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You’ll Cum When I Say So

Posted by Lady M on June 2, 2018
Posted in: FemDom, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 6 comments

This weekend is Cagedmonkey’s birthday weekend. His actual birthday is on Monday, so I decided the weekend before I would spend overloading him on orgasms. My plan is to try to make him cum so much he’s actually asking me to STOP making him orgasm. Once he’s to the point that he can’t physically orgasm anymore, I plan to use the vibrator to overstimulate him as much as possible.

You may be wondering why I plan to do this and the simple answer is that, starting on his birthday, he’s going to be locked and denied for an indefinite amount of time. I’m thinking a good 6 months of denial sounds good to start. Once we get there I may, or may not, make him go another 6. 🙂 The actual lock up won’t be that long but I am planning on having him go 24/7 for a good chunk of time. I want him aching in the pit of his stomach, desperately needing to get hard and even wanting to orgasm.

I can’t wait to flaunt the fact that I get to have as many orgasms as I was, as much as I want, and even get to make him provide me the pleasure of those orgasms. I very much love to see and feel how frustrated he is when he’s aching for sexual attention and so jealous of my orgasms and the orgasms of others! It’s fun when friends brag to him about the orgasms they get to have when he’s locked and denied and wanting one so bad.

It should be a fun year 🙂

Typical

Posted by cagedmonkey on March 25, 2018
Posted in: Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . 5 comments

There’s really nothing super special about today. Just a regular old Sunday, hanging around the house.

I’m crazy fucking horny.

This is just how my life is now – I’m perpetually in a state of horniness, wanting sex, and needing to cum. Even as I sit here writing this, I can feel my thighs putting pressure on my cock and making it worse. Just the act of sitting is making me sexually crazy.

It seems as though all of this time with extremely reduced orgasm frequency is starting to catch up to me. Even after so long, I’m not getting used to it – it’s actually building and becoming even greater. It’s like I have a certain baseline need for sexual pleasure inside me, and when I’m denied and fail to meet that baseline, it just keeps rolling over. Eventually, I’ll reach a point where no amount of orgasms will ever be able to truly satisfy me, because I’m so deep in the hole already.

Here’s the scary part: all of this is going through my mind at a time when playtime between ML and I has been patchy at best – we haven’t had a truly intense play session for a while. But just our base level of sexual connection is enough to leave me simmering on a lazy Sunday morning.

I’m truly fortunate that ML isn’t bothered by my now-permanent mindlock on sex. I can’t help myself from squeezing her boobs or grabbing her ass for no other reason that she happens to be within arms reach. Although, it is her fault, after all.

Overstimulation and Old School Tease

Posted by Lady M on March 4, 2018
Posted in: Bondage, orgasm control, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 4 comments

Earlier this week I expressed, to cagedmonkey, how much I’d been missing the nightly teasings, like we used to do, and having him bound to the bed. I miss the way things were in the beginning when he was almost constantly horny and edged and we would ruin orgasms. You know, all that fun stuff that comes with orgasm control and me being in control of his sexual pleasure.

So last night I had cagedmonkey unlock, before we went to munch even, because I played with him a little in the car on the way and even gave him a couple good cock squeezes while we were there. It certainly helps when I have a Mistress for a best friend who was sending him pictures of her sucking one of the dicks she owns. Those types of pictures and someone willing to flaunt their sexual fun are always helpful in keeping CM very horny and frustrated. Hehe I have the bestest friends, don’t I? 🙂

After were got home, I took him into the bedroom for some playtime. I secured his wrists and ankles to the bed using our under bed restraints. By the way, they are getting old and soon I’ll need new cuffs for them! Anyway, I got him tightened down and he was already getting hard! I love that more and more he’s becoming the “hair trigger horny” that I love so much. Each time I tell him to go edge himself it takes less than a minute to get hard and on edge! It’s amazing!

I spent the a good amount of time stroking his cock, edging and teasing him with the wand. For the last half an hour of our little session there I alternating putting the wand on his sensitive spot juuuuuuuuust to the point he might cum and then I’d take it and place it directly on the tip of his penis and just vibrate it and overstimulate the head of his cock until he was wiggling and pulling against the restraints. I loved hearing every moan and groan and whimper.

