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The Planning Stages

Posted by cagedmonkey on May 11, 2019
Posted in: Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Sex. Tagged: , , , , , . Leave a Comment

ML and I have been somewhat chill with our kinkiness lately. This has been due to a number of factors:

1) both of us have been very busy at work,

2) it’s hard to find alone adult time now that the kids are getting older (and staying up later), and

3) we’ve been spending a lot of time binge watching Game of Thrones.

(Tangent alert: seriously, we only started watching GoT a couple of weeks ago, and we are frantically trying to get caught up before the series finale. We are only up to the end of season 5, so I doubt we will make it…)

Although the kinkiness may be at a low, we are still enjoying our awesome fucking sex; I’ve been enjoying it very much so, as My Lady has allowed me to cum quite a few times over the past month. I guess I’m doing a good job when she tells me not to stop. 🙂

With that said, I have been feeling the desire to get a little more focused on the chastity/orgasm denial dimension of our sex life. This evening, I sneaky-texted ML to see what her thoughts on the subject were:

“Later” is still later, as the kids are still up and around… when is bedtime again?

I wonder if she’s planning a long denial period, increased chastity, perhaps both… or maybe something even more creative – I can never be sure exactly what is going on in that brain of hers, but that sure makes things exciting!

A Study in Horniness?

Posted by cagedmonkey on January 27, 2019
Posted in: Orgasm Denial, Pictures, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . Leave a Comment

My Lady hasn’t really been working with a specific denial plan over the past few weeks, she has been just going by what she feels like doing at the moment. I’ll spend a few days locked up in my cage 24/7, then she’ll let me cum a couple nights in a row. Then, the next night, she’ll edge me for a good twenty minutes before we go to sleep. It always is her decision what happens with my cock in the end – even when we are trying for a long denial or lock up, she always has the right to say “fuck it” and do what she wants – but lately, her desires seem to be set to “extra random.”

Which is perfectly fine for me! I actually like having orgasms, because duh (I just like ML controlling my orgasms better). Trust me, I’m not complaining because My Lady is allowing me to cum more often than usual.

This past week, though, ML seems to be getting back into the “CM doesn’t need to cum” groove, as my last orgasm was last Sunday night. And for the past couple of days, I’ve been extremely fucking horny. Like REAL bad.

It always seems like there is a period after my last orgasm is when I hit a horny peak, where my cock gets very sensitive and easy to edge. I also end up dripping lots of precum. I started thinking: are there other specific time periods that I reach these horny peaks during my denials?

Me being the nerd that I am, I suggested doing a “scientific study” to ML during my next denial:

Ignore the typo, lol.


Who knows? Maybe this will lead to some scientific breakthrough… or maybe just giving ML even more information that she can use to drive be insane.

Say YES to Ejaculation!

Posted by cagedmonkey on January 13, 2019
Posted in: Male Chastity, Medical, Orgasm Denial, Sex. Tagged: , , , , . 2 comments

ML and I had some garden variety quickie sex last night – which is to say that we had some pretty damn good quickie sex last night… hell, all of our sex is good, tbh. Anyway, ML doesn’t have me denied at the moment, so she allowed me to cum at the end when I was ready.

I had a nice good cum, and this time I pulled out to cum on ML’s tummy… and I actually did cum on her tummy!

I’m pretty sure I’ve written about this (I searched to put in a link, but couldn’t find it), but for a refresher: I haven’t been cumming a lot for the past few years. I’m talking volume-wise, not frequency-wise… obviously I haven’t been cumming as much frequency-wise, thanks to ML’s desires. But when ML does let me cum, I don’t cum a lot.

I’ve had some people suggest that it’s the orgasm denial that’s to blame, but I don’t think that’s it – when we first started playing with chastity and orgasm denial, I was still cumming a respectable amount. Another reader said that maybe it’s my vasectomy that has lowered my cum volume, but I also disagree for a similar reason – I was cumming normal amounts right after my vasectomy, as well.

After looking into “retrograde ejaculation” (the official term for “my dick doesn’t shoot cum”), I think the culprit is my high blood pressure meds which I started a few years ago.

Anyways… back to my original reason for posting.

