I Guess it’s Going to be a NOvember

Posted by Lady M on October 29, 2018
Posted in: Ass Play, Chastity Device, D/s, FemDom, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 5 comments

Football and Cheer season is juuuuuuust about over here in Monkeyland lol. We’ve had a very long season that felt like it’s gone on forever. We actually have one more cheer competition coming up this weekend but football and practice is done. Which means no more reason for my super horny, long denied, hubby to take off his cock cage. I don’t regret it at all since our kids won’t be young forever and I know that they will look back and remember that we were very involved parents when it comes to their sports and other activities. Now that we have time to get a little more back into our kink, I did some thinking today. We won’t have a ton of time but more than we did and, like I mentioned, now there isn’t the excuse of coaching to remove the cage.

This morning I realized that I’m really wanting CM to remember just who owns him and his body and his sexual pleasure. I also want him to remember what is important in this dynamic. That’s my pleasure and what I want. What I want for about the next month is to have CM locked him his cage 24/7. He needs that intense reminder that I control his cock and I’d I want it locked it will be locked and if I want it out it will be out.

The other part of this will be that each evening he will be having some kind of ass play while his cock is locked. That could mean he’ll wear one of our butt plugs – the njoy’s or even the remote plug – or he could be instructed to use a toy on his ass and maybe the wand as well to get his cock dripping precum from his cage. On the nights, when possible, I will likely have him get out the little tripod or selfie stick and take me some really slutty pictures. It would be so humiliating to have to take pics & video of himself violating his own ass because I told him to. Then I can choose to show friends the pictures or maybe even post them on the blog.

I did explain to him that I want him to do this for me and use these toys to keep his ass ready for me… You know, should I have a need to use his ass for something it would be ready. I know, after a couple weeks of being used daily with no use of his penis he might get to a point of wanting to stop… And it won’t stop until I say it stops. He really has no choice in the matter.

So, hopefully, we have a few exciting weeks coming up here in November! 🙂

Feedback & Questions

Posted by Lady M on October 28, 2018
Posted in: Conversations, Mail Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

We got some awesome feedback today about the podcast and a couple questions, as well, that I figured I’d take a moment to answer. We always appreciate when our readers or listeners give us feedback or just want to write and say, “Hi!” Don’t be shy! 🙂

Love it! The punishment /funishment thing to me is one of countless blurred outlines of that classic BDSM conundrum… if I want to be punished then how can it be a punishment? In my head, it still can be – especially (to your point) if you know your partner and love them enough to exploit that knowledge.

Love getting feedback like this. This is why we love having the conversations we do on our podcast. Having a relationship, kinky, vanilla or whatever really does come down to communication and knowing your partner. Amazing things can happen when you know, just as this gentleman states, how to exploit the knowledge!
I confess that I’ve only listened to a couple podcasts now (just found you guys on Friday), so I apologize if you’ve gone over all of this stuff many times before, but man I have so many questions 😛 Feel free to ignore them…
That’s ok… some times answering things again is a good thing for someone who is new around here. We have answered these before here in the blog and possibly on the podcast but I don’t mind answering them again.
Do you still control / keep other guys in chastity besides caged M? If so, how many? How do you find the time and energy to keep up with that?
I no longer have “subs on the side” and there are two reasons for this. A) I tend to be a bit too intense for most people and they end up not handling being dominated by me very well. The whole fantasy vs reality thing… I make things very real and the intensity of the reality becomes too overwhelming. When I have subs I put my whole self into it and when boys get overwhelmed by me I tend to get myself hurt in the process. And then, B) well like you mentioned, time. I just don’t have it anymore. When I was a stay at home mom I had a lot more time to spend focusing on kinky things. Now I work outside the home, have to take care of my home, kids and they are very active kids and we are involved parents… It leaves very little time for extracurricular activities.
I remember hearing caged M adamantly defining a limit about physically playing with other people, but that you guys might role play with the idea from time to time. How does that generally look for y’all?
There is a really great post here on the blog about Pseudo-cuckolding that you may find helpful in regards to this question. We do not play outside our marriage… At least not with men. We have talked in the past couple years about me having an Alpha sub female to play with but so far we haven’t found anyone that fits.

For me, chastity is inextricably linked with cuckolding, but the reality of that fantasy carries potentially damaging emotional remnants… I’m so curious on how you guys feel about that and if the implication exists in some form within your D/s dynamic.

We have seen how a lot of times people automatically think chastity = cuckolding but we try hard to get across that that’s not necessarily true. That chastity is not specifically one thing or another. It doesn’t have to be this or that. Just because someone is in chastity does not mean the partner goes out fucking other people. Chastity is exactly what the couple wants it to be. It certainly CAN be all those things or none of them. It’s up to the couple to decide what chastity is for them.
Thanks so much for sharing your story so openly and responding : ) I fucking love the internet.
Thank you, so much, for the great feedback and the questions. Hopefully I’ve successfully answered them but please feel free to ask whatever else you want to ask! 🙂 and yeah the internet is pretty awesome!

