One of the things I am asked often is Do I or why don’t I have cagedmonkey shave completely or dress in panties or [insert sissy/feminization reference here]? The simple answer is: I don’t want him to.
The more complex answer is something interesting I’ve been realizing slowly about myself. Over the last couple years, traveling along this kinky road, I’ve often analyzed my reasons for liking certain sexual things. Sometimes I’ve given up on analyzing some stuff because there is no rhyme or reason why that thing turns me on. Most things, however, I can link to a good event or even a trauma (mostly traumas!) in my past and that act is simply helping me work through the emotional baggage from the past.
I’m not going to get into my childhood traumas but simply put, I was sexually abused by a man early in life and, as you can imagine it left that little girl very vulnerable and helpless. So, for me and my complex answer as to why I don’t want some sissy, feminine guy for a submissive husband, it’s simply that I get off on controlling a man. Knowing that this man who could on the outside obviously take care of anything he needed to but is submissive to me, kneels before me and is locked in a chastity cage for me and is controlled sexually by me.
For me, it’s more of a turn on to control the big strong man and to have myself a submissive man for a husband.
Very good statement!
Not so good to hear about that things in your childhood, obviously. Oh my … what would psychological people make all out of this? Abused – dominant …
But is being shaved completely truely a feminization reference? I’ve never seen it like this before.
Thank you! Obviously the childhood crap isn’t good but I’ve come to terms with it. Took over 30 yrs but I did it, accept it and have forgiven myself for it.
Oh and I am sure that being shaved could/is just a smooth skin or preference type thing but when I’m asked it’s usually alongside the sissy/fem questions. 🙂
From time to time , my “lady” will be in the kitchen and she will look around and say “This house is a mess”
I go upstairs at once and change into whatever she has laid out for me on our bed. It varies.
Then I come back down to the kitchen to find the list of chores to be done.
Sometimes Im wearing only a dog lead round my scrotum.
Sometimes its the full french maid .
Im NOT a “sissy feminine guy”. I am a humiliated submissive husband.
At the end of the “session” the house is cleaner/brighter/polished/dust free – whatever. And I am a man who has received a caning as a reward.
Win/Win
Yay! See, I think that’s beautiful and amazing that that works for you! That is incredible that you found things you both like and turn you on and make you enjoy this life together!
Thank you for sharing! 🙂
Sorry about the childhood abuse but congrats on coming to terms with it and that you have forgiven yourself for it. It’s never the victim’s fault.
And it makes perfect sense that while you control him and keep him locked, you don’t want to feminize him. You want to control a man.
FD
Exactly 🙂