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226 Days Without Orgasm

Posted by Lady M on September 1, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, FemDom, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 10 comments

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to go a year without an orgasm? I’d imagine quit a few of our readers have thought that, tried it or done it!

The longest I made it – yes me… I couldn’t handle it last time – was 299 days. Cagedmonkey probably could have held out longer but I struggled with the connection of cumming together. There is something about feeling that feeling at the same time. I missed being filled up. The last time we tried doing a one year… or longer denial we also tried to do a lot more locked up time. So I made it quite clear that this time I’d be using him as much as I wanted. It has definitely helped this time around because we are already 226 along and I’m no where near feeling a disconnect. We are intimate at least a few times a week, one way or another. So that makes it that much easier to keep him denied.

Plus, I do absolutely love how crazy horny he is. He’s so sweet and loving too! I really do love that just touching me or even sitting and talking and being cute and fun and lovey dovey gets him all hard. He, most times, is struggling in his cage but sometimes I have him unlocked so he’s usable.

Recently, we got a Double Locking Cockring from Mature Metal which is super fantastic for having him available but still locked in something. That way he’s constantly feeling my control over that big cock of his. It doesn’t hurt that the Cockring kinda forces him be hard for a long time, and not just any hard, but super hard hard lol!

So much enjoyment out of this denial, like I said, it’s been much easier this time keeping him aching to cum. I have no doubt he will not orgasm again until sometime in 2021!

Seven Years in a Chastity Device

Posted by Lady M on August 13, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . 1 comment

It was over seven years ago that Cagedmonkey and I started this chastity journey. No, we didn’t start out in steel nor a custom device. However, seven years ago was when we purchased our first steel custom device from Mature Metal and that changed everything about our journey.

I was chatting yesterday with Mistress MM at Mature Metal and we got to talking about CM’s cage sizes so I had to go look up my old emails from our last cage purchase. It ended up being exactly 5 years from yesterday that we had purchased our most recent cage.

As you can see, this cage, is a Jail Bird like he always wears but we had an extra ring added to the cage itself. I really like the look of this cage. It’s definitely my favorite out of all of our cages.

Since it’s been 5 years since we have gotten anything new… I was thinking about possibly getting a new cage or maybe looking at the locking cock rings and other fun stuff william makes. I’m pretty interested in the base ring with the dildo option. That would certainly keeps things exciting without having to remove the cage.

Cagedmonkey wrote recently about committing to the cage and I have to say, I’m actually very happy to have him back in 24/7. There is something about it that just makes it so that much more exciting and intense. I told him, the next time we have sex, I may still not let him out. I certainly do love how big and buldgy he gets through the cage bars.

Committing to the Cage

Posted by cagedmonkey on August 10, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Medical, Orgasm Denial, Pictures. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 3 comments

After coming back from our vacation, (shameless promo link for our Mature Metal podcast!) I’ve been trying to focus more on wearing my cage as much as possible. Over the past few months, it’s been difficult to wear the cage 24/7 due to my back pain. Yes, my back surgery was successful, but (thanks to COVID concerns) I was not able to go through a full rehab-type regimen after surgery. This has made my recovery a little rough at times.

Specifically, it was very difficult for me to wear the cage overnight because I would often wake up to very painful cage-erections. They would really hurt, and not in the good “sexual confinement” way. After an extremely bad night, ML and I decided to have me take the cage off at night until things got better.

To be honest, My Lady was able to enjoy the situation by having easy access to morning sex… and, damn, do we have good morning sex! But I still felt that ML was being deprived of her total control of my cock. So over the past couple of days, we’ve decided to try the 24/7 lock up again and see how i handle it.

Good news report: I’ve been wearing the cage since Friday, and it feels great.

Yes, I’m still getting those “4am wake up” erections in the cage… but I’ve decided that I just need to figure out how to deal with them. So now, I’ll change position to take pressure off of my back or something, which usually works enough so I can get back to sleep. Most of all, I’m realizing how badly I miss being locked up for My Lady. Yes, I’m still crazy horny because I haven’t cum all year, but there’s a different intensity to having my erections denied as well. I already feel it building up over the past couple of days, and I’m glad it’s back.

It might take a little while before I can get start wearing it for weeks at a time, but I’m honestly looking forward to it. I know how much ML enjoys having me wear it according to her desires, and I’m excited about getting back to that.

Podcast Episode 13 – Chatting with Mature Metal

Posted by Lady M on August 7, 2020
Posted in: Conversations, In Real Life, Male Chastity, Marriage, Podcast, Spanking, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 9 comments

Cagedmonkey and I had the wonderful pleasure of spending time with the Beauty and the brains behind Mature Metal male chastity devices. Featured here in this special edition, extended length, podcast are not only us but Mistress MM, herself and william!

