Tease & Denial

She’s Serious

Posted by cagedmonkey on December 8, 2015
Posted in: Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 4 comments

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So, ML’s post let the cat out of the bag and it has now turned into the elephant in the room – I won’t be having an orgasm in 2016. Honestly, that sounds a hell of a lot worse than “I won’t have an orgasm for a year,” and I’m not quite sure why that is. Maybe because it’s so definite, so final… and it also says nothing of when my next orgasm will be…. Ok, I’m going to stop right there before I start putting more ideas into My Lady’s head. 🙂

Now that this is going to be a reality, I can’t help but think back to how we got this far. I can vividly remember one of the first few conversations ML and I had about our goals for chastity and orgasm denial. My goal was to eventually be made to go a year with an orgasm; ML wasn’t so ambitious. When I asked her if it would ever be a possibility, first she answered, “I don’t know.” Then, following a good pestering from me, she said, “Probably not.”

I’ll admit, I was a little disappointed. I wondered what it would be like to be that desperate, so needy after a year of no orgasms, and what it would feel like to finally have one. But I also understood where she was coming from. We hadn’t even started practicing yet, we were still working out the details (so to speak). Looking at an entire year of denial wasn’t just putting the cart before the horse, it was filling up the cart before even buying a horse. I was just happy that we were communicating honestly and openly, and we were willing to try this together.

I never expected ML to get as far as even considering a year denial for me. It was always one of those “what if” fantasies, but it grew less and less important as our sex life got more and more amazing. Little did I know that My Lady was building up her tolerance for denying me.

Now it seems like my fantasy will come true. And, to be honest, it’s not a “be careful what you wish for” situation – I’m very excited to try this! I know there will be times where I hate it and I want it to end, but I love being sexually controlled by My Lady. Also, being insanely horny, almost constantly turned on, and desperate to cum pretty much all day every day is an AMAZING experience that I wouldn’t trade for anything.

Although, nine months from now, I might feel differently about that and be willing to trade it for a nice good hard orgasm. 🙂

Reminding my Husband Who’s in Control

Posted by Lady M on December 8, 2015
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 1 comment

I get questions all the time from other wives or girlfriends who have their guys in chastity. Some of the most frequently asked questions are about how I keep things fresh, how I keep him teased, how I remind him of my control over his cock. Honestly, I’ve said it before, chastity is not a “lock it and leave it” thing. Chastity takes a little work on the keyholders part. Unless of course it’s your kink to be locked up and the key tossed away never to be used again. That is certainly not how most… no, all, of the guys I know want it. They want to feel the control, the tease, the denial. They do not want to be locked up and forgotten about. So, how do I possibly make time to keep him teased and denied and reminded of my control?

A lot of this is mental, so there is that. The words and phrases I choose, how I say something, it all helps in reminding cagedmonkey who controls him and his sexual pleasure… Or torment! Then again, much of this is physical, too. There really, truly is a need to feel the physical control. Not that we need to be constantly stroking and edging our guys – though I’m sure they’d love that – but we do need to remind them physically. For those of us using chastity devices, that’s one constant reminder. He can feel that cage you keep locked on him so it is there to say “hey, she holds the key to your cock.”

Sometimes I have to get creative in my reminders. Since we don’t have a lot of time these days for long D/s sessions I need to find interesting ways to keep the tease and denial going. If you follow us on Twitter, you know, a lot of times I’m sending him pictures of myself and my sexy parts. I’m sending him texts about how horny I am and how I’m masturbating. I make sure to remind him of how lucky I am that I’m not locked in a chastity device and I can give myself an orgasm any time I want.

I’ve decided that our lack of alone time together doesn’t mean our D/s or tease and denial time needs to suffer. This morning after getting hubby’s lunch together, I snuck the small vibrator into the front pocket of his lunch bag. Once he left I texted him instructions to retrieve it and click it to a certain setting and place it under his balls, just far enough behind that it vibrated his prostate, for the drive. After a certain amount of time I had him switch it to another setting and then again another. I had control over him for the entire hour that he drove to work. He was an extremely horny dripping mess by the time he got to work. I love that he had to go into work with messy underwear. My little form of private public humiliation.

This little bit of surprise play completely reminded him of how much I love him and love controlling his sexual pleasure. He could feel my control all the way to work and I’m sure the residual submissive feelings are still with him a few hours later. I love finding ways to keep the kink alive, so to speak, when our alone time is not in abundance. I plan to find other wonderfully simple ways to keep reminding him just who is in control of his cock and his sexual pleasure!

