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Things are in an interesting place in the MinaC household. On the one hand, both ML and I are anticipating another try for a full year of orgasm denial – while I know I will eventually be horribly desperate to cum by the end of it, we both miss the intensity and the crazy horniness that it brings to both of us. My Lady is particularly excited about incorporating more ruined orgasms into the mix, which will hopefully somewhat fulfill her desire to see me cum without giving me the pleasure of a full orgasm. It’ll also most likely drive my frustration even stronger (another positive in ML’s eyes).

On the other hand, certain “situations” have developed that have put some limits on my ability to wear my chastity cage, specifically overnight. I’ve been experiencing some pretty severe back pain over the past few months, which was confirmed as a herniated disc by MRI.

Wearing the cage at night often leads to middle-of-the-night erections that cause such bad pain that I can’t sleep. Now, before y’all start in with the “OMG chastity caused your herniated disc!” BS —

— I’m almost 100% sure I injured it during our recent move. Just because it hurts now because of it, doesn’t mean it originally caused it. If you break your ankle skiing, it’s gonna hurt if you walk on it; you didn’t break your ankle by walking on it.

It’s kind of a bummer to not be able to wear the cage indefinitely at this time; I feel like I’m taking away ML’s choice in how long I wear the cage (to be fair, it was ML’s decision to allow me to sleep cageless for now). I would really like to wear the cage for days or even weeks at a time if she desires – my desperation for just a simple erection can get very intense – but it’s just not doable right now.

The weird thing is that when I get sexually aroused in the cage, it doesn’t lead to the pain that the mid-sleep ones do. It’s almost as if it’s a different type of erection that occurs. This is good – at least My Lady gets to see my cock struggling in its cage while she teases me. That’s one of her favorite things about keeping me in chastity!

So, depending on how we decide to address my back pain issue (surgery is a definite possibility in the near future), things may get better quickly or maybe not-so-quickly. I’m just hoping for some improvement in the future. I want ML to be able to keep me in the cage for as long as she wants, not as long as I can manage.

Hi everybody!

We’ve been slacking a bit on the posts lately because we’ve been so busy here and there; we also took a little road trip last weekend and also took the time to visit some friends, which ended up being a very fun time! I’m sure you’ll be “hearing” about it pretty soon!

With that said, many people have been asking us how things are going since starting the longer lockup and even lengthier denial. Well, I think it’s not a big surprise that I’m horny as fuck at the moment. 🙂

The longer lockup didn’t go as long as My Lady had planned for it to go – she was initially looking for at least a month, but it was only a little more than two weeks before she let me out for sex. I know, it’s such a pain that she wants my cock inside her so badly, ammirite? My Lady was feeling a little down about the whole thing, thinking that she let me down in some way, but I was MORE than happy to get my cock in her pussy. 🙂 Seriously, I don’t get “disappointed” by things like that anymore, mainly because I don’t set expectations that I feel NEED to be filled, or else it won’t live up to my fantasy… I mean, I’m basically living a fantasy as is, why would I need anything more than what I already have? As long as ML is happy with what transpires, then that is all that I want.

As far as orgasms go: I still haven’t cum since my birthday, after a weekend where I had more orgasms than I’ve had over the past 3 years combined at least. ML was trying to make me cum so much to the point where I wanted to stop, but I think she underestimated what these last 5 years have done to me! I’m not sure how many times I came (maybe somewhere in the teens, perhaps?), but after so many years of extreme denial I felt like I could definitely do more. It might take 20 or 30 before I feel sufficiently caught up. 🙂

Orgasm denial has never been a major problem for ML to deal with, at least during the first handful of months; we got through six months pretty easily during our last long run…or, maybe I should say she got through easily, I was out of my mind desperate to cum after two. This time around, we are taking a “let’s see what happens” approach to it all: ML wants to go at least six months, then who knows? Going for a full year or orgasm denial would be an amazing milestone, but if it doesn’t happen, then no biggie. And, on the flip side, if she feels like she wants to go more than a year…. um, well, that would be a big biggie for me, but I guess I would have to go along with it.

