Tease & Denial

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Oh what a sexy Thanksgiving it is this year. I’m enjoying the Macy’s parade on TV and, later, some Detroit Lions football! What could be better than a lazy day at home with family, food and football??

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I really need to get me one of these shirts!! 😛

This morning has been interesting, I woke up with a lot on my mind. Some of it is vanilla everyday things and a LOT of it is kinky things. The main kinky thing is the reson for this post but the other stuff is just as important. When I got up I realized how thankful I was for this life I’m living. I’m thankful for all those normal things, family, health (as much of me is healthy), my kids, a wonderful home to live in etc… but then I realized I’m SO thankful for much more. As I did the rounds, and was emailing friends, I realized how thankful I am for THIS part of my life, the kinky part. I adore our readers and lurkers and am so thankful for them. I’m so thankful for the amazing friends we have made through all of this. Without our readers or the friends we’ve made we wouldnt have anyone to share this with. For me, thats such a great part of this. I love sharing my experience. So thank you to all of you for being here to share in this with us! <3

I have been trying to write this post all morning but the kids are very cuddly on mommy this morning. However, hubby is “sleeping” in the bedroom and enjoying(?), well maybe not so much enjoying but ENDURING his Thanksgiving morning! It’s no parade for him this morning, hahaha! I have my honey stuffed with the small njoy plug, tied to the bed and the wand secured around his cage. What an amazing way to spend your thanksgiving morning, don’t you think??

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About a half an hour into having him restrained like this I received a few texts and nothing does them justice like just taking a screenshot. He really was having a tough time because the wand was giving him just enough to edge him and keep him wanting to cum but he just wasnt getting pushed over. I told him he likely wouldnt want to cum because that wand was just going to give him some massive Post Orgasmic Torture, simply becausI have no plans to turn it off if it does happen. 🙂

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The best part of all of this is when I went in there and straddled the wand, just like it is there, and gave myself one awesome orgasm. I soaked right through my panties! Fuck it was fantastic! I did torment him a good portion of the morning already. He is still restrained and the wand secure but I turned it off for now to give the wand a rest and… well, lets be realistic here, with two young kids on Thanksgiving day I do need to have another functioning adult in the house or I’ll pull my fucking hair out. As much as I would love to make him sleep deprived (that is another fantasy of his) I dont feel like dealing with a crabass all day on my holiday.

I hope each and everyone of you (in the USA) have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Take a few minutes to really think about what you’re thankful for. To those of you who are in the rest of the world, I hope you enjoy your day as well.

It’s getting to that point for me, that point in cagedmonkey’s orgasm denial where I start to feel it. I’m nearing the end of my cycle and feeling much better emotionally at the same time. What that means is that my horny has kicked in high gear. It’s like I’m a pimply faced teenage boy who just got a shot of testosterone (right, Drew?). What that means for hubby is that I’m constantly hungry for him in some sexual way. Whether I’m smacking his ass as he walks by, walking up to him grabbing his caged cock through his pants as I kiss him deep or pulling him into the bedroom, locking the door and fucking the hell out of his face, it’s me, all day, in sexual attack mode.

It’s been about 6 weeks now since hubby’s last orgasm. I know, I choose to keep him denied because thats how I like him. The constant crazy high of his arousal is good for me. He’s more focused and attentive, more willing in all aspects of life. He’s completely and utterly horny for me which boosts me. I love him that way… but I also LOVE LOVE LOVE to make him cum. So yeah, there’s my dilemma. This whole denying him orgasm is really hard on me and all day, today, I’ve been arguing with myself about just saying screw it and letting him cum so I can use him to fuck me good and hard like I need to be. I think, if I wasnt on my cycle, I would be ok because he could just use the RodeoH harness with “Adam” in it and slam my pussy good and hard with my favorite toy. I know I’m going to have to basically torture myself for the next few days until I can have that. Why don’t I have him use it now? I don’t know, I have this thing about my toys being used during my period. If I use his cock (which I did the other night) it’s not a big deal to me because it washes off much more easily.

So before I go letting him erupt 6 weeks worth of his hot cum into my pussy I’m going to force myself to wait. Simply because I have a plan, I want him to wait until we renew our vows in January. I want him to save up and build up that incredible amount of horny and desire. I want to feel his passion that night after we are all lovey and promising to be together and take care of each other forever. I want his desire to be so much so that his orgasm is felt deep through his entire body and lasts for a long time.

