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Birthday Gift For a Husband in Chastity

Posted by Lady M on April 7, 2014
Posted in: Chastity Device, Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Tease & Denial, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , , . 1 comment

IT’S THIS LADY’S BIRTHDAY TODAY!!!

Yeah, you know you read that title thinking it was cagedmonkey’s birthday, right? Well it’s not! It’s mine, but, that doesn’t mean I don’t have some special plans for my locked up hubby man. Don’t be mistaken thinking my denied guy is going to get an orgasm because that is just not in the cards today. He WILL still be waiting until his birthday in June for that… or at least that long (perhaps I’ll deny him until Christmas!).

Today, it’s been almost a month since cagedmonkey has touched his own penis. If he has been unlocked he’s been restrained and not allowed to touch. If I have unlocked him, I’ve been the one to remove and replace his cage. He’s dying to stroke himself, let alone just touch himself in general. So my plan for later is to unlock him and use our bondage rope to tie his own hand to his penis so I can pull up on the rope and force him to stroke himself. He really wants to touch himself but I’m going to force him to do it how I want him to. He won’t really have a choice in HOW he gets to touch himself. 🙂

I’m really getting into the bondage rope and I’m going to buy myself more. We even bought a book to learn knots and techniques, but that’s for an entirely different post!

It should be a pretty interesting thing and I’ll be sure to take pictures and share how our little adventures go tonight. I’m really looking forward to his reactions – you should know by now how much of a reaction junkie I am – and sharing it with all of you! 🙂

Chastity Water Torture

Posted by cagedmonkey on April 6, 2014
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Leave a Comment

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As my current denial period has been going on and on (and on and on and on…), I’ve noticed that both my cock and my balls have gotten SUPER sensitive. When My Lady has unlocked me I’m usually moaning at the very first touch of her hands. My sensitivity doesn’t apply to my unlocked periods alone; my cock is almost more sensitive when it is locked in its cage, it seems. ML has taken advantage of this frequently over the past week or so, rubbing the head of my cock through the bars of the Jailbird, or even snaking her tongue inside to tease my flesh with her warm wet tongue. Being teased by ML is one thing, but the thing that has been driving me a little bit crazy lately is how everyday mundane tasks end up teasing me in some weird way.

My balls have felt extremely full over the past few days. I don’t know if it’s because My Lady has been teasing me more and I’m getting a little backed up with pre-cum, or perhaps it’s simply that I NEED TO FUCKING CUM FOR GOD SAKES. I’m so sensitive that certain pairs of pants have made it difficult to sit down without giving me the sensation of having my balls gently squeezed. It’s a little hard to concentrate on work when I’m sitting at my desk and I can feel my balls throbbing to my heartbeat.

So far, the worst of all has been the shower. It’s bad enough when My Lady and I share a shower; having her soaked & sexy naked body so close to mine, performing the task of soaping and rinsing her soft skin, kneeling before her in the shower to wash her legs and feet… it’s all VERY arousing. But even when I’m alone in the shower, I can’t escape the torture of a cock teasing. The spray from the water seems to tickle every sensitive spot on my cock, and it’s usually no more than two minutes into my shower before I’m softly moaning. And when it’s time to wash the cage, and I need to massage my balls and soap up my shaft through the cage, my knees immediately get wobbly. It’s almost too much to handle!

I still have at least 2 more months before I get to cum, and I can imagine my sensitivity issues are only going to get worse from here on out. Two months… that’s a helluva lot of showers from now until then.

Conscious Coupling

Posted by cagedmonkey on April 5, 2014
Posted in: Advice, Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , . 6 comments

(WARNING: This post does not have all that much to do with chastity, so if you’re looking for hot & horny posts, check out some of our other blog entries.)

I’m usually not interested in all of that celebrity gossip/TMZ crap, so I’ll admit that I had only just barely heard about the whole Gwyneth Paltrow thing about “conscious uncoupling.” (Note: I had to go to Google to find out how to spell “Gwyneth Paltrow” correctly. So, yeah.) For those of you who are like me and couldn’t care any less about it… basically, she’s splitting up with her husband but she doesn’t want to call it a divorce. So she came up with this “conscious uncoupling” bullshit to make it sound better than it actually is.