Podcast Episode 11 – Rewards & Punishments

Posted by Lady M on October 27, 2018
Posted in: D/s, Podcast. Tagged: , , , , , . Leave a Comment

Maybe you’ve noticed we have some missing numbers in our Episode count. Don’t worry, we aren’t going crazy we actually had to do that on purpose! We had a couple of podcasts that were going to get posted ahead of this one but we have had a change in plans so we just went with this one. So pardon the numbers and just go with it. You will also notice, during this podcast, that it was recorded at the end of July. Sorry it’s taken so long to get posted. There is a whole story there that we will not get into!

Anyway, as you can tell, from the title, this podcast covers things like Rewards, Punishments and even goes over “funishments.” I hope you enjoy it, even with it’s delay.

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How Do I Know?

Posted by cagedmonkey on October 22, 2018
Posted in: Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 3 comments

Someone asked me an interesting question recently:

How can you be sure that Lady M will ever let you cum again?

Well, honestly, I can’t be sure.

Part of me is pretty sure that she does want to give me orgasms, infrequently as they may be. In the past, she has expressed that she doesn’t want to deprive me of orgasms permanently; she actually does like to give me that pleasure.

That was in the past, though, and things have changed since we first started our orgasm denial play.

I used to need a “maybe day” from My Lady because of this very train of thought – I wasn’t ready to give up total control of my orgasms just yet. The chastity, teasing, and orgasm denial were great fun, but it was still difficult to not have a target date in mind. I gave up the idea of having a maybe day a few years ago, and I don’t regret the decision one bit. However, I do realize exactly what it means to give full control of my orgasms over to ML.

I can hope she hasn’t changed her mind about things, but the bottom line is that if ML decides to never allows me to have another orgasm again then that is what will happen. She will let me cum when it pleases her, and if it pleases her more to keep me in a state of perpetual constant horniness and desperation for an orgasm for the rest of my life, that is what she will do. It’s not what I’m hoping for, but it’s exactly what I asked for.

Laser Hair Removal: 1 Month Update

Posted by cagedmonkey on September 9, 2018
Posted in: Health, Male Chastity, Pictures, Reviews. Tagged: , , , , , . 11 comments

I posted earlier about my plans to handle my pubic hair issue, and things seemed to be going pretty well when I wrote the review for the Gillette Venus IPL. Since then, it looks like things are still going great!

Let’s take a look at my cock and see how things are going…

Pre-treatment:

Week 1:

Week 2:

Week 3:

1 Month:

You can see there’s a nice patch right at the base of my cock where there is no hair, and much thinner hair along the sides. So it’s definitely working!

I am finding that the laser gives my cock a good sting when I treat the shaft, especially on that sensitive spot on the underside. Is it bad that it kinda makes me a little horny afterwards?

I’m really excited that it’s working!

Cum Crazy

Posted by cagedmonkey on August 25, 2018
Posted in: orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Pictures, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 5 comments

It’s getting close to 3 months since my last orgasm, and usually around this time I start to feel the beginnings of a growing obsession. The obsession centers around the basic premise that you always want what you can’t have. I miss my orgasm so much that it begins to become a focal point of my desires. When my obsession gets this strong, it can really hurt when I’m reminded about what I’m missing.

When I was scrolling through Twitter the other day, I came across a short video clip that punched me right in the gut: it was a woman sucking on a cock, she pulled it out of her mouth and began stroking it and aiming it at her tits. A second later, the cock was spurting cum all over her chest.

God, how I miss doing that.

I was stuck for a moment, watching the clip over and over as her tits were just absolutely covered in cum. And of course it got me horny, but I also got a little sad while watching it – I realized that it’s going to be a long time before I get to actually do that again. In fact, it might be a VERY long time, if ML is thinking the way I suspect she is (more on that in another post). I started thinking back to the times where ML gave me a reprieve of sorts from denial and let me cum as much as I wanted, and I started to feel desperate for another one of those times.

I’m definitely not wanting out of our orgasm denial fun, that would be absolutely silly. After all, this is why we do what we do: so I can experience these intense feelings and emotions just from seeing cum on a pair of boobs. I can’t help but think that I’m missing out on so much pleasure by not cumming for months on end. I know it ends up worth it once I’m finally allowed to… it’s just hard to be THAT patient.

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My Lady can be so evil…

After reading the draft of this post, she decided to assign me a couple more clips to watch, and describe my feelings here. I’ll be seeing them for the first time, click the links to follow along.

First clip:

Ok, that was hot. There’s just so much cum, it soaks her shirt and just keeps on going. It’s a huge mess, but such a great one. ML’s tits are so nice, I would love to see them with my cum dripping off them. No tease or dragging it out in the clip, his cum just spills out so easily… makes me highly jealous.