Thank you again for having us and also agreeing to chat with us a bit about your company and yourselves! We love you guys and can’t wait to see you again for more fun times in Texas! Hehe

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A Mature Metal Get-a-Way

Posted by Lady M on August 6, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . 5 comments

A couple months ago, after we were already a few months into this time we are living, cagedmonkey and I decided we needed to get away. We didn’t want to go too soon so we planned it out for August 1st. Definitely thought the world would have a better handle on a virus after 8 months but whatever, we wanted a break from reality. Little did we know that this little break we planned would be one of the best trips we’ve ever taken!

Last week we hopped a plane and flew to Texas (kids, too!) to finally meet and hang out with friends we’ve known for about 7 years. The weather was warm but actually really great all week. It stayed mostly in the upper 80’s to 90 and sunny and just gorgeous. We spent the week away from other people and the hustle and bustle of the world. It was quiet and relaxing and much needed. Lots of time spent swimming, talking, laughing, enjoying amazing food and getting to know each other. The kids went lizard hunting and 4 wheeling and fishing, and so much more. It was lots of fun! I could seriously get into more but I’m sure you’re sitting there wondering why I’m telling you about some vacation we took with the kids to Texas when this blog is about chastity, right?

First of all, you know us and we like to tell you stories about how chastity fits into real life and marriage with kids. So I’ll start off with cagedmonkey did not fly to Texas caged! I know, I know, you all are disappointed with me that I didn’t send him through TSA with his steel cage on so he could be searched. Lol Honestly, I would have had no issues with him wearing it or sending it through in his bag, however, I really didn’t need a show when our kids were with us. Had we been alone, that little bit of humiliation would have been fun. TSA really is discreet and are not announcing what they find or are searching for in your bag. They are calm and quiet and very nice. So… We had an uncaged monkey for the week we were in Texas.

Now, to the most exciting part… Why Texas?!?! Well because our friends from Mature Metal are in Texas, of course!

Now you see why I mentioned the uncaged thing lol. I found it ironic that we finally get to meet the creators and makers of the cage I have hubby’s cock locked in every day and he’s not even locked in it!

We had such a fun week getting to know Mistress MM & william and we even got to see where all the magic happens! I really did think the shop would be a little bigger than it was. It totally makes sense, though, for ease and suited everything is just about in reach. One thing we noticed all over was the abundance of keys and M’s all over their house. I mean it is Mature Metal and it’s all about keeping important things locked up!

It was really wonderful hearing about how they got started and how it truly is a family owned and run business. Heck, I’m pretty sure we became family being down there lol Mistress MM even put the kids to work! Just think, next time you order a cage, your Keys could have been packed by my kid. Lol

My favorite things we learned while visiting were about Mistress MM & william as people, how they met, what their kinks are and how life is for them. And it was weirdly exciting to find out how alike Mistress MM & I are! We think so alike, like the same things and even finished each other’s sentences! It was like I found my long lost sister!

I certainly don’t want you thinking we kept it all completely vanilla while we were there with the kids. We did find some time to sneak in some impact play with our boys one night. That was lots of fun too! We even found out we like to beat the boys just about the same haha! I was able to get some good marks on cagedmonkey that night but they didn’t last too long into the next day. Maybe I needed to beat him a little longer but somebody was hungry for some ham & cheese! Hahaha

Anyway, keep an eye on the blog over the next couple days, we are working on putting up a very special podcast for your enjoyment! Also, a special thank you to our friends at Mature Metal for an amazing week and letting us into your world! Love you guys and your definitely our family now! Can’t wait to see you again soon!

The Kink Mindset

Posted by cagedmonkey on June 25, 2020
Posted in: In Real Life, Male Chastity, Marriage, Podcast, Reviews. Tagged: , , , , , , , , . Leave a Comment

Admittedly, it’s super hard lately to keep ourselves in the kink frame of mind… especially with everything that’s been going on lately. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I’m horny just about every single day. After all, going 5+ months without an orgasm will do that to you. It’s just that it’s not that easy to keep sex, orgasm denial, and chastity on the forefront of your mind with all of the things out there to be worried about.

But we’re trying.

ML is still keeping me locked up as much as possible (as much as my recovery from back surgery will allow), and is teasing me as often as she can (tough to get a good groove going when the kids go to bed so late with no school the next day). She’s still amazingly good at ruining my orgasms, and of course she still has her beautiful tits and sexy ass.

So that’s all good news.

