Building Anticipation: Tease, Denial, a New Bisexual Play Partner, and What Comes Next.
With this weekend coming up fast, I thought I would get some thoughts out. We’re meeting our new play partner, “D” for the first time for play time, and the energy in each of our chats has been exciting. This ties right into where Jon is right now… deep in an extended period of tease, denial and edging that’s been going on for… I dunno a couple of months at this point. I honestly stopped counting the exact days because this is just how things are. He cums when I say. He’s edges when I say. Everything else is under my control, and that power feels incredible.
Where Jon Is Right Now: Layers of Frustration and Anticipation
He’s also on daily Cialis, a vitamin regimen and drinking plenty of water to keep everything primed and ready. We want him absolutely loaded for this weekend. The denial has him leaking, throbbing, and desperate in the best ways. It’s not just about the physical ache anymore, it’s the constant mental one of knowing he’s being prepared for something.
Opening New Doors: Jon’s Bi Exploration and Adding D as Our Fourth
What makes this weekend extra exciting is how it layers onto Jon’s growing comfort with his bi-curiosity. We’ve shared some of that journey here before, him admitting attraction, exploring those feelings safely within our dynamic. D being bisexual opens up possibilities we haven’t had before. It’s not just another person joining us; it’s the chance for Jon to experience touch, attention, and play from a man in a way that feels supported and hot as hell for all of us.
I love watching Jon push his own boundaries. The tease in our group chats has been relentless: what D might do to him, what Jon might do back, how I may direct things and how John will fit into the mix too. There’s something deeply arousing about guiding my husband’s exploration while my locked boyfriend and our new partner participate. It deepens our connection in ways I didn’t fully expect when we started down this ENM path.
I’m going into this with no expectations and keeping my mind very realistic. We’re meeting at a neutral spot first, just four people getting to know each other. It could turn steamy, or who the hell knows, we might end up ordering DoorDash and watching a movie. Either way, I’m good. No pressure, no disappointment. This is about connection first.
Because it’s the first time Jon and D are likely going to be together physically, we’ve already agreed: if D makes Jon cum (since I’ve got him currently denied) this weekend, that’s not a “failure.”
The denial clock basically resets the next day like normal. It’ll keep things light while still honoring the dynamic. We don’t need any added stress to an already crazy nervous situation.
The Tease That’s Already Happening
The rest of this week is going to be pure mental foreplay. Constant chatting about possibilities, who touches who, how it might feel, what instructions I’ll give in the moment, and how John’s chastity and plugged ass adds another layer. Jon’s edging sessions are already laced with reminders and anticipation of the weekend. The denial isn’t punishment; it’s fuel. It makes every text, every edge, every leaky throb feel like foreplay for Saturday.
We’ve been building this slowly and deliberately. The week before last, we started Jon with edging just about every day with “normal” hand edging – his usual grip, the one he knows too well. Last week, I switched it up, only his right hand, which threw off his rhythm just enough to make it more challenging but still doable. This week? We’re taking it up another notch. He’s only allowed to edge using toys and no direct skin contact (because, seriously, work makes it a bit hard to do all this shit sometimes and make it seems like some incredibly kinky stuff.) Lovense toys, the Handy2 Pro when he can sneak it in and whatever else we have in our little box of tricks. And the best part, I gave John and D both permission to text him at any moment to tell him to edge. He knows he’s supposed to “drop what you’re doing and go edge right now,” obviously within reason if at work or something like that, of course.
After the Weekend: Restarting and Building Intensity
One thing I’ve been thinking about a lot (and why I’m writing this) is what happens after. Once the initial excitement settles and we “restart” the denial for Jon, how do we ramp things back up? We want to build even more intensity than before, using everything we’ve learned and some fresh ideas that still fit our real life, kids at home, work schedules, the whole balancing act.
Here are some ways I’m thinking how this will progress:
- Immediate Post-Weekend Reset: A short “cool-down” period of light teasing and skin contact to let him feel everything he’s been missing, then straight back into the mental chastity rules with a new, goal in mind.
- Escalating Edging Challenges: Build on what we did this week. Alternate hands, toys only, no-touch edging (just kegels and mental focus while a Lovense Edge or similar work his prostate). Use the Handy2 Pro on random patterns possibly controlled by me, John, or D remotely at times.
- Command Edging with a Twist: Keep the “drop and edge” texts, but add layers – specific instructions like “edge for exactly 5 minutes using only the Handy on low, then send proof,” or “edge while plugged and describe out loud what you hope D does to you next time,” or certain number of edges in a certain time limit, or a prolonged edging session where it starts small and each “stroking period gets longer and longer and he has to make it through.
- Public-Friendly Teases (that stay discreet): Lovense toys worn out of the house with me while John handles the controls. Quick bathroom edging sessions during family outings.
New (to us) Ideas I’ve Been Inspired By:
- “Mystery Timer” games – set a random timer for when he’s allowed to edge or when denial ends.
- Prostate-focused edging – where the goal is to get him right to the edge of a hands-free ruined leak without full orgasm.
- Group-directed sessions – where D or John gives instructions.
- Sensory play – ice, heat, lube, different textures on his cock while denied, combined with nipple play or spanking to overload him.
- “Edgemas”-style ramps: increasing the number of daily edges each day/week leading up to the next meetup.
We’ll keep it sustainable – quick morning teases before the kids wake up, sneaky afternoon sessions, long evenings when we have privacy. The key is consistency mixed with surprise. The denial gets deeper when it’s woven into everyday life, not just “scene time.” Will it be every minute of every day? No we are adults with Jobs, Families and Lives but we will do our best to incorporate it as much as possible and make the most fun of it that we can! 🙂
Why This All Turns Me On So Much
There’s something powerful about holding this control while opening our relationship to new people. Watching Jon’s body react, seeing his excitement, knowing I decide when (or if) he releases, seeing him explore new dynamics with D under my guidance or instruction even, while John stays locked and eager to serve – it excites me just thinking about it. The tease isn’t just for him; it’s for all of us. Same with the pleasure. I get pleasure watching all of my plays things work well together.
We’re all excited, a little nervous, and very turned on for whatever this weekend brings. We’ll update after, promise. I know you all are going to be eager to hear how the experience was for each of us!
In the meantime, if you’ve got similar experiences with adding bi partners into your dynamic or creative edging ideas that work with a busy family life, drop them in the comments. I’m always looking for fresh inspiration that fits us.
Michele
