KeyHolder

Sweet Sweet Fantasy Baby

Posted by Michele on January 29, 2014
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I write this blog based on our experiences, feelings and general knowledge. I’m not a professional nor do I claim to be an expert. I do know that there are some feelings and emotions in this lifestyle that are pretty common. You don’t have to be a Domme or a Keyholder, all you have to be is a partner to someone who has fantasies.
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In our contract, cagedmonkey and I are both required to share any and all fantasies with each other. No matter how crazy, absurd or off the wall they may seem. We are also required to listen to each others fantasies without judgement and with open-mindedness (is that a word?). There are two ways we can respond to fantasies, enthusiastically: “Ooo, damn baby that sounds great I want to try that!” Or accepting: “well, that’s interesting. I don’t think that’s something I’d be into, at least not right now but it is interesting.” This is when we can ask questions, see what the reasoning is behind the fantasy, spanking? humiliation? pain? etc and maybe see if there is even some aspect of it we might like to explore.

One thing someone can start to feel, when hearing your partners fantasies, is responsible. We instantly feel like we HAVE to fulfill said fantasies. We start to feel intimidated by the fantasies thinking we will never measure up. Well I’m here to set the record straight… just because someone has a fantasy does not mean it needs to be fulfilled or that they even want it fulfilled. Not everything can be done but the thought of some things is enough to get a guy to struggle against those cage bars! 🙂

There are several ways to handle a fantasy. Some are like, “Woohoo! I want to do that right now!” Others are like, “well, let’s look in to how to do that right but it sounds awesome so let’s explore.” Some might be like, “I’m not sure I’m into all of that but I did like __________ and I would love to try that part.” And still others are like, “Holy shit you cray cray in the hay hay!” Those fantasies may be better off left as a fantasy inside your nutty little head. Haha however that’s not to say those “head fantasies” cannot be used later to mindfuck your partner.

My point in all of this (mostly to the newer Keyholder or partner in charge) is to remind everyone that we are not at all responsible for fulfilling fantasies. We certainly can, and will I’m sure, but it is in no way a requirement of any relationship. They can be just as fun fulfilled as they are talked about.

So now… what are your fantasies? I’m putting out a request, I’d love to hear one of your favorite fantasies that has been fulfilled, that you wish was fulfilled or that is just a really hot thought in your head.

Please leave a comment or send us an email! 🙂

Keyholder Dilemma – Do I Want Him To Disobey Me?

Posted by Michele on January 27, 2014
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Being a wife and Keyholder can bring on a lot of confusing and conflicting feelings. Especially when it comes to whether or not we want to allow our sweet locked up boys to orgasm.

I noticed last night as cagedmonkey and I were messing around that I had this feeling of wanting him to be so horny for me that he would just take me. That’s all fine and dandy because I have such a devoted, good boy that I can take his hand and put it on the back of my head and he knows I want him to grab my hair, flip me on to the couch and slide into me. What he also knows is that I don’t want him to cum while having his way with me… and he won’t.

While 99.999999% of the time I do not want him to, I really think there is this itty bitty part of me that wishes I could push him past the point of being a good boy. I said, I THINK! It really felt like it last night. I felt like I wished he was so horny he would disobey me. Of course if he did, he’d be punished for it because it would be cumming without permission but maybe part of me wants that? Maybe part of me wants him to disobey so I can punish him? I really DON’T want him to cum. However, there is this little part of me wants to know if I’m THAT irresistible. Could I possibly get him so horny that it pushes him so far as to not be the extremely devoted good boy that he is.

Perhaps just getting him to a begging, pleading, practically crying mess will satisfy my “am I irresistible?” feeling. It’s so frustrating because like I said I really don’t want him to but maybe I do want him to challenge me!