Today makes a total of five weeks that I have worn my chastity cage nonstop, 24/7. Five long weeks of not being able to fully get hard or erect, instead pushing and bulging against the steel in futile attempts at full arousal. I’m not going to break that down into days or hours or anything like that, because “five weeks” should illustrate how long it’s been without having to go deeper into it.

Seriously, though…. FIVE WEEKS! Most guys find it difficult to go one week without even jerking off, and I haven’t even been able to get my dick hard for five times that! It really seems almost ridiculous when I say it out loud.

Before this, my longest time of wearing the Jailbird 24/7 was a little bit over three weeks, and I remember feeling my skin on my cock stretch out for the first time… it almost hurt, it had been so long. This time around, I’m almost doubling the amount of time between erections… how much more is this going to hurt when I finally get fully hard?

Five fucking weeks… actually, I should say five “no-fucking” weeks, because that’s what it’s been. Five weeks since I’ve been able to feel My Lady’s pussy on my cock, her mouth or hands on me stroking me up and down… it’s been waaaaaay too long now. Not for her, of course; she’s been getting all of the sex she wants. Whether it’s my tongue, my fingers, or one of our toys when she really needs her pussy filled… she is having all of her needs attended to, while I get more and more desperate every day.

I don’t know if it’s just me noticing it more or if it’s true, but our Twitter timeline seems to be filled with pics and videos of couples fucking. Every day I’m bombarded by images of hard cocks thrusting deep into wet pussies, and all I wish for is being able to see my own do the same with My Lady. I will admit that part of me finds the “pseudo-cuckold” aspect of it all very hot – forced to see all of these people easily getting to do the one thing I can’t, no matter how badly I want to. And don’t even get me started on the gut punches that come in the form of cumshots; I’m way past the realm of fantasizing of having an orgasm any time soon. I just want to be able to get hard….

Next week is Thanksgiving, which is the earliest deadline ML has put on my current 24/7 lockup period; I’ve known for a while that I wouldn’t be getting out before then. I think it was this past weekend where I truly hit the point where I just wanted out, and it’s only gotten worse as the week progressed. I think I would seriously, honestly do anything just to be unlocked right about now, it’s that bad. But it’s not over yet…and, depending on ML’s mood, it might not even be close to being over.

There once was a man who was unable to have an erection. It wasn’t for a lack of trying or ability; rather, it was for lack of opportunity. You see, this man could not get his dick hard because there was a steel cage locked around his penis at all times.

This steel cage prevented any and all erections, even the most intense and most frantic of them. No matter how strongly out how often he was sexually aroused – which was very strongly and extremely often, thanks to his beautiful and sexy dominating wife – he was not able to have a full and complete erection.

Oh, there were plenty of attempts: any time his wife would tease or tempt him with words or actions, his penis would try as much as it could to get hard. The steel cage would only allow the slightest growth, however, before squeezing back and holding him fast. He would be left throbbing in his cage, desperate for the littlest experience of sexuality, the most basic sexual ability that nearly almost ask men enjoyed but he was denied.

Orgasms were completely out of the question – unable to even get a hardon, orgasms were nowhere near the realm of possibilities. His focus wasn’t on his orgasms, despite the fact that he couldn’t remember the last time he had one. His desire was centered completely around his penis, the need to get hard, and the denial of the chance to do so.

Why on Earth would the woman want to keep her husband’s penis locked in a metal cage? Not only would it be impossible for him to get a full erection, but it would also render his penis inaccessible to her. Lucky for her, the man was very talented at pleasing his wife by other means, ways that did not involve the use of his penis. Not only that, but the woman also get pleasure from the sheer power and control she felt when her husband was desperate for an erection, but could not have one because she was keeping him locked.

The man had nobody to blame but himself, for it was him who asked his wife to use the chastity cage in the first place. It was also him that suggested the lengthy bit of chastity that he was now forced to endure. “Surely,” he thought, “she will not be able to keep me locked up very much longer than we’ve done in the past… she had difficulty reaching 3 weeks in earlier attempts.” But three weeks came and went, with no sign of wavering or weakening from his wife.

And, at four weeks, it was the same: not only was his wife happy keeping her husband in constant chastity, she was enthused by his frustration to continue even further.

