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A Look Ahead

Posted by JonMustWait on December 22, 2019
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My last denial stint was a little unexpected, both in its beginning and its length. ML was letting me cum on a fairly regular basis, which for me meant that I had two or three orgasms in the same week. We were moving into our new house, and I figured we would be doing the “let’s fuck in the different rooms of the house to celebrate” thing. I was only partially right, though – while we did have sex in different areas of the house, I only got to cum once in the new house.

That was at the beginning of September. I honestly wasn’t ready for a 3-month-plus denial, but My Lady doesn’t have an obligation to warn me ahead of time when I won’t be cumming for a while. It’s nice to know (so I can savor my last orgasm as much as possible), but not necessary.

My last orgasm was about a week or so ago, and I have a feeling it was sort of unplanned from ML’s standpoint. We had just woken up after sleeping in a little bit on the weekend. I woke up feeling a little horny and a teeny bit slutty, so while ML was getting dressed I kneeled on the bed in front of her and started playing with my nipple piercings.

I must have looked pretty damn good, because ML came over and began to stroke my cock – ML had allowed me to sleep unlocked the night before. She played with my cock as I teased my nipples. I begged her to let me cum; to my surprise, she said yes! It only took a few more strokes for me to cum all over the bed sheets. Only moments later, ML was walking out of the room, smiling over her shoulder as she told me to get the bed sheets in the laundry.

So what’s next?

Well, that’s honestly a tough question to answer. ML and I have both expressed a desire to try for another full year of denial… I know, why do I put myself through this? As far as chastity goes, we should like to do some more longer lock-ups as well. One thing that is making hard to think about things in the near future is that I may have some health-related situations coming up that might get in the way of any horny play.

Don’t get all worried about me: this isn’t like the last time I got everyone panicked, but it’s still something that will require us to think about how we will handle our chastity and orgasm denial during it. I do know that if we need to take a break, it’ll only be temporary; we have way too much fun with all of this to stop any time soon… or at all!

Mail Chastity: How to Become A Good Keyholder

Posted by Michele on November 26, 2019
Posted in: Advice, KeyHolder, Mail Chastity, Male Chastity, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , . 2 comments

I received a message from another keyholder on chastityforums.com. She is a bit new to all this, in general, and is struggling with how to be a KH and a good one at that. So here is a bit of what she wrote and my response.

“My ‘vanilla self’ is constantly fighting with ‘the KH self’ I’m sure [my hubby] would like me to become. I’m not even sure how to make this change. Do you have any ideas to help me in my quest to transition from vanilla to a true KH in every sense of the word?”

First of all… This isn’t about you becoming something your hubby wants you to be. This is about you both enjoying this the way YOU enjoy it, whatever way that may be. Please do me a favor and don’t try to be and do things that are not natural. What you do should feel good and exciting to you. If you fake it, it will become work and then you could easily build resentment by trying to live up to his expectations… Do what you enjoy and are comfortable with. You are in charge, you hold the key, literally – he should not be in charge through you when it comes to chastity or keeping him locked etc. That is called “topping from the bottom” and that’s not ok. It is perfectly fine to communicate – if you know me at all I’m huge on communication – so talk and listen to each other. Get to know what you like, what you think you like, what you don’t like, what feels good both physically and mentally. Decide from there what YOU want to implement in your relationship.

Don’t be afraid to try things if they are not a hard No! You may like them or maybe not and you have the choice, as the one in charge, to say yes that’s good we will do that or no that felt bad or uncomfortable and we are not doing that! It’s all good. In the beginning it’s all about talking and trying and figuring out what works and feels good. Don’t be afraid to say no or change your mind either… Try hard to remember, in most situations, he is the one that asked you for this and decided to give you control. He doesn’t want to decide what happens with his sexual desires, his orgasms, his pleasure. He wants you to be in control of it all. 🙂

In regards to how to be a good keyholder, please feel free to listen to Episode 3 of our podcast. It’s about praise and reassurance and it’s just me talking to other keyholders and I think it might be helpful!

