with you guys more – we really love our readers and our audience, and it’s so much fun to know you guys are enjoying what we do. Hopefully we will have more details on that soon.

Speaking of more details: it’s getting VERY close to the 1 year anniversary of my last orgasm; I’ve gone well past my previous record of 299 days of denial. I probably should be getting excited due to the anticipation… but honestly, I’m not feeling that way. Not because I don’t want to cum – trust me, I do, VERY badly – but mainly because I have a strong feeling that My Lady is not going to allow me to cum at the 1 year mark. She’s been having too much fun teasing and denying me to stop right now, and I can tell that she wouldn’t mind pushing me further.

I would love nothing more to be able to have an orgasm this coming Monday (our anniversary, and also the 1 year mark), but I have a feeling that ML is just going to smile and tell me that it’s not time yet. I would honestly be more surprised if she lets me cum!

Damn He’s Sexy

Posted by Michele on November 5, 2020
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The other morning, I got out of bed before Cagedmonkey and he sent me this absolutely sexy picture of him laying there. I just love it, I love the way he looks, his tattoo (such an amazing reminder of our relationship and dynamic) and even the sheets… It’s all so sexy and beautiful and poetic to me.

Anyway, I seriously just wanted to share!

Mail Chastity: What’s in it for Her?

Posted by Michele on September 24, 2020
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A couple weeks ago we posted a blog post about how it’s been 226 days for Cagedmonkey since his last orgasm and a friend, at She rules the Rooster, had some really good questions I figured we should answer in a post as opposed to them getting lost in the comments section. I’m sure other people have had the thought about what I’m getting out of such a long denial period for hubby. I mean, if we were poly or into cuckolding, that answer would be easy but we aren’t so it becomes a bit more complicated in the “what does Lady M get out of it” area.

When it comes down to what I’m doing daily… My sheer extreme sexiness is what teases him, don’t you know?!?! Lmao Seriously though the daily stuff is all about the little things. I’ve pointed out in posts before and even in a podcast if I remember right about the little things. Keeping things talked about, even if it’s in text message or little flirty butt grabs when the kids aren’t around. Making him kneel in front of me while I sit on the couch… It might look innocent enough like daddy is snuggling with mom giving her a hug but to CM and I there is much more behind it.

Making sure that we both know the why’s behind the denial and the lock up are so important. Otherwise, it just becomes an afterthought and can actually become work. So talking about and knowing that I love to see and feel the frustration he is going through makes my pussy wet causes an amazing circle of turning him on which again just turns me on.

At the moment, pleasing me in some fashion is at least three times a week but we say there is so much more to intimacy than actual sex so much more becomes pleasing. CM is pleasing me daily but that wouldn’t look like him eating my pussy or making me come or any of that… It’s more like a back rub or spooning snuggle time or maybe just some boobie play time. Yes most days of the week I am having him give my pussy some mouth attention and maybe some fingering. The day to day stuff though isn’t some long intense teasing session. During the week we are usually tired and in bed early for a 4:30 or 5am wake up. So they are quick “my pussy needs good night kisses” while I run my nails across his back and butt type nights.

There are nights I make him sit or kneel at the side of the bed with his arms clasped behind him. I will take my boobs and smoosh them in his face, make him smell and lick under them so he can’t really get an idea of my day. Then I may run my nipples across his lips, not allowing him to open his mouth. It’s so fun to watch and feel his breathing as he gets so frustrated, desperately wanting to feel it in his mouth and on his tongue. He will even whimper and beg sometimes, “please.” hahaha I love it so much!

I’ll be honest with you… I have in no way been counting how many orgasms I’ve had. I just have them when I have them and when I want them. Most nights our pleasing and teasing is a short thing so I don’t even really want to cum. It’s more work on a woman than you think lol. It takes a lot of thinking and then there’s this whole body muscle tightening thing that goes on. With my chronic pain, orgasms tend to last a few days within my muscles and make things sore so it’s just as good to enjoy the pleasing than to have some intense orgasms all the time. If I were to really think about it is probably been about 1 a week average… So you figure that out… About 300 days divided by 7 lol!

Anyway, thanks for the comment and I do apologize for the delay in getting it posted… It’s sat in my drafts and been worked on as much as I can when I get a moment! I appreciate you reading and being subscribed! If you haven’t checked out She Rules the Rooster, yet, what are you waiting for? It’s always fun to see how other people live their lifestyle… Get on it!

226 Days Without Orgasm

Posted by Michele on September 1, 2020
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Have you ever wondered what it would be like to go a year without an orgasm? I’d imagine quit a few of our readers have thought that, tried it or done it!