Anyway… I’m not sure what I really want but cagedmonkey and I talked about this very thing today because that’s what you do in a relationship. You talk, about everything! I told him how conflicting the feelings were but that the “don’t orgasm” feelings beat out the “disobey me” ones. We talked about how we could get to a point of, in the moment, letting him know that he had a choice to obey my rules or disobey them. Well really he always has that choice but if he disobeyed at any other time I would be extremely disappointed and probably get depressed and his punishment would be pretty severe. If there was that moment of me being like “well I wouldn’t be devastated if he was so so so bad that he just had to disobey me and take me” I would need to be able to let him know. If it was a moment like that where I let him know with a few choice words there would still be consequences but perhaps no where near as harsh as him making that decision on his own whim.

I’m telling you… if you ever think your wife, girlfriend, partner and Keyholder has an easy job, you are very mistaken! A lot of us get these conflicted feelings. That’s not to say everyone does but I’m sure a good amount of us do.

Male Chastity Makes Me Horny

Posted by Michele on January 26, 2014
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You probably thought this post would be from cagedmonkey, huh? Well it’s not, it’s from me! This whole chastity thing seriously gets me going. I’m constantly horny, constantly wet, ready and waiting to be pleased.

It’s so crazy that sometimes I’ll misread things and turn them sexual. And even the other night cagedmonkey was eating a tomato – yes a tomato – and I got all kinds of turned on. The way he was eating it and slurping up the juices reminded me so much of him eating my pussy. I just love it so much to lay back, head on a pillow, back arched, legs spread while he kisses, licks, sucks and pleases my pussy. How he basically makes out with my pussy lips and tongues my clit.

I really just shook my like, “why the hell an I thinking like that?” LoL

I Can Do It One Handed

Posted by Michele on January 13, 2014
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I may have had shoulder surgery but that’s not exactly stopping me from A. Cumming or B. My WLM/Dominating. I will say that cagedmonkey is doing a fantastic job picking up my slack and doing the things I can’t. It started off rough and he didn’t think he could do it but I think he relaxed a bit and found that things don’t have to be perfect or exactly my way. When I ask that things get done, I just want them done. He’s been great about taking care of the kids and getting them to their activities. He’s been cooking most of the meals and even helps me bathe and get dressed. Like I said, he’s basically being my Super subby hubby! 🙂 I couldn’t be more proud of him, pleased with his service, his dedication and how hard he is working! Love this guy!

With all that said, I did mention that it sure isn’t stopping me from getting my orgasms and certainly isn’t getting him any. He had a little “free” time last week but has been back in his jail Bird and his next unlocking won’t be until January 18th. It’s not a definite orgasm day for him but I might give him a chance to cum at least. 😉

Today has been quite the subby day for him. He’s begging to do anything I ask of him. He is craving my direction and awaiting my orders. Aside from his chores, he was required to wear the njoy for a few hours today as well as service me right when I ask. I went upstairs to put away some clothes and had to call him up to help… he asked what I needed help with and I simply said “my pussy needs to be licked.” He immediately got on his knees and made me cum twice – and, to praise him, he even dealt with our daughters homeschool questions while doing it! 🙂 Awesome!

Is that service or what?

Tonight we have some celebrating to do in the midst of a very Dom/sub kinda day. We will be having some drinks tonight and having a while lot of kinky fun! 🙂

Two Days in & Already Ruined 2014

Posted by Michele on January 2, 2014
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Damn it, Damn it, Damn it!

So since Christmas I’ve been having a lot of fun teasing cagedmonkey. Today and tonight was no different. This morning I decided to restrain cagedmonkey with the neck and wrist cuffs again today and unlock him. I got him worked up and very erect so I could slip the silicone sleeve on him. They I placed the super strong bullet vibrator in the sleeve at the base of his penis & balls. I left him vibrating there unable to touch for 45 mins. 🙂 it was lots of fun hearing the moaning and writhing around from all of the non-stop sensation.

This evening after the kids went to bed I began playing around and gave cagedmonkey one hell of a blow job. I kept edging him over and over with my mouth and hands. I even used his own hand to force him to masturbate and would pull his hand away just before he’d go off the edge. It was fun watching his face and hearing his half laugh moan thing he does! 🙂

I continued stroking over and over keeping him on the edge and abruptly letting go before he would get to orgasm. Until… ugh… I had to go one time too far! It’s not like he had an actual orgasm but I’m still disappointed that I accidentally gave him his first ruined orgasm of 2014!