It was really nice to actually see my load of cum on my wife’s tummy. I kinda wish I had taken a picture, just for posterity. I’ll have to do that next time. Hopefully, ML will keep my non-denial time going just a little bit longer. 🙂

My Christmas Present, Came Early

Posted by cagedmonkey on December 27, 2018
Posted in: Orgasm Denial, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 6 comments

Please note the comma in the title. 😉

Yes, ladies and gentlemen – after over 6 months of waiting, I finally got my orgasm! We didn’t do any crazy kinky scene or anything, but it was very much enjoyable for both of us.

My Lady and I had actually spent almost an entire week away from each other due to a medical procedure for a family member – it wasn’t an emergency or anything, but it really sucked to be separated from each other for that long. We were a little preoccupied during the week (hence the low amount of posts/tweets recently), but we were still able to stay somewhat connected via phone and texts.

After the week, we were seriously craving some together time, so ML and I wasted no time in having some “reconnectey” sex. It was REALLY good, and so when I asked ML if I could keep going and cum, she said yes.

So I did. 🙂

Similar to as I’ve described before, my first orgasm in 6 months wasn’t mind blowing or totally awesome – usually the soul crushing amazing cums happen later – but it certainly was nice and felt really good. But the funny part was what happened after.

I could tell ML really enjoyed feeling me cum inside her, and her hands started rubbing all over my body. After a few moments, her fingers find my nipples and began tickling them. Maybe it was all of the good vibe hormones in my brain overflowing from my orgasm and the nipple stimulation combined, but I started giggling and could not stop.

ML wouldn’t stop messing with my nipples, either, so I just kept laughing until both of us were going crazy! So there we are: my cock still inside of ML, having just cum inside her, and we are both laughing hysterically.

(Which, by the way, makes her pussy squeeze on me pretty damn good!)

The funny thing is that the laughing fit afterwards felt better than the orgasm itself: cumming was a great physical treat, but the laughing was such a deep tension release on a sensual/emotional level. The fact that ML was laughing right along with me made it all the more better. THIS is the reason why I enjoy the teasing and orgasm denial so much: not the orgasm itself at the end of it specifically, but the entire experience itself from beginning to end and in between. It makes even the weirdest things an intensely pleasurable experience.

Oh No! Ruined Orgasm!

Posted by Lady M on December 20, 2018
Posted in: FemDom, Fetish, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 5 comments

Cagedmonkey has been denied orgasm since the beginning of June. He’s extremely horny, super achy and pretty much always begging for an orgasm. He desperately wants some relief.

I did have this brilliant and devious plan to finally give him his long awaited orgasm. I wanted to make sure he experienced a really great intense orgasm. I wanted it to be memorable for him so that he really felt it, not only physically, but mentally. I kept thinking, what could I do to him to really create this moment that would really stick in his mind. I came up with something I was quite proud of. 🙂 haha

As you may have read, Cagedmonkey and I will often visit our local munch. We had planned to make sure that we would attend the December munches because they are always fun. The first one we collect toys for the Toys for Tots program and then the second munch is always the group’s Kinky Gift Exchange. It’s always a lot of fun this time of year. So my plan for this amazing orgasm involved the munch, so to speak. 🙂

I had come up with a fantastic way to integrate a little humiliation, if you will, into this final release. While hubby and I are definitely not into public humiliation, I thought adding some privately, public humiliation into this release would give him that intense, lasting memory I was hoping for. My plan was to have hubby drive to munch, unlocked, while I was playing with and stroking his cock the whole way. Then in the parking lot I was going to finally make him cum, right in his clothes, and then make him walk into munch and sit there, the whole time, covered in his long awaited orgasm. He’d have to sit there knowing it was all over inside his clothes, possibly leaking through his pants or shirt. Knowing that anyone could see at any moment. I also had no plans of letting him use the rest room… No way did I want him accidentally cleaning up his mess.

To add a little fun to the mix I would have, perhaps, mentioned it to a few close friends at munch that he was sitting in his 6+ month orgasm goo. Hehe 🙂

However, none of that was able to happen because hubby ended up having to work the evening of the munch and I went alone. He couldn’t come to munch and that meant he couldn’t cum. So, sorry that your orgasm got “ruined” my love!