So, as much as I love to make him cum, I love that constant arousal that comes with denying him his orgasm. I’m happy to remind myself of that and I’m happy waiting it out and having him please me in every other way possible. I’ll get mine and, eventually, I’ll get his too! 🙂

Ok so this was actually a comment on the blog and not really mail but this is a better way to address it. I’m sure there are a few people out there who’d like to know.

pcguy asks:
“One question though.. You’d talked about the possibility of maybe eventually trying a bit of “female chastity” as well.  I saw you had the one brief stint of orgasm denial for Lady M, but do you still consider trying an actual device for any period of time at all?  I’ve always wondered if the female devices are really even that practical…”

As you know cagedmonkey and I do, very rarely, have a bit of the “Switch” in us. I’ll be honest and say it’s a controlled type of switch meaning it’s something, as the dominant one, I’m allowing him to do. I love when we do this because once in a freaking while it’s nice to not HAVE to be in control of every damn thing. The other part of that is that I actually do like to experience “the other side” of things. I like to know what it’s like to be on the receiving end of things. It also helps me to know how to be a better Domme! 🙂

The answer to your question pcguy is yes, we do still plan to lock my sexiness up in a female chastity device. We wanted to do it right and not buy some novelty item off Amazon, so we ordered a custom sized locking one. It’s not a true custom device it’s just one that will fit my size, since I’m pretty sure with my huge tits people realize I’m not some nasty pencil thin model chick. It is a black leather device that requires three padlocks to even keep it on and closed. If I could find it right now I would post a pic, but it’s packed somewhere.

So, why haven’t we used it yet? Well first… we need three locks lol and didn’t have them right away, second we ended up moving and third we started to really think about the practicality and logistics of it all. Could I possibly wear it and function – it’s nothing like just having a cage locked on your cock. I mean seriously, every morning after my second cup of coffee who wants to be unlocking 3 padlocks while I’m about to burst?! That and I can literally think myself into an orgasm so the device is really about keeping me from sex… I have to mentally stop my orgasms.

So far it’s been hard to work out how we would actually do it properly. We did come across another device that is slightly different. That device could make these things happen a bit sooner. I will be honest and say that I would never be locked up like my cagedmonkey. Mine would definitely be short term compared to his! I have this fear that if I suppress the horny it might get pushed so far that I lose it again… no one in the world wants Lady to lose her horny!

I hope this answers your question and I thank you for asking. 🙂 please let us know if you have any other questions.

It’s creeping up on a month since my last orgasm now, and I can definitely feel my horniness taking on a whole new intensity. I don’t know if it’s because ML has been teasing me out of the cage more, or if it’s the use of the super-confining Revenge, or it could just be the fact that I’m a male with an incredibly high sex drive who has gone cum-less for so long…. but I can feel the need growing. I’d never use my safeword with ML just because I wanted to cum, but this weekend for the first time I considered thinking about possibly maybe using it. It’s that bad.

And I have how much longer to go?

Actually, the answer to that question is not 100% clear. It has been somewhat assumed that my next Maybe Day is our anniversary, seeing as we go on our Carribean cruise the week following. Assumed, but not decided on. And, as always, it is ML’s choice to make whether or not I actually get to cum on any Maybe Day. I feel somewhat safe about this time around; after this, I honestly have no clue.

I can feel my sexual need starting to take over me. Any time I am close to ML, any time I look at her I get turned on. I’ve had to battle with incredibly strong morning wood just about all week, my cock filling the cage and nearly bursting through the bars of the Jailbird. And my fantasies have beginning to get very intense.

Oddly enough, this is very exciting to me. I was secretly worried that maybe I was starting to veer off of the “kink” path in some ways, but these urges show me otherwise. I’ll explain. For the past few weeks, ML has been using my face to get her horny pussy off. I am enjoying it to no end. There have been moments, however, where she gets a little overeager and covers my face with her gooey wetness enough where I am unable to breathe.  We’ve explored this before and enjoyed it very much, but recently I’ve been trying to avoid it. I don’t know why, exactly… I just wasn’t into it. But now that my uncontrollable horniness has taken over, I’m very aggreeable to whatever ML wants to do with me – whether it be smother me with her huge titties, force me to lick her pussy until my jaw aches, or queening me until I pass out tongue fucking her ass.

