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I Can Do It One Handed

Posted by Lady M on January 13, 2014
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Sex, Tease & Denial, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , . Leave a Comment

I may have had shoulder surgery but that’s not exactly stopping me from A. Cumming or B. My WLM/Dominating. I will say that cagedmonkey is doing a fantastic job picking up my slack and doing the things I can’t. It started off rough and he didn’t think he could do it but I think he relaxed a bit and found that things don’t have to be perfect or exactly my way. When I ask that things get done, I just want them done. He’s been great about taking care of the kids and getting them to their activities. He’s been cooking most of the meals and even helps me bathe and get dressed. Like I said, he’s basically being my Super subby hubby! 🙂 I couldn’t be more proud of him, pleased with his service, his dedication and how hard he is working! Love this guy!

With all that said, I did mention that it sure isn’t stopping me from getting my orgasms and certainly isn’t getting him any. He had a little “free” time last week but has been back in his jail Bird and his next unlocking won’t be until January 18th. It’s not a definite orgasm day for him but I might give him a chance to cum at least. 😉

Today has been quite the subby day for him. He’s begging to do anything I ask of him. He is craving my direction and awaiting my orders. Aside from his chores, he was required to wear the njoy for a few hours today as well as service me right when I ask. I went upstairs to put away some clothes and had to call him up to help… he asked what I needed help with and I simply said “my pussy needs to be licked.” He immediately got on his knees and made me cum twice – and, to praise him, he even dealt with our daughters homeschool questions while doing it! 🙂 Awesome!

Is that service or what?

Tonight we have some celebrating to do in the midst of a very Dom/sub kinda day. We will be having some drinks tonight and having a while lot of kinky fun! 🙂

I njoy His Ass – Pure Plug Review

Posted by Lady M on January 11, 2014
Posted in: Anal, Male Chastity, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 4 comments

Next weekend is our wedding anniversary and I wanted to get us a new toy to play with. I know you all have read in the past about how my obsession with cagedmonkey’s ass has grown. It’s not at all about pegging him that gets me, it’s the way his butt looks, the shape, the feel, and even the springy bounce when I spank him lovingly. I just love how his sexy little ass cheek fits right in my hand so perfectly. So I decided to go for it and I ordered a small njoy Pure Plug butt plug for cagedmonkey. I was so excited when it was delivered yesterday. It’s a cute, tiny little thing but very efficient and effective!
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According to their site: ” Equally fun for hot bedroom play or to wear all day for some naughty secret stimulation, njoy’s Pure Plugs truly shine where the sun don’t! The Pure Plugs combine a large head for that delicious stretch of penetration, with a tapered stem for easy retention and long-term comfort. The weighty steel adds a lovely sense of fullness and presence to remind you just how sensitive you really are ‘back there’…”

I fully agree with everything written there. The description couldn’t be anymore spot on! I really had some issues with butt plugs because of what I always imagined or saw them used for and I’m not really into those things. I wanted something that I could use once in awhile for an overall pleasurable experience for cagedmonkey. It seems that this little plug is perfect and does the job well. Seeing is I got a message from cagedmonkey after I’d made him try it out for about an hour or so last night. I had him wear the plug while he got some teasing and while he pleasured me a few times.

He said he definitely feels that it was in but his asshole doesn’t hurt like the other plug we’ve used. He says the plug made him have the twitchy leftover sensitive feelings inside like when we used the other but that his actual asshole isn’t sore. He says it’s a very good thing so I’m excited that this is so small yet so effective, like I said. I’m glad that he can gently be reminded of me all night now even when he’s not wearing the plug. 🙂 I’m sure he can comment more on that.

The whole idea for me wasn’t to use a butt plug as punishment, to cause discomfort or pain or even to assert my Dominance. I’ve read and seen so many times where a Mistress will use huge butt plugs for those reasons and, honestly, that just grossed me out. There can be so much more to using one, so much pleasure. I love that the njoy is perfectly made and weighted so that once inserted it puts the right amount of pressure on the prostate. Last night while working on my orgasms, cagedmonkey just started pouring precum almost as if I was milking him! It really was a beautiful thing.