We’ve Been Talking Orgasm Denial

Posted by Lady M on December 7, 2015
Posted in: Chastity Device, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. 8 comments

Over the past couple weeks cagedmonkey and I have been talking a lot about his orgasm denial. When we started this whole denial thing 15 years ago, the longest we ever made it was one month denied. Usually the tease and denial lasted a short time from one play session to hours or days. It was so hard to get to that point back then. Since we started with male chastity over 2 years ago, denying him comes a little easier.

Hubby and I have learned something over the past two years. While there are some things we totally are not interested in, there are some things that are well, interesting to look at or think and fantasize about. Maybe we will never try them but we’ve learned that we can never say never, simply because there have been things we’ve tried and been like “whoa that was awesome, no idea why I like it but I do” and there have also been things that we were like “nope didn’t like that and never doing that again.”

When it comes to hubby’s orgasm denial, two years ago we never thought we’d make it to one month let alone the 3 or 4 we get to now. Our conversations recently have gone on to talking about 6 months to a year of orgasm denial. We have actually talked a lot about if we really think that we could do one year. Really the discussion is whether I could make it denying him for an entire year. He really has no choice in the matter. Two and a half years ago my husband ask me to take complete control sexually. I gladly took control of when and if he receives any sexual pleasure and if, when and how he will orgasm. So it basically comes down to, if I choose to deny him for a year, he will be denied for a year.

One of the things I made quite clear to him was that I could probably pretty easily keep him denied orgasm for a year but there was absolutely no way in hell I could keep him locked in a device that long without having him. I told him I NEED him, NEED his cock and NEED the connection of intimacy with him. I can manage to lock him 24/7 for about a month but I struggle by the end. That is something I will say never about… I will NEVER keep him locked in a device unused for a year. I know for a fact I could never.

So denial of orgasm for a year I can totally see happening and we are going to spend 2016 trying to get there but I will be unlocking and using him for my pleasure as often as I damn well please! 🙂

What about you? Do you think you could be denied for 6 months? A year? Do you think you could deny your guy his orgasm that long? Do you think your keyholder could keep you denied that long?

The Morning After

Posted by cagedmonkey on December 4, 2015
Posted in: Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . Leave a Comment

After a late night of teasing me and edging me over and over without mercy, My Lady was still not through torturing me.

(By the way, if you haven’t seen her post yet, click on that link… seriously, there is an AMAZING picture of ML’s tits posted there!)

ML once again took advantage of my unlockedness to tease me in the morning… from the very moment I woke up, in fact. She was stroking me, pushing me to yet another frustrating edge. After the edging from the night before, I was beginning to feel like I couldn’t handle any more. My body wanted to cum… my cock NEEDED to cum…. but My Lady wouldn’t allow it.

ML gave me three more edges before it came time for me to head to work. But she wasn’t done with me yet.

One thing I truly appreciate is the level of trust ML and I share in our chastity relationship. ML knows how devoted I am to being a “good boy” for her, so she feels comfortable leaving me unlocked if she is not directly with me – if it suits her needs, which it certainly did today.

ML instructed me to make sure that my cock stayed hard for the entire ride to work, which just happens to last about an hour or so. “Squeeze it, stroke it, do whatever you have to do,” she told me. So I ended up having to play with my cock for the next hour while I drove to work, desperate to cum but not allowed to. When I texted ML that I had gotten to work safely, she demanded three edges from me before I locked myself back up. I had to wait until about a half hour into my shift before I could stuff my poor teased cock back into its cage.

These edges are really driving me crazy! I do enjoy when ML touches me and teases me because it feels so fucking good, but eventually the frustration of being stimulated so much without orgasm begins to be too much. This, of course, is when ML enjoys asserting her control and forcing me to endure even more. I truly do want the teasing to stop at that point, whether she lets me cum or not. But I want it to be her choice – under her control – more than I want it to just happen. So I keep taking as much as she gives me.

What choice do I have?

Teased, Tortured, Denied, Drippy Cock

Posted by Lady M on December 4, 2015
Posted in: Bondage, FemDom, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 2 comments

We have to make time these days for play and getting up at 4:30am everyday makes it tough to stay up much later at night after the kids go to bed. So, for now, we do what we can when we can. Trust me, cagedmonkey is still getting teased just about daily. We just don’t have time for big scenes and long drawn out tease and torture sessions – except, last night, I made sure he had a tough time sleeping.