I did end up doing a little bit of “post orgasm torture” but don’t think he got a typical orgasm. I certainly ruined the hell out of his orgasm with the wand and his overstimulated head. He was really whimpering during that. I very much enjoyed having some old school teasing with CM last night. He really seemed to be effected and I know he’s feeling frustrated today.

15yrs of Marriage – Rope Bondage, Chastity, Tease & Denial – Part 2

Posted by Lady M on February 4, 2018
Posted in: Bondage, FemDom, Marriage, orgasm control, Pictures, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 4 comments

I always knew I liked bondage. I like the vulnerable, helplessness of it. I get so turned on knowing that I have someone so completely dependant on me. Which is likely why I enjoy the control of an FLR and chastity. I just never knew how much I enjoyed it, until cagedmonkey and I had some time to really play with rope on our anniversary weekend. I got to finally get him bound in such a sexy amazing way with his calves bound to his thighs and wrists bound behind his back.

I’m glad we had time to practice beforehand because I really think I did a good job getting him bound in the rope. The purple rope looks amazing on him too.

I feel like my rope tying skills can only get better from here. He certainly couldn’t move his legs apart from themselves but I wanted to make sure he was completely bound so I used another rope to bind his ankles and then his wrists.

I had so much fun with him tied up this way. One of cagedmonkey’s kinks is to be taken advantage of while completely vulnerable. So I spent a good amount of time tickling the living hell out of him. He hates tickling so much. I teased him verbally and just loved every single reaction that came out of him. My pussy got so incredibly wet during it all as well. It was dripping and I even climbed up and let him feel it as I rubbed it on his back and left him with a huge gooey wet spot.

After over an hour bound in the rope I felt he’d had enough. His face was beet red, his eyes were watering and I can just imagine how his muscles felt. The marks that were left from the ropes were exquisite. I admired them as I removed each loop.

I can’t wait to have another weekend where we can play with the rope again. I’d like to find some other awesome ways to get him bound. Of course, I also want to think of other fun things to do to him while he’s so completely helpless and vulnerable. We definitely want to get him into more predicament type stuff.

15yrs of Marriage – Rope Bondage, Chastity, Tease & Denial – Part 1

Posted by Lady M on February 4, 2018
Posted in: Bondage, FemDom, Marriage, orgasm control, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 4 comments

A couple of weeks ago cagedmonkey and I celebrated our 15 year wedding anniversary. We had a weekend to ourselves to celebrate, thanks to Grandma. My morning, on Saturday, started with a naked subby hubby cooking me a delicious breakfast. Then, we enjoyed relaxing together as I had planned a full day of control over him. I had decided our weekend together would be a complete, and I mean complete, control weekend. He was to ask for everything, eat when/if I allowed him to, drink whatever I told him to. I even enjoyed a snack while allowing him a snack as well.

A little while ago I picked up a new bondage item and wanted to try it out first. So I had cagedmonkey lay down on his stomach and put him in the new… harness, I guess I’ll call it. It forced him to have his legs up and his back arched and head up while his wrists were cuffed near his chest. The awesome part of this thing was that I could totally get on all fours in front of him and force him to eat my pussy and ass and there was nothing he could do about it.

Once I was sufficiently satisfied and he was covered in my pussy juices, I stood up and simply said, “I’ll be back.” I left him there, laying on the floor, bound in that position, smelling me while I took a long, hot, shower. He had no clue when I would be back or what was in store for him when I did return. I’m sure he was aching with anticipation. After my shower, I came back and laid my fresh, clean, shaved pussy in his face and made him lick me to orgasm.

I did finally allow him out of the harness and I told him we were going in the bedroom so he could please me where I was comfortable. I had him uncage my big thick cock, however he was still not allowed to feel inside my warm, very wet pussy. The only thing I allowed him to do was set his cock on my clit while I used the wand to have another orgasm.