So far I really like this plug. At first I wasn’t into the steel thing but then I thought about what we went through with the chastity device and decided to just go for it! It looks like we will have lots of things to try out and ways to experiment with our new njoy Pure Plug. It should be loads of fun!

Mail Chastity – Questions from our inbox

Posted by Lady M on January 10, 2014
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, Mail Chastity, Male Chastity, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , . Leave a Comment

A gentlemen contacted us to ask some questions about our WLM & chastity and I thought I’d share incase others had similar questions.

“Is it just an at home lifestyle? Did is happen right away or did it build to a FLM?”
Our WLM is an everyday, all day thing… our relationship has always been one where I took care of everything – financially, phone calls, Dr appts, anything with the kids, etc. We do make big decisions together, where to live, buying a car and that kind of thing. Usually I have the final say in most things though.

“Is it D/s?”
Just so you know wlm & D/s don’t need to go together but yes part of our relationship is D/s. Our sexual relationship is fully D/s and it will only trickle into daily life if we talked about it specifically where my Dominance will be an entire day thing. Hope that makes sense.

“Did chastity come first? and did it contribute to this decision?”
Chastity most definitely didn’t come first. We’ve been flr since we met – I’m a control freak hehe. We had gotten to a bad place in our relationship, we worked hard to repair it and in the repairing made a promise to be honest and share every fantasy. Hubby brought up the chastity thing and, at first, I wasn’t into it. Part of our promise was to be open minded about fantasies so I started to research and found, after about 4 months, that I really loved the idea and that’s how the whole chastity thing began. 

“How did you get it to work?….. We tried it before and it only lasted a month. It seemed rushed and not natural”
Some people are not naturally dominant so to have a wlm they do need to work at it, take it slow, step by step. Once we realized what our relationship was and that chastity was to be a part of it we created an agreement. That’s been a huge help in getting things to go smoother and “work.” It’s still a work in progress and probably always will be. We will continue to go over our agreement to change things. We have added things, adjusted things and taken things out. It’s not a perfect science, there is no one way to do things… it’s what works for a particular couple and no two relationships will look the same.

Thanks for your questions and please feel free to email and ask anything you like. Most things are not too personal and we love the interaction.

How to hear from you!

Putting WLM to the Test

Posted by Lady M on January 6, 2014
Posted in: Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , , . 6 comments

Tomorrow I’m headed in to have surgery to repair two tears in my rotator cuff – incase you don’t know I tore the tendons in my shoulder. It happens to be my right shoulder which is my dominant arm. After the surgery I’m going to be in a sling for 6 weeks but the first week I’m not allowed to do anything and apparently will be in some pain.

Cagedmonkey has taken some time off work to take care of me, the house and the kids. This will certainly put our WLM to the test. Cagedmonkey is going to have to take my direction, anticipate my needs and those of the kids. I’m also going to have to be ok with giving so much direction as well as being ok with asking for things.

Surprisingly enough, it’s very difficult for me to ask for help with things especially things I feel I should be doing myself. I’m really going to be depending on cagedmonkey for pretty much everything. He’s going to be cooking, cleaning and taking care of the kids but on top of that he’ll be helping me get meds, get dressed, bathed, helping me get around, helping me get comfortable… like I said, everything. I do plan on working out wiping myself. 🙂 I don’t have any doubt that he can take care of things. I worry about my ability to let him! 🙂

Also to let our followers know, I write the most on the blog so it may be that we have less updates. Unless I can get cagedmonkey to get to writing while I’m unable. He does have some posts he wants to write so hopefully I can get him to put his feelings to paper, so to speak. I’ll try my best to keep you all updated so you don’t forget about us hehe.

