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Jail Bird vs. Jail Bird

Posted by Michele on August 8, 2015
Posted in: Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 9 comments

I recently surprised cagedmonkey with a new Mature Metal Jail Bird. I called up and talked to Mistress MM and ordered a different version of the custom device we already have, with a few changes in size as well. I told her all about the surprise I had in mind for cagedmonkey she was extremely helpful in getting the device ordered without him knowing I’d even ordered it.

Way back in 2013 when we ordered our first Jail Bird, we’d ordered the device very similar to the Bird Cage we had been using. We ordered a 2 inch round base ring and a 4 inch long cage that was 1 1/2 inch in diameter. While those measurements worked just fine, after about a month or so we knew exactly what measurements needed some tweaking. That’s when we sent back the device to Mature Metal and William made some adjustments.

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Original Jail Bird BR: 1 7/8" ID: 1 1/2" Length: 3"


When we received the cage back it was all shiny and resized. It now had a 1 & 7/8 inch oval base ring and a 3 inch long cage with the same 1 1/2 inch diameter. That cage has fit perfectly for the past year and a half or so that cagedmonkey has been locked in it. There really is no need for a new cage other than I wanted to try a slightly new look.

When I ordered this new Jail Bird I really liked the idea of adding a ring to the actual cage part as well as making the whole device just a bit more snug. The added ring seems to make CM’s bits slightly less accessible as well as add a neat look to the cage. It still allows for wonderful hygiene though because it’s still a very open style cage. I also ordered him a double base ring with the hopes that it might help add some surface area and hold the cage a little more snug to cagedmonkey’s body.

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New Jail Bird DBR: 1 7/8" ID: 1 3/8" Length: 2 3/4"


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The new cage’s measurements are slightly smaller and tighter than our original but the double base ring is the same 1 7/8″ oval. The cage length is 2 3/4″ and the inside diameter is 1 3/8″. That extra ring on the cage really makes it look like a large difference in size but it’s really not.
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I really do like the look of the new cage when cagedmonkey wears it but alas the new sizing wasn’t exactly a good thing. The new length was probably not an issue at all but the diameter was just a bit too small and cagedmonkey was getting pinched because his skin was sticking out between the bars just enough. There is such a thing as a cage being a little too snug around the shaft. I hear people say all the time how “you really can’t go too short” and I’m not sure I believe that because you really do need a properly fitting device in length and diameter.
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While over all I do love the look of this cage, I want cagedmonkey to be comfortable in the cage he wears for me, or at least most of the time anyway. Granted, the cage can get a bit uncomfortable at times when I make it that way but in everyday wear I want it to be something he can wear all day everyday. It shouldn’t be pinching him or difficult to maneuver or need too much adjusting to use the bathroom. That is something I’ll let cagedmonkey tell you about here.

So what it comes down to is this; we will be selling this new Jail Bird and I will reorder another one exactly the same with the 1 1/2″ inside diameter. If you or anyone you know are looking for a nice Mature Metal device life this and you don’t want to wait on build time, please contact us!

The Cock Crush

Posted by JonMustWait on July 16, 2015
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It’s been over two weeks now of 24/7 lockup in the JB and I’m going through the usual “difficult feels” that hit me around this time. Not only does it get rough on me mentally at this point, but it’s no picnic physically either! My Lady has taken the opportunity of having my cock caged to tickle and tease it through the bars from time to time, and I can definitely feel the sensitivity to touch increasing. Sometimes, all it takes is a brush of her fingers before I feel myself start to swell inside the cage. And once that process statrs, it’s almost impossible to stop it.

This past weekend, I had a very painful bout of “morning wood,” as it were. ML and I were snuggling throughout the night, and I woke up extremely aroused. I’ve been getting this for the past week or so, so I wasn’t surpised by it happening. I was surprised by how much it hurt this time around. Over the past couple of years of living the chastity lifestyle, it was never this bad. It felt like the cage was crushing my cock, as well as tugging hard on my sack. It was rough, to put it lightly.

I did my best to relax myself by taking deep breaths, and I tried to help with my circulation by squeezing the muscles in my legs to increase the blood flow to those areas… yes, I’m a big nerd for knowing these types of things work; yes, they usually do work pretty well. But this night, my stubborn cock was having none of it. It was almost as if I was stuck in a self-perpetuating circle: the tightness of the cage around my cock was giving me the sensation of being squeezed, which of course is usually a good thing when taking into account how tight my wife’s pussy gets when she’s horny and wants to be fucked. This squeezing sensation gets my cock throbbing and swelling even more, pressing harder against the cage. This makes the cage feel even tighter, which starts the cycle all over again.

