orgasm control

226 Days Without Orgasm

Posted by Lady M on September 1, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, FemDom, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 10 comments

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to go a year without an orgasm? I’d imagine quit a few of our readers have thought that, tried it or done it!

The longest I made it – yes me… I couldn’t handle it last time – was 299 days. Cagedmonkey probably could have held out longer but I struggled with the connection of cumming together. There is something about feeling that feeling at the same time. I missed being filled up. The last time we tried doing a one year… or longer denial we also tried to do a lot more locked up time. So I made it quite clear that this time I’d be using him as much as I wanted. It has definitely helped this time around because we are already 226 along and I’m no where near feeling a disconnect. We are intimate at least a few times a week, one way or another. So that makes it that much easier to keep him denied.

Plus, I do absolutely love how crazy horny he is. He’s so sweet and loving too! I really do love that just touching me or even sitting and talking and being cute and fun and lovey dovey gets him all hard. He, most times, is struggling in his cage but sometimes I have him unlocked so he’s usable.

Recently, we got a Double Locking Cockring from Mature Metal which is super fantastic for having him available but still locked in something. That way he’s constantly feeling my control over that big cock of his. It doesn’t hurt that the Cockring kinda forces him be hard for a long time, and not just any hard, but super hard hard lol!

So much enjoyment out of this denial, like I said, it’s been much easier this time keeping him aching to cum. I have no doubt he will not orgasm again until sometime in 2021!

What are you doing to me?

Posted by Lady M on May 13, 2019
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Cagedmonkey and I had a little chat, before bed the other night, about my plans for his denial and chastity. As he mentioned, in the last post, life things have been exceptionally busy and play time has been extremely rare. I definitely miss it and want to try to get, at least, something in to spice things up a bit. I miss him being so super hair trigger horny from constant teasing. I love it when he desperately wants me and needs to feel me and aches to feel my pussy.

My plan is to keep him denied of orgasm for the next couple months. We will be going on vacation at the beginning of July. During that time we will see one of our kinky couple friends and being in that environment will certainly help to intensify the horny and his denial. It’s always nice when you’re with sexy people and can have a nice, normal, flowing kinky conversation. I haven’t decided if I’m going to let him cum that weekend or save it for another special day… We will see when he will actually get some release.

As for chastity, that’ll just stay the same for now. He’s locked every day, unless it’s a day that I want to use the cock I control. It really is a large amazing cock and it’s very hard for me to keep locked away… there are times I need it and I am not one to deny myself what I desire. Denial isn’t something I’m necessarily into for myself. 😀

In the mean time, I plan to send him more pics of my big beautiful boobs and my big round ass while he’s at work. Things like these…

I plan to give him some tasks, when possible, to help keep him teased for me. I love having him unlock on the way home, if I know I plan to use him that evening, and make him stroke and edge and keep himself hard on the way home. Sometimes, I’ll have him run an errand on the way home and he’ll have to do it while hiding a hard cock hehe! I do miss all the fun little things we used to do to keep things interesting and build his crazy horny… So I want that back. I just need to work out fitting it in to the craziness that life has become!

Last night was so amazing, I stood at the side of the bed, above him, while he sat on the edge. I put my hands to his cheeks (I love his sexy beard I made him grow!) and held his face and kissed him deep. He ran his hands all over my body and God it felt good! I stood there as he sucked my nipples and squeezed and fondled my big boobs in his hands. I loved feeling his want for me, his hands all over every part of me he could touch. Such an awesome feeling!

I look forward to increasing his desire and frustration 🙂

Oh No! Ruined Orgasm!

Posted by Lady M on December 20, 2018
Posted in: FemDom, Fetish, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 5 comments

Cagedmonkey has been denied orgasm since the beginning of June. He’s extremely horny, super achy and pretty much always begging for an orgasm. He desperately wants some relief.

I did have this brilliant and devious plan to finally give him his long awaited orgasm. I wanted to make sure he experienced a really great intense orgasm. I wanted it to be memorable for him so that he really felt it, not only physically, but mentally. I kept thinking, what could I do to him to really create this moment that would really stick in his mind. I came up with something I was quite proud of. 🙂 haha

As you may have read, Cagedmonkey and I will often visit our local munch. We had planned to make sure that we would attend the December munches because they are always fun. The first one we collect toys for the Toys for Tots program and then the second munch is always the group’s Kinky Gift Exchange. It’s always a lot of fun this time of year. So my plan for this amazing orgasm involved the munch, so to speak. 🙂

I had come up with a fantastic way to integrate a little humiliation, if you will, into this final release. While hubby and I are definitely not into public humiliation, I thought adding some privately, public humiliation into this release would give him that intense, lasting memory I was hoping for. My plan was to have hubby drive to munch, unlocked, while I was playing with and stroking his cock the whole way. Then in the parking lot I was going to finally make him cum, right in his clothes, and then make him walk into munch and sit there, the whole time, covered in his long awaited orgasm. He’d have to sit there knowing it was all over inside his clothes, possibly leaking through his pants or shirt. Knowing that anyone could see at any moment. I also had no plans of letting him use the rest room… No way did I want him accidentally cleaning up his mess.