Let me start with yesterday morning! Hubby started his day extremely frustrated yesterday. Every morning cagedmonkey will usually get on his knees in front of me. I love how he starts his day showing his submission like that. Most of the time I’ll make him eat my pussy but when my delicious pussy is unavailable I will make him kiss, lick and suck my big boobies. I will rub them all over his face and tease his lips. Well yesterday morning I decided I’d make his day extremely frustrating by not allowing him to have my nipples in his mouth. I made him lick and smell the underside of my boobs, I rubbed my nipples around his lips and simply teased him but would not allow him to lick or suck or even taste them.
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I sent him off to work wanting me, which I love! It seriously turns me on to have him texting me all morning about how crazy horny and wanting I’ve left him. Of course, why would I just leave it at that, right? I decided since he was wanting to lick and suck my big titties that I would torture him more by sending him pictures of my licking my own nipples and even a video of me starting right into the camera while I sucked my own nipples and rubbed myself. I thoroughly enjoyed tormenting him that way.

Later in the evening the kids had dance classes and basketball. Since hubby is coaching basketball I’ve been having him unlock for the practices. We never know how much he will be running around or whatever so, for now, he’s unlocked. Having him unlocked only gives me more chances to tease him and drive him absolutely bonkers while I deny him any sort of release.

Last night, after we got home from all the activities and got the kids to bed, I teased him a little more with my boobies, without letting him have them. Then, we wanted to watch the football game so I suggested we go in the bedroom and get comfortable while we watch. We didn’t pay too much attention to the game because after a few minutes I had him bound to the bed teasing, edging and torturing his cock. I used the wand on him while I edged him over and over and over again, he was dripping and making such a huge mess. I was smiling so huge and just giggling at him as he whimpered. I continued to vibrate his balls and cock while I edge and edge and edge him, over and over until he was begging me to stop. I must have edged him about 30 times in a row while he wiggled and squirmed and tugged against the restraints. He was begging me to stop and let him go to sleep, I just kept edging him and he kept dripping, everywhere.

Once I had him good and aching and practically crying I climbed up on him, pulled my panties aside and slid his aching cock into my extremely wet pussy. I just sat there on him while I used the wand on myself while it was also pressed against him. It certainly didn’t take long to get myself to climax, especially after being so incredibly turned on from teasing him. Once I started cumming it was so strong and so hard. I pressed into him harder as the wand continued to push my orgasm higher and higher. I was clawing at him, grabbing at him, and even smacked his face while I came on his cock… Probably one of the hardest cums I’ve ever had. It was so fucking incredible! I am sure I would have woken up the neighbors had I not controlled my volume. Lord knows I wanted to scream through that orgasm!

Once I was calmed down a bit I rolled off of him and his cock was super slick and covered in my cum… Which I then made him sleep in. I did reward him with a chance at licking and sucking my big, round, squishy boobies. I know he enjoyed every second of that reward! 🙂

Yes, the teasing continued this morning but I’m going to make him write and tell you all about that. 🙂

Long Dragged Out All Day Teasing

Posted by Lady M on November 18, 2015
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 5 comments

Last weekend we spent the entire weekend away at our son’s football tournament. I certainly couldn’t let the teasing subside just because we were away in a hotel with 15 other football families, now could I?

I will admit, I’m entirely too weak when it comes to this whole long term lock up thing. I really did want to try again to make it a good long time, keeping him erectionless but it just didn’t happen! On Saturday night I decided to have hubby unlock and leave his cage in the suitcase for the rest of the weekend. The night ended with a massive amount of teasing in bed, under the covers. I stroked him and edged him over and over again. I let him get the slightest feel of my pussy from behind at the weird angle we managed to get into. It was about a quarter of his cock that was able to actually enter me. As he tried thrusting he really just ended up teasing the head of his cock with my wet pussy lips. 🙂

When we woke up on Sunday, I started on him right away. I sent him straight to the bathroom to edge himself for me 4 times. He then has to come out and show me how hard his cock is while trying to hide it from anyone else. I love that nervous “I hope no one notices” walk he does. I literally spent the next couple hours having him periodically going to the bathroom for me and doing whatever number of edges I came up with.

Just because it was time to go to the field, don’t think I stopped there. During our teams warm up and during half time I sent him off on the long walk in front of the bleachers to the other side of the field to the bathroom. There he had to edge for me and take that long nervous wall back, hoping no one could see the massive bulge in his pants from his hard cock. It was such a perfect time for some private public humiliation. I’m sure the second I told him “You’re going to go to the bathroom and edge 5 times for me,” while sitting there on the bleachers, caused him to chub up.