This was like nothing he has ever experienced before. His penis felt as if it were constantly crying out to him for just a moment of freedom, just a second of time to experience the full arousal that has already been denied for so long. But he could do nothing about it, except wait and suffer.

His wife joked around as the days went by, contemplating pushing him farther and farther. How long would this go on? “I”m not even sure,” she replied. “We’ll just have to see.”

And so he waited. He waited for the erection he so desperately wanted and needed, with no idea of when the ordeal would end. He would eventually be able to get fully hard, but only when his wife would allow it. It would have to be soon, it couldn’t go on forever.

At least, that’s what he told himself…

November has finally come, and “Locktober” is officially over. For me, however, my extended period of 24/7 chastity still continues…

Today marks 3 weeks since my Jailbird chastity device was locked onto my cock, and if all goes according to ML’s plan it will be at least another 3 weeks until it comes off. I say “at least” because you never can really tell with My Lady anymore – she very well could be waiting until Christmas, New Years, or even Valentine’s Day to unlock me. This uncertainty makes it difficult for me to anticipate just how much longer I have left to go this time around, so I’ve pretty much resigned myself to being locked until whenever ML decides to take me out…. I’ve accepted that it could be weeks or even months until I have another full erection.

It’s very difficult to think about the fact that I won’t be having a full erection for at least another month, and perhaps even more, especially after having gone almost a month without one already. I get frustrated enough not getting to cum for a couple months, but this is a whole new level. Forget being denied the pleasure of an orgasm, I’m being denied the experience of basic physical sexual arousal. Out of necessity, my body has begun to express its arousal in other ways – I’ve been having more and more “bodygasms” as the weeks have gone on, which makes sense now that every other avenue of sexual arousal is rigidly controlled by My Lady.

The thing that surprises me the most is that ML doesn’t seem to be wavering as badly as she has before. Three weeks is close to my longest 24/7 lockup period (to be honest, I’m not exactly sure what length of time is my longest, but I’m pretty sure a new personal best will be set very soon). Although her horniness has been increasing over the last few days or so, and she has been getting quite sexually aggressive with me, her need of PIV-sex specifically doesn’t seem very strong at the moment; I’m 100% sure I want it WAY much more than she does right now. I have no doubt imagining her having no problems with keeping me locked in this cage for another month.

It’s almost two weeks since my cock has been able to get fully hard, but it’s definitely not due to lack of trying. On the contrary, my caged erections have been worse than usual. This could be due to the supercharging of my horniness after this past weekend, or if it’s just the knowledge that it’s going to be much longer until I’m finally unlocked. In fact, now that I think about it, the time I still have left ahead of me is probably longer than I’ve ever been locked 24/7 before…

How do I get into these types of situations?

You’d think that I would learn my lesson after going almost a year with no orgasms that when I suggest something extreme to ML, she’s not going to take it lightly. Did I think that when the idea of locking my cock up for two months straight came up, that she would go easy on me and give me a few hours out of the cage when I really needed it?

Of course not.

So I’m stuck fighting through the rest of this month and most of next (at least) until I can have the pleasure of a full erection. Forget feeling my wife’s warm wet pussy* on my cock (although, that would be fucking GREAT right about now), it’ll be nice to finally not have to feel my cock being squeezed by steel every single time I think about something even the slightest bit sexual.

I must be having sexual dreams on a pretty regular basis, because three times this week I’ve woken up at 3am with an extremely full and painful cage. It’s so severe that I’m forced to lay on my back, which is not my usual sleeping position (I’m used to sleeping on my stomach… of course, lol). I try to get my mind off of it, but the constant throbbing caused by the tightness of the cage makes that impossible. It usually ends up taking 45 minutes to an hour just for me to soften up enough so there’s even a small chance of me getting back to sleep.

It’s really a dilemma with no solution: I can’t just decide to not have sex dreams (especially when I’m so damn horny after being denied so long), and it’s not like ML is going to suddenly discover her compassionate side and unlock me any time soon. In fact, the more she sees me struggle with this, the more likely she is to enjoy the feeling of control she has and decide to push me even further past Thanksgiving…. Christmas, maybe?