Basically, once it gets to this point, I’m fucked unless I can somehow break the cycle.

I ended up laying in bed, curled in a pained half-ball, surfing the internet on my phone because I had nothing else to distract me. After about ten minutes of reading boring news stories and sports updates, I finally felt the death grip of the cage on my cock begin to loosen just the slightest bit; it was another fifteen minutes until I was finally comfortable enough to try sleeping again. I turned my phone off, rolled over, and tried to get back to sleep. It was much easier without the crushing pressure on my poor locked up cock, however now I had to deal with the issue of my cock gushing precum all over the bedsheets. Although, after being denied for months on end in the past, this is a situation that I’ve become very familiar with.

It’s funny to think about how much my life has changed with chastity, considering now that sleeping in a bed soaked with precum is the least of my problems.

Random Acts of Orgasm

Posted by JonMustWait on July 3, 2015
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Wednesday afternoon, I was taking a nap in the bedroom, attempting to recover from driving home overnight. ML had slept a little bit when we first got home, so she was on kid duty while I got my sleep in.

That was the plan, until the kids asked if they could play video games, which allowed ML to sneak away to the bedroom for a few moments. 🙂

ML woke me up with a pair of big giant titties in my face. I greedily sucked on her nipples as she grinded her pussy against my hardening cock. A moment later, I was sliding into her wet pussy with ease.

ML slid herself up and down on my body, taking my cock deep inside her with each thrust. As usual, it didn’t take long for me to start getting close to cumming. As usual, I let ML know I was close. Not as usual, ML didn’t slow down; she continued thrusting up against me, and I felt my orgasm approaching very quickly.

I felt ML’s body tense up from her orgasm about one stroke before I reached mine. She continued riding me as we both came, fighting to keep our moans of pleasure as quiet as possible to avoid alerting the children of their parents getting it on in the next room. ML continued to work her cum-filled pussy on my cock to a second, even more intense orgasm. I’m sure she would have screamed if she weren’t holding herself back.

Damn, it was nice to just cum inside her like that. I’m going to have to savor it, since it seems that I will be denied for quite a while this time around. My Lady has already said that she wishes to go for a full month before she even unlocks me, so it’ll be at least that long before my next orgasm. I have considered the possibility that I have already had my last orgasm of 2015. It’s all up to My Lady and her desires.

Mail Chastity: One Device (A Follow Up)

Posted by JonMustWait on June 21, 2015
Posted in: Advice, Mail Chastity, Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . 3 comments

A reader named “The Half Heard” wrote the following comment on the last Mail Chastity post:

With the security screw, do you ever experience it making it’s way loose on it’s own? I have that issue occasionally with the Jail Bird and the solution I found was I took the locking screw into the local hardware store, and found I think a 5/32 nut that fit on it nicely. Something along that size anyway!

Now that’s ingenuity for ya! 🙂

To answer your question… yes, the security screw on the JB does come loose. In fact, I know exactly what to do in order to make it finger-loosenable (I won’t describe it here, however, in order to avoid spreading “chastity cheating” tips). In all honesty, it comes in handy when ML wants a quickie with her toy: she sends me off to the bedroom and tells me to unlock and get hard for her so she can ride me. There’s no fumbling for a key, no wasted time, no awkward moments. It also helps when I’m too aroused to get the cage back on before I have to leave for work: I just take the cage to work and put it on during my first bathroom break (and text a pic to My Lady for her pleasure).

Now, some people might start crowing, “That’s not real chastity if you can just loosen the screw and unlock any time you want!” That’s only true if you’re considering “real chastity” as a physical entity only. I feel the mental aspect of it is just as important, perhaps even more so. Even if the post of the JB was welded to the cage, I could still pull out of the device and jack off. I wear this cock cage because it pass My Lady and I crave being under her sexual control, and that’s all that really matters.

With that said… THH has a great idea with the addition of a nut to the security screw (I can’t help but chuckle when I think about the “addition of a nut” to the chastity device). I just wonder if there would be enough counter-torque in order to disengage the screw from the nut. Maybe you’ll need a miniature wrench? Not sure. But, definitely great thinking outside the box!

