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Feelings for the Cock

Posted by Lady M on June 25, 2018
Posted in: KeyHolder, Male Chastity, orgasm control. Tagged: , , , , , , . 10 comments

The other day Cagedmonkey posted an update about our current chastity and denial situation. We had mentioned that starting at his birthday he’d locked for an extended period and denied for a hell of a lot longer. Well, like he updated, the whole lock up thing didn’t go as planned!

If you know my history at all, you know around 3 weeks of having him locked, I start to desperately miss that big cock and feeling it inside me. Well, CM had only been locked 2 weeks when we went to NY for the weekend. We had such an amazing weekend, so loving and sexual and teasy and by the time we got home I was really missing the feeling of his cock, so while I wasn’t planning on having him out, in the heat of a very sexy moment I made him get out of his cage – that was a huge feat since he was rock hard in that cage – and give me the cock I so desperately needed. 🙂

Then comes the next day… I felt so bad, I felt like I’d let him down because I know sometimes we talk about pushing further or doing things longer, harder, more intense and I just couldn’t. There comes this point where I need to feel that connection with him physically and emotionally. Where I need to have him completely and without a cage in between us. However, I still felt bad and like I wasn’t good enough. I got into the “I’ll never be able to give him what he wants” thoughts and I’m worthless, yadda yadda yadda.

The point of this post is to let other women know that this happens… The most important reason for this post is to remind women we are in charge and ultimately we decide when, if and how our guys are locked up and even more importantly, this post is to remind everyone how important communication is. When I started to feel this way I told Cagedmonkey, right away, how I was feeling. I didn’t want it to continue to grow when it was much easier to talk about and work through and not put my feelings on him. I certainly can feel like I’m letting him down but knowing that he’s not let down and that he’s all good with what happened, and good with whatever happens, makes getting through the feelings that much better.

Update

Posted by cagedmonkey on June 22, 2018
Posted in: Male Chastity, Marriage, Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

Hi everybody!

We’ve been slacking a bit on the posts lately because we’ve been so busy here and there; we also took a little road trip last weekend and also took the time to visit some friends, which ended up being a very fun time! I’m sure you’ll be “hearing” about it pretty soon!

With that said, many people have been asking us how things are going since starting the longer lockup and even lengthier denial. Well, I think it’s not a big surprise that I’m horny as fuck at the moment. 🙂

The longer lockup didn’t go as long as My Lady had planned for it to go – she was initially looking for at least a month, but it was only a little more than two weeks before she let me out for sex. I know, it’s such a pain that she wants my cock inside her so badly, ammirite? My Lady was feeling a little down about the whole thing, thinking that she let me down in some way, but I was MORE than happy to get my cock in her pussy. 🙂 Seriously, I don’t get “disappointed” by things like that anymore, mainly because I don’t set expectations that I feel NEED to be filled, or else it won’t live up to my fantasy… I mean, I’m basically living a fantasy as is, why would I need anything more than what I already have? As long as ML is happy with what transpires, then that is all that I want.

As far as orgasms go: I still haven’t cum since my birthday, after a weekend where I had more orgasms than I’ve had over the past 3 years combined at least. ML was trying to make me cum so much to the point where I wanted to stop, but I think she underestimated what these last 5 years have done to me! I’m not sure how many times I came (maybe somewhere in the teens, perhaps?), but after so many years of extreme denial I felt like I could definitely do more. It might take 20 or 30 before I feel sufficiently caught up. 🙂

Orgasm denial has never been a major problem for ML to deal with, at least during the first handful of months; we got through six months pretty easily during our last long run…or, maybe I should say she got through easily, I was out of my mind desperate to cum after two. This time around, we are taking a “let’s see what happens” approach to it all: ML wants to go at least six months, then who knows? Going for a full year or orgasm denial would be an amazing milestone, but if it doesn’t happen, then no biggie. And, on the flip side, if she feels like she wants to go more than a year…. um, well, that would be a big biggie for me, but I guess I would have to go along with it.

Mail Chastity: Punishment

Posted by Lady M on June 3, 2018
Posted in: Advice, Mail Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . 3 comments

D & J are a couple that read our blog. They recently sent an email asking for help with appropriate punishment. I’m extremely lucky in having a very good boy who does not push the boundaries so punishment doesn’t not come up often. It’s not something I enjoy having to do.

D & J wrote:

This weekend I have gone away for a few days, on Thursday night my cage worked itself off and I couldn’t get it back on as the key is 2.5 hrs away.
On Thursday night I edged myself once, haven’t done anything else but this is a serious infraction in our relationship.
Previous punishments have been whipping, and a few minutes with clover clamps. Extending chastity has never been a punishment as my wife has never set a time frame to extend until now.
Can you suggest an appropriate punishment please?

My suggestion for punishment may not be like others since I’m not too big into giving them. When it comes to punishment for us I take things away from Cagedmonkey, such as parts of my body, pleasing me or even playing video games. There have been times where I took away chastity and any attention to his penis. Those things really are punishment for him because he enjoys our play and taking that away is really the best way to keep him in line. I don’t really use spanking, etc for punishment as that is more “funishment.”

So the reason for this post is to ask our readers what their suggestions would be in this situation for punishment. What have you or your Mistress done as punishment in this situation? If you haven’t been in this situation, what would you do? What do you feel is an appropriate punishment for edging without permission?

Please comment here in the comment section so D & J can read your responses!! Thanks 🙂

You’ll Cum When I Say So

Posted by Lady M on June 2, 2018
Posted in: FemDom, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 6 comments

This weekend is Cagedmonkey’s birthday weekend. His actual birthday is on Monday, so I decided the weekend before I would spend overloading him on orgasms. My plan is to try to make him cum so much he’s actually asking me to STOP making him orgasm. Once he’s to the point that he can’t physically orgasm anymore, I plan to use the vibrator to overstimulate him as much as possible.

You may be wondering why I plan to do this and the simple answer is that, starting on his birthday, he’s going to be locked and denied for an indefinite amount of time. I’m thinking a good 6 months of denial sounds good to start. Once we get there I may, or may not, make him go another 6. 🙂 The actual lock up won’t be that long but I am planning on having him go 24/7 for a good chunk of time. I want him aching in the pit of his stomach, desperately needing to get hard and even wanting to orgasm.

I can’t wait to flaunt the fact that I get to have as many orgasms as I was, as much as I want, and even get to make him provide me the pleasure of those orgasms. I very much love to see and feel how frustrated he is when he’s aching for sexual attention and so jealous of my orgasms and the orgasms of others! It’s fun when friends brag to him about the orgasms they get to have when he’s locked and denied and wanting one so bad.

It should be a fun year 🙂