Second clip:

This one hurt. Again, so much cum, it just doesn’t seem to end. I don’t get to masturbate very much anymore, and the last time I made myself cum was who knows when, so this is doubly frustrating. Add to all this the fact that the cock is somewhat similar to mine, and it’s just one big visual “what it would look like to cum” being shoved in my face.

Well… those clips definitely made things worse, which was most likely EXACTLY why ML had me watch them…

Product Review: Gillette Venus Silk Expert IPL

Posted by cagedmonkey on August 21, 2018
Posted in: Advice, Health, Male Chastity, Medical, Pictures, Reviews. Tagged: , , , , . 4 comments

Very soon after I started wearing a chastity cage, ML and I made the decision to try shaving my cock and balls. At first it was a comfort decision – shaving allowed me to avoid hairs getting inadvertently plucked and/or tugged on – but we discovered that we both thought I looked pretty damn sexy shaved down there. Since then, I still shave for comfort, but also because ML likes to have me nice and smooth. Nowadays, I get itchy and uncomfortable if I go a week or so without shaving.

The only time this presents a problem is if ML is wanting to keep me locked up for a good long time. I have two choices:

1) don’t shave during the lockup, and let 2+ weeks worth of pubic hair grow in, or

2) attempt to shave around the cage

Shaving around the cage isn’t that big a problem by itself, but it gets kinda bad when the hairs begin to grow back… especially in areas where the cage usually sits. I’ve had to deal with a few ingrown hairs here and there, which wasn’t exactly pleasant. So, to avoid all of this hassle, I decided to go with a more “long term” solution to hair removal.

Now, this is going to sound kinda weird, considering I post pictures of my cock to this blog on a fairly regular basis, but I am actually really shy; I’m not really interested in going to some salon to have laser hair removal done on my balls. Instead, I looked for something that I could do at home.

Which brings us to…

The Gillette Venus Silk Expert IPL system!

Now, before I start my review, I would like to say that the instruction manual does clearly state that this product should NOT be used on the genital area… however, I did my due diligence and researched a bit and found that people have used it for just this very purpose. I also did the “test area” bit where I give it a try on a small patch of skin first, and I experienced no problems. With all of that said, I would still use caution and understand that there is some risk involved in using a product in ways other than suggested by the manufacturer.

How Does It Work?

BEHOLD, THE POWER OF SCIENCE!

Laser hair removal uses the melanin in hair to treat the follicle and prevent hair regrowth. The laser reacts with the melanin found in the hair to create heat, which actually damages the root of the hair and the follicle itself. Melanin is a pigment which makes both skin and hair darker; because of this, the laser is more effective with darker hair. Also, laser treatment cannot be performed on people with darker skin because the laser can react with the pigment in their skin (instead of the hair) and cause burns and injury.

It isn’t immediate or perfect, and it takes time for the effect to be visibly noticeable… which is why some people give bad reviews on these products, it’s due to their unreasonable expectations.

How Do You Use It?

It is actually very easy to use. The device itself has skin tone detectors on it, which can sense when the device is applied properly to the skin; if the laser window isn’t flush to the skin, it won’t activate. It works like a safety, preventing bad application of the laser. It also helps prevent skin burns from the laser – if your skin is too dark, the laser will not turn on. The Venus Silk Expert can either be used in individual spots (which is the technique I’ve been using), or a continuous technique for larger areas like your legs or chest.

Does It Hurt?

Um…. kinda, I guess? I mean, it’s nowhere near like getting a tattoo, and not even in the same universe as getting a piercing… but it’s not 100% painless. It’s sort of like touching something that’s hotter than you expect it to be, but not hot enough to seriously burn you – it stings, but it lasts for an EXTREMELY short time. It’s definitely not as bad if you are prepared for it – the first time I used it, I went to the spot right above my cock. After using the laser, I thought there was no way I’d be able to actually do it on either my cock or my balls; but once I was ready for it, I got through it fine. Overall, it really isn’t a big deal.

Does It Work?

To be fair, it’s too early too tell. Dumbass me was so excited to get started, I forgot to specifically take “before” pics, but here are a couple from a while ago where I was particularly shaggy:

Here is a pic of me now, just before doing my second week of treatment:

It’s only been a week, but it honestly does look a little better – there seems to be less hair growth, and less thickness. I have no idea how “grown out” that before pic was, but it’s not looking too bad at the moment. I’ll be posting more pics as I continure the treatments, but this is obviously a long-term project – the instruction manual says that results can sometimes take up to 12 weeks to be apparent, so it may take some time to see the full results.

Unlike waiting for my next chance to cum, I’m in no rush, lol.