Or… have I already had my last full erection of the year, and I don’t know it yet?

*I was going to use “tight” as an adjective here, also, as I thought, “Man, after two months of not having my cock inside her, she is going to be soooooo fucking tight!” Then, I remembered Adam… sigh….*

The extended lockup period that ML and I have been planning is looming on the horizon. Next Friday is our chastity anniversary, at which point My Lady plans to keep my cock locked in chastity 24/7 for the next six weeks at least. Although, at this point, I can’t really even be sure if it hasn’t already begun – my chastity cage hasn’t come off since my last post at the beginning of the month. Perhaps ML has been planning a true Locktober Plus this whole time and didn’t tell me.

She is certainly capable of such levels of deviousness.

Preparing for the long lockup has already begun: this morning, ML had me locate Adam from our toy storage so he will be at the ready when she needs him. She needs to reacquaint herself with his size and feel before she will be ready to use him during my time in chastity.

I was hoping to have one last feel of ML’s pussy on my cock before being locked in chastity for the long haul, but Adam’s presence makes me wonder if I’ve already had my last chance for a while and I didn’t even know it.

October is a popular month among chastity enthusiasts for celebrating their fetish. We didn’t exactly plan it out that way, but ML and I will be doing something special during October, also. It won’t be a full “Locktober” for me, as I will get about a two week stay on my sentence, but I will definitely make up that time on the back end and more.

ML and I have been considering trying another extended 24/7 chastity period, and we are going to give it another try. We’ve found it difficult to get past the month-ish mark in the past, but we really want to push it this time around.

Starting on October 13th (our “chastity anniversary”), I will wear my cock cage 24/7, day and night, all the time until Thanksgiving at the earliest. Yes… “at the earliest.” At Thanksgiving, we will take stock of things and see if we want to try to make it to Christmas at that point. So, very soon I will be going without a full erection from somewhere between 6 and 10 weeks.

Writing that it actually makes me realize just how insane I must be for wanting this.

We always run into two problems when we try to do extended 24/7 lockups: 

  1. I start to feel a little disconnected with my cock locked away for so long, I start needing more sexual attention.
  2. ML starts to miss the feeling of having her pussy filled up by my big fat cock… Those are her words, not mine, but who am I to argue?

So we’ve worked out a plan to address these problems as well as we can.

First, we are going to use toys more often in order to satisfy ML’s need for penetration; “Adam” is more than capable of filling in for my cock in that capacity. And for those times that ML wants to feel me between her legs as I fuck her, we either the Rode-Oh underwear or the strap on harness that I can use.

As far as my needs go, it’s not so easy to get me the sexual attention I need with my cock locked away in steel… but not impossible. We just need to do it in other ways. And, by process of elimination, a lot of that will involve doing various things to my ass.

I’m interested to see how intense my submissive feelings get when the only sex I can have involves my ass. When my cock is taken out of the equation and the only sexual pleasure I receive is through plugging/milking/pegging/etc., how deep will my acceptance of my role go? Will I begin to look forward to it, ask for it, beg for it, even want it? I’m honestly don’t know.

I really hope we can go the distance this time. I’m not really sure whether I mean I want to make it to Christmas when I say that, but I guess we will find it when we are at that point.

Today, for some odd reason, out of no where I was having a bit of “drop.” I was feeling off and emotional and REALLY missing cagedmonkey while he was at work. I could feel my thoughts race, it felt like a roller coaster. I even caught myself wondering if I should just make him cum and forget this whole denial thing. I missed him so much today that my mind was racing through ways I could feel him… Making him cum is a huge way to feel him and connect with him. It’s been 173 days since he’s had an orgasm… He’s not quite half way there yet.

I don’t really want him to cum and I’m feeling much better this evening but this whole thing isn’t that easy on a wife who happens to be a keyholder to her one and only love. Who she happens to REALLY, REALLY like sex with! Haha I really am living how incredibly horny cagedmonkey is, how badly he wants to cum when he’s being teased and edged. I will say that I don’t feel there is much difference between how horny he gets at 3 or 4 months to how horny he is now… Just sayin’

It might be time to do some extended lock up. Perhaps some No look, No touch? What do you think?