orgasm denial

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Today, for some odd reason, out of no where I was having a bit of “drop.” I was feeling off and emotional and REALLY missing cagedmonkey while he was at work. I could feel my thoughts race, it felt like a roller coaster. I even caught myself wondering if I should just make him cum and forget this whole denial thing. I missed him so much today that my mind was racing through ways I could feel him… Making him cum is a huge way to feel him and connect with him. It’s been 173 days since he’s had an orgasm… He’s not quite half way there yet.

I don’t really want him to cum and I’m feeling much better this evening but this whole thing isn’t that easy on a wife who happens to be a keyholder to her one and only love. Who she happens to REALLY, REALLY like sex with! Haha I really am living how incredibly horny cagedmonkey is, how badly he wants to cum when he’s being teased and edged. I will say that I don’t feel there is much difference between how horny he gets at 3 or 4 months to how horny he is now… Just sayin’

It might be time to do some extended lock up. Perhaps some No look, No touch? What do you think?

As much as I would love to, I couldn’t possibly write about every time I tease cagedmonkey or every little thing we do. If I did I would have so many little micro posts on this blog haha. That’s one reason I like having Twitter, because we get to tweet out those sexy little tid bits!

So, I’m not going to get into the difficulties, again, about staying in someone else’s house and trying to be invisible so you don’t disrupt their life too much – I’m sure some of you get it. I do want to stress that, even in this situation, tease and a sense of control for both us, it’s still extremely important. We don’t have much opportunity but I try to find those little amounts that we do have and sneak in a tease here or there. Sometimes I send him up to play video games alone and keep the kids busy on a project just so I can do things like this – to remind him who’s in control. It also drives home the incredible horniness he has from being teased and denied for a almost 150 days!
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Ladies ask me all the time about how I keep him teased and what can they do so that their guy isn’t just locked up and forgotten about – because that’s the worst thing that could happen. Honestly, Ladies and gents, it’s the little things that keep it going and keep it fun. Just like it’s the little things in marriage, and we work everyday to keep that going… Having a guy in chastity or just controlling his orgasm without a cage is still work but it’s the fun kind of work! 🙂

I was talking to a friend about this stuff this morning too. He only wishes I had him locked in a cage, teased and denied for 150 days haha. But we talked about some of those little things and how they are needed to keep things going good! Even a quick grab of the cage and balls is a helpful reminder of who they belong to! 🙂
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Although I’m craving a good bondage and torture session (that’s for another post lol) these little reminders I give him help remind me that he is mine. He wears that cage for me, he submits to me because he is a strong man who loves me and trusts me. I feel like I am the lucky one to have such an amazing submissive man as my hubby who gives me his everything if, when and how I ask.

The other evening before bed, cagedmonkey and I snuck in a little play time. I stroked him and teased him and edged his cock. I love seeing that anguish on his face, that deep need for release as I stroke his cock closer and closer, only to stop and leave him unfulfilled.

I know he misses having an orgasm and I know he is extremely horny after over 4 months of denial. I felt so bad and awfully devious the other night that I decided to let him get himself good and hard and stroke his cock. I even let him stroke to an orgasm… Unfortunately, it wasn’t HIS orgasm he was stroking to. I allowed him to stroke his cock, while I looked right into his eyes and masturbated myself to an awesome orgasm.

I forced him to continue looking at me the whole time and he was not allowed to stop stroking until I was finished and satisfied. In other words, I came three times while I forced him to keeping stroking and watching me cum, over and over.

I know he slept well that night!

It’s now been over 3 months since cagedmonkey has been denied. I’ve had so much fun teasing him, edging him and using him for my pleasure. For the last month, maybe, I’ve gotten so much enjoyment out of edging him first thing in the morning. It used to be that it took him a bit to get going first thing in the morning and that was always the time we could have longer sex. It used to be that he couldn’t cum right away in the mornings… Well… I get him right to the edge and on the verge of a ruined orgasm almost every morning now… In a matter of a minute. Probably not even a full minute sometimes, seconds!

I seriously enjoy hearing the torment in his moans and the begging under his breath. It really turns me and I even get to the point of giggling. Sometimes I giggle so hard and even bust out laughing because I’m seriously loving how much I am controlling him. Right then in that moment, he is putty in my hands. I can make him what I want him to be. I love it so much!!!!

When I’m not using his cock and teasing and edging him, I leave him caged. That doesn’t mean I’m not teasing him at all while caged, I’m just doing it in a much different way. He usually ends up with a pretty big “rooty” after I’ve had time driving him crazy, taking his cage in my pussy and cumming all over it while he desperately wants to feel my pussy squeezing his cock and all he feels is the hard steel bars of his Jail Bird.

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Look how his big cock pushes so hard against that cage, pulling it away from his body, yanking on his horny aching balls! I’m smiling right now just thinking about it!