It really was a very fun day keeping him literally dangling on the edge all day. We had about a two and a half hour drive home and he thought he might get a break from many torment… But, come on, really? Haha especially when both kids fell asleep! I teased his cock and nipples while he was driving and he even got to the point of begging me to stop. I love the sound of his voice when it gets all shaky and he truly does want me to stop.

Cagedmonkey was completely a dripping mess by the time we got home… But I didn’t stop there haha just about every 15 mins from dinner to bedtime I had him going in and stroking himself to the edge for me multiple times. He was so incredibly sensitive after that all day tease-a-thon. I enjoyed very much pushing him that much further into his horniness.

I really think, after that, he’s been feeling very submissive. I think he really loved getting on his knees before work this morning to service my pussy. I am looking forward to the weekend. We put the bed restraints back on the bed and I think it’s going to be a bondage kinda weekend! 🙂

Good Vibrations in a Bondage Sack

Posted by Lady M on November 8, 2015
Posted in: Bondage, FemDom, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 1 comment

Last night I decided to see how long Cagedmonkey could stand being in the bondage sack while being tortured in his cage. I got him in it and strapped down and I took the vibrating cock ring, stretched it around his cage and turned it on high speed.

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He was almost instantly bulging out of his cage, I had to be careful putting the cock ring on so I didn’t pinch skin against the bars. I loved hearing him start moaning and I could see him trying to struggle in the sack but he really could not move while strapped in there.

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I left him like that for a good hour, periodically unzipping the zippers on his chest to pinch and pull his nipples. Grabbing the post on his cage to pull and push it in all directions, moving rooty around. I’d even gotten to the point of snuggling in to go to sleep. I was totally prepared to go to sleep and leave the vibrator to wear itself out – I’d just fully charged it before that with my phone charger! 🙂

I made sure, before I got comfortable, that I could trust hubby to use his safeword if he had to. I wasn’t sure with his sensory and elbow issues if he could truly stay in the sack all night. Once he assured me, I was able to relax. A little while later, I’m not positive when because I know I had fallen asleep, I heard him calling me. I know he didn’t want to but he had to use his safeword. We found that restraining him with the bed straps is doable for him to sleep but keeping him long term confined in the bondage sack isn’t going to work for a couple of reasons.

I’m glad we tried this and I’m glad I got in at least a good hour of cock torture. It was fun and made my pussy so wet. It was amazing to see that look in his eye while I was leaned over him tightening the straps down. That “I’m completely helpless” look that turns me on so much!

Crushed

Posted by cagedmonkey on November 7, 2015
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 6 comments

I haven’t had a full night’s sleep for the past three nights. I’ve woken up at 4 am each night with an extremely painful cage-strangled erection, and the only way to calm myself down is to get out of bed and do something to take my mind off it. I try to lay in bed and relax – think about boring things, do math in my head, etc. – but nothing works. The pressure of my erection starts to ache, which is kind of a turn on for me, which keeps my erection from calming down… there’s no escaping the problem at that point.

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Maximum rootage.

The worst part is that I’m suffering through all these aches and pains, and I’m nowhere near getting the pressure relief of being unlocked that I so desperately need. It’s only been a little over a week since My Lady locked me up tight in the Jailbird, and the intensity of the ache feels like it’s been a month. And I have more than a month to go before I’m released!

I can tell ML is enjoying making me feel this way. She relishes the idea that it is her that makes my cock ache the way it does, and that thoughts of her are what keep it going strong. She’s been ultra horny over the past week (time-of-the-month or not, she’s feeling it bad!), teasing me just a little bit extra and getting off on it a lot bit extra. She’s even having sex dreams pretty much on a nightly basis now… I thought that was my thing!

I feel the energy building between us quickly and strongly. We’ve been talking a little bit about our desires, and when our horny feelings get really intense, we both start to want the same things. I’m not entirely sure, but I feel us moving towards a possible intense kink scene if this buildup continues. Come to think of it, we don’t have any plans this weekend. Who knows what ML has been dreaming up for me this past week…

Pinned Down and Face Fucked

Posted by Lady M on November 6, 2015
Posted in: Anal, Ass Play, FemDom, Male Chastity, Oral Sex, Pegging, Tease & Denial. 4 comments

Cagedmonkey has had a few very rough days. I mean he is still denied even after all the goings on the weekend our friends were here. Added to that, he’s been told he’s going to be locked and denied even an erection, until Christmas! Add on top of that things like the other night when I tried out a new toy on his sexy little tight asshole.

