Tease & Denial

Male Chastity Makes Me Horny

Posted by Lady M on January 26, 2014
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You probably thought this post would be from cagedmonkey, huh? Well it’s not, it’s from me! This whole chastity thing seriously gets me going. I’m constantly horny, constantly wet, ready and waiting to be pleased.

It’s so crazy that sometimes I’ll misread things and turn them sexual. And even the other night cagedmonkey was eating a tomato – yes a tomato – and I got all kinds of turned on. The way he was eating it and slurping up the juices reminded me so much of him eating my pussy. I just love it so much to lay back, head on a pillow, back arched, legs spread while he kisses, licks, sucks and pleases my pussy. How he basically makes out with my pussy lips and tongues my clit.

I really just shook my like, “why the hell an I thinking like that?” LoL

Doctor Domme – Hematospermia

Posted by Lady M on January 20, 2014
Posted in: Male Chastity, Medical, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . 2 comments

So you might have read about the Unexpectedness of the last couple days. We had a very big scare but I did my best to stay calm, I did my research as always and then tried to get a handle on cagedmonkey’s anxiety.

Well one thing I can say about this is that I have now expanded my knowledge and that it something I just love doing!

So have you ever experienced blood in your semen? Well that’s called Hematospermia. It’s often seen as no big deal, blood in the ejaculate can scare the shit out of the men who experience it and their partners. The condition is common, and many times it can go unnoticed because most times ejaculation are, well, in a vagina. In most patients with hematospermia, no further workup is needed; however, in some patients, hematospermia may be the first indicator of other urologic diseases.

Hematospermia can occur in males of any age. In men younger than 40, hematospermia is uniformly benign. Even in older men, it is rarely associated with malignancy. In cases of blood in the semen with no other symptoms, is referred to as self-limited.

Most patients have more than one episode, occurring over weeks to months. If there is blood in the ejaculate that lasts for more than 10 ejaculations it’s a good idea to see a doctor for an evaluation.

The physical examination should include measuring the patient’s blood pressure because severe high blood pressure is associated with hematospermia. While doctors do recognize this, it is unknown why exactly it occurs but it may have a similar basis to the association of hypertension with nosebleeds.

The etiology is not specifically known and isn’t understood well. Most commonly, it can be from nonspecific inflammation of the urethra, prostate and/or seminal vesicles. It can also come from broken blood vessels which could be cause by many different things.

Funny enough some of the reasons for self-limited hematospermia are:

Vigorous sex (well, yeah, after a month it can get rough)
Prolonged Sexual Abstinence (uhhh, hello chastity)
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interrupted sex (I take that as edging/ruined orgasms)

The symptoms that can accompany blood in the semen may be any of the following, depending upon the cause (these are not all of them):

Painful urination
Pain with ejaculation
Blood in urine
Lower back pain
Fever
Tenderness in the testes and/or scrotum
Swelling in the testes and/or scrotum
Swelling or tenderness in the groin area

The primary treatment of hematospermia is to ease the anxiety of the guy it’s happening to. Hematospermia is rarely associated with significant pathology, especially in younger men. The 3 factors that dictate the extent of the evaluation and treatment include 1. patient age, 2. the duration and recurrence of the hematospermia, and 3. the presence of any associated hematuria.

Really what it comes down to is if you have blood in your semen with testicular pain, burning or pain with urination, fever, swelling or any other symptom it is a good idea to get to a doctor. If you have blood in your semen and you’re over 40 years you should see a doctor. If you have blood in your semen and no other symptoms at all you are likely ok to wait it out a few weeks (at least 10 ejaculations) to see if it clears up on its own. If it doesn’t clear up after that it’s best to see a doctor.

I’m glad I’m the kind of person to research the shit out of stuff. To understand what is going on before freaking out – most of the time! Even armed with this knowledge cagedmonkey and I made a decision together to have a “honeymoon” of sorts from the chastity device and the Tease & Denial.

I’m worried that many things contributed to this happening… things like a possible ill fitting base ring, 25 days of tease and denial, very intense teasing while in the cage, possibly too rough pegging… any of these things could have been a factor in making this happen. Then again, it could have been none of it and it just happened.

All I know is that I love my cagedmonkey and I’m going to do everything possible to keep him safe and healthy. He is my heart and soul and I’d be nothing without him.