Cagedmonkey and I were talking this morning and I realized I was so, so happy and a bit turned on hearing about how horny he was. He was telling me about how my using him for sex last night and cumming so hard on him was frustrating for him. That it was driving him absolutely crazy to feel my pussy, only to be locked right back up afterwards. Feeling me one minute and then continuing to be teased and feeling the steel the next was driving him into a deeper hornier state. If you’ve read and know anything about me at all, it’s that I love being a cocktease. Knowing that he’s getting increasingly horny because of me is such a turn on for me.

I’ll admit, this morning, there was a bit of relief as he was telling me about the state of his horniness. After almost two and a half months of a year long orgasm denial stint there is a little worry that things will get stagnant, that they will just become the norm and that his horny wouldn’t continue to grow. So far, it seems that is not happening! We must be doing something right, changing things up just enough that we don’t get that feeling of it being normal.

I think it comes down to not being locked 24/7 and me using him when I want, yet keeping him locked when not in use. However, also taking the time to take him out and even if I’m not having sex with him, teasing him and edging him often and then again… locking him up. I think making him service me much more is also a huge boost in keeping the horny on the rise.

There is no way any of this would be fun or exciting if I left him locked up and denied for an entire year. It’s so much more fun and gets me going, knowing that what we are doing is actually increasing how horny he is.

Joey, one of our readers, wrote to us the following:

Mr monkey, 
I’m just curious what’s the longest mrs monkey has ever kept you locked up in chastity?

First of all, there’s no need for formalities. 🙂

I’m guessing that by the “longest” I’ve been locked up, you mean the longest 24/7 chastity term I’ve gone through without being released.

The longest ML has kept me constantly locked was a little over three weeks – to be honest, I’m not sure of the exact amount of days because we’ve done it a few times already. Each of the last two times, we’ve set out aiming for a month but we never quite make it that long. ML just can’t go on that long without my cock 😉

Joey also asks:

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ow exactly does blue balls feel to you and do you ever get them?

After two months of not cumming, of course I get them!

The good thing is that it’s not a constant feeling that I deal with all day long. I really only feel it when I’m sexually aroused – which is to say that I feel it whenever My Lady is near me. 🙂 It’s not the painful agony that most guys expect or imagine; I would describe it more as an ache, kind of how a minor muscle bruise would feel. And much like a bruise, the ache gets deeper the more you pay attention to it – that’s one of the reasons ML takes every opportunity to remind me of my situation.

Thanks for the questions, Joey!

The other day I had an amazing amount of fun teasing hubby while I was out. He happened to have one of those rare days off during the week – and the kids finally were at school all day – but I had an appointment to get myself all prettied up and get my hair done. Hubby, rarely, if ever, gets time in the house alone so this whole day worked out pretty well. Usually when he has a day off and the kids aren’t home we scramble to get in whatever playtime we can together. This time, though, rather than breaking out the bondage toys and all that we just both enjoyed a day without kids. He got to hang out for a couple of hours at home relaxing and playing some video games (the kind you can’t play in front of the kids) and I went to my hair appointment.

Don’t think, for a second, that I left him home all denied and crazy to fend for himself. He had tasks to do for me. The first thing he did before he even got out of bed that morning was use my wand to bring himself to the edge while in his cage. Just before it was time for me to head out, I had him go plug his sexy little ass with the njoy plug and take off his cage. While I was gone he had other instructions to follow.

I sat there in the salon chair with my stylist behind me, every 20 mins looking at my phone waiting for the pictures to come through, hoping she didn’t see pictures of rock hard, horny cock in my text messages. While I was gone, cagedmonkey was to stroke himself and edge himself, holding out the edge for 1 full minute. Each time he did this (every 20 mins) he was to send me pic and video proof and no two pictures could look the same. Once in awhile I would give him further instructions, things like doing it while standing and facing the window or I would describe a fantastic scene where he was doing me from behind, bouncing against my nice soft round ass, telling him he’d love to pull out and feel and see his hot cum shooting all over it.

You know, stuff like that! 🙂 This continued for the entire almost 4 hours I was gone and just before the end of it he was begging me to stop stroking his cock. I find that adorable and it makes me giggle to think of all those times he’s begging to be touched while locked in the cage that I brought him to the other extreme of being to STOP touching!

As you may or may not have noticed – awww, who am I kidding, just about all of you readers check out our blog hoping to see ML’s tits – I haven’t been posting a lot over the past few weeks. This is mainly because work has been very busy prepping for an important inspection over the last month or so. Although ML has certainly kept me occupied with her incessant teasing, as well as denying me any orgasms for over a month now, I haven’t been able to focus all that much on writing.

The good news is that the inspection has come and gone! Work will still end up being a little busy, but at least I won’t be so freaking stressed out any more. Well… at least not over  work. The stress of going months and months without an orgasm while being teased daily by My Lady will (hopefully) continue.