The only reason I mention it is because I read an article in Time magazine today – yes, I read Time magazine, what’s it to ya? – that references the whole situation. Joel Stein writes in the latest issue’s “The Awesome Column” (a satirical humor article that I usually find very funny) about how, inspired by Paltrow’s epic euphamism, he tried to bring the subject up with his wife. He described it as almost like asking for a mid-marriage prenup, which predictably went over worse than asking for a regular prenup.

Anyway, I’m not randomly babbling here. At the end of his article, Stein writes:

It turns out that part of what keeps a marriage going is the pretense that it always will, that the choice over continuing has been taken away from you by the law, social shame and daily habit. It’s unconscious coupling, and I want to keep it that way.

Now to be fair, a lot of what Stein writes is tongue in cheek sarcasm, but I think he’s being serious here. He’s also 100% wrong. Basically, his argument is that the only reason people stay married is because they have to. Does that sound like a wonderful, loving marriage to you? Not me, either. If the only reason he stays married to his wife is because he feels obligated to, I feel sorry for him.

My Lady and I have been through some tough times in our marriage; times where each of us started taking the other for granted, where we fell into a rut, when we were with each other just because we were with each other. Not until we worked out our issues and really started to choose to be with each other did we truly open our eyes and see how wonderful our love and our marriage could be. We aren’t with each other out of habit. We are with each other because we both feel that being in each other’s life makes our own that much more fulfilling. I don’t stay married to my wife because of the so called “social shame” Stein mentions. If anything, I’m fucking proudto be married to such an amazing woman!

Gwyneth Paltrow is shooting for “conscious uncoupling.” Joel Stein wants to build his marriage around “unconscious coupling.” But wouldn’t being with the one you love by choice instead of by force be that much more blissful?

Wouldn’t “conscious coupling” be the pinnacle of a healthy, loving marriage?

Holy Crap! What Am I Capable Of?

Posted by Lady M on April 4, 2014
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Sex, Tease & Denial, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , . 2 comments

Oh my goodness gracious, great balls of fire! I just went upstairs and I was getting my little freak on with hubby. I was kissing, licking, sucking and biting him in various spots. I was getting all “growly turned on,” you might call it primal. It was freakin crazy with him moaning and me getting more and more into it.

I was all set to head back downstairs after my little visit but something struck me. I realized I haven’t made cagedmonkey wear the njoy butt plug in awhile. We’ve just been so busy it hasn’t come up. So before I headed back down I inserted it and explained to him (in a sexy whisper in his ear) that I’m taking control of his sexual sensations for the entire night. I told him he will wear the butt plug the entire day and he will also wear it out to date night tonight AND to work. That’s something I’ve never made him do yet but, hey, there’s a first time for everything! I am a nice Keyholder and I did tell him the ONLY reason he would be allowed to remove it would be to go to the bathroom (if you know what I mean). He is to replace it when he is finished though. I also explained if he got uncomfortable, too bad and if he got really uncomfortable he would be allowed to add some lube.

I got so very very turned on during all of that! I ended up forcefully pushing him onto his belly and positioning myself on his ever so sexy ass. I started grinding on him and could feel my pussy get wetter and wetter. Oh I can’t even explain how freakin turned on I was! While I was doing it cagedmonkey turned his head back toward me and whispered how he was starting to feel like my little slut. That did something in me and I said, “oh yeah?” I put my hand on the back of his head and shoved his face in the pillow and told him how I know he liked me treating him like a little whore. I told him soon he would be being me to fuck him like my dirty little whore, begging me to cum while I fucked his ass so hard, deep and fast. This type of aggressive talk went on for a bit and I could feel myself getting lost in it all. I could feel myself slipping into top space.

I abruptly stopped, got up and said, “I have to get out of here.” As I was walking out I told him to get some sleep and that I loved him but that I had to go.

I knew I had to get out of there once I felt myself doing that because our daughter was just down the stairs doing some school work on the computer. I was worried I would lose it completely, get carried away and get too loud or something. I could feel that I could have easily fucked him so hard at that moment. I felt that I easily could have gotten caught up in the moment and treated him like a little whore, like a piece of meat and just used and abused his body. I’m not sure what I would have been capable of doing if our daughter wasn’t downstairs at that moment.

Sometimes I surprise myself with the feelings I get in the midst of a tease session. I surprise myself with the things I say. I get nervous, in a way, of what I might be capable of during that.