I’m going to have to come up with some other intense and memorable way to make him cum now, does anyone have any ideas? Feel free to comment! 🙂

Horny Dreams

Posted by Lady M on November 30, 2018
Posted in: FemDom, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . 2 comments

I don’t often dream or, I should say, I don’t often remember my dreams. When I do remember, they aren’t typically sex dreams. Let me tell you… Last night I vividly remember some very intense, teasy, sex dreams! I wish I could remember exact scenes in my dream but, I more remember the feeling of the dream. I remember feeling sexy and wanted and how it felt to tease and keep CM aching and then having full blown, letting him cum, sex with him! I remember the feeling of cumming so hard with him. Oh it was amazing!!! Needless to say, I am very horny this morning and hubby’s butt felt so good when I gave it a squeeze before he left. I totally would have had some hard sex with him if I wasn’t sick and having my lady cycle.

It’s kinda interested that I would dream about stuff like that because over the past week or so I’ve been telling hubby about how bad I want to make him cum! He’s been denied since June and I get so excited thinking about when I finally do allow him to. Having that power of deciding the moment I’ll give him that pleasure. That moment I’ll allow him to explode and feel all the sexual pleasure from it.

I was telling him about all the ways I could possibly make him cum. I even mentioned doing it privately in his clothes, in a public setting, and making him sit in it afterwards. It would be such a privately humiliating thing. We’ve never done anything like that but it could be fun hehe 🙂

I am extremely excited that it’s the end of the year, simply because that means I will be making him cum soon. That also means I get to have lots of wonderful sex with him without having to worry about him stopping or accidentally cumming while I had be him denied.

He Said She Said: Giving Thanks

Posted by cagedmonkey on November 23, 2018
Posted in: FemDom, He Said She Said, Male Chastity, Marriage, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 6 comments

Happy Thanksgiving! Who among us doesn’t love dorky holiday-themed blog posts? 🙂 Today, we both want to talk about what we are thankful for in our lives sexually, since we can’t really talk about these things at the dinner table with family!

He Said:

The thing I’m most thankful for is that I somehow lucked into finding someone who enjoys the exact same kinks that I do. Female domination and orgasm denial were always things that excited me (chastity was a later development), and I’m extremely lucky to have married someone who shares those interests. I’ve seen so many people struggle to find a partner who shares their kinky desires, and I’m glad I never had to do that.

I’m also thankful that ML enjoys playing with, teasing, and using my cock. She could very easily lock my cock up and ignore it for however long she chooses, but that’s not her style. She enjoys edging me, making me crazy, instructing me to fuck her until she cums on my cock while denying me the whole time.

Lastly, I’m thankful that I married a wonderful woman who connects with me emotionally and sexually… and she has fucking incredible tits, too! Damn, they are awesome. 🙂

She Said:

I’m incredibly thankful to have a submissive husband. I’m completely and utterly a control freak. I need things to be in order and how I want them. I also need to know that I am wanted, desired and loved. Having a subby hubby, that I control and keep denied and achy and horny for me, is only natural. It fits who I am and what I need, exactly. It fills my love tank nice and full.

I will admit that I’m also very thankful for my hubby’s large cock. If his cock wasn’t so big, we could easily be in a cuckold situation where I’d need some big thick cock satisfaction. I don’t think I could actually do that so, I’m thankful that his cock is amazing and completely satisfying.

I’m so thankful to be married to a man that can handle the amount and level of teasing I give out. I am, by no means, easy when it comes to teasing and edging and denying him. He takes it all, anything I want to do to him or make him endure and I am incredibly thankful for his strength and resilience! 🙂

Finally Out!

Posted by cagedmonkey on November 16, 2018
Posted in: Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Pictures, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 1 comment

After 17 days of being locked in my chastity cage 100% of the time, My Lady finally unlocked me last night and within moments I was deep inside her wet, wanting pussy.

And within a few more moments, I was already being careful not to accidentally cum inside her.

It felt SOOOOOOOOOOOO good to finally be released from my cock cage after being locked inside for 2+ weeks – waaaaaay to long for a man to go without having an erection, in my opinion (especially with such a sexy wife with huge, beautiful tits and a deliciously wet horny pussy). ML stroked me for a few seconds before we started fucking, and even her hand wrapped around my cock felt incredible after being denied the sensation for so long.

But her pussy just feels so damn good!