I have no idea how much, if any, play will happen with my arm the way it will be so we’ll see if I have anything fun to post.

He Said, She Said – Flipped the Power Switch

Posted by Lady M on January 4, 2014
Posted in: Male Chastity, Sex. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . 5 comments

cagedmonkey: A few days ago, My Lady was laying on the couch with me, teasing the cock with her talented mouth, when she began to partake in one of her newfound pleasures – deepthroating me and making herself gag. She looked up at me as she did it, and was she ever beautiful. I reached out to pull her closer to me, and then all of a sudden we both felt the mood change.

At almost the same moment that I began to move my hand up, My Lady guided my hand to the top of her head. I began to slowly push her farther down, forcing her to gag harder on me. She looked up at me and nodded. I needed no further invitation.

The Power Switch had taken effect.

My Lady and I are almost always in an FLR situation, however we do both like to switch every so often; I like to feel what it is like to be in control while she enjoys the feeling of not being responsible for her own actions. Oddly, these urges seem to coincide, as they did on this particular night.

I started my lifting my hips off the couch, sliding my cock deeper into her throat – and it was MY COCK this time. 🙂 She choked and gagged on my thick cock, trying hard not to back off of it but failing to subdue her reflexes. I pushed her down with my hand further, forcing her to take it. When I pulled her mouth off of me, her eyes were watering and drool was pouring out of her mouth onto my cock.

I lifted her up and told her to lie on the couch. Then I got on top of her and shoved my cock inside her tight horny pussy. I fucked her hard; “pounded her pussy” would be a good way to describe it. I talked dirty to her – I called her my fucking slut, asked her how much she loved to be fucked by my big cock, told her to beg for it harder. And she did. When I told her I was going to make her suck her pussy juices off of my cock, she whimpered, “no, please, no Sir.” And so….

(During past attempts at dominating ML, I’ve had trouble with this part – doing something that I want to do that ML says no to. There are some things we’ve talked about that are ABSOLUTELY NO’s that we both agree on, but there are also soft no’s. This was one of them.)

… I pulled out of her dripping wet pussy and, without hesitation, pushed my shiny cock right into her slutty little mouth. I fucked her mouth like she was my whore, because at that moment, she was. I was not her sub, her plaything. She was my fucktoy, to use as I wished.

I continued to fuck her hard, pounding her deep, spanking her ass as I pushed her face into the couch cushions. From the sounds she was making, I could tell she loved every minute of it. And afterwards, I gave My Lady the aftercare that she so badly needed, telling her that I loved her, and that I was so proud of her for letting me use her like that and trusting me to do so. I held her close to me, kissed her softly… and again, she came while we laid there together.

(It’s so awesome when she cums sponatneously like that!!!!)

I was very surprised and proud of myself afterwards. I had never been so dominating with her before. Previously, I was always like, “Yeah, I’m gonna use you… um, if it’s okay with you.” This time I was like, “You’re mine, and I’m fucking you the way I want to… the way I would fuck a dirty little slut, because that is what you are to me right now.” And, even more incredible…. I managed not to cum!!! I so badly wanted to – ML would have looked SOOOO nice with a load of hot cum dripping down her chin onto her tits – but, deep down, I always will be My Lady’s good boy. ML allows me to take control of her in this way, and to show gratitude I will never take advantage of that control to violate our core principles of chastity.
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Lady: I’m naturally a dominant person so letting someone have the control over me that I allowed cagedmonkey to have takes an extreme amount of trust. The point is, is that we can have these times of Switching because I, in fact, do trust him. In 14 years he’s learned my limits and knows what is ok and not ok. He knows I know my safe word and trusts me that I will use them.