Taking a Chance

Posted by cagedmonkey on January 17, 2014
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, Male Chastity, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , , , , , . 3 comments

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To celebrate our anniversary this weekend, My Lady and I are taking a trip to a local casino for some gambling & drinking fun. She even set us up with a babysitter for the day so we can go and enjoy ourselves without the kids in tow. What a wonderful anniversary gift for BOTH of us!

Until, of course, I open my big mouth.

You see, part of our agreement is that I tell ML about any and all fantasies or ideas that I get that involve our sex life. ML has been struggling with the decision on whether or not to let me cum on our anniversary – she REALLY wants me to fill her up with a nice hot load of cum, but she also REALLY wants to push me further. She couldn’t decide. That’s when my kinky, creative brain kicked in and came up with an idea that she seems to like a helluva lot more than I probably will.

Here’s my idea – we are going to find the roulette table in the casino and choose one spin to dictate a number. That number will determine how many extra days will be added to my current stint of orgasm denial. Thanks to the zero and double zero spaces, I actually have a 1/19 (~5%) chance to cum that night. However, I also risk the possibility of having to go another thirty six days without an orgasm. Considering I am already approaching three weeks without an orgasm, the longest time since we’ve started our chastity lifestyle without cumming, adding another month-plus on the back end is going to be torture. I know what I’m rooting for. What My Lady is hoping for is a mystery to me…

Wish me luck!

Male Chastity & Cuckolding

Posted by Lady M on January 15, 2014
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, Male Chastity, Sex, Tease & Denial, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , . 4 comments

We wanted to write a post about cuckolding because a lot of assumptions are that couples who engage in male chastity are almost always into cuckoldry. This is actually not the case. While it seems that traditional cuckolding is more popular these days in the world of kink is not a necessity of couples who practice male chastity. It’s definitely not something we get into… in the traditional sense – which I’ll explain in a moment. Being a cuckoldress or “HotWife,” in my opinion, takes some emotional sacrifice. I’m not the person who can have sex with someone without some emotional connection. I’m also not into sharing my toys, but that’s another story.

So what exactly is cuckolding?
I got this text from The Daily Beast and I feel like it describes it pretty well.

Cuckoldry is defined as a wife’s infidelity. Chaucer and Shakespeare characterized it as the ultimate shame. So perhaps it’s no surprise that today it’s developed into a fairly popular fetish. The Internet is rife with husbands enthusiastically soliciting other men—often larger, hotter, sexier men than themselves—to have sex with their wives while they watch.

“The high point of cuckolding is when your wife says she wants the other guy all the time and never wants you.”

This isn’t like swinging, and it’s not a threesome. Cuckolded men (aka “cucks”) only observe their wives’ infidelities, they don’t participate. And that’s why they find it a turn-on: They’re left out, looking on as the woman they love climaxes with a better man than them. It’s a form of psychological sadomasochism. Some people get turned on by whips, chains, and physical pain. Cucks get aroused by mental anguish.

Cuckolding is rapidly emerging as the alt-sex fetish of choice for American intellectuals. Just check out the online forums like OurHotWives.org/forum, where letter-perfect postings celebrate cuckoldry as a cerebral pursuit, transcending ordinary voyeurism and S&M as a dangerous game involving jealousy, misery, gratitude, shame, sharing, sublimation, lust, and trust.

Now, I’d mentioned that we aren’t into cuckolding in the traditional sense and that’s because I feel like this type of thing, being as psychological as it is, can come in many different forms. Our “pseudo-cuckolding” is more of a humiliation/jealousy thing in regards to the husband. Let me tell you a little about what the fetish is for us. And maybe this isn’t cuckolding at all but, whatever, did I ever say I was an expert? 🙂

So, for us, the thing that gets my hubby the most is knowing, in very great detail (reading/pics/video), about another having what he is aching to have. In this case an erection, being able to touch himself and of course an orgasm. Think about that guy friend of yours who was sleeping with every girl he could and telling you all about his encounters when you couldn’t even get a date with your own hand.

It’s one thing to talk about another man getting those things but what really drives this fetish home is having a “boy-friend” willing to brag like crazy to cagedmonkey all about getting hard, even morning wood, stroking himself and of course squirting that hot load of cum wherever he wants!