To add a little fun to the mix I would have, perhaps, mentioned it to a few close friends at munch that he was sitting in his 6+ month orgasm goo. Hehe 🙂

However, none of that was able to happen because hubby ended up having to work the evening of the munch and I went alone. He couldn’t come to munch and that meant he couldn’t cum. So, sorry that your orgasm got “ruined” my love!

I’m going to have to come up with some other intense and memorable way to make him cum now, does anyone have any ideas? Feel free to comment! 🙂

Edging Tools

Posted by cagedmonkey on December 8, 2018
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Here’s something you may not know: ML really enjoys teasing my cock.

Okay, fine, maybe that’s not a news flash.

She really does love it, though. She is a natural cock tease, and has been for pretty much her entire life. I think her absolute favorite thing in the world is to edge me – leaving me so close to orgasm and desperate to cum, but not letting me. She does it in so many ways, it’s hard to tell which is her favorite!

ML has been having me edge myself for her a lot more lately, which is a torture in itself. I so badly want to cum, yet I have to hold back and follow her instructions. If it were up to me, I’d have cum lots of times by now, but instead I’m just more and more frustrated. My Lady likes having me edge with her wand, which is sort of like a tiny taunt: the toy she uses to give herself nice, deep, intense orgasms is the same toy that is bringing me to the edge and leaving me there.

I do think that ML prefers a more “hands on” approach, though. 😉

ML’s touch on my cock feels absolutely incredible – it feels even better than when I touch it myself! She knows how to stroke and tease me to bring me right to the edge quickly. She can also sense the perfect moment to stop, leaving me throbbing and desperate.

But I think ML’s favorite way to edge my cock is with her pussy. The look on her face is amazing as I torture myself with her wet pussy, stroking into her slowly as I push myself closer to orgasm. She smiles and giggles as I moan, struggling to control myself. Usually I have to stop when she starts teasing my nipples, but she doesn’t always let it end that easily – sometimes she’ll make herself cum, her pussy squeezing and pulsing around my edged cock.

With all of these different skills at her disposal, My Lady certainly keeps me on my toes!

I Guess it’s Going to be a NOvember

Posted by Lady M on October 29, 2018
Posted in: Ass Play, Chastity Device, D/s, FemDom, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 5 comments

Football and Cheer season is juuuuuuust about over here in Monkeyland lol. We’ve had a very long season that felt like it’s gone on forever. We actually have one more cheer competition coming up this weekend but football and practice is done. Which means no more reason for my super horny, long denied, hubby to take off his cock cage. I don’t regret it at all since our kids won’t be young forever and I know that they will look back and remember that we were very involved parents when it comes to their sports and other activities. Now that we have time to get a little more back into our kink, I did some thinking today. We won’t have a ton of time but more than we did and, like I mentioned, now there isn’t the excuse of coaching to remove the cage.

This morning I realized that I’m really wanting CM to remember just who owns him and his body and his sexual pleasure. I also want him to remember what is important in this dynamic. That’s my pleasure and what I want. What I want for about the next month is to have CM locked him his cage 24/7. He needs that intense reminder that I control his cock and I’d I want it locked it will be locked and if I want it out it will be out.

The other part of this will be that each evening he will be having some kind of ass play while his cock is locked. That could mean he’ll wear one of our butt plugs – the njoy’s or even the remote plug – or he could be instructed to use a toy on his ass and maybe the wand as well to get his cock dripping precum from his cage. On the nights, when possible, I will likely have him get out the little tripod or selfie stick and take me some really slutty pictures. It would be so humiliating to have to take pics & video of himself violating his own ass because I told him to. Then I can choose to show friends the pictures or maybe even post them on the blog.

I did explain to him that I want him to do this for me and use these toys to keep his ass ready for me… You know, should I have a need to use his ass for something it would be ready. I know, after a couple weeks of being used daily with no use of his penis he might get to a point of wanting to stop… And it won’t stop until I say it stops. He really has no choice in the matter.