She’s pretty tight under normal circumstances – which is pretty impressive, considering how big my cock is and how much I stretch her out, lol – but when I’m locked up for a while, she feels even tighter on me. But even with that, her pussy just knows how to take me. She gets so wet and slippery, her pussy squeezes me perfectly, and the sex is just fucking awesome.

We indulged in some morning sex today, with ML riding me a little bit before some bent-over-the-bed doggie – My Lady even had a nice good cum on my cock by the end of it. Then, with her excuse being that I was unable to fit my still-hard cock back into the Jailbird, she sent me to work uncaged. Her true plan was to keep me crazy all day long, though, since she has already had me sneak off twice to edge in the bathroom. I’m actually finding it hard to concentrate on anything with my cock free and unlocked like this, knowing at any moment ML could instruct me to tease myself even more for her.

How Do I Know?

Posted by cagedmonkey on October 22, 2018
Posted in: Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 3 comments

Someone asked me an interesting question recently:

How can you be sure that Lady M will ever let you cum again?

Well, honestly, I can’t be sure.

Part of me is pretty sure that she does want to give me orgasms, infrequently as they may be. In the past, she has expressed that she doesn’t want to deprive me of orgasms permanently; she actually does like to give me that pleasure.

That was in the past, though, and things have changed since we first started our orgasm denial play.

I used to need a “maybe day” from My Lady because of this very train of thought – I wasn’t ready to give up total control of my orgasms just yet. The chastity, teasing, and orgasm denial were great fun, but it was still difficult to not have a target date in mind. I gave up the idea of having a maybe day a few years ago, and I don’t regret the decision one bit. However, I do realize exactly what it means to give full control of my orgasms over to ML.

I can hope she hasn’t changed her mind about things, but the bottom line is that if ML decides to never allows me to have another orgasm again then that is what will happen. She will let me cum when it pleases her, and if it pleases her more to keep me in a state of perpetual constant horniness and desperation for an orgasm for the rest of my life, that is what she will do. It’s not what I’m hoping for, but it’s exactly what I asked for.

Cum Crazy

Posted by cagedmonkey on August 25, 2018
Posted in: orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Pictures, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 5 comments

It’s getting close to 3 months since my last orgasm, and usually around this time I start to feel the beginnings of a growing obsession. The obsession centers around the basic premise that you always want what you can’t have. I miss my orgasm so much that it begins to become a focal point of my desires. When my obsession gets this strong, it can really hurt when I’m reminded about what I’m missing.

When I was scrolling through Twitter the other day, I came across a short video clip that punched me right in the gut: it was a woman sucking on a cock, she pulled it out of her mouth and began stroking it and aiming it at her tits. A second later, the cock was spurting cum all over her chest.

God, how I miss doing that.

I was stuck for a moment, watching the clip over and over as her tits were just absolutely covered in cum. And of course it got me horny, but I also got a little sad while watching it – I realized that it’s going to be a long time before I get to actually do that again. In fact, it might be a VERY long time, if ML is thinking the way I suspect she is (more on that in another post). I started thinking back to the times where ML gave me a reprieve of sorts from denial and let me cum as much as I wanted, and I started to feel desperate for another one of those times.

I’m definitely not wanting out of our orgasm denial fun, that would be absolutely silly. After all, this is why we do what we do: so I can experience these intense feelings and emotions just from seeing cum on a pair of boobs. I can’t help but think that I’m missing out on so much pleasure by not cumming for months on end. I know it ends up worth it once I’m finally allowed to… it’s just hard to be THAT patient.

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My Lady can be so evil…

After reading the draft of this post, she decided to assign me a couple more clips to watch, and describe my feelings here. I’ll be seeing them for the first time, click the links to follow along.

First clip:

Ok, that was hot. There’s just so much cum, it soaks her shirt and just keeps on going. It’s a huge mess, but such a great one. ML’s tits are so nice, I would love to see them with my cum dripping off them. No tease or dragging it out in the clip, his cum just spills out so easily… makes me highly jealous.

Second clip:

This one hurt. Again, so much cum, it just doesn’t seem to end. I don’t get to masturbate very much anymore, and the last time I made myself cum was who knows when, so this is doubly frustrating. Add to all this the fact that the cock is somewhat similar to mine, and it’s just one big visual “what it would look like to cum” being shoved in my face.

Well… those clips definitely made things worse, which was most likely EXACTLY why ML had me watch them…