Ah well… I’m not sure how I’ll handle this because really it was cumming without permission. I’ll have to think about this. I suppose I have been looking for a good excuse for spanking him. Hehe 🙂

Good Morning Where the Sun Don’t Shine

Posted by Michele on January 1, 2014
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Lately, I’ve taken a liking to waking cagedmonkey up in a unique way. I love going up, spooning him and whispering in his ear telling him good morning. I slide my hands under the covers, down his side, over his hip and around to his ass. His skin feels so good under my fingertips! His morning pleasure, instead of a hand job like some guys might get, is me gently sliding a finger in his ass and rubbing his prostate and making him moan. I can’t even begin to explain how much I’m in love with the reactions I get and the way his body responds to my soft, gentle penetration.

The other thing I’ve been researching lately is butt plugs. You all know me and when I start researching stuff! Hehe I’m starting to be ok with the idea of using a butt plug for pleasure occasionally. I’d love to hear your opinions on these, types you use, how you use them. Male and Female points of view are welcome!

My Well Used Sex Toy

Posted by Michele on December 31, 2013
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The other night started like any other night of tease and denial. I told cagedmonkey to get a list of toys and other things I wanted to play with. I had him bring down our neck & wrist cuffs to restrain him and put the blindfold on. It’s been awhile since we’ve used the blindfold so it was fun to pick and choose which toys I wanted to use and cagedmonkey had no idea what I was doing next. With his hands restrained I unlocked his JailBird and let him out of his cage.

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SportSheets neck & wrist restraints

I started out by lubing up the mini butt plug and cagedmonkey’s beautiful tight asshole. Yes, I love that ass of his, I’m sure you remember that from my previous ass post. He was blindfolded so he had no clue what I was inserting, a toy? the butt plug? the prostate massager? I just loved his reaction when I pushed it passed his tight opening. That gasp and moan that happens as the muscle is spread apart.

With his ass feeling filled up and his hands restrained I took the strap-on harness and put it just above his unlocked hard cock. I straddled him and sat down on the strap-on. I began riding the strap on on top of him while his cock flopped around behind me aching to feel me. Instead he just bumped against my ass as I bounced up and down, fucking myself with my dildo. Cagedmonkey was writhing around moaning as I rode myself to a nice orgasm 2 inches away from the cock that desperately wanted to be used.

I started talking to him, describing exactly what I was doing. Like using my dildo to cum and leaving his cock to lay there hard, aching and unused. I told him maybe I needed to have my ass filed up as well just like his. That’s when I grabbed his cock and lubed it up. I could tell even under the blindfold that his eyes were bugging in shock and his breathing got shorter and faster. I lifted up on my knees with the dildo still inserted, took his cock and found the tight sweet spot and sat ever so slowly and gently down taking his entire cock into my ass. He moaned and grunted so loud as I did. I slowly slid up and down and on the dildo and his cock, then faster and faster until I came again, I collapsed onto his chest, breathing heavy… my session was done.

Out of Town, Not Out of Chastity

Posted by Michele on December 29, 2013
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This past weekend we went out of town to visit family and celebrate Christmas. Cagedmonkey was locked back up on Thursday and stayed that way all through the weekend. Even with a ton of kids running around and even playing outside with them hubby had no issues with his JailBird. He was perfectly comfortable and it was like it wasn’t even there, until I got him turned on, then he knew it was there. 🙂 It was difficult being around so much family for 2 days and dying to jump each other. We did steal every moment we could for a kiss or to cop a feel.

Saturday night, after the kids got to sleep, us adults stayed up for some drinks and board games. We had an amazing amount of fun. The kids have always been too young before to do that kind of thing so I’m loving that they are getting older and we can start doing more of this stuff! It felt great to sit with adults, talking and laughing our asses off! 🙂

The whole weekend I kept waiting for someone to ask about the key hanging around my neck. I was fully prepared to say, “oh that’s the key to cagedmonkey’s chastity belt” lol though I’d say it while laughing so it seemed as though I was just joking but if never tell the real answer haha. It would have been fun!