So, hopefully, we have a few exciting weeks coming up here in November! 🙂

Cum Crazy

Posted by cagedmonkey on August 25, 2018
Posted in: orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Pictures, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 5 comments

It’s getting close to 3 months since my last orgasm, and usually around this time I start to feel the beginnings of a growing obsession. The obsession centers around the basic premise that you always want what you can’t have. I miss my orgasm so much that it begins to become a focal point of my desires. When my obsession gets this strong, it can really hurt when I’m reminded about what I’m missing.

When I was scrolling through Twitter the other day, I came across a short video clip that punched me right in the gut: it was a woman sucking on a cock, she pulled it out of her mouth and began stroking it and aiming it at her tits. A second later, the cock was spurting cum all over her chest.

God, how I miss doing that.

I was stuck for a moment, watching the clip over and over as her tits were just absolutely covered in cum. And of course it got me horny, but I also got a little sad while watching it – I realized that it’s going to be a long time before I get to actually do that again. In fact, it might be a VERY long time, if ML is thinking the way I suspect she is (more on that in another post). I started thinking back to the times where ML gave me a reprieve of sorts from denial and let me cum as much as I wanted, and I started to feel desperate for another one of those times.

I’m definitely not wanting out of our orgasm denial fun, that would be absolutely silly. After all, this is why we do what we do: so I can experience these intense feelings and emotions just from seeing cum on a pair of boobs. I can’t help but think that I’m missing out on so much pleasure by not cumming for months on end. I know it ends up worth it once I’m finally allowed to… it’s just hard to be THAT patient.

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My Lady can be so evil…

After reading the draft of this post, she decided to assign me a couple more clips to watch, and describe my feelings here. I’ll be seeing them for the first time, click the links to follow along.

First clip:

Ok, that was hot. There’s just so much cum, it soaks her shirt and just keeps on going. It’s a huge mess, but such a great one. ML’s tits are so nice, I would love to see them with my cum dripping off them. No tease or dragging it out in the clip, his cum just spills out so easily… makes me highly jealous.

Second clip:

This one hurt. Again, so much cum, it just doesn’t seem to end. I don’t get to masturbate very much anymore, and the last time I made myself cum was who knows when, so this is doubly frustrating. Add to all this the fact that the cock is somewhat similar to mine, and it’s just one big visual “what it would look like to cum” being shoved in my face.

Well… those clips definitely made things worse, which was most likely EXACTLY why ML had me watch them…

Feelings for the Cock

Posted by Lady M on June 25, 2018
Posted in: KeyHolder, Male Chastity, orgasm control. Tagged: , , , , , , . 10 comments

The other day Cagedmonkey posted an update about our current chastity and denial situation. We had mentioned that starting at his birthday he’d locked for an extended period and denied for a hell of a lot longer. Well, like he updated, the whole lock up thing didn’t go as planned!

If you know my history at all, you know around 3 weeks of having him locked, I start to desperately miss that big cock and feeling it inside me. Well, CM had only been locked 2 weeks when we went to NY for the weekend. We had such an amazing weekend, so loving and sexual and teasy and by the time we got home I was really missing the feeling of his cock, so while I wasn’t planning on having him out, in the heat of a very sexy moment I made him get out of his cage – that was a huge feat since he was rock hard in that cage – and give me the cock I so desperately needed. 🙂

Then comes the next day… I felt so bad, I felt like I’d let him down because I know sometimes we talk about pushing further or doing things longer, harder, more intense and I just couldn’t. There comes this point where I need to feel that connection with him physically and emotionally. Where I need to have him completely and without a cage in between us. However, I still felt bad and like I wasn’t good enough. I got into the “I’ll never be able to give him what he wants” thoughts and I’m worthless, yadda yadda yadda.

The point of this post is to let other women know that this happens… The most important reason for this post is to remind women we are in charge and ultimately we decide when, if and how our guys are locked up and even more importantly, this post is to remind everyone how important communication is. When I started to feel this way I told Cagedmonkey, right away, how I was feeling. I didn’t want it to continue to grow when it was much easier to talk about and work through and not put my feelings on him. I certainly can feel like I’m letting him down but knowing that he’s not let down and that he’s all good with what happened, and good with whatever happens, makes getting through the feelings that much better.

You’ll Cum When I Say So

Posted by Lady M on June 2, 2018
Posted in: FemDom, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 6 comments

This weekend is Cagedmonkey’s birthday weekend. His actual birthday is on Monday, so I decided the weekend before I would spend overloading him on orgasms. My plan is to try to make him cum so much he’s actually asking me to STOP making him orgasm. Once he’s to the point that he can’t physically orgasm anymore, I plan to use the vibrator to overstimulate him as much as possible.

