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226 Days Without Orgasm

Posted by Lady M on September 1, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, FemDom, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 10 comments

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to go a year without an orgasm? I’d imagine quit a few of our readers have thought that, tried it or done it!

The longest I made it – yes me… I couldn’t handle it last time – was 299 days. Cagedmonkey probably could have held out longer but I struggled with the connection of cumming together. There is something about feeling that feeling at the same time. I missed being filled up. The last time we tried doing a one year… or longer denial we also tried to do a lot more locked up time. So I made it quite clear that this time I’d be using him as much as I wanted. It has definitely helped this time around because we are already 226 along and I’m no where near feeling a disconnect. We are intimate at least a few times a week, one way or another. So that makes it that much easier to keep him denied.

Plus, I do absolutely love how crazy horny he is. He’s so sweet and loving too! I really do love that just touching me or even sitting and talking and being cute and fun and lovey dovey gets him all hard. He, most times, is struggling in his cage but sometimes I have him unlocked so he’s usable.

Recently, we got a Double Locking Cockring from Mature Metal which is super fantastic for having him available but still locked in something. That way he’s constantly feeling my control over that big cock of his. It doesn’t hurt that the Cockring kinda forces him be hard for a long time, and not just any hard, but super hard hard lol!

So much enjoyment out of this denial, like I said, it’s been much easier this time keeping him aching to cum. I have no doubt he will not orgasm again until sometime in 2021!

What do you want out of Chastity and Denial?

Posted by Lady M on December 27, 2019
Posted in: FemDom, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , .

After Cagedmonkey wrote his post the other day about Looking Ahead he asked me a question. He wrote “if we are going to try to do a year denial, what do you want from it? What would you like to see happen, what would you like to do/see/try?”

My answer isn’t so simple, it’s almost like there isn’t words to describe what I want. I did end up telling him, physically, I want to see him so horny he struggling against the bars of the cage, I want to see him aching and his cock leaking precum like it has during past denial periods. I understand there will need to be some amounts of trading line there was in the past but I do think the denial in general helps to move that along. I want to physically see him desperate and wanting. I want him so horny that he will find any way to turn me on, sexual and non-sexual. Not things that turn me on the way he wants me turned on but more thinking about my needs and desires and turning me on in ways that I want to be turned on.

When I started thinking about his question more, I realized it wasn’t so much about that stuff that I wanted. It wasn’t necessarily what I wanted to see or do and that it was more about what I wanted to feel during this denial. I want to feel irresistible and not just sexually. I want to feel his frustration. I want to feel loved and woed and made a fuss over. I want to feel thought of and made to feel important. I want to feel the gratitude of him being locked in a cage and denied and teased. I want to feel his need, his aches, his desires.

Don’t get me wrong, I want to tease him and drive him nuts and make him want things and flaunt in front of him what he is being denied. I want to make him do daily things as a reminder of who he belongs to and who he serves sexually. I want my mornings to begin with kisses to my pussy, so the very first thing he smells & tastes in the morning is me. He has much better days when they start off that way. I want to try to get in some impact play, I love the feel and sound of spanking him so even if it’s once in a month, I want it. I’d like to try to get in more bondage, more forced things… If he’s bound he can’t really not be used for my sexual pleasure.

Anyway… So there’s a lot that goes into the answer of what do I want from chastity and denial… And most of it is feelings.

A Look Ahead

Posted by cagedmonkey on December 22, 2019
Posted in: FemDom, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Pictures. Tagged: , , , , , , .

My last denial stint was a little unexpected, both in its beginning and its length. ML was letting me cum on a fairly regular basis, which for me meant that I had two or three orgasms in the same week. We were moving into our new house, and I figured we would be doing the “let’s fuck in the different rooms of the house to celebrate” thing. I was only partially right, though – while we did have sex in different areas of the house, I only got to cum once in the new house.

That was at the beginning of September. I honestly wasn’t ready for a 3-month-plus denial, but My Lady doesn’t have an obligation to warn me ahead of time when I won’t be cumming for a while. It’s nice to know (so I can savor my last orgasm as much as possible), but not necessary.

My last orgasm was about a week or so ago, and I have a feeling it was sort of unplanned from ML’s standpoint. We had just woken up after sleeping in a little bit on the weekend. I woke up feeling a little horny and a teeny bit slutty, so while ML was getting dressed I kneeled on the bed in front of her and started playing with my nipple piercings.

I must have looked pretty damn good, because ML came over and began to stroke my cock – ML had allowed me to sleep unlocked the night before. She played with my cock as I teased my nipples. I begged her to let me cum; to my surprise, she said yes! It only took a few more strokes for me to cum all over the bed sheets. Only moments later, ML was walking out of the room, smiling over her shoulder as she told me to get the bed sheets in the laundry.

So what’s next?