This is where we’ve made things interesting. I’ve made “friends” with a boy who is just a young horny little thing and loves to stroke himself multiple times a day. He also loves to talk and brag about that fact, so he works perfectly into my little plan of jealousy. What brings the humiliation and pseudo-cuckoldry into it is the fact that I make cagedmonkey email this particular boy-friend with erotic photos of me and he has to ask this guy to enjoy the pictures of his wife and to stroke his cock and cum from them. He then has to email and thank him for doing so. In return the boy-friend will then email him back to brag all about what it felt like to have an erection while looking at me, to stroke while imagining cumming on my big beautiful tits and then to explode cum from his cock in response. Even sending pictures of his erect penis, hand mid-stroke and end result. Videos of those things happening are also fantastic ways to frustrate my locked up man.

These online (and sometimes text message) encounters can be very frustrating and, at the same time, arousing to cagedmonkey. There is also great potential in making things much worse for him if there was ever to be a speakerphone conversation!

Could you imagine if we ever met up with this boy-friend in person and he pulled his nice hard cock out in front of us, stroked it and came? It just makes me giggle thinking about it. 🙂

There are many ways to make a fantasy or fetish work for you… even if you aren’t into it in the traditional sense. Sometimes you just need to think out of the box and keep your fantasies alive and kickin’. Then again some fantasies are better left in the mind and worked in words. Whatever makes you an your partner happy is what you should be doing!

Enjoy!

I Can Do It One Handed

Posted by Lady M on January 13, 2014
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I may have had shoulder surgery but that’s not exactly stopping me from A. Cumming or B. My WLM/Dominating. I will say that cagedmonkey is doing a fantastic job picking up my slack and doing the things I can’t. It started off rough and he didn’t think he could do it but I think he relaxed a bit and found that things don’t have to be perfect or exactly my way. When I ask that things get done, I just want them done. He’s been great about taking care of the kids and getting them to their activities. He’s been cooking most of the meals and even helps me bathe and get dressed. Like I said, he’s basically being my Super subby hubby! 🙂 I couldn’t be more proud of him, pleased with his service, his dedication and how hard he is working! Love this guy!

With all that said, I did mention that it sure isn’t stopping me from getting my orgasms and certainly isn’t getting him any. He had a little “free” time last week but has been back in his jail Bird and his next unlocking won’t be until January 18th. It’s not a definite orgasm day for him but I might give him a chance to cum at least. 😉

Today has been quite the subby day for him. He’s begging to do anything I ask of him. He is craving my direction and awaiting my orders. Aside from his chores, he was required to wear the njoy for a few hours today as well as service me right when I ask. I went upstairs to put away some clothes and had to call him up to help… he asked what I needed help with and I simply said “my pussy needs to be licked.” He immediately got on his knees and made me cum twice – and, to praise him, he even dealt with our daughters homeschool questions while doing it! 🙂 Awesome!

Is that service or what?

Tonight we have some celebrating to do in the midst of a very Dom/sub kinda day. We will be having some drinks tonight and having a while lot of kinky fun! 🙂

I njoy His Ass – Pure Plug Review

Posted by Lady M on January 11, 2014
Posted in: Anal, Male Chastity, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 4 comments

Next weekend is our wedding anniversary and I wanted to get us a new toy to play with. I know you all have read in the past about how my obsession with cagedmonkey’s ass has grown. It’s not at all about pegging him that gets me, it’s the way his butt looks, the shape, the feel, and even the springy bounce when I spank him lovingly. I just love how his sexy little ass cheek fits right in my hand so perfectly. So I decided to go for it and I ordered a small njoy Pure Plug butt plug for cagedmonkey. I was so excited when it was delivered yesterday. It’s a cute, tiny little thing but very efficient and effective!
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According to their site: ” Equally fun for hot bedroom play or to wear all day for some naughty secret stimulation, njoy’s Pure Plugs truly shine where the sun don’t! The Pure Plugs combine a large head for that delicious stretch of penetration, with a tapered stem for easy retention and long-term comfort. The weighty steel adds a lovely sense of fullness and presence to remind you just how sensitive you really are ‘back there’…”

I fully agree with everything written there. The description couldn’t be anymore spot on! I really had some issues with butt plugs because of what I always imagined or saw them used for and I’m not really into those things. I wanted something that I could use once in awhile for an overall pleasurable experience for cagedmonkey. It seems that this little plug is perfect and does the job well. Seeing is I got a message from cagedmonkey after I’d made him try it out for about an hour or so last night. I had him wear the plug while he got some teasing and while he pleasured me a few times.