You may be wondering why I plan to do this and the simple answer is that, starting on his birthday, he’s going to be locked and denied for an indefinite amount of time. I’m thinking a good 6 months of denial sounds good to start. Once we get there I may, or may not, make him go another 6. 🙂 The actual lock up won’t be that long but I am planning on having him go 24/7 for a good chunk of time. I want him aching in the pit of his stomach, desperately needing to get hard and even wanting to orgasm.

I can’t wait to flaunt the fact that I get to have as many orgasms as I was, as much as I want, and even get to make him provide me the pleasure of those orgasms. I very much love to see and feel how frustrated he is when he’s aching for sexual attention and so jealous of my orgasms and the orgasms of others! It’s fun when friends brag to him about the orgasms they get to have when he’s locked and denied and wanting one so bad.

It should be a fun year 🙂

Overstimulation and Old School Tease

Posted by Lady M on March 4, 2018
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Earlier this week I expressed, to cagedmonkey, how much I’d been missing the nightly teasings, like we used to do, and having him bound to the bed. I miss the way things were in the beginning when he was almost constantly horny and edged and we would ruin orgasms. You know, all that fun stuff that comes with orgasm control and me being in control of his sexual pleasure.

So last night I had cagedmonkey unlock, before we went to munch even, because I played with him a little in the car on the way and even gave him a couple good cock squeezes while we were there. It certainly helps when I have a Mistress for a best friend who was sending him pictures of her sucking one of the dicks she owns. Those types of pictures and someone willing to flaunt their sexual fun are always helpful in keeping CM very horny and frustrated. Hehe I have the bestest friends, don’t I? 🙂

After were got home, I took him into the bedroom for some playtime. I secured his wrists and ankles to the bed using our under bed restraints. By the way, they are getting old and soon I’ll need new cuffs for them! Anyway, I got him tightened down and he was already getting hard! I love that more and more he’s becoming the “hair trigger horny” that I love so much. Each time I tell him to go edge himself it takes less than a minute to get hard and on edge! It’s amazing!

I spent the a good amount of time stroking his cock, edging and teasing him with the wand. For the last half an hour of our little session there I alternating putting the wand on his sensitive spot juuuuuuuuust to the point he might cum and then I’d take it and place it directly on the tip of his penis and just vibrate it and overstimulate the head of his cock until he was wiggling and pulling against the restraints. I loved hearing every moan and groan and whimper.

I did end up doing a little bit of “post orgasm torture” but don’t think he got a typical orgasm. I certainly ruined the hell out of his orgasm with the wand and his overstimulated head. He was really whimpering during that. I very much enjoyed having some old school teasing with CM last night. He really seemed to be effected and I know he’s feeling frustrated today.

15yrs of Marriage – Rope Bondage, Chastity, Tease & Denial – Part 2

Posted by Lady M on February 4, 2018
Posted in: Bondage, FemDom, Marriage, orgasm control, Pictures, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 4 comments

I always knew I liked bondage. I like the vulnerable, helplessness of it. I get so turned on knowing that I have someone so completely dependant on me. Which is likely why I enjoy the control of an FLR and chastity. I just never knew how much I enjoyed it, until cagedmonkey and I had some time to really play with rope on our anniversary weekend. I got to finally get him bound in such a sexy amazing way with his calves bound to his thighs and wrists bound behind his back.

I’m glad we had time to practice beforehand because I really think I did a good job getting him bound in the rope. The purple rope looks amazing on him too.

I feel like my rope tying skills can only get better from here. He certainly couldn’t move his legs apart from themselves but I wanted to make sure he was completely bound so I used another rope to bind his ankles and then his wrists.

I had so much fun with him tied up this way. One of cagedmonkey’s kinks is to be taken advantage of while completely vulnerable. So I spent a good amount of time tickling the living hell out of him. He hates tickling so much. I teased him verbally and just loved every single reaction that came out of him. My pussy got so incredibly wet during it all as well. It was dripping and I even climbed up and let him feel it as I rubbed it on his back and left him with a huge gooey wet spot.

After over an hour bound in the rope I felt he’d had enough. His face was beet red, his eyes were watering and I can just imagine how his muscles felt. The marks that were left from the ropes were exquisite. I admired them as I removed each loop.

I can’t wait to have another weekend where we can play with the rope again. I’d like to find some other awesome ways to get him bound. Of course, I also want to think of other fun things to do to him while he’s so completely helpless and vulnerable. We definitely want to get him into more predicament type stuff.