So the other night when we switched I certainly felt like I was a dirty naughty little slut. I gave him complete control, he forced his cock in my throat and made me gag on it. Grabbed my hair and my head and pulled me on to his cock and I felt like I was being used. Just a hole to be fucked. That night he took more control and forced me to do things he knew I really thought were gross and didn’t want to do… but I did them because he was in control. Making me clean off my own pussy juices and cum from his cock… so dirty. He was in control so I did as I was told, I said “yes, sir” like I was supposed to and took the hard fucking he gave me over and over because he was in control. 🙂

I was extremely proud of myself for giving up my control even for that time and super proud of my hubby for taking it and trusting that I would only take what I could truly handle.

I’m most proud of the fact that my cagedmonkey deep down is so devoted to me and my control over him that he continued to deny himself orgasm. He knew I didn’t want him to cum yet and even in the Dominant role when he could have he didn’t want to disappoint me.

These are some of the reasons I love this man more and more every day! Such a good boy, a respectful, wonderful, amazing, committed boy! My boy! <3

Two Days in & Already Ruined 2014

Posted by Lady M on January 2, 2014
Posted in: KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . 5 comments

Damn it, Damn it, Damn it!

So since Christmas I’ve been having a lot of fun teasing cagedmonkey. Today and tonight was no different. This morning I decided to restrain cagedmonkey with the neck and wrist cuffs again today and unlock him. I got him worked up and very erect so I could slip the silicone sleeve on him. They I placed the super strong bullet vibrator in the sleeve at the base of his penis & balls. I left him vibrating there unable to touch for 45 mins. 🙂 it was lots of fun hearing the moaning and writhing around from all of the non-stop sensation.

This evening after the kids went to bed I began playing around and gave cagedmonkey one hell of a blow job. I kept edging him over and over with my mouth and hands. I even used his own hand to force him to masturbate and would pull his hand away just before he’d go off the edge. It was fun watching his face and hearing his half laugh moan thing he does! 🙂

I continued stroking over and over keeping him on the edge and abruptly letting go before he would get to orgasm. Until… ugh… I had to go one time too far! It’s not like he had an actual orgasm but I’m still disappointed that I accidentally gave him his first ruined orgasm of 2014!

Ah well… I’m not sure how I’ll handle this because really it was cumming without permission. I’ll have to think about this. I suppose I have been looking for a good excuse for spanking him. Hehe 🙂

A New Year’s Thought

Posted by Lady M on January 1, 2014
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, Marriage, Wife Led Marriage. 1 comment

A New Year is upon us. I know everyone will be posting their resolutions and goals for the upcoming year only to forget about them a month or so later. It’s the same thing that I hear and see from people every year. I, for one, am not a resolution maker. I never have been and I doubt I ever well be.

This year, in a way, I’m making a change in the way I begin my year. Normally, my New Year’s day is treated like nothing special and just another day. This year I’ve decided I’m going to do two things, 1. I am going to look back and be extremely grateful for 2013 and especially the second half of the year.

And 2. I am looking forward to the coming year with optimism, excitement and a renewed enjoyment of life in general. Hopefully it will be another successful year with more ups and downs, and we will continue to make memories to be grateful for next year!

I would like to wish all of our followers and readers a full, happy and healthy 2014.

Good Morning Where the Sun Don’t Shine

Posted by Lady M on January 1, 2014
Posted in: Anal, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Sex, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , . 1 comment

Lately, I’ve taken a liking to waking cagedmonkey up in a unique way. I love going up, spooning him and whispering in his ear telling him good morning. I slide my hands under the covers, down his side, over his hip and around to his ass. His skin feels so good under my fingertips! His morning pleasure, instead of a hand job like some guys might get, is me gently sliding a finger in his ass and rubbing his prostate and making him moan. I can’t even begin to explain how much I’m in love with the reactions I get and the way his body responds to my soft, gentle penetration.

The other thing I’ve been researching lately is butt plugs. You all know me and when I start researching stuff! Hehe I’m starting to be ok with the idea of using a butt plug for pleasure occasionally. I’d love to hear your opinions on these, types you use, how you use them. Male and Female points of view are welcome!