Such a tease to be so close but still unable to feel my pussy squeeze around his cock.

While I was enjoying my orgasm, cagedmoney really didn’t enjoy that I left him with a ruined orgasm, all over my pussy lips.

The poor guy so desperately wanted to feel me. I loved seeing the anguish on his face. I love causing him so much frustration… So much that I can see it on his face. I love knowing he wants, so badly, what in in control of. All of the sexual pleasure he’s aching for and only I get to give it to him… or not!

I’ve decided to break this anniversary weekend, post into two, so please continue reading about what happened in the evening here in Part 2!

Practice Rope Play

Posted by Lady M on January 12, 2018
Posted in: Bondage, FemDom, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 5 comments

Cagedmonkey and I have our 15 year wedding anniversary coming up soon and the kids will be with grandma the whole weekend. I decided that would be the perfect time to get in lots of playtime but I wanted to get in some practice before beforehand. So last weekend we spent Saturday night playing with some rope. I didn’t get the book out this time, I just did it from memory and really liked how it turned out.

I tried a couple different ties, as you can see in the above picture. I really liked the one on his left leg holding his calf to his thigh. I did learn that when I do that tie again I will move it up his thigh so that it holds his leg a bit tighter and he’s really bound and can’t pull his lower leg away. I also liked how I had his wrist rope cuffs attached to his legs so he was kinda in a hog tie-ish position. 

I did like how his right ankle was tied as well but I think that would be better suited to tying him to something rather than to himself like that. Once I had him bound like this I had so much fun with him. He was in the best position to have his cock and balls tickled! I pulled his cock back behind him and used my hands and theft wand on his sensitive spot to tease, tickle and torture his cock… He was such a drippy mess and it was so fun to force the fluid out of him. I did edge him that way quite a few times too and allllllllllllllmost ruined him but I decided I was going to save that for another time hehe 🙂

The 12 Days of Edgemas

Posted by Lady M on December 6, 2017
Posted in: Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 10 comments

On the first day of… Ok no, really, by the title I’m sure you get my point. Cagedmonkey and I were talking and I decided  It would be great to do the twelve days of edgemas. What that means is, starting 12 days before Christmas – the twelfth day being on Christmas Eve – that cagedmonkey would be edged each day. On the first day he’d be edged once, second day twice, third day three times, etc all the way until he’s being edged 12 times on Christmas Eve. If I’m feeling extra special nice on Christmas day, maybe all that edging will earn him with an exceptional orgasm!

Have any of you done this kind of thing? Would you like to do it with us? It sounds like it would be such a frustratingly fun time!

Pretty in Pink

Posted by Lady M on July 22, 2017
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Pictures, Tease & Denial, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , . 4 comments

On Friday I decided to send cagedmonkey a few pictures while he was at work. I wanted him ready for the weekend. I had already planned out some interesting tasks for him while at work and on his way home. So it started out in the morning as I was getting dressed. I sent him pictures of way I was wearing, I thought you all would love to see, as well.

I figured, since I had my nails done in a pretty pink that my outfit might as well match. First I sent him a picture to show him what panties I picked out.

Then I knew he would love to see my large breasts so I sent him a picture of the bra I decided to wear.

I knew if I kept sending him pictures of myself that he would get more and more horny for me. Seeing me in my bra and panties is such a tease for him. I sent one last picture to show him the shirt I was wearing. I knew this one would really get to him because… Well, you look and let me know what you think!

I also gave him a task to take a very specific picture for me while he was at work. Then on his way home he was to unlock – because I had plans to use him later – and he was to get my cock hard and take a picture. Then he was instructed to keep it hard the whole way home in the car, so that I could feel it (and tease it) when he got home. After sending him the pictures, and giving him task instructions, I knew he would have no problem whatsoever getting himself hard. When he got home I took a few moments to stroke him, edge him and tease him. It was a wonderful evening, teasing him and increasing his frustration by denying him any release. 

This morning… We dropped the kids off to spend the night at grandma’s house… I wonder what fun we be in store for cagedmonkey with no kids in the house for the night!?

