I was asked this really great question recently so I thought I would take a minute to write here about it. I’m sure some of our readers who are in control would appreciate it. Then again, some of you in the submissive role may like to know this stuff too.
“…doesn’t it make you feel bad sometimes when you deny your hubby for so so long? Do you ever feel guilty?”
There actually was a time, when we first started this whole chastity and longer term denial thing, that I would describe my feelings as guilt. Now that we are almost 4 years into this there are zero feelings of guilt. There doesn’t need to be any. 4 years ago my hubby asked me to take control of his sexual pleasure. He wanted me to be the one to decide if, when and how he would orgasm. I gladly accepted that role and took control over that pleasure for him. So why would I feel guilty about giving him something he wanted in the first place? That’s something us dominant types can forget sometimes… but when someone completely offers themselves to us we need to not feel guilty about accepting the responsibility.
Cagedmonkey naturally craves and needs to be controlled and I naturally crave and need to be in control. It makes us both feel fulfilled and content in our relationship and in our life. It fits us so well to accept these roles.
So, in short, no I don’t feel bad or guilty about denying him orgasm or even keeping him locked in that steel cage and even controlling him to the point of when he gets a full erection. I love knowing that he is THAT controlled, down to something even HE can’t control! I love knowing he has a pretty constant reminder of me and the fact that I control him and he sexual organs and pleasure. It’s mine to enjoy, he gave me that. He offered me that gift and it’s one of the best things and shows such deep love and respect and, more importantly, trust. It makes me feel great, not guilty!
This is such a great post. I believe my Queen is finally coming to the same conclusion. We’ve never gone as long as you and caged monkey, but today is 90 days since my last orgasm. She is more than content to keep me from orgasm too–it shows in her devious smile when I am panting with desire and am fully erect as she calls a stop to our lovemaking. “I’m satisfied completely and we’re stopping now”. She will then sometimes laugh at the expression on my face. I guess I look stricken. But dutifully I stop. I GAVE her that power and right. I need to man up and do as she says.
Still in the beginning I do think she was guilty. Last weekend though she said, ” I can’t understand why more women wouldn’t want this!” The power is shifting and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
That sounds amazing! I do the same thing! I get a good giggle out of CM’s frustration hehe I love seeing his face and watching him squirm and I love feeling his frustration come out in his body language!
You are right, he GAVE that to me! Such an amazing and intimate gift!