It’s My Own Fault – A Monkey Out of the Cage

Posted by Michele on April 13, 2015
Posted in: Male Chastity, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , . 3 comments

Today has been an awfully crazy day. I had a lot of phone calls to make to the health insurance company, the HR department at cagedmonkey’s work, the surgeons office and on and on. I’ve only got a few days left to try to get all of the disability and insurance stuff worked out for cagedmonkey’s surgery. Wee certainly want to be able to pay the bills and eat food while he’s out of work for a month. He will be going in on Thursday to have surgery to repair his elbow tendon. They will be cutting off the bad end of the tendon and reattaching it.

Anyway, that means I had to get him to get bloodwork done today too and take him to the eye doctor to get a new pair of contact lenses. We basically were running all day today so hubby got no actual sleep during the day. He did still have to get to work tonight so when we got home this evening I instructed him to take a nap on the couch. I hung out with the kids and got them all through their bedtime routine and tucked in bed. I decided I’d leave him there to sleep until 9pm so he got a good few hours to sleep before work.

When I finally did wake him (after 9!) we had some things to take care of, waking him up, dressed and getting him set for work. Well, I forgot to get his dinner ready so I started to rush around doing that and totally forgot that I had him uncaged last night for some teasing. (I do hope we write about that, it was incredibly hot!) So, as we are getting him out the door we’re like “Shit! Get the cage and put it on at work.” So I rush and throw the cage in a bag and dump it in his dinner bag.

Well he got to work and went to cage up and texts me to ask where the screw was. Ugh… FUCK! It’s here, with me! It’s my own fault for not waking him up sooner, for not having things ready in advance and for not making him cage before his nap. I know he’s nervous that I’m going to be upset and worried that he’s not caged. I’m actually not too worried, to be honest. I know he’s my good boy. I know he doesn’t want to fuck up what we have. I know he enjoys this as much as I do and he knows if he does cheat or touch my property without permission, that we won’t do this anymore. It’s no fun for me to deal with disobedience and if he doesn’t follow rules, I won’t bother having this kind of fun with him.

It’s my own fault I have a cage free monkey but I do know he’s a good monkey and he’ll behave himself.

A Fun Teasing Morning Used as a Sex Toy

Posted by Michele on March 19, 2015
Posted in: KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , . 3 comments

Yesterday, when cagedmonkey got home from work, I had him take off his cage before bed. He’s so sensitive after about 7 weeks of denial and even the blankets were teasing him. I had him sleep without his Jail Bird so I could have access to him at any time. I certainly took advantage of that while he was trying to sleep. I did make it quite difficult for him.

Every so often I would go visit him in the bedroom and he’d get woken up by me stroking his cock. He sleeps with a sleep mask on because it’s too bright in our room so it’s a bonus he’s basically blindfolded. I would stroke him nice and hard and then walk out. One time I stroked him to just before the edge, I gave him a hard squeeze around his shaft and licked him right across his lips. I didn’t say a word and just walked out. I could hear him moaning and cursing as I was leaving.

I did that a few more times through the day and when it was time to wake up, I got completely naked and woke him up by climbing on the bed and straddling him. I pressed my naked body against his, our warm skin touching on every possible part. I felt his cock hardening beneath me. I smiled at him an awfully devious smirk and said “ooo little man is ready to wake up.” Cagedmonkey was no where near awake so he could only sputter out moans and groans as I slowly slid my nipples up and down his chest.

I lifted my hips and slid him inside me, filling me up so full. I just love the feeling of his big cock filling my pussy, stretching it so perfectly. It’s a feeling I can not get enough of sometimes. I used him like a ride-on sex toy, sliding myself up and down his shaft getting his cock all sloppy and creamy. When I was finished with him, I climbed off of him, grabbed my clothes and as I started to get dressed I simply said, “time to wake up!”

Frenzy

Posted by JonMustWait on February 22, 2015
Posted in: Male Chastity, Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 4 comments

(The events in this post occurred on Friday night; I’m late writing this post mainly because I’ve been dodging sick family germs for the past two days.)

I never really expected orgasm denial to get “easier” with each successive denial period, but I’ve found that it certainly is the case. It’s been almost a month since my last orgasm and it feels like the time has flown by.

Up until now.

Perhaps it has been the lack of available play time together, but I hadn’t really felt the growing need of my horny before Friday night. My Lady and I finally had some alone time as well as the energy to put that time to good use.