Well, that’s honestly a tough question to answer. ML and I have both expressed a desire to try for another full year of denial… I know, why do I put myself through this? As far as chastity goes, we should like to do some more longer lock-ups as well. One thing that is making hard to think about things in the near future is that I may have some health-related situations coming up that might get in the way of any horny play.

Don’t get all worried about me: this isn’t like the last time I got everyone panicked, but it’s still something that will require us to think about how we will handle our chastity and orgasm denial during it. I do know that if we need to take a break, it’ll only be temporary; we have way too much fun with all of this to stop any time soon… or at all!

What are you doing to me?

Posted by Lady M on May 13, 2019
Posted in: FemDom, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Pictures, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 1 comment

Cagedmonkey and I had a little chat, before bed the other night, about my plans for his denial and chastity. As he mentioned, in the last post, life things have been exceptionally busy and play time has been extremely rare. I definitely miss it and want to try to get, at least, something in to spice things up a bit. I miss him being so super hair trigger horny from constant teasing. I love it when he desperately wants me and needs to feel me and aches to feel my pussy.

My plan is to keep him denied of orgasm for the next couple months. We will be going on vacation at the beginning of July. During that time we will see one of our kinky couple friends and being in that environment will certainly help to intensify the horny and his denial. It’s always nice when you’re with sexy people and can have a nice, normal, flowing kinky conversation. I haven’t decided if I’m going to let him cum that weekend or save it for another special day… We will see when he will actually get some release.

As for chastity, that’ll just stay the same for now. He’s locked every day, unless it’s a day that I want to use the cock I control. It really is a large amazing cock and it’s very hard for me to keep locked away… there are times I need it and I am not one to deny myself what I desire. Denial isn’t something I’m necessarily into for myself. 😀

In the mean time, I plan to send him more pics of my big beautiful boobs and my big round ass while he’s at work. Things like these…

I plan to give him some tasks, when possible, to help keep him teased for me. I love having him unlock on the way home, if I know I plan to use him that evening, and make him stroke and edge and keep himself hard on the way home. Sometimes, I’ll have him run an errand on the way home and he’ll have to do it while hiding a hard cock hehe! I do miss all the fun little things we used to do to keep things interesting and build his crazy horny… So I want that back. I just need to work out fitting it in to the craziness that life has become!

Last night was so amazing, I stood at the side of the bed, above him, while he sat on the edge. I put my hands to his cheeks (I love his sexy beard I made him grow!) and held his face and kissed him deep. He ran his hands all over my body and God it felt good! I stood there as he sucked my nipples and squeezed and fondled my big boobs in his hands. I loved feeling his want for me, his hands all over every part of me he could touch. Such an awesome feeling!

I look forward to increasing his desire and frustration 🙂

Birthday Spanking

Posted by Lady M on April 8, 2019
Posted in: FemDom, Marriage, Spanking. Tagged: , , . 11 comments

Yesterday was my birthday! It actually all started Saturday night, we went to munch with our friends and hung out afterwards. It was lots fun and I even got a “Chocolate cake shot” for my birthday as well. Lots of laughs, lots of fun. I even got a few of the whole lots of birthday spankings that should have gone on. I believe there are still like 31 to go. I’ve decided, since I didn’t have time over the weekend that I’m going to give Monkey the rest of my spankings.

Yesterday was a fun day with just us as a family. The kids made me breakfast all by themselves, we went out in the afternoon to see Captain Marvel (I really liked that movie, like a lot!) And then my wonderful monkey boy naked me a cake in the evening! What could be better than that? I felt very loved, it was so sweet!

Anyway, CM and I were talking recently about how much I’ve missed leaving marks on his ass. He found a picture from a bit ago when I used a cane on him and left a beautiful mark for days! I need to see that again. 🙂 So today I’m going to look and see if I can find a good cane, or a few, to buy and have for when Cagedmonkey and I get our date night (without kids at home). It’s supposed to be soon and I look forward to sharing pics!

I used to think we were busy before and that it would slow as the kids got older but, apparently, that’s not the case. Apparently, it only gets busier as you start to have teenagers! One big bonus is the possibility that our oldest one, that I homeschool currently, could possibly go to school next year. That COULD free up some time for hubby and I to get some “day time, play time” in. I really, really, really want to work out getting her back in school. Then, I want to schedule some time off together once in a while to have time together. We miss each other, yet we see each other every day! We just haven’t had the opportunity for any good intense kinky playtime and it sucks. I want to fix that so bad. I feel like I’m letting CM down sometimes, because we don’t have the opportunity to get into good play. I need to figure this out for both of us. I want us to have that time together. It’s such a great release for both of us… And I get really wet and horny during it so I want it, damn it! LoL