The longest I made it – yes me… I couldn’t handle it last time – was 299 days. Cagedmonkey probably could have held out longer but I struggled with the connection of cumming together. There is something about feeling that feeling at the same time. I missed being filled up. The last time we tried doing a one year… or longer denial we also tried to do a lot more locked up time. So I made it quite clear that this time I’d be using him as much as I wanted. It has definitely helped this time around because we are already 226 along and I’m no where near feeling a disconnect. We are intimate at least a few times a week, one way or another. So that makes it that much easier to keep him denied.

Plus, I do absolutely love how crazy horny he is. He’s so sweet and loving too! I really do love that just touching me or even sitting and talking and being cute and fun and lovey dovey gets him all hard. He, most times, is struggling in his cage but sometimes I have him unlocked so he’s usable.

Recently, we got a Double Locking Cockring from Mature Metal which is super fantastic for having him available but still locked in something. That way he’s constantly feeling my control over that big cock of his. It doesn’t hurt that the Cockring kinda forces him be hard for a long time, and not just any hard, but super hard hard lol!

So much enjoyment out of this denial, like I said, it’s been much easier this time keeping him aching to cum. I have no doubt he will not orgasm again until sometime in 2021!

Seven Years in a Chastity Device

Posted by Michele on August 13, 2020
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It was over seven years ago that Cagedmonkey and I started this chastity journey. No, we didn’t start out in steel nor a custom device. However, seven years ago was when we purchased our first steel custom device from Mature Metal and that changed everything about our journey.

I was chatting yesterday with Mistress MM at Mature Metal and we got to talking about CM’s cage sizes so I had to go look up my old emails from our last cage purchase. It ended up being exactly 5 years from yesterday that we had purchased our most recent cage.

As you can see, this cage, is a Jail Bird like he always wears but we had an extra ring added to the cage itself. I really like the look of this cage. It’s definitely my favorite out of all of our cages.

Since it’s been 5 years since we have gotten anything new… I was thinking about possibly getting a new cage or maybe looking at the locking cock rings and other fun stuff william makes. I’m pretty interested in the base ring with the dildo option. That would certainly keeps things exciting without having to remove the cage.

Cagedmonkey wrote recently about committing to the cage and I have to say, I’m actually very happy to have him back in 24/7. There is something about it that just makes it so that much more exciting and intense. I told him, the next time we have sex, I may still not let him out. I certainly do love how big and buldgy he gets through the cage bars.

Committing to the Cage

Posted by JonMustWait on August 10, 2020
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After coming back from our vacation, (shameless promo link for our Mature Metal podcast!) I’ve been trying to focus more on wearing my cage as much as possible. Over the past few months, it’s been difficult to wear the cage 24/7 due to my back pain. Yes, my back surgery was successful, but (thanks to COVID concerns) I was not able to go through a full rehab-type regimen after surgery. This has made my recovery a little rough at times.

Specifically, it was very difficult for me to wear the cage overnight because I would often wake up to very painful cage-erections. They would really hurt, and not in the good “sexual confinement” way. After an extremely bad night, ML and I decided to have me take the cage off at night until things got better.

To be honest, My Lady was able to enjoy the situation by having easy access to morning sex… and, damn, do we have good morning sex! But I still felt that ML was being deprived of her total control of my cock. So over the past couple of days, we’ve decided to try the 24/7 lock up again and see how i handle it.

Good news report: I’ve been wearing the cage since Friday, and it feels great.

Yes, I’m still getting those “4am wake up” erections in the cage… but I’ve decided that I just need to figure out how to deal with them. So now, I’ll change position to take pressure off of my back or something, which usually works enough so I can get back to sleep. Most of all, I’m realizing how badly I miss being locked up for My Lady. Yes, I’m still crazy horny because I haven’t cum all year, but there’s a different intensity to having my erections denied as well. I already feel it building up over the past couple of days, and I’m glad it’s back.

It might take a little while before I can get start wearing it for weeks at a time, but I’m honestly looking forward to it. I know how much ML enjoys having me wear it according to her desires, and I’m excited about getting back to that.

Podcast Episode 13 – Chatting with Mature Metal

Posted by Michele on August 7, 2020
Posted in: Conversations, In Real Life, Male Chastity, Podcast, Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 9 comments

Cagedmonkey and I had the wonderful pleasure of spending time with the Beauty and the brains behind Mature Metal male chastity devices. Featured here in this special edition, extended length, podcast are not only us but Mistress MM, herself and william!

Thank you again for having us and also agreeing to chat with us a bit about your company and yourselves! We love you guys and can’t wait to see you again for more fun times in Texas! Hehe

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