We started our night by watching a couple of episodes of The Americans on Amazon Prime – I highly recommend it, it’s a great show. But I digress… we sat with each other, cuddling and touching and feeling very lovey towards each other. After the show, I really wanted to make love to my wife, even though my cage was still on. As I told her, “I can make love to you without my cock, you know.” I kissed her body everywhere, licking and caressing her stomach all the way up to the sensitive skin on her neck. She was moaning and whimpering the way she does when she is experiencing intense emotions connected to our sex play. I love hearing that, because I know I’m doing something good. 🙂

I moved up her body and began kissing her as I ground my hips between her legs. I could feel her body responding to me, pushing up against me, the energy flowing between us. We locked eyes as the energy peaked and something amazing happened – ML had a strong orgasm right as our lips met. I looked into her eyes and kissed her deeply as she came, her body shuddering underneath mine on the couch.

It felt wonderful to make love to her like that. I felt so close to her. It was a wonderful tender moment between the two of us.

Then, the hungry animal inside My Lady took over, and she pushed my down to the floor and straddled my head. She shoved her warm wetness all over my face, soaking me in her delicious juices. I dutifully stuck my tongue out and she immediately began fucking herself with it. Her clit rubbed against my nose as I tongue fucked her, and I felt her pussy pulse as she came again on my face. I couldn’t hear much as her thighs were squeezing my ears tight, but I could feel the waves of pleasure throughout her entire body.

ML lifted her hips and allowed me to slide out from underneath her. I turned around and looked at her, and that feeling hit me: the feeling of furious hunger. I looked at her, on all fours, resting her head on her hands after an amazing orgasm, her beautiful ass and delicious pussy spread wide due to her relaxed posture. I wanted to take her. I needed to fuck her. It wasn’t a choice; I couldn’t resist. The only thing holding me back was the steel cage that was still locked on my cock.

So I did the next best thing to slamming my cock in her pussy and fucking her as hard as I could – I did it with my fingers instead. I shoved two fingers into her pussy, and she gasped in surprise pleasure. She began to moan again and pushed her hips back into me. Her body shook with pleasure again, and again I was overcome by an urge I couldn’t resist. Her twitching asshole just looked so goddamn sexy, I shoved my tongue as deep as I could while I fingerfucked her harder and deeper. ML moaned even louder as I attacked both of her holes in a sexual frenzy.

It only took her a few minutes to come again, this time she was unable to hold back her screams as her pussy gushed all over my hand and dripped down to the floor below. She was completely spent, as was I. The only difference was that I had to get up and go to work while she was able to lounge on the couch and enjoy her post-orgasm haze.

Since that night, I’ve felt the level of my horniness increase. When the sexual frenzy inside me flares up, it’s difficult to put out the fire. It’s especially difficult when I’ve been denied for a while. It’s almost impossible when ML is deliberately trying to make those flare ups happen. But to be honest, I love how it feels to need her that badly. I love the hunger that comes with needing her that much, feeding off of her sexual pleasure, and wanting nothing more than to give her that pleasure. It drives me insane, and I love it.

Keeping It Real

Posted by Michele on February 17, 2015
Posted in: Male Chastity. Tagged: , , . 3 comments

In the past few days (and since starting or blog) we’ve often gotten wonderful comments about the realness of our blog. It’s comments like these that I love.

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Way back when we started this blog we said it would always be real (unless we’re writing about fantasies!). We wanted to document our journey as a married couple with young children. We promised to never embellish and always share the truth. I just love that people see that and appreciate it! It really just makes me smile so big! 🙂

Thank you for taking the time to read our journey, the good and the bad. We love sharing this with you!

Mail Chastity – Wanting to Learn About Male Chastity

Posted by Michele on February 11, 2015
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The other day we were contacted by a gentleman very interested in male chastity. He had lots of great questions and I thought I would take some of them and answer them here! I know he has plenty more and perhaps there will be more Mail Chastity soon with those. Feel free to send us any questions you may have about chastity in general or about us personally. We do love sharing with you all.

BatBoy5 asks:

Do you have a preferred device?

Lady M: As a matter of fact, yes I do. My preference for everyday and long term use is our custom Mature Metal Jail Bird device. If I want to change things up short term we have the Steelworxx Revenge which is a more enclosed steel device. This creates a different sensation for cagedmonkey because it takes away his ability to see his penis as well as some of the feeling that he is able to have in the more open Jail Bird.

Plastic, metal, or silicone?