Good luck!

Conversations: Matching Needs

Posted by JonMustWait on May 21, 2019
Posted in: Conversations, Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . 5 comments

CM: The other day, when I was putting my cage on while getting dressed for work, it occurred to me how lucky I am that I have a wife that enjoys doing this whole chastity thing with me…

LM: Why do you feel you are lucky? When I think about it, I feel like I’m the lucky one. I have a husband who enjoys being locked in chastity for me. 🙂

CM: I don’t know… I mean, we could have ended up being your garden variety vanilla couple; but instead, you keep my cock locked in a steel chastity cage and I love it. Not that being a vanilla couple would be horrible – our sex is absolutely incredible just by itself! But the chastity and orgasm denial add elements to our sex life that make it so much more complex and exciting.

LM: I completely agree… I love our sex life and without chastity it would still be amazing. For me, the chastity adds such an amazing element. I love having you locked all the time because it’s a physical reminder of.. Basically ME, all day long. If w didn’t do this it would still be great but I love the added bonus that chastity is. I just love that it makes you think of me! Do you feel like it’s a reminder, too, of me and my control, all the time?

CM: I do, although I would probably be thinking of you all the time anyway… especially when you send me pics at work like this:

LM: Hehe… yeah, pics of my boobs will do that to you.

CM: Yes, pics like that definitely keep them in my mind. But yeah, I would probably be thinking of you because I’m just that horny for you, anyways. I think what makes the chastity and orgasm denial special from my standpoint is the fact that YOU choose to have this cage on me. I wear the chastity cage for you – when you want me to wear it, which one I wear – these are all decisions that YOU make. And the fact that you are making these decisions show me that you are consciously thinking about me and my cock, and it shows that these things are important to you.

LM: They are definitely important to me. If someone were to ask me why I have you in a cage or what I get out of it, I think it seriously comes down to the fact that I’m through and through a cocktease… and I mean that lovingly! It’s the best way I can describe it. I love that you are always thinking about and wanting me, thinking about and wanting my control and just physical FEELING something that reminds you of that is awesome. For someone else that could simply be a wedding ring… And for us that is part of it. I would be uncomfortable without my wedding ring… The chastity cage, for me, is an extension of our connection with each other… It’s just a connection to the sexual side, I guess. I love that I’m the one that chooses if, when and how you wear it. I choose if you feel that tightness when getting hard if I tease you either in person or by pics when we are apart. It’s just… Awesome! 🙂

CM: And I need to know that you are choosing to be sexual with me in this way – I know that when you tease me when I’m locked up, it’s because you want me to be so frustrated and want you so badly. And I know that when you unlock me, it’s because you want my cock out so you can play with it and tease it. I need that attention from you, and the chastity puts a spotlight on just how much attention you are giving me. I think I’d hate it if you just locked me and didn’t give me any attention; I need to know that you want me and desire me for your sexual pleasure.

LM: I definitely do, and that’s why I unlock you when I do – because I want to play with you!

What are you doing to me?

Posted by Michele on May 13, 2019
Posted in: Male Chastity, Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 1 comment

Cagedmonkey and I had a little chat, before bed the other night, about my plans for his denial and chastity. As he mentioned, in the last post, life things have been exceptionally busy and play time has been extremely rare. I definitely miss it and want to try to get, at least, something in to spice things up a bit. I miss him being so super hair trigger horny from constant teasing. I love it when he desperately wants me and needs to feel me and aches to feel my pussy.

My plan is to keep him denied of orgasm for the next couple months. We will be going on vacation at the beginning of July. During that time we will see one of our kinky couple friends and being in that environment will certainly help to intensify the horny and his denial. It’s always nice when you’re with sexy people and can have a nice, normal, flowing kinky conversation. I haven’t decided if I’m going to let him cum that weekend or save it for another special day… We will see when he will actually get some release.