He said he definitely feels that it was in but his asshole doesn’t hurt like the other plug we’ve used. He says the plug made him have the twitchy leftover sensitive feelings inside like when we used the other but that his actual asshole isn’t sore. He says it’s a very good thing so I’m excited that this is so small yet so effective, like I said. I’m glad that he can gently be reminded of me all night now even when he’s not wearing the plug. 🙂 I’m sure he can comment more on that.

The whole idea for me wasn’t to use a butt plug as punishment, to cause discomfort or pain or even to assert my Dominance. I’ve read and seen so many times where a Mistress will use huge butt plugs for those reasons and, honestly, that just grossed me out. There can be so much more to using one, so much pleasure. I love that the njoy is perfectly made and weighted so that once inserted it puts the right amount of pressure on the prostate. Last night while working on my orgasms, cagedmonkey just started pouring precum almost as if I was milking him! It really was a beautiful thing.

So far I really like this plug. At first I wasn’t into the steel thing but then I thought about what we went through with the chastity device and decided to just go for it! It looks like we will have lots of things to try out and ways to experiment with our new njoy Pure Plug. It should be loads of fun!

Two Days in & Already Ruined 2014

Posted by Lady M on January 2, 2014
Posted in: KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . 5 comments

Damn it, Damn it, Damn it!

So since Christmas I’ve been having a lot of fun teasing cagedmonkey. Today and tonight was no different. This morning I decided to restrain cagedmonkey with the neck and wrist cuffs again today and unlock him. I got him worked up and very erect so I could slip the silicone sleeve on him. They I placed the super strong bullet vibrator in the sleeve at the base of his penis & balls. I left him vibrating there unable to touch for 45 mins. 🙂 it was lots of fun hearing the moaning and writhing around from all of the non-stop sensation.

This evening after the kids went to bed I began playing around and gave cagedmonkey one hell of a blow job. I kept edging him over and over with my mouth and hands. I even used his own hand to force him to masturbate and would pull his hand away just before he’d go off the edge. It was fun watching his face and hearing his half laugh moan thing he does! 🙂

I continued stroking over and over keeping him on the edge and abruptly letting go before he would get to orgasm. Until… ugh… I had to go one time too far! It’s not like he had an actual orgasm but I’m still disappointed that I accidentally gave him his first ruined orgasm of 2014!

Ah well… I’m not sure how I’ll handle this because really it was cumming without permission. I’ll have to think about this. I suppose I have been looking for a good excuse for spanking him. Hehe 🙂

My Well Used Sex Toy

Posted by Lady M on December 31, 2013
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The other night started like any other night of tease and denial. I told cagedmonkey to get a list of toys and other things I wanted to play with. I had him bring down our neck & wrist cuffs to restrain him and put the blindfold on. It’s been awhile since we’ve used the blindfold so it was fun to pick and choose which toys I wanted to use and cagedmonkey had no idea what I was doing next. With his hands restrained I unlocked his JailBird and let him out of his cage.

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SportSheets neck & wrist restraints

I started out by lubing up the mini butt plug and cagedmonkey’s beautiful tight asshole. Yes, I love that ass of his, I’m sure you remember that from my previous ass post. He was blindfolded so he had no clue what I was inserting, a toy? the butt plug? the prostate massager? I just loved his reaction when I pushed it passed his tight opening. That gasp and moan that happens as the muscle is spread apart.

With his ass feeling filled up and his hands restrained I took the strap-on harness and put it just above his unlocked hard cock. I straddled him and sat down on the strap-on. I began riding the strap on on top of him while his cock flopped around behind me aching to feel me. Instead he just bumped against my ass as I bounced up and down, fucking myself with my dildo. Cagedmonkey was writhing around moaning as I rode myself to a nice orgasm 2 inches away from the cock that desperately wanted to be used.

I started talking to him, describing exactly what I was doing. Like using my dildo to cum and leaving his cock to lay there hard, aching and unused. I told him maybe I needed to have my ass filed up as well just like his. That’s when I grabbed his cock and lubed it up. I could tell even under the blindfold that his eyes were bugging in shock and his breathing got shorter and faster. I lifted up on my knees with the dildo still inserted, took his cock and found the tight sweet spot and sat ever so slowly and gently down taking his entire cock into my ass. He moaned and grunted so loud as I did. I slowly slid up and down and on the dildo and his cock, then faster and faster until I came again, I collapsed onto his chest, breathing heavy… my session was done.