Getting My Revenge

Posted by Lady M on June 25, 2017
Posted in: Chastity Device, D/s, Female Led Relationship, FemDom, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , , , . Leave a Comment

You’ve probably already read the post from a few days ago where cagedmonkey mentioned I have him locked in the Steelworxx Revenge. So there is no need to get into all that. The Revenge is quite an interesting device because of the fact that it’s practically a fully enclosed device, keeping cagedmonkey from any sensation on his penis, be it clothing, bedsheets, or human touch, there is just no way to feel any of that through the Steel encasing his cock. 

I think it’s pretty amazing that I get to create this world where my hubby is virtually without his penis. I get to tease him and drive him crazy making him hornier and hornier and his cock feels nothing. Now that he’s locked in the Revenge… He’s going to have to try hard to remember the feeling of my tight wet pussy wrapped around his cock while he struggles against the steel. Even his “rooty” is different in the enclosed device, there really is no where for it to go, no bulging out between the bars. I’d imagine the pressure and aching must feel slightly different but that’s something for the experts and not my assumptions. Just wait until I torture him with sliding that cage into my hot wet pussy and he feels nothing, not even the warmth.

Now, I know he mentioned that we would be taking this round with the Revenge a little slower, kinda like when you get a new cage, we aren’t jumping right into the long term. So tonight, since it’s been pretty close to a week since I locked him in the Revenge, I had him remove the cage to make sure we had no redness or sore spots or anything that showed there were any issue. I did not see anything at all so now I will push him out about 10 days or so. I will remind anyone interested in an enclosed caged (not sure if this is just the case with steel or all enclosed) that there is a smell associated with the immediate removal of the cage, even after only a week, which included daily washing. Not a huge deal, just know you can’t take it out and play with your toy right away like you can with the Jail Bird. It definitely needs a quick wash. 

Tonight was a little rough on CM because even though he was temporarily out of the confines of the cage, I still refused to touch his cock. Just because we are doing inspections every so often certainly doesn’t mean the spirit of not feeling anything for a few weeks isn’t there. I loved hearing the frustration in his choice when he realized I wasn’t going to touch his cock, which immediately went from soft to rock hard within about a minute or so of removing the cage. I do love how it sounds when he’s so incredibly frustrated from the horniness and it’s all because of me. I know he loves it too. And maybe that’s what makes it even more exciting! 🙂

Mail Chastity: Guilt

Posted by Lady M on April 6, 2017
Posted in: FemDom, KeyHolder, Mail Chastity, Male Chastity, Marriage, orgasm control, Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , , . 2 comments

I was asked this really great question recently so I thought I would take a minute to write here about it. I’m sure some of our readers who are in control would appreciate it. Then again, some of you in the submissive role may like to know this stuff too. 

“…doesn’t it make you feel bad sometimes when you deny your hubby for so so long? Do you ever feel guilty?”

There actually was a time, when we first started this whole chastity and longer term denial thing, that I would describe my feelings as guilt. Now that we are almost 4 years into this there are zero feelings of guilt. There doesn’t need to be any. 4 years ago my hubby asked me to take control of his sexual pleasure. He wanted me to be the one to decide if, when and how he would orgasm. I gladly accepted that role and took control over that pleasure for him. So why would I feel guilty about giving him something he wanted in the first place? That’s something us dominant types can forget sometimes… but when someone completely offers themselves to us we need to not feel guilty about accepting the responsibility.

Cagedmonkey naturally craves and needs to be controlled and I naturally crave and need to be in control. It makes us both feel fulfilled and content in our relationship and in our life. It fits us so well to accept these roles. 

So, in short, no I don’t feel bad or guilty about denying him orgasm or even keeping him locked in that steel cage and even controlling him to the point of when he gets a full erection. I love knowing that he is THAT controlled, down to something even HE can’t control! I love knowing he has a pretty constant reminder of me and the fact that I control him and he sexual organs and pleasure. It’s mine to enjoy, he gave me that. He offered me that gift and it’s one of the best things and shows such deep love and respect and, more importantly, trust. It makes me feel great, not guilty!