As for chastity, that’ll just stay the same for now. He’s locked every day, unless it’s a day that I want to use the cock I control. It really is a large amazing cock and it’s very hard for me to keep locked away… there are times I need it and I am not one to deny myself what I desire. Denial isn’t something I’m necessarily into for myself. 😀

In the mean time, I plan to send him more pics of my big beautiful boobs and my big round ass while he’s at work. Things like these…

I plan to give him some tasks, when possible, to help keep him teased for me. I love having him unlock on the way home, if I know I plan to use him that evening, and make him stroke and edge and keep himself hard on the way home. Sometimes, I’ll have him run an errand on the way home and he’ll have to do it while hiding a hard cock hehe! I do miss all the fun little things we used to do to keep things interesting and build his crazy horny… So I want that back. I just need to work out fitting it in to the craziness that life has become!

Last night was so amazing, I stood at the side of the bed, above him, while he sat on the edge. I put my hands to his cheeks (I love his sexy beard I made him grow!) and held his face and kissed him deep. He ran his hands all over my body and God it felt good! I stood there as he sucked my nipples and squeezed and fondled my big boobs in his hands. I loved feeling his want for me, his hands all over every part of me he could touch. Such an awesome feeling!

I look forward to increasing his desire and frustration 🙂

The Planning Stages

Posted by JonMustWait on May 11, 2019
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ML and I have been somewhat chill with our kinkiness lately. This has been due to a number of factors:

1) both of us have been very busy at work,

2) it’s hard to find alone adult time now that the kids are getting older (and staying up later), and

3) we’ve been spending a lot of time binge watching Game of Thrones.

(Tangent alert: seriously, we only started watching GoT a couple of weeks ago, and we are frantically trying to get caught up before the series finale. We are only up to the end of season 5, so I doubt we will make it…)

Although the kinkiness may be at a low, we are still enjoying our awesome fucking sex; I’ve been enjoying it very much so, as My Lady has allowed me to cum quite a few times over the past month. I guess I’m doing a good job when she tells me not to stop. 🙂

With that said, I have been feeling the desire to get a little more focused on the chastity/orgasm denial dimension of our sex life. This evening, I sneaky-texted ML to see what her thoughts on the subject were:

“Later” is still later, as the kids are still up and around… when is bedtime again?

I wonder if she’s planning a long denial period, increased chastity, perhaps both… or maybe something even more creative – I can never be sure exactly what is going on in that brain of hers, but that sure makes things exciting!

Dick Inspection Time

Posted by Michele on March 18, 2019
Posted in: Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 6 comments

I felt very much in control last night as I had deemed it “Dick inspection time!” Haha I instructed Cagedmonkey on exactly how to take his shower and that he was to call me in to the bathroom so that I could unlock him and wash him properly. He is, very much, still not allowed to touch or see his penis. It was not a sexual washing, at all, it was very clinical. That doesn’t mean the minute he was let out he wasn’t already half way hard lol because he totally was. That poor cock had been locked up for 3 weeks in that Revenge, he was totally ready to stretch out. 🙂

After the shower, CM had to pee but since he’s not allowed to look or touch, he had to keep his eyes closed while I held his penis and let him pee standing up. Something he doesn’t often get to do these days. I think he was grateful! 🙂 Then I took him to the bedroom and he was put in the blackout goggles we recently got/made (I’ll have to tell you guys about them! Super easy and inexpensive.). This made it much easier to inspect how being in the enclosed device has effected my beloved penis. I’m not sure anyone has used that phrase but, now I have! During my inspection, I had to gently run my fingers all down the shaft of his cock, tickle the head, and just touch it all, in general… to make sure there was no loss in sensation, of course! Hehe Then I made sure to stroke it and edge it to be sure everything was in working order… It was all clinical, I tell you! Necessary steps in the inspection process, haha. I did noticed some dry skin so I had to, of course, rub some lotion on it, too. I made sure to rub it in really good from balls to tip. Then I added some more just to make sure that it was fully moisturized. I loved hearing that it was all working fine. At least that’s my assumption from all the moaning noises coming from the blindfolded man.