Even our most recent discussions about the pseudo-cuckolding fantasies are getting darker and more intense… do I really want to be locked into the steel bars and be forced to watch another man jerk off and cum all over my wife’s tits? Do I want to be teased mercilessly, edged over and over, and have to beg this man to either let me have an orgasm or allow the torment to stop?

I guess the real question is… do I want to have a choice in the matter?

I’m pretty sure I know the answer to that question.

Recently hubby and I have been talking a lot about some bondage equipment and boy do I wish we had the money to buy it and try it out. Anyone wanna get me a gift? Hehe Really though, it has so much potential for long term teasing, predicament bondage and even some humiliation.

If you’ve been following our journey you know about a local friend I met who we were doing a pseudo-cuckolding type thing with. For the blogs proposes, his name is Adam and he’s also who I named my favorite very very realistic dildo after. Well, he and I started talking again in the past couple days and I brought up this piece of bondage equipment. You see we’ve wanted to play in person with Adam for quite some time. Not that we are ok with me fucking another man – we aren’t – but that doesn’t mean he couldn’t come show hubby what a nice hard cock looks like when it’s stroked and cums. Especially when he’s all locked up in his steel cage and been denied for a month.

So last night I mentioned to cagedmonkey that I was thinking of inviting Adam over for some playtime. I told him if we had the equipment it would make his visit that much more interesting. I also told him I wanted him to take some time to think about what other exciting and deliciously evil things Adam and I could do in front of him and/or to him while locked into it. So here is what he emailed me from his assignment last night:

“as you requested My Lady, a continuation of my thoughts/fantasy from earlier – involving the stocks and you (and possibly Adam) masturbating while I was forced to watch – ways to make it even more frustrating for me by playing some porn within my view. You could be enjoying the porn while I’m forced to watch, unable to do anything about it, and you could do any/all of the following:

– force me to watch him jerk off to the porn
– force me to watch the cumshots in the porn
– stroke me to the same rhythm that the he strokes himself
– stroke me to the same rhythm as the fucking in the porn
– use my body to get off repeatedly
– edge me constantly
– or anything else you can think of

These are all such wonderful things. I’ve thought of a few others such as using him as furniture of sorts while I masturbate, pegging him while he is locked in the stocks – especially if Adam is masturbating in front of him, kneeling in front of him and (a big maybe) letting Adam cum right on my big titties… I mean, as I said, the potential there is almost unending!

I did email Adam to see his thoughts and fantasies about the whole thing, so I’m pretty eager to see what he says. I’m so sure my pussy will be completely dripping wet after reading his response. Just talking to hubby this morning, for the few minutes before he went to sleep, soaked my panties!
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Last night hubby and I got a chance for some playtime since he was off work. The past couple days have found me feeling awfully dominant. I have also been eyeing his sexy little butt and wanting to have a little ass play. It certainly does get my pussy extremely wet and drippy to 1. Be so dominant 2. Hear his noises, moans and whimpers during ass play & 3. Bend him over and spank his sexy little ass.

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Seriously is so damn cute, sexy and squeezable!

Like I said, last night was the first night cagedmonkey was off work. We got the kids to bed, watched an episode of Doctor Who and then took a shower together. I do have to say I love him on his knees in the shower soaping me up and washing my entire body. Such a wonderful feeling to have him look up at me so lovingly because he is in heaven getting to service me. After our shower we went in the bedroom (& closed AND locked the door – still love that we can finally do that!) for some playtime.

I knew I wanted to play with his ass and I was really in the mood to use the RodeOh underwear harness but I couldn’t find it. 🙁 Instead of using a harness I just grabbed a few toys I wanted to play with and the lube. I also got my wand because… well, it’s so much fun for so many reasons. 🙂 I had hubby on his back and I crawled up between his legs and licked from the base of his caged cock all the way up his belly to his neck. Oh the sounds he made just drove me crazy!

I started out so loving and gentle with Pearl, which is our regular probe for his ass play. Not too big, not too small, just the right size. I was really enjoying myself and loving the moans from him as I penetrated his ass and at the same time pushed my wand under his ball sack. He was pressing so hard against the sides of his Revenge while attempting to get an erection. His balls were pulled tight as his caged was thrust forward. I was enjoying his moans so much that I wanted more so I felt it was time to get a little more into it. This is where I would have used the harness if I knew where it was.