I know I’ve written about this before but I absolutely love when I send cagedmonkey off to work in a horny tizzy! My darling subby hubby has now been denied any orgasm for over a month now. Not that he hasn’t gone a month before and longer but I think this is the first time he’s gone this long and been teased THIS much! I knew going into this year long denial that there was no way we’d be able to keep him locked up for long periods straight. Really we don’t even make it a week at this point with CM being our son’s basketball coach. I allow him to unlock twice a week for the games since he’s running back and forth on the court with the kids.

What that means is… At least twice a week I leave him unlocked and we go to bed that way and he gets a good intense teasing and edging and then usually he gets the same in the morning before putting the cage back on. Then on the days he is caged he is still pleasing my pussy and getting teased while locked in the cage. It just seems this month, he’s been out quite often and getting teased quite a bit.

So I love mornings like this one, where he is so incredibly horny he can’t help but please me the minute he wakes up. Face in my pussy, licking away, slurping up my juices, tonguing my asshole on his knees in the kitchen… Really it’s just awesome and then he goes off to work, smelling my scent on his hands and face and tasting me on his tongue. I absolutely love that I stick around with him for the morning part of his day and continue to drive him crazy even when I’m not with him.

This past weekend was quite an intense experience. ML and I both agreed that we were craving some D/s play time, so we decided to turn my three day weekend into a “full submission” weekend. I will admit that the concept of multi-day play was more difficult than I expected – the degree of my submission seemed to wane slightly as the weekend went on, however I do feel that having the kids around the house contributed to this also.

Friday started off pretty much as you’d expect from reading ML’s rules – I spent a few minutes pleasing My Lady’s pussy with my tongue before it was time to get up and get the kids ready for school. My cock was aching in its cage as she softly moaned, obviously in no immediate hurry. She didn’t even demand and orgasm from me… sometimes that’s even more frustrating for me: the fact that she can cum anytime she wants, but sometimes chooses not to (meanwhile, I’m desperate to cum, but have no choice but not to).

When it was time for me to wake up – or, should I say, when My Lady allowed me to get out of bed – I was immediately started on my water-drinking program. ML instructed me to drink two large cups of water with breakfast (quickly reaching half of my minimum quota in only one meal), and to follow that with a cup of coffee. I could already see that she had plans to test the limits of my bladder, and that those limits would be tested very quickly.

I finished my drinks as ML did homeschool work with our daughter. As I sat watching TV, I received a text message from none other than ML:

Go in the bathroom right now and unlock yourself, stroke that big thick cock of mine to three edges. Then come out and drink another cup of water.

I was happy to be unlocked, but I was also extremely frustrated after the three edges. The worst thing, though, was standing in the bathroom and feeling the urge to pee starting to build, yet not being able to relieve myself. By the time I finished my third cup of water, I could feel the need to go getting even stronger.

I snuck at text message to ML, asking if her “subby hubby” could use the rest room, and got the following response:

You can go when I get back.

Before I was able to ask, ML called to me from the other room and said that she was going out to run some errands with our daughter. “How long will you be gone?” I asked.

“I’m not sure,” she replied with a wicked smile. I squirmed on the couch just a bit, and she chuckled. She leaned down to give me a kiss, and whispered in my ear, “I want you to edge that cock every fifteen minutes while I’m gone.” Then she reached down and gave my hardening cock a squeeze before she was off and out the door.

It didn’t take me long to go from handing it ok to being somewhat uncomfortable with the need to go pee. The combination of a full bladder and the repeated edging were taking its toll on my ability to manage my “needs.” About 45 minutes after ML left, I got another text from her:

I hope you are still drinking your water. I’d hate to come home and find out you weren’t following my instructions. 🙂

Her command was clear. Her intentions, not so much. Did she want me to have to piss in my pants? To have to sit in it and wait for her to come home so I could clean myself and properly relieve myself? I wasn’t sure I wanted to know the answer, so instead I asked how long it would be until she got back.

I got no response.

So I sat there – slowly progressing towards agony as my bladder screamed for relief, continuing to make the problem worse by drinking more water, and increasing the building pressure with repeated edges… and it was all because it was exactly what My Lady wanted from me. I waited another hour, checking the driveway, waiting for her to come home. I could think of nothing else but when would she get home. I’m sure this is precisely what she wanted me to be thinking.

Just as I was about to give up on holding it in, ML ‘s car pulled into the driveway. I was so happy to see her so I could use the bathroom. Of course, she took her sweet time exiting the car and walking up to the house, pushing me just a little farther. When she came in the house, I begged her to use the restroom. Mercifully, she allowed me to. It was such a relief to be able to pee after needing to go so badly for so long.

A knock on the door broke me out of my “ahhhhhhhh” moment. My Lady called to me through the door. “Three more edges before you come out, darling,” she said, “and plug your ass, as well… if you are a good boy, I might let you take it out before bed.”

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