Mail Chastity: Ch-Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes

Posted by cagedmonkey on April 2, 2014
Posted in: Advice, Mail Chastity, Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , , , . 1 comment

It’s amazing the effect that chastity has had on me in a little over four months of time. I’ve undergone some very interesting changes, both mentally and physically. Some are both obvious and expected (I’m horny all the time, DUHHH), but others are somewhat surprising. And I know I’m not the only one experiencing these changes, because I get emails from some of you guys out there asking me about the same things. 🙂

One reader asks:

“I’ve noticed that immediately after taking the cage off, I’m as hard as a rock but I have trouble maintaining a strong erection. I don’t lose it all together, but it’s definitely not as intense. I’ve never had this problem before trying chastity. Have you experienced anything similar?”

Don’t do what I did and start panicking and figuring out how to pay for your Cialis perscriptions; this is a pretty common issue.  The first few times My Lady unlocked me after I was already getting hard, we had to wait until I got soft to remove the base ring. After the ring removal, it took a while to regain my erection. I think this happens because it takes a little bit of reset time to go from “SO FUCKING HARD I COULD FUCK A HOLE THROUGH A BRICK WALL” to “totally soft and chillin'” and back to hard again. Now, ML will either remove the cage when I’m still somewhat soft or will just leave the ring on if I’m already aroused. Problem solved.

Another reader has a question for the mail bag, or perhaps mail “sack” is more fitting:

“The skin around my balls looks really loose and hangs kinda weird now. It sort of dangles a bit.”

Ah, yes. This has happened to me, too. My scrotum seems as if it has been stretched out since I started wearing a chastity device. I even have what looks like a little tab that hangs down between both of my nuts. I’m assuming this is from my ballskin being stretched out when my cock tries to get hard and pushes the cage forward from my body and the balls stop it from advancing any further. When my erection is strong enough, it pulls on the skin with a good amount of strength. This used to hurt me a ton, but I guess I’ve gotten used to it because it’s not that bad anymore. Solution? I have no idea. Even a perfectly fitted cock cage is going to be pushed forward by a hardening cock. And, honestly, I don’t think this even requires a solution. Yeah, your sack looks a little funky, but it looked funky to begin with, didn’t it?

Last one:

“When my wife takes the cage off, my cock is extremely sensitive all over, even in places that weren’t like that before. Is this ok?”

No. This is more than okay! This is GREAT! This is what it’s about, right? What’s most likely happening here is that your cock is responding to the constant pressure of the cage on your sensitive areas, resulting in a stronger reaction when that pressure changes. It’s like when you put your hand from ice cold water into room temperature water – it feels scalding hot, even though it’s far from it. You’re feeling these AMAZING sensations because they are so different from what you are used to. This is a good thing. Just make sure that the hypersensitivity is not due to any skin damage or irritation, and you are good to go.

Don’t be shy or embarassed, keep these email questions coming! (Bad choice of words, perhaps)

Our Mystery Date

Posted by Lady M on April 1, 2014
Posted in: KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Tease & Denial, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , , , . Leave a Comment

Last night cagedmonkey took me out to a nice bar & grill not too far from the house. When we were younger we use to go out every so often (usually when visiting my friends and family out of state) and do karaoke. I’ve recently said how we need to get back out doing those things we used to love doing. So cagedmonkey looked up a bar that had karaoke and decided we were going. We had such a fun night eating appetizers and having a few drinks and just talking. We spent a good time talking about goals and our thoughts and feelings about how our relationship is going. We also talked about the chastity and how we each feel it’s going and If anything needed adjusting. It really was a good night. We didn’t stay out too late since our babysitter had school in the morning! 🙂

During our date we talked a bit about how I’d like to learn some rope skills to get into tying him up more. So once we got home we did a little research and I actually learned how to make rope cuffs. I practiced on him. What I really want (we need lots more rope) is to be able to tie him to a chair. 🙂

After a little practicing with the rope we were going to watch a little tv but I got my paddle instead. I haven’t given cagedmonkey a good spanking in awhile so I had him bend over the couch. I spanked his ass while I played with his caged cock. I ran my fingernails on his shaft through the cage bars. I massaged and fondled his balls and loved hearing him moan. I even grasped around the base of his cock just behind his ring and stroked the base of his cock. We didn’t get too much more into anything than that but we had a fantastic night as a whole. 🙂