I instructed hubby to get on his hands and knees and present his ass to me properly. While he got into position I grabbed a couple of other toys. I found our Aeronos and Blue and got a little excited that I could get some milking out of him AND push his ass play a little further than normal with a bit bigger probe. I started with the Aeronos which his ass loved and practically took in without me trying. I used it for a bit to rub his prostate internally and I could tell he was absolutely loving it. His cock was dripping from the internal massage. That’s about when I decided to push him. I took Blue and didn’t even give him a chance to slowly take my violation. I shoved Blue into his tight asshole which caused him to yelp. It’s so fucking hot to make him react the way I can. I started fucking him hard, ramming his ass with Blue. Since Blue had such a bulbous tip to it I was sure to pull it all the way back out each time to get extra stretching of his asshole.

Well… things can’t possibly go as planned and while I was slamming his ass hard and fast with Blue, we had a bit of an accident lol and like the title says, sometimes shit happens… literally! That put a stop to that play, we got cleaned up and it was time for some major Aftercare. Hubby was so incredibly upset and ashamed and embarrassed. Ya know, whatever, shit does happen. It wasn’t a big deal and there have been plenty of times he’s had to wipe shit off his dick from fucking my ass. Haha It really was no big deal and after some good old fashioned hugs and kisses and lovey time we got back to some face riding pussy eating and full on body worship. After he gave me about 7 orgasms with his mouth we fell asleep in each other’s arms. Mmmmm my favorite.

What is a cocktease?

(n.) A Cock Tease is a woman who, from the male perspective, acts in a sexual manner with the intention of seducing a man, but without actually fulfilling the expected sexual actions.

(V.) To purposely become enticing to a male to the point of giving him a hardon, or in most cruel cases, blue balls, with no intention of follow through.

While looked at as a bad thing by some men, this is hot and exciting to those who realize the build up to orgasm is the best part of the sexual experience.

Being a cock tease comes naturally to me. I have always loved the act of seducing a man, the lead in, that build up of sexual tension. I have always been fantastic at it. It’s fun, it’s exciting, it’s a major turn on and a huge ego booster knowing that I can turn a guy on and get his cock rock hard. It’s especially hot if I can do that with my words or how I look or act. Turning a guy on and getting him hard to the point of frustration without even touching him really makes me feel powerful and in those moments, I am. I have complete control over the guy who is dangling from my sexual marionette strings. So, yes, I LOVE being a cocktease. <3

Now that I am married to a sweet, sexy submissive man who thrives on tease and orgasm denial, I get to live in that adrenaline rush from teasing a guy past the point of frustration. I get to enjoy that wonderful place of submission, that place where he is a puppet on my strings… waiting, wanting and needing me. That place where he craves me in every way, desires my attention and begs for my touch.

Having my man in chastity heightens that whole cocktease scenario. Locking your man’s cock in a cage holds that level of frustration, it keeps that feeling of arousal at a high without the let down of an orgasm. I love that I tease my husband all day, every day and keep him at the highest height of arousal possible. I know every woman out there loves when her guy is attentive, loving and romantic. When her guy is in that spot at the beginning of a relationship where he is constantly wooing her, telling her how he feels about her, how he loves her, how he wants her and how she turns him on. You know what I’m talking about, all those things a guy does just to get in your pants. It’s those things that make us women fall in love with you and desire you. Sure there are other things but, come on, you know when you are attentive and romantic to your Lady she wants you more sexually. The more a man caresses a woman emotionally, the more desire she has for him sexually.

The reason I wanted to write this post was because last night after cagedmonkey left for work I sat… alone… completely losing my horny feelings. My pussy just wasn’t all that wet anymore and my smile faded and so did those good feelings of being wanted and desired. My constant feelings of arousal were dissipating. I woke up this morning feeling disappointed because I wasn’t feeling that crazy horny feeling anymore.

I will say that I started to tingle when I got that morning text message:

Hey baby 🙂
How are you on this lovely lovely wonderful most awesomest morning, my sweet sensational love?

Eeeeeee! It only got better when the first thing that happened when he walked in the door was him stopping mid sentence to say:

Oh my God you look beautiful this morning.