Lady M: At first I never thought I would like steel so we went with a silicone device CB style device. I never did get to plastic because it just seemed like it would be uncomfortable for cagedmonkey. After seeing what happened with the silicone device it just seemed like a plastic device would break at the pressure of his erection. So as I said we got the silicone and it didn’t even kind of fit. lol Hubby was way too big to fit in those types of devices. He was simply too long and too big around, even, flaccid, to squeeze in. So we ultimately went to steel and I’ll never go back, it’s beautiful, sexy, sleek and much better for the way we do chastity.

Do you build up from short term to long term to “permanent”?

Lady M: I think what you’re asking is did we jump right in to wearing the device all day, every day, right? And, that’s not really possible. You have to start slower with a device, check the fit, make sure there are no issues, and your body needs to get used to having something locked on it lol. There is a learning curve and it does take some building up in the beginning. For us, it only took a few days before hubby was wearing it for hours and full days.

Is there any such thing as permanent chastity?

Lady M: Sure there is, with the right device, fitted properly, a guy could wear one permanently and never have sex or orgasm again. 🙂

Do You find that chastity leads to other areas where you assume control of a boy’s life?

Lady M: I don’t think it has to at all. It certainly can and for us, our FLR/WLM (Female led relationship/Wife Led Marriage) is actually what led to chastity in a way. I’m already in control of everything and hubby asked me to be in control of his sexual pleasure as well. It just worked that way for us.

Do You ever use chastity devices that incorporate piercings or urethral inserts?

Lady M: We do not, I’m not into genital piercings on my own boy (they are very sexy on other people!) or urethral inserts (hubby’s anatomy won’t work with those anyway). I do know plenty of others who do use those types of devices and do actually enjoy Sounding. One of my other boys is actually into that and will play with it on his own.

I hope this helps answer your questions, thank you again for writing and asking. I look forward to hearing from anyone who has any questions. If you’d like to ask cagedmonkey anything in particular just let us know!

Don’t Want to Waste the Precious Time We Have Together

Posted by Michele on February 6, 2015
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Tonight the kids will be going back to their Friday night activity. It’s a social skills group for kids with Autism (and their siblings) that usually happens once or twice a month. That means hubby and I get about one and a half hours of uninterrupted Date Night. These date nights can range anywhere from a nice night out at a restaurant for dinner to a quick movie at home together and sometimes, like tonight, it can be an intense D/s or tease session depending on how we are feeling. Actually depending on how I’m feeling since, sexually, I control it all. 🙂

I can honestly say I don’t have specific plans for tonight but when hubby asked if he should plan to make dinner I told him no. I said I was in desperate need to dominate him and I needed an intense D/s session. I told him with the very limited amount of time we have I did not want to waste it eating dinner. LoL

I’m already in a very powerful mood this morning. He got home from work and I went in to tuck him into bed. That turned into a half an hour of pretty intense teasing and me getting very aggressive with him. At first I laid with him and was trailing my fingers up and down his naked body. Running them all around his cage but ignoring the locked cock within. I gently dragged my fingers along his stomach and chest, across his nipples and up over his shoulders. I traced all the gorgeous lines of his body and loved hearing him gasp and quietly moan as he got more and more aroused. I could feel the skin get tighter as he swelled in his cage.

I was getting more and more turned on, I could feel my pussy getting wetter and warmer, quivering in my panties. As I was teasing and tickling cagedmonkey, I felt this wonderful surge., a powerful, aggressive feeling came over me. I pinched and pulled his nipples just to hear him moan. I crave hearing his reaction to my touch. I made him moan into my ear, made him whimper and I could feel his breath. It made me extremely horny and I could feel my need to orgasm, simply from his reactions to my touch. It is nothing short of amazing that I feel this with him.

I continued teasing, tickling, pinching and pulling, filling my desire for his reaction. I kept doing it until I pushed myself to the edge of orgasm. Right at the peak I climbed on top of him and rubbed my panty covered pussy on his cock straining in his Jail Bird. I pushed myself over as I humped his body through my orgasm. Fuck, it was fantastic to feel those powerful, “I’ll use you and take what I want from you” feelings again.

As I mentioned, I’m not sure what tonight will bring but I have thought about wearing my new strap on harness. I’ve thought about bending him over and forcing him to be mine. But… who knows, we’ll just have to see what happens tonight! I do know that today, all day, is going to be one hell of a prolonged tease session. I have no plans of letting him get uninterrupted sleep today, he’ll just have to deal with it. 🙂