More good news is that we’ve actually been working on making time for special things – not only for us personally, but also for this blog. We’ve got a couple of new toy reviews that will be coming up soon, and some new sexy outfits for ML to do some photo shoots with. Annnnnnnnd…. we are also putting together a VERY special surprise for our podcast fans this summer, so stay tuned for a can’t-miss episode!

In these uncertain times (God, I HATE that phrase), it’s important to hold onto the things that are normal when you can. And we’ll be doing our best to get back to normal here at Monkey In A Cage, as soon as we can!

New Year, Same Us

Posted by Lady M on January 17, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

With the start of the new year – in more ways than one, wink wink – we’ve seen a slight uptick in our blog visits. Okay, maybe it’s because we actually got up off our butts, stopped being lazy, and started posting again…. but who really cares about the why, right? Anyway, we’ve also had some new followers, both here and on Twitter, so we figured it would be a good idea to go oover a little basic Q&A on what we are all about. And, to help us out with the “Q” portion of that equation, one of our followers wrote to us asking us some things about our relationship.

johnsk writes:

I am fascinated by this. Single guy here from USA. Although my cock is not large, I cannot get even the largest ring to fit. I have tried lube, etc. Very frustrating.

I’ll allow it.

The most common device I wear is the Jailbird from Mature Metal. I use an oval base ring, which may end up helping in your case. I know that I had trouble with the circular rings of other cages (although the Revenge ring is circular, and that one works fine).

Moving on to johnsk’s actual questions:

How often are you allowed to orgasm? Is it strictly her decision or a joint decision?

When and how I get to orgasm is 100% her choice. The frequency of my orgasms can vary depending on My Lady’s mood – sometimes it will be every few weeks, sometimes every few months. I have been cumming a lot more often than I am used to these past couple of weeks, but that is going to come to a stop VERY soon – ML and I are planning to once again try at a complete year of orgasm denial for me starting from our anniversary, which…..

*checks notes*

…. is TOMORROW!!!!

johnsk continues:

I also wonder if you employ butt plugs and spanking in conjunction with chastity.

ML is certainly a big fan of spanking me, although we haven’t had much opportunity to do so recently. As expected, spankings tend to generate a lot of noise; and, as a married couple with two children, it gets difficult to find time for that. Butt plugs are much easier to be discreet with, and ML will have me wear one from time to time.

johnsk finished:

Thanks for a great site on this topic.

And thanks for reading! We really do enjoy posting and doing all of this blog stuff – not just because we are kinky fuckers who like to show off all of the fun stuff we are doing, but also because we like the education aspect of all of this. There are a lot of sites that preach a specific kind of chastity play, and claim that it’s the “right way to do it” and no other way is “real” chastity… well, that’s all bullshit. Chastity can be whatever it means to you: you can lock up your cock without having a keyholder, you can have a single keyholder, or even a committee! You can be in chastity for an hour, a day, or a week… or longer, even. There’s no wrong answer, as long as it works for you.

So, thanks to johnsk and all of our other readers/followers! We look forward to you visiting us as we continue our fun far into the future.

Rough Nights

Posted by cagedmonkey on January 7, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Medical, Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 5 comments

Things are in an interesting place in the MinaC household. On the one hand, both ML and I are anticipating another try for a full year of orgasm denial – while I know I will eventually be horribly desperate to cum by the end of it, we both miss the intensity and the crazy horniness that it brings to both of us. My Lady is particularly excited about incorporating more ruined orgasms into the mix, which will hopefully somewhat fulfill her desire to see me cum without giving me the pleasure of a full orgasm. It’ll also most likely drive my frustration even stronger (another positive in ML’s eyes).

On the other hand, certain “situations” have developed that have put some limits on my ability to wear my chastity cage, specifically overnight. I’ve been experiencing some pretty severe back pain over the past few months, which was confirmed as a herniated disc by MRI.

Wearing the cage at night often leads to middle-of-the-night erections that cause such bad pain that I can’t sleep. Now, before y’all start in with the “OMG chastity caused your herniated disc!” BS —

— I’m almost 100% sure I injured it during our recent move. Just because it hurts now because of it, doesn’t mean it originally caused it. If you break your ankle skiing, it’s gonna hurt if you walk on it; you didn’t break your ankle by walking on it.

It’s kind of a bummer to not be able to wear the cage indefinitely at this time; I feel like I’m taking away ML’s choice in how long I wear the cage (to be fair, it was ML’s decision to allow me to sleep cageless for now). I would really like to wear the cage for days or even weeks at a time if she desires – my desperation for just a simple erection can get very intense – but it’s just not doable right now.