What I did actually notice, on the underside of CM’s penis, were a few sore spots. It appears they are in spots where the penis folds on to itself. Or bunches up, might be a better way to explain it? Being on the underside, there isn’t really a way to straighten it out or anything so the skin can’t get air. I think, even though he was washing lots, that area just can’t be squished up like that long term. It’s where I have noticed the sore spots in the past, as well, which is why I did this inspection.

This doesn’t mean he won’t be wearing the Revenge. What it does mean, though, is that I’ve required him to take a small break and wear the JailBird today – with explicit instructions not to touch or look at his penis… He has no reason to anyway! Then once he’s had time to heal up those sore spots, he will go back in the Revenge. However, we will be having weekly inspections and thorough cleanings so that I can try to prevent this from happening and he can stay longer in the Revenge. If they still occur with the once out weekly, we will have to reconsider how the Revenge is used. This entire time, Cagedmonkey is not allowed to see or touch his penis. That is mine and only for me to touch or use. So that means he will be wearing the blackout goggles each time and possibly be restrained, depending on how much inspecting I plan to be doing that week. 🙂 Functionality is certainly super important!

Trade Off

Posted by JonMustWait on March 14, 2019
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The clock continues to tick, and it is now about two and half weeks since my cock was locked away in the Revenge.

Two and a half weeks since I’ve been allowed to have a full erection.

Two and a half weeks since my cock has felt anything other than steel.*

*Not counting the rough, clinical scrubbing during showers… and now even THAT gets me sexually aroused…

Two and a half weeks since I have even seen my penis.

Think about that and really process it for a second – it’s really hard to imagine that long of a time period without having any access at all to your main source of sexual pleasure. Two weeks doesn’t sound all that long when it’s just an idea; when you’re actually living through it, it feels like an eternity.

I started thinking this morning about which is is more valuable to me at the moment – being able to see my penis or having it touched. Obviously, I’m missing ML’s touch on my cock in a bad way… hell, I’m even missing my own, or even just the softness of my underwear! But, to be honest, I really do enjoy seeing my cock when it’s nice and hard. Yes, I have a big cock and yes I’m proud of it, and yes it’s REALLY nice to see it in action.

So, if I had the choice between the two, would I trade one for the other?

Conceptually, either way could work: ML could simply blindfold me when (if???) she lets me out of my cage, not allowing me to see my fully hard penis; or, she could allow me to see my penis but only while restrained, and use toys on me to tease and edge me without giving me skin-to-skin contact. It can be done, the question is which would I choose if given the opportunity…

It’s not an easy answer.

Being able to see my cock would be nice, but being teased with toys only would drive me crazy – after all, I would be denied feeling ML’s pussy for the duration of the game, which would be really tough to take. Not seeing my cock doesn’t preclude me from having sex with ML, but could also put me in some very strange-feeling situations – I can very easily see ML tweeting or posting pics of my cock being teased or toyed with in various ways, but not allowing me to sneak a peek at the pics. How humiliating would it be for all of our readers and followers to be able to see my cock and the things she does to it, meanwhile I’m the only one who can’t?

If forced to choose, I would probably end up giving up my right to see my cock – I don’t think I could handle not having the skin-to-skin connection with ML, it’s just too fucking good to give up.

And now, my mind immediately begins to wonder just how long I would be able to handle that type of situation…

ML and I have tried to go an entire year denying me orgasms, and fell a couple months short. Do I think I could go a year without seeing my cock at all? I don’t know, that is pretty extreme. But, I guess if it came down to it, I would have to. It’s not like it would cause any major physical or mental harm to me, which is usually my standard for safewording these days. I guess if ML were to decide to try this out, I would have no choice but to hang on for the ride as best as I could.