After everyone else went to bed cagedmonkey and I stayed up a bit, had a couple more drinks and got a little frisky. We talked a lot and had some pretty intense conversations that I’m sure I don’t remember all of because of the alcohol. I do remember talking about having a “Power Switch,” as we call them. For us, a Power Switch is literally switching the D/s roll. It takes an immense amount of trust for me to do something like that because I’m naturally dominant and pretty much don’t have a submissive bone in me. Every now and then it is exciting to give up control and feel what it’s like to be forced to do something you “love to hate” doing.

Anyway, overall it was a fun weekend away and we’re back home tonight. All of us are happy to be back home to relax and enjoy some peace and quite. Well, the peace and quite of only our kids talking & fighting with each other, not 6 kids! 🙂

Christmas Break – Chastity Vacation

Posted by Michele on December 26, 2013
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Well Christmas has come and gone. Cagedmonkey was unlocked at about 8am on Christmas eve morning, endured almost 24 hours of teasing, edging and even penetration, before being allowed release. His gift Christmas morning was being allowed to cum inside me. I know he was very worried I was going to make him wait until next year for a release and honestly, I hadn’t made the decision if he would cum or not until about 5 minutes before whispering in his ear.

Since that initial release he’s had a little “vacation” from his chastity device. Since we live a 24/7/365 type chastity lifestyle, it’s rare he is out for more than a few hours at a time. He actually had a chance to leave the house and even go to work without his cage. It did take a good amount of trust on my part but I believe he was the good boy he said he was.

Today will end that little vacation he’s had and the orgasm free for all. The past few days he’s really been able to cum when he wants. Still not allowed to masturbate without permission and even though he didn’t have to, he still asked to cum each time. With the exception of this morning. He got home from work, came in and surprised me with a wet warm tongue in my ass, flipped my half-asleep ass over, licked my pussy and then slid his big thick cock inside and filled me again with his cum. I know it’s something he was looking forward to being able to do. Since he’s always locked it was a nice treat, I’m sure, to be able to come home and fuck his wife. 🙂

So as I said, today the monkey will be caged again with the knowledge that he will not have a chance at release until our anniversary in mid January.

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Woke Up To a “White” Christmas

Posted by Michele on December 25, 2013
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When cagedmonkey got home from work yesterday morning I surprised him by unlocking him. Being unlocked certainly didn’t come without consequence. Since he was going to bed without his cage on, his hands were to be restrained so we didn’t have any accidents! 🙂

I spent most of the day yesterday teasing him. Even while he was trying to sleep I went up and edged him while he was restrained a few times and then drove him absolutely bonkers all day. I edged him throughout the day, let him feel between my pussy lips but not enter me… since it wasn’t actually Christmas yet! 🙂 It really was a fun day of tease and denial.

It was rather interesting going out. While I have him caged he doesn’t have any worries since he can’t get hard but when unlocked and I turn him on in public he’s got a big boner to hide haha. I had a lot of fun making him have to hide it last night.

Cagedmonkey and I had a great night we took a shower together and I got quite loud in there as I let him penetrate me. I allowed him to fuck my ass, however it wasn’t very long as my loud moaning and squealing got him very worked up and he wasn’t yet allowed to cum. We laid together watching some stuff on Netflix and groping each other and making out. We ended up going to bed and he still hadn’t gotten a chance to cum. I’m sure it was frustrating in the middle of the night when he asked to enter me and I said yes but then again denied him orgasm. That happened a couple times.

At about 5:30am – almost 24 hours after I unlocked him – I whispered in his ear while he was sleeping, “cum for me” and in a split second he was hard and on top of me slowly making love to me and gushing his huge load of denied cum deep in my pussy filling me up completely. It felt so good to have his cock pulse inside me emptying his cum in me. I just shook in ecstasy afterwards while he held me in his arms.

What a fantastic “white” Christmas morning. I hope you all have a wonderful day and enjoy your holiday as much as we have so far! 🙂