Nipple Q’s

Posted by cagedmonkey on July 28, 2018
Posted in: Advice, Medical, Orgasm Denial, Pictures, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 5 comments

It’s been about two weeks since I got my nipples pierced, and lots of people have been asking the usual questions that come along with poking a hole in your body and putting a metal bar through it. I thought it would help for those who were curious (as well as those who may be thinking about doing it themselves) to answer some of them here.

Here we go!

Did it hurt?

Uhhh…… yeah! Some dude shoved a needle through my nips, of course it hurt! I actually have a pretty high pain tolerance, so it wasn’t horrible, but other people might find it overwhelming. It’s MUCH more painful than a tattoo, but only for a quick few seconds.

The other part of this question is if they still hurt – at this point, they don’t hurt much anymore. It feels like they’ve healed up pretty well by now; except for some itching her and there, they feel completely normal. Every once in a while I’ll forget and catch one on my seat belt, but it’s like “mini toe stub” type of pain: hurts for a moment because it’s so unexpected, then goes away quick. They only really hurt when they are supposed to…

Like this.

Do your nipples stay hard now?

Yeah, they do! Before the piercings, my nipples would get pretty hard and pokey… but they wouldn’t stay that way. Now they are pretty much always some level of hard. It’s kinda like having a constant semi-hard erection – they aren’t always perky, but they aren’t as soft as they used to be either.

In response to this, I’ve started wearing some looser fitting shirts to work. I’m not embarrassed about my nipples, per se, but I’d rather avoid questions about my nips at work while I can.

Are they more sensitive now?

Holy fuck, YES!

I had sensitive nipples to start with, but now it’s just absolutely ridiculous. When ML plays with my nipples, it drives me absolutely insane now – my toes curl, I lose my balance, and I can’t stop my body from squirming. They are like buttons that when touched get my cock hard instantly, and the tingly sensation I feel when they are lightly teased hangs around for endless minutes afterwards. During sex, when ML rubs and squeezes them, I can’t help but moan loudly and I have to stop to avoid cumming inside her.

This may have been a big mistake.

ML has been saying that she’s excited to get me tied up nice and good so she can spend some time playing with her “new toys.” Today, Grandma has taken the kids overnight until Sunday afternoon. She might just get her wish…

Tease With These

Posted by cagedmonkey on July 26, 2018
Posted in: Pictures, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 1 comment

My Lady really does love to tease me. And she knows exactly what works to get me all worked up.

The other day, I had off from work and was home alone. ML decided to spend her down time at work teasing the fuck out of me with pictures of her tits. Her gigantic, beautiful tits.

It’s things like this that make it clear that we are perfect for each other. She loves being a cocktease, and I love it when she teases me. Also, her boobs are what I consider the absolute perfect pair of tits: huge, soft, big thick nipples… and mine to play with!

Well… I do share them with ML. )~

New Permanent Steel

Posted by Lady M on July 16, 2018
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, Pictures. Tagged: , , , . 1 comment

I think it was about a month ago when CM and I were talking with someone about having piercings. I have had some piercings in the past and currently only have my ears and tongue still pierced. I’ve had nipples, eyebrow and nose done as well and CM has never had a piercing. The conversation got us thinking about CM and would I like any piercings on him. I don’t personally like the look or anything of penis piercings so thats not something I’d have him do. We started talking about where he could be pierced and what would be the point, etc. That got us onto his nipples, perhaps those would look nice and they might even help to make his nipples a lot more sensitive. So, if you follow us on Twitter, I had asked our followers to show me their nipple piercings so I could get a feel for how they looked. I could never see hubby with facial piercings – plus working in a hospital thats probably not the best idea. I realized I didnt like the hoops in a guy nipples but I did like the look of small bars horizontally through the nipple. I know, I know… sometimes I think too much but with any kind of body modification I want to make sure it’s something I’m going to like or there is no point in getting it.

So what all this brings us to is that on Wednesday last week, when CM & I were off work and had out “date day” not only did we get in about a hour or so of play time I also took him to get MY nipples pierced.

I say it that way because they are for me… I didnt get them pierced for him, I did it for me, so I have something to play with and to make his nipples more sensitive for me. Plus they really do look hot on him!

It took me a few days to not be like WOW there are bars in your nipples lol because I’ve never seen CM as the type to have piercings, at all. I never saw him as one to have tattoos either and now he’s got a bunch and I love them!! A couple of his tattoos are mine or ours and have so much meaning! These nipple piercings also have a bit of meaning. It’s not something he did on his own for his own reasons. He has them for me. He truly has given himself to me in so many ways… he’s locked in a steel cage for me and now he’s got steel bars through his nipples for me. Once they heal completely I cant wait to play with them and pull on them and figure out all the wonderful things we can do with them!!

I couldn’t help but lick them and rub them since they are so new and sensitive… I’m sure I’m going to have so much fun with them when they are finally healed!