Without another word or even putting his stuff down, he came over to me, put his hand around the back of my neck and kissed me as I was trying to tell him welcome home.

Seriously? Uhhhhhhhgh! That was that, my pussy got that warm tingly feeling inside and I knew I was instantly getting wet. I realized that my constant horny, crazy, neediness is fueled by my husband. It’s catapulted into the air and soars when I am with him. When he is stroking my emotions, petting them gently, he is causing a physical reaction in me. I love it more than I could possibly explain in words.

Boys, I can’t say it enough… never, never ever ever stop “dating” your Lady. Don’t ever, ever ever ever, stop “trying to get in her pants” – EMOTIONALLY! She will think you’re irresistible! She will want you, desire youand want to please you sexually more often.

At the beginning of this year we had ordered a Revenge from Steelworxx in Germany. We got it back in March and tried it out for awhile. We realized after using it a few times that there were some things we wanted to add/change. We made sure we measured over and over and thought long and hard about what we wanted since, to make changes, we would have to send the device back to Germany. In August, we did just that. Btw, sending the device we spent a ton on to begin with, half way around the world was nerve racking! When a month went by without him getting it, I was nervous. Then when 6 weeks came along and he still hadn’t gotten it I was getting a bit freaked out and thought we lost our money and the device was just gone… but just over 7 weeks later Steelworxx emailed to say they have finally received the device and could start making the adjustments.

As you can see in the previous post (linked above) we had ordered the regular pad lock post and a 50mm ring and did the device kinda as is. You can see below how we added the steel ring around the start of the tube and we also got the anatomic ring which curves a bit back at the bottom.
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We also added the integrated lock and the base ring size is smaller as well. It is now about 47mm I believe.
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I do think we nailed the sizing and stuff on this one. After the past couple days, while hubby was off work, I made him get dressed in the Revenge. Especially when I woke up yesterday sore as hell because I made him fuck every hole I have nice and hard and deep. He fucked me over and over, as I requested, while he himself was denied any sort of pleasure or orgasm. I’ve been so horny and hard to satisfy sexually recently and I made sure I was fucked SO good that I was walking funny the next morning. God it felt good and I was wet and horny all day because I couldn’t stop thinking about all the constant fucking. 🙂

I had cagedmonkey get dressed in the Revenge last night and so far he says he’s had no issues and is comfortable. That’s good because I have no plans of removing his device for a bit. I just love that he can’t touch or see his own cock and when he does attempt an erection he’s gets an all over squeeze around his cock.
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It’s so shiny and sexy, don’t you think? I do have to comment on how much I love the integrated lock! It’s very easy to lock and unlock and, oh man, is it ever perfect for rubbing my pussy on hubby cage without hurting my lady parts! Even with the security screw on other devices the post still sticks out a bit and can hurt a little if in not careful. This lock is rounded and I couldn’t feel it at all when I was teasing hubby this morning.

I’m already enjoying cagedmonkey being locked in the Revenge again. Today I’ve been teasing him quite intensely, I’ve done my morning facesitting and also covered his chest with my pussy juices. I did a little breath play with him this morning and it got me turned right the hell on so I ended up cumming right there on his chest while smothering him with my big titties. I left his face and chest covered in my juices and went out to do errands.

When I got back from running around I went in for a little visit. While he was sleeping I lubed up my fingers and woke his ass up… quite literally. 🙂 I gave him a good ass fingering with a couple of my fingers and, damn, did I love hearing his moaning and whimpering from being violated and used for my pleasure. I’m really going to enjoy using and abusing him and giving him a taste of what it is to have sore holes from being overused. In sure the rest of the week is going to be just lovely and frustrating for him. I can’t wait!

It seems as though both My Lady and I are both insanely horny lately. Add the fact that I don’t have work for two days, and that means ML and I have been up to some really naughty things lately.

Last night, after the kids went to bed, ML and I were watching a little TV when she decided to unlock me and have a little fun with me. She stroked me and edged me numerous times, making it difficult for me to follow the storyline of the show… not that it really mattered to me by that time.

After the show, ML decided to give me some break time from her teasings. I decided to play some video games to get my mind off of being out of my mind horny. It worked for a few minutes, until My Lady decided that break time was over.