Does anyone have a suggestion on where to get a good (inexpensive) cane? What kind should I look for? Do you have a favorite? Can you link me in comments? Don’t be dumb and spam, be serious please. Thanks!! 🙂

Dick Inspection Time

Posted by Lady M on March 18, 2019
Posted in: Chastity Device, FemDom, Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 6 comments

I felt very much in control last night as I had deemed it “Dick inspection time!” Haha I instructed Cagedmonkey on exactly how to take his shower and that he was to call me in to the bathroom so that I could unlock him and wash him properly. He is, very much, still not allowed to touch or see his penis. It was not a sexual washing, at all, it was very clinical. That doesn’t mean the minute he was let out he wasn’t already half way hard lol because he totally was. That poor cock had been locked up for 3 weeks in that Revenge, he was totally ready to stretch out. 🙂

After the shower, CM had to pee but since he’s not allowed to look or touch, he had to keep his eyes closed while I held his penis and let him pee standing up. Something he doesn’t often get to do these days. I think he was grateful! 🙂 Then I took him to the bedroom and he was put in the blackout goggles we recently got/made (I’ll have to tell you guys about them! Super easy and inexpensive.). This made it much easier to inspect how being in the enclosed device has effected my beloved penis. I’m not sure anyone has used that phrase but, now I have! During my inspection, I had to gently run my fingers all down the shaft of his cock, tickle the head, and just touch it all, in general… to make sure there was no loss in sensation, of course! Hehe Then I made sure to stroke it and edge it to be sure everything was in working order… It was all clinical, I tell you! Necessary steps in the inspection process, haha. I did noticed some dry skin so I had to, of course, rub some lotion on it, too. I made sure to rub it in really good from balls to tip. Then I added some more just to make sure that it was fully moisturized. I loved hearing that it was all working fine. At least that’s my assumption from all the moaning noises coming from the blindfolded man.

What I did actually notice, on the underside of CM’s penis, were a few sore spots. It appears they are in spots where the penis folds on to itself. Or bunches up, might be a better way to explain it? Being on the underside, there isn’t really a way to straighten it out or anything so the skin can’t get air. I think, even though he was washing lots, that area just can’t be squished up like that long term. It’s where I have noticed the sore spots in the past, as well, which is why I did this inspection.

This doesn’t mean he won’t be wearing the Revenge. What it does mean, though, is that I’ve required him to take a small break and wear the JailBird today – with explicit instructions not to touch or look at his penis… He has no reason to anyway! Then once he’s had time to heal up those sore spots, he will go back in the Revenge. However, we will be having weekly inspections and thorough cleanings so that I can try to prevent this from happening and he can stay longer in the Revenge. If they still occur with the once out weekly, we will have to reconsider how the Revenge is used. This entire time, Cagedmonkey is not allowed to see or touch his penis. That is mine and only for me to touch or use. So that means he will be wearing the blackout goggles each time and possibly be restrained, depending on how much inspecting I plan to be doing that week. 🙂 Functionality is certainly super important!

Oh No! Ruined Orgasm!

Posted by Lady M on December 20, 2018
Posted in: FemDom, Fetish, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 5 comments

Cagedmonkey has been denied orgasm since the beginning of June. He’s extremely horny, super achy and pretty much always begging for an orgasm. He desperately wants some relief.

I did have this brilliant and devious plan to finally give him his long awaited orgasm. I wanted to make sure he experienced a really great intense orgasm. I wanted it to be memorable for him so that he really felt it, not only physically, but mentally. I kept thinking, what could I do to him to really create this moment that would really stick in his mind. I came up with something I was quite proud of. 🙂 haha

As you may have read, Cagedmonkey and I will often visit our local munch. We had planned to make sure that we would attend the December munches because they are always fun. The first one we collect toys for the Toys for Tots program and then the second munch is always the group’s Kinky Gift Exchange. It’s always a lot of fun this time of year. So my plan for this amazing orgasm involved the munch, so to speak. 🙂

I had come up with a fantastic way to integrate a little humiliation, if you will, into this final release. While hubby and I are definitely not into public humiliation, I thought adding some privately, public humiliation into this release would give him that intense, lasting memory I was hoping for. My plan was to have hubby drive to munch, unlocked, while I was playing with and stroking his cock the whole way. Then in the parking lot I was going to finally make him cum, right in his clothes, and then make him walk into munch and sit there, the whole time, covered in his long awaited orgasm. He’d have to sit there knowing it was all over inside his clothes, possibly leaking through his pants or shirt. Knowing that anyone could see at any moment. I also had no plans of letting him use the rest room… No way did I want him accidentally cleaning up his mess.

To add a little fun to the mix I would have, perhaps, mentioned it to a few close friends at munch that he was sitting in his 6+ month orgasm goo. Hehe 🙂

However, none of that was able to happen because hubby ended up having to work the evening of the munch and I went alone. He couldn’t come to munch and that meant he couldn’t cum. So, sorry that your orgasm got “ruined” my love!