My Well Used Sex Toy

Posted by Lady M on December 31, 2013
Posted in: KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 5 comments

The other night started like any other night of tease and denial. I told cagedmonkey to get a list of toys and other things I wanted to play with. I had him bring down our neck & wrist cuffs to restrain him and put the blindfold on. It’s been awhile since we’ve used the blindfold so it was fun to pick and choose which toys I wanted to use and cagedmonkey had no idea what I was doing next. With his hands restrained I unlocked his JailBird and let him out of his cage.

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SportSheets neck & wrist restraints

I started out by lubing up the mini butt plug and cagedmonkey’s beautiful tight asshole. Yes, I love that ass of his, I’m sure you remember that from my previous ass post. He was blindfolded so he had no clue what I was inserting, a toy? the butt plug? the prostate massager? I just loved his reaction when I pushed it passed his tight opening. That gasp and moan that happens as the muscle is spread apart.

With his ass feeling filled up and his hands restrained I took the strap-on harness and put it just above his unlocked hard cock. I straddled him and sat down on the strap-on. I began riding the strap on on top of him while his cock flopped around behind me aching to feel me. Instead he just bumped against my ass as I bounced up and down, fucking myself with my dildo. Cagedmonkey was writhing around moaning as I rode myself to a nice orgasm 2 inches away from the cock that desperately wanted to be used.

I started talking to him, describing exactly what I was doing. Like using my dildo to cum and leaving his cock to lay there hard, aching and unused. I told him maybe I needed to have my ass filed up as well just like his. That’s when I grabbed his cock and lubed it up. I could tell even under the blindfold that his eyes were bugging in shock and his breathing got shorter and faster. I lifted up on my knees with the dildo still inserted, took his cock and found the tight sweet spot and sat ever so slowly and gently down taking his entire cock into my ass. He moaned and grunted so loud as I did. I slowly slid up and down and on the dildo and his cock, then faster and faster until I came again, I collapsed onto his chest, breathing heavy… my session was done.

Out of Town, Not Out of Chastity

Posted by Lady M on December 29, 2013
Posted in: Chastity Device, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , . 2 comments

This past weekend we went out of town to visit family and celebrate Christmas. Cagedmonkey was locked back up on Thursday and stayed that way all through the weekend. Even with a ton of kids running around and even playing outside with them hubby had no issues with his JailBird. He was perfectly comfortable and it was like it wasn’t even there, until I got him turned on, then he knew it was there. 🙂 It was difficult being around so much family for 2 days and dying to jump each other. We did steal every moment we could for a kiss or to cop a feel.

Saturday night, after the kids got to sleep, us adults stayed up for some drinks and board games. We had an amazing amount of fun. The kids have always been too young before to do that kind of thing so I’m loving that they are getting older and we can start doing more of this stuff! It felt great to sit with adults, talking and laughing our asses off! 🙂

The whole weekend I kept waiting for someone to ask about the key hanging around my neck. I was fully prepared to say, “oh that’s the key to cagedmonkey’s chastity belt” lol though I’d say it while laughing so it seemed as though I was just joking but if never tell the real answer haha. It would have been fun!

After everyone else went to bed cagedmonkey and I stayed up a bit, had a couple more drinks and got a little frisky. We talked a lot and had some pretty intense conversations that I’m sure I don’t remember all of because of the alcohol. I do remember talking about having a “Power Switch,” as we call them. For us, a Power Switch is literally switching the D/s roll. It takes an immense amount of trust for me to do something like that because I’m naturally dominant and pretty much don’t have a submissive bone in me. Every now and then it is exciting to give up control and feel what it’s like to be forced to do something you “love to hate” doing.

Anyway, overall it was a fun weekend away and we’re back home tonight. All of us are happy to be back home to relax and enjoy some peace and quite. Well, the peace and quite of only our kids talking & fighting with each other, not 6 kids! 🙂