We’ve all heard the term “trophy wife” before… You know, the eye candy guys wear on their arm showing off the hot wife they have or whatever that’s about. Well I’d like to take a minute to talk about why I feel like I have a “Trophy Husband.” I’m not referring to the fact that I think he’s hot ass hell or has a sexy body or even a big dick… I’m referring to the fact that he’s an amazing man and husband. 
I’m a challenging wife. I’m controlling and dominant, I’m hurting and broken, I’m complicated and confusing, I’m funny and exciting and it takes a very strong man to be my partner and husband. My husband is my trophy husband because I won when God brought him into my life. When I’m physically hurting, he gets it, he helps and tries his best to make me rest. He rubs my back or hip or whatever and tries to make it feel better. When I’m depressed he doesn’t try to fix it but rather asks questions just to listen. On the flip side of all that, when I’m feeling horny he’s there to satisfy my needs. If I’m feeling devious or want to take out frustration, he’s there to take what I’m looking to give. If I’m feeling vulnerable and scared he reassures me and let’s me know the he is mine and no one else’s. If I’m feeling weak and in need of that powerful in-control feeling he offers himself for me to completely control.
I don’t feel like eye candy should be the definition of a Trophy spouse… I feel like someone who is willing to give their all to their partner and complimenting their needs and wants and desires is the true trophy and that’s what we should be so willing to show off. Cagedmonkey truly is my trophy husband and I love “wearing him on my arm and showing him off.”
Stupid. Submissive men are weak and ineffective. They “submit”. They “surrender” Thereby acknowledging that they are less than. There is nothing “trophy” about them.
Hi wayne,
Thanks for your comment, honestly… I was going to reply in reaction, at first, and tell you to fuck off (because sometimes I’m not as composed as my hubby lol) but then I realized that I needed to publish your comment because people have different opinions and we embrace different. Also, because if you’ve read anything about us, in particular, you would see how your comment doesn’t make sense but that’s neither here nor there.
So… I choose to respond and not react to you. 🙂 There may very well be men out there that do surrender or submit but, in my opinion, it takes a very strong man to trust someone enough to be submissive to them. I could go on and on and explain plenty of everyday life situations where men are submissive or choose to submit to women but that may take a whole post… And perhaps I’ll write that post. For now, I just leave you with this… Men are strong and those who choose to give the power to their spouse when they are at home are the strongest of those men and in no way weak. Most, in fact, have high stress, very in-charge, demanding jobs. Coming home and not needing to be “in charge” at home or sexually is a relief.
Quite honestly this: ” I was going to reply in reaction, at first, and tell you to fuck off ” does not surprise me. It has been my experience that when anyone disagrees with someone in this BDSM world this is the typical response. People in your lifestyle are so sure that their way is the ONLY way that any opinion to the contrary gets a “fuck off” response. Why is that? That would make an interesting discussion, don’t you think? You state: “In my opiion”. You are entitled to that as I am to mine. Submissive men are weak for the reasons I have stated.