I’m going to have to come up with some other intense and memorable way to make him cum now, does anyone have any ideas? Feel free to comment! 🙂

Kinky Gift Exchange

Posted by Lady M on December 16, 2018
Posted in: FemDom, Fetish, Friends, Sex toy. Tagged: , , , , , . 1 comment

Last night was our “Christmas Munch” better known as the munch where we do a White Elephant style kinky gift exchange. The whole idea is for each person attending to bring a wrapped, perverted or pervertable, gift for the exchange. Each person who brings a gift then chooses a random number and gifts are chosen in number order. The person with number 1 goes up to choose a gift, they open it and show everyone else. Then it’s #2’s turn and they have the choice of taking the first person’s gift or choosing a completely new gift from the table. If they do choose to take the already open gift, the person they took it from, goes up and chooses a new gift. It goes on and on like that until the last person, who gets to choose from all of the already open gifts our the last gift on the table!

It’s a lot of fun to see what people come up with. There have been gifts from wax play sets, bondage tape, dildos, and floggers to wooden cutting boards, spatulas, and knives and even some fun, fantastic homemade implement items. It’s amazing to see what interesting things people come up with as gifts!

So last night we went through our dinner and the whole gift exchange and had a lot of fun seeing friends, laughing and just having a great time. Then it was time to come home and put the kids to bed. Needless to say, I couldn’t walk in with some kinky gift and try explaining that to the kids so I decided to put it in the back seat and I’d grab it later when they were asleep. Until I didn’t grab it later and forgot about it until my daughter and I got in the car to go grocery shopping today. Haha It’s always fun trying to come up with some way to cover up or ignore weird things the kids may see.

I had number 8 of like 18 or 19 gifts so being in the middle it was pretty likely someone was going to take a gift from me. Which they did. The first gift I’d chosen had a dildo, nipple clamps and some other fun toy in it. Who wouldn’t want something like that? After it was taken, I had to choose another gift so, I decided on the homemade extra-large wartenburg wheel – or at least that’s what I call it. It’s actually a smaller sized paint roller with tacks taped all around it. It feels similar to the wheel but on a much wider surface. It’s very interesting and seems like lots of fun.

It wasn’t so much fun trying to explain it away to my daughter in the car. We started to pull out of the driveway and we heard this clink… as the paint roller rolled across the seat and hit the car door. She looked back there to see what it was. When she turned back, she scrunched up her face at me like, “what is that thing?” I was like, “what?” And she’s shrugged and I thought “oh shit!” Then I just started laughing and told her I didn’t even want to get into it. I told her that I have crazy friends and it was someone odd prank gift at the Christmas gift exchange. I told her when she’s an adult and she’s got goofy friends she will completely understand! Haha it seemed to satisfy the question for the time being so we will just go with that.

Anyway, I can’t wait to see what Cagedmonkey thinks of my gift. He isn’t too fond of the wheel itself because it’s a very focused feeling but this is a much wider, spread out sensation. I think it might be interesting, especially with him tied up and running it across those pierced nipples.

Chastity Technology

Posted by Lady M on December 9, 2018
Posted in: FemDom, Fetish. Tagged: , , , , , , . 2 comments

I saw this on Amazon the other morning and thought, “wow, wouldn’t it be awesome if they had smaller bluetooth locks?” Could you imagine small bluetooth locks on chastity cages? I wonder if something like that would work. Also, would that work for remote locking & unlocking?

Technology has the potential to make chastity and other fetishes very interesting! Could you imagine controlling what someone feels from a distance? Controlling the access to their bits and not even being there with them. Or even worse, being there and messing around with them? We’ve already started to explore some of the Bluetooth buttplugs and other devices. They seem like they have so much potential. 🙂

It’ll be quite interesting to see where technology takes us next when it comes to fetishes and bdsm.

Sex Ready aka Cock on Demand

Posted by Lady M on December 3, 2018
Posted in: FemDom, Sex. Tagged: , , , , . 1 comment

I was having a quick conversation with cagedmonkey this morning and told him I was horny and wanted sex later this evening. I made the comment that I needed him “sex ready” for later so when he gets home he’s to unlock his cock. That way when I’m ready and want it, it can be hard in an instant for me to use.

There are times where I let hubby out and want him sex ready, so to speak, but I may decide not to use him, I may decide to tease the hell out of him instead. Sometimes having him out and ready is better than having to wait for him to get unlocked and wiped down (even in an open cage he can get sweaty in there).

The other morning could have been one of those mornings, where I was completely horny and ready to take that big cock and having him sex ready would have helped the situation. You know how it is… When you want it right then and there and don’t want to wait? Yeah, then… Having a big hard cock ready on demand is awesome! 🙂