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As I continued playing, ML began stroking me once again. She continued to tease my quickly hardening cock, causing me to moan. When she had me rock hard and throbbing in her hands, she began to rub her palm over the head of my cock. It was amazing and agonizing at the same time – I absolutely love it when she teases and touches me, but the intense sensation delivered directly and only to the head of my cock is usually too much for me to handle in a calm, rational way.

I began whimpering and squirming around, trying to escape the sexual torture, but could not. ML continued rubbing the sensitive head of my cock, not even giving me a fraction of a second to gather myself or even take a nice deep breath. I began begging her to stop, but this only egged her on more. Finally, after what seemed like an eternity, she stroked my cock hard and fast right to the edge of orgasm and left me there, trembling with need and almost unable to speak.

(For those of you wondering, I actually didn’t do too badly in the game, considering the distractions… and yes, I’m that nerdy that I actually took pride in this.)

Soon it was bedtime for the horny adults in the house. ML and I snuggled up in bed, and it wasn’t long before my hard cock was deep inside her wet pussy. It was only a few minutes until ML’s pussy was squeezing my cock with orgasmic pleasure; it will be considerably longer until I get to experience the same. After ML was fully satisfied – and I was left as frustrated as ever – we snuggled up for some sleep.

And, to top off the evening with a perfect note… My Lady fell asleep holding my cock. 🙂 It was actually an amazing feeling to know how comfortable she must feel with her hand wrapped around my cock to be able to sleep like that.

Cagedmonkey and I have a written agreement that covers all parts of our sexual relationship, not just the Male Chastity. In this agreement, I made it quite clear that cagedmonkey was to tell me about any and all fantasies he has. I told him that I would be nonjudgemental and listen to them no matter their content. I think this is an important thing in a relationship, especially a relationship like this. He may have dreams or fantasies about something that he thinks he’s into or even something he’s not really into actually doing but the thought is hot. I’m sure we all know how that goes. 🙂

Knowing those fantasies helps me in a number of ways. 1. I know what things are going on in his head so I can better mindfuck him later with it. 2. I never know if it’s something *I* might be into if he’s not mentioning things. 3. Even if it’s something he’s mentioned and I wasn’t totally into it… hearing his fantasies about it or his thoughts about it, could start to peak my interest in such a thing. I’m sure there are plenty of other ways knowing his fantasies helps me but those are some important ones for now.

Recently, cagedmonkey has been reading a blog that sort of reviews all types of bondage things. They have talked about things from simple cuffs to full body restraints, furniture and other things. Well, that got hubby off on a “window shopping” spree lol. He found lots of different interesting things, some he was just like “wow look at this” and a few others were like “oh fuck I could see her doing this that and other things to me in that.” 🙂 Needless to say this post is going to cover the latter.

A couple weeks ago cagedmonkey sent me an email with a link to a certain type of bondage device. It pretty much renders him immobile and positions him in a way that I could do anything I want to him, over a long period of time. It’s also quite versatile as it can be taken apart and assembled in other ways. I think the thing I like most is that it can be disassembled and put away… So it’s not seen by some little eyes that don’t need to be exposed to such things.

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At first when he showed me a couple of other things like this, I was like “no, how the hell would we explain a contraption like that to the kids!” Then when he found this one and that it can be totally hidden and put away, I started thinking. He and I have talked about a lot of different ways to use this as well as different things I could do to him while he’s locked in it. Btw, the dildo part does not need to be used – though, we’ve talked about how much control there is if he were forced to stay that way, ass penetrated, for a long period.

Cagedmonkey has a fantasy – I don’t know how sure he is about the real life part of it – where he is kept immobile for a long time and periodically I would come in and do whatever I wanted to him and there would be nothing he could do about it. I could shove my wet, dripping pussy in his face, I could get on all fours in front of him and shove my nice big juicy ass in his face. Obviously I could have my way with his ass, spanking him, violating him with whatever size toy I wanted because, locked in that, what could he do about it? I’ve thought about leaving him caged and leaving his cock to struggle against the bars trying to get hard while I use and abuse his body sexually. I’ve also thought about having him uncaged, hard and dripping precum. There really are so many possibilities with a device like this.

I’m kind of curious if this has sparked any fantasies or just thoughts in our readers. I would love to hear your ideas or fantasies about what could be done in something like this!