Just about every night, now, I have him eat my pussy. Just like he used to go to sleep in the mornings tasting me and having my juices all over his face. It’s become a nightly thing before we go to sleep. Even if I don’t cum, I love feeling his face between my legs and his tongue gently flicking my clit. Even more recently, I’ve loved the 69 position so that I can add some to his tease and torture. I will usually play with his bulging cock through the cage, squeeze and rub his balls and run my fingernails from his ass down to the underside of his balls. Sometimes he even gets a little tickle of his tight hole when I put my finger against it and just rub a little, not penetrating, just rubbing it, teasing him more. Making him completely ache.

A couple weeks ago I ordered a new toy and we haven’t had a chance to play with it yet. I decided I wanted to try it out the other night since I had his sexy little ass in the air and he was eating my pussy, anyway. It’s a smaller probe with “bumps” along it that remind me very much of anal beads. I’m not really a fan of the whole anal bead thing but I get the whole idea of it. I figured it would be a fun one to play with without much prep needed. Just a little lube and this one easily slides in for some fun ass play.

So the other night while I had him in the 69 position, him on top, I started playing with him a bit, which was causing him to moan and grunt and groan into my pussy. That gets me so completely and utterly turned on that at some point I couldn’t take it anymore and I made him lay on his back and I straddled his face. Running my pussy down onto him hard and fast. I grabbed him by the thighs, toy still stuffed in his ass, and pulled his legs up under my arms. I had him pinned there, face in my pussy and me using the toy to stimulate his asshole and prostate. At one point he tried to buck against me as I licked the length of his shaft, bulging from the steel cage on his cock. I slid my pussy hard all over his face, sliding the toy in and out and making him moan harder as I chose when he’d take a breath. Making him breathe me in, fucking his face so hard and cumming all over him while he could do nothing but take it as I had him there pinned down under me.

Fuck it was such a fantastic time, I couldn’t… No, I can’t stop thinking about it! It turns me on every time I think about the control I had over him and how turned on I was by his moaning.

Makes me want a repeat tonight… But we will have to wait for mother nature to run her course.

Cocktease at Work

Posted by Lady M on October 17, 2015
Posted in: Ass Play, Bondage, D/s, FemDom, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . Leave a Comment

Yesterday, Cagedmonkey and I were chatting while he was at work and, of course, I was teasing him and getting him all kinds of excited and turned on. One of the things I love most is teasing him with pics and video while he is not with me – usually that means he’s at work – and getting him all tight in his cage. It’s such an incredible turn on for me to know that even being 40 miles apart I can still make his dick (attempt to be) hard and get him horny for me.

Yesterday was lots of fun as I sent him some hot pics and video of me all soapy in the shower. He really loved it. Just to share a little of what I sent him, I was sending him pictures like this, today:
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And this…
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Not only was I sending him pictures but we started talking about the things we were wanting. A little bit of fantasizing together, which is something I absolutely love about our communication. We both know it’s not our responsibility to force things to make fantasies happen but the fact that we talk about sex with each other gives us the opportunity to make those fantasies real if we want!

If you’ve followed along on our journey you we have the doggy style Stockade and recently got a new hood. Well, CM and I started talking about how much we miss the extreme side of bondage and having the time (and space!) to do it. I mentioned to him that I was wearing his pants yesterday without panties. I told him I was sure that they were going to smell like my pussy and how I was going to make him wear them when he got home, which I did. 🙂 That kinda kicked things into gear and we started talking about how wet my panties get and how hot it would be if I was to gag him with my potent panties and lock him in the new hood. To make things worse I could have him locked in the stockade, with the vibrating buttplug in, leaving it until his prostate milked all over the floor. We talked about how incredibly frustrating it would be if I were to remove the hood (while he thinks I’m giving him a break) and I cover his face with more of my juices by cumming on him and then putting the hood right back on and leaving him like that longer. Not knowing when it would truly end because I’d just tell him I didn’t think he’d been milked enough. Maybe he wasn’t empty so we had to keep going until I felt like he was done. We talked about adding white noise headphones to completely take away his senses… Except the ones being forced to smell and taste my pussy.

Shortly after, he told me about how he was getting tight in his cage and sent me a picture to prove it. Of course all the squeezing from the cage and the horny talk gave him some nice wet with precum underwear! Yuuummmmmmy!
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I really do love seeing that bulge and knowing that I’m the one that caused it. I really do get off on being a cocktease! 🙂