The weird thing is that when I get sexually aroused in the cage, it doesn’t lead to the pain that the mid-sleep ones do. It’s almost as if it’s a different type of erection that occurs. This is good – at least My Lady gets to see my cock struggling in its cage while she teases me. That’s one of her favorite things about keeping me in chastity!

So, depending on how we decide to address my back pain issue (surgery is a definite possibility in the near future), things may get better quickly or maybe not-so-quickly. I’m just hoping for some improvement in the future. I want ML to be able to keep me in the cage for as long as she wants, not as long as I can manage.

A Look Ahead

Posted by cagedmonkey on December 22, 2019
Posted in: FemDom, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Pictures. Tagged: , , , , , , .

My last denial stint was a little unexpected, both in its beginning and its length. ML was letting me cum on a fairly regular basis, which for me meant that I had two or three orgasms in the same week. We were moving into our new house, and I figured we would be doing the “let’s fuck in the different rooms of the house to celebrate” thing. I was only partially right, though – while we did have sex in different areas of the house, I only got to cum once in the new house.

That was at the beginning of September. I honestly wasn’t ready for a 3-month-plus denial, but My Lady doesn’t have an obligation to warn me ahead of time when I won’t be cumming for a while. It’s nice to know (so I can savor my last orgasm as much as possible), but not necessary.

My last orgasm was about a week or so ago, and I have a feeling it was sort of unplanned from ML’s standpoint. We had just woken up after sleeping in a little bit on the weekend. I woke up feeling a little horny and a teeny bit slutty, so while ML was getting dressed I kneeled on the bed in front of her and started playing with my nipple piercings.

I must have looked pretty damn good, because ML came over and began to stroke my cock – ML had allowed me to sleep unlocked the night before. She played with my cock as I teased my nipples. I begged her to let me cum; to my surprise, she said yes! It only took a few more strokes for me to cum all over the bed sheets. Only moments later, ML was walking out of the room, smiling over her shoulder as she told me to get the bed sheets in the laundry.

So what’s next?

Well, that’s honestly a tough question to answer. ML and I have both expressed a desire to try for another full year of denial… I know, why do I put myself through this? As far as chastity goes, we should like to do some more longer lock-ups as well. One thing that is making hard to think about things in the near future is that I may have some health-related situations coming up that might get in the way of any horny play.

Don’t get all worried about me: this isn’t like the last time I got everyone panicked, but it’s still something that will require us to think about how we will handle our chastity and orgasm denial during it. I do know that if we need to take a break, it’ll only be temporary; we have way too much fun with all of this to stop any time soon… or at all!

Mail Chastity: How to Become A Good Keyholder

Posted by Lady M on November 26, 2019
Posted in: Advice, Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Mail Chastity, Male Chastity, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , . 2 comments

I received a message from another keyholder on chastityforums.com. She is a bit new to all this, in general, and is struggling with how to be a KH and a good one at that. So here is a bit of what she wrote and my response.

“My ‘vanilla self’ is constantly fighting with ‘the KH self’ I’m sure [my hubby] would like me to become. I’m not even sure how to make this change. Do you have any ideas to help me in my quest to transition from vanilla to a true KH in every sense of the word?”

First of all… This isn’t about you becoming something your hubby wants you to be. This is about you both enjoying this the way YOU enjoy it, whatever way that may be. Please do me a favor and don’t try to be and do things that are not natural. What you do should feel good and exciting to you. If you fake it, it will become work and then you could easily build resentment by trying to live up to his expectations… Do what you enjoy and are comfortable with. You are in charge, you hold the key, literally – he should not be in charge through you when it comes to chastity or keeping him locked etc. That is called “topping from the bottom” and that’s not ok. It is perfectly fine to communicate – if you know me at all I’m huge on communication – so talk and listen to each other. Get to know what you like, what you think you like, what you don’t like, what feels good both physically and mentally. Decide from there what YOU want to implement in your relationship.

Don’t be afraid to try things if they are not a hard No! You may like them or maybe not and you have the choice, as the one in charge, to say yes that’s good we will do that or no that felt bad or uncomfortable and we are not doing that! It’s all good. In the beginning it’s all about talking and trying and figuring out what works and feels good. Don’t be afraid to say no or change your mind either… Try hard to remember, in most situations, he is the one that asked you for this and decided to give you control. He doesn’t want to decide what happens with his sexual desires, his orgasms, his pleasure. He wants you to be in control of it all. 🙂

In regards to how to be a good keyholder, please feel free to listen to Episode 3 of our podcast. It’s about praise and reassurance and it’s just me talking to other keyholders and I think it might be helpful!

Good luck!