A New Frontier

Posted by JonMustWait on March 12, 2019
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This latest lockup stint in the Revenge is certainly bringing up some new things. First, I’m finding out that my penis really does enjoy the feel of at least anything besides steel on it (i.e. clothes, skin, even if I’m still locked in a chastity cage); and when I don’t have that softer touch, I start to lose my mind really quickly.

Second, I discovered, unfortunately, that I can make it through an exercise class while wearing the Revenge (I was really hoping for some sort of problem in order to have an excuse to be unlocked).

Now, it’s another new territory I’ll be stepping into: I have a doctor’s appointment on Thursday, and My Lady still had no intention of unlocking me.

In the past, ML has allowed me to take my cage off for doctor appointments and such in order to avoid any awkward moments (more for the doctor than for me, if anything). This time around, I’m meeting with a new doctor – she sees her already, but I haven’t switched over yet. Although she hasn’t mentioned anything about our kinky lifestyle, ML thinks she’s “cool” if it were to have to come up in discussion.

The good thing is that I doubt that I’ll be examined that closely at this appointment; I don’t think my cage will be discovered. But what if it does?

“Well,” ML answered when I asked her that very question, “you’ll have a little explaining to do, won’t you?”

Well, yeah, I guess I will!

Honestly, one of the reasons we’ve been looking for a new doctor is that we felt we needed to find a physician that was somewhat understanding to the things we do – not necessarily “kink friendly” but at least somebody we would feel comfortable sharing our lifestyle details due to health reasons. Both ML and I are getting up in years, and we want to stay healthy and horny for as long as possible.

But is this how I envisioned talking to my doctor about male chastity?

I Want To Be Unlocked… Right?

Posted by JonMustWait on March 9, 2019
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Coming up on almost two weeks straight locked in the Revenge, and I’m really getting agitated. I need to be unlocked soon, my cock is in bad need of ANY kind of attention.

But, on the other hand…

It’s weird. Part of me is SOOOO turned on by how ML has kept me locked for so long this time. Part of me actually is starting to like how it feels when my cock struggles against the steel of the Revenge. Part of me (dare I say it) wants ML to keep me locked even longer…..

What am I saying?!?

It feels like Stockholm Syndrome, in a way, where I’ve come to love the cage while still wanting out of it. It’s kind of stressing me out, because I really don’t know how to feel about what may happen:

– If ML keeps me in the Revenge, will I feel ignored and isolated?

– If ML lets me out, will I wish she would have pushed me further?

It’s at times like this that I need to remind myself that I’m the sub – I need to focus on what ML Lady wants and be satisfied by that. If she unlocks me, it’s good because she wants my penis out; if she keeps me in, it’s good because she wants to keep controlling my cock.

One thing I do realize is that if ML continues to keep me locked (which, I’ve come to realize writing this post, wouldn’t be that terrible of a thing), I am hoping that she realizes that I may come to need more sexual attention by other means. There aren’t many options for that with my cock locked away, but I will most likely need something to keep me from feeling ignored. Both of us have been very busy lately, which makes it difficult to make time for sex; but even if it’s just a few moments of me serving her sexual needs (or her teasing my non-locked body parts), it goes a long way towards knowing she still wants me in a sexual way even though my cock is not available.

No More Excuses

Posted by JonMustWait on March 5, 2019
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So I attended my exercise class tonight with the Revenge locked on….

So there goes my last excuse for being unlocked….

This is good, in a way. This way, ML won’t feel like she NEEDS to unlock me for any reason other than just wanting my cock out of the cage. Only her desire will get me out.

But this also sucks, because she seems perfectly content with keeping me in here at the moment for who knows how long. She is being sexually pleased by my tongue/hands/fingers… does she really need my cock right now? How long until she does?