Fashion Show

Posted by cagedmonkey on June 30, 2020
Posted in: Pictures, Sex. Tagged: , , , , , , , , , , , . 3 comments

So I had been teasing on Twitter about buying ML some sexy lingerie. One of my three purchases finally came in the mail, but unfortunately didn’t fit very well when she tried it on – when it came down to it, her boobs were just too damn big.

A problem I’m sure many men wish their woman 5had.

There are two other ones I bought that still haven’t been delivered, so I guess we’ll see how those go when they get here. I’m the meantime, I did promise sexy outfit pics…. so ML was nice enough to model some panties for me that she had gotten a while back (before we moved) and she had never tried on.

And DAMN did she look good.

One of the first ones ML tried on for me was this pair of low-riding panties with and interesting pattern of straps in the back:

This one is so nice because it shows so much of her sexy ass!

(By the way, fair warning: there will be a lot of pics of ML’s ass in this post, so if you have a heart condition where seeing that amazingly-shaped butt is going to cause a health problem, you should look away now.)

Next, she tried on a pair of purple lacy panties:

And it wasn’t just her ass that was looking good in them:

I couldn’t help but take a peek.

Then she tried on a pair of burgandy panties that were just beautiful on her:

I swear, the shape of her ass when she bends over like that drives me crazy! At this point, I was way too turned on to only take pics:

I mean, can you really blame me? How could I resist this?

The last outfit ML tried on was this flower patterned baby doll nighty:

I mean, seriously? THIS is my wife? Just…. I don’t know what to say, other than “DAMN, THAT ASS!” And that outfit made everything look good:

I couldn’t help it this time either, I needed to fuck her. ML was so turned on by how excited I was seeing her in these outfits, her pussy was literally soaked:

Out of all of them, I think the burgandy one was my favorite. The nighty looked really nice, with the ruffles framing her ass so well… but the burgandy ones were just hot as fuck!

Which one was your favorite? Let us know in the comments!

The Kink Mindset

Posted by cagedmonkey on June 25, 2020
Posted in: In Real Life, Male Chastity, Marriage, Podcast, Reviews. Tagged: , , , , , , , , . Leave a Comment

Admittedly, it’s super hard lately to keep ourselves in the kink frame of mind… especially with everything that’s been going on lately. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I’m horny just about every single day. After all, going 5+ months without an orgasm will do that to you. It’s just that it’s not that easy to keep sex, orgasm denial, and chastity on the forefront of your mind with all of the things out there to be worried about.

But we’re trying.

ML is still keeping me locked up as much as possible (as much as my recovery from back surgery will allow), and is teasing me as often as she can (tough to get a good groove going when the kids go to bed so late with no school the next day). She’s still amazingly good at ruining my orgasms, and of course she still has her beautiful tits and sexy ass.

So that’s all good news.

More good news is that we’ve actually been working on making time for special things – not only for us personally, but also for this blog. We’ve got a couple of new toy reviews that will be coming up soon, and some new sexy outfits for ML to do some photo shoots with. Annnnnnnnd…. we are also putting together a VERY special surprise for our podcast fans this summer, so stay tuned for a can’t-miss episode!

In these uncertain times (God, I HATE that phrase), it’s important to hold onto the things that are normal when you can. And we’ll be doing our best to get back to normal here at Monkey In A Cage, as soon as we can!

Mail Chastity: Ruined Orgasm

Posted by Lady M on March 30, 2020
Posted in: Mail Chastity, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , . 8 comments

I got a great comment on my last post which included a question I didn’t want to just answer in a reply. I feel like I have a little more to say on the subject than just a few words to be lost in the comment section of the blog.

Philip wrote:

I have a question that I do not recall being discussed in your blog. CM has often edged himself as required but would you Lady M ever instruct him to ruin his own orgasm and do you CM feel you could manage to do this? Personally I think I would find it very difficult and I dare not even hint at the idea to my wife!

It’s interesting to have this question asked because, I do enjoy so very much giving Cagedmonkey a good ruined orgasm. I love, even more, getting him so worked up and crazy during denial that he starts begging for one. I love hearing him moan and whimper and react to teasing and feeling how horny he is. So horny, that he would even want to get that close to orgasm only to have it completely unfulfilled and ruined.

Now to get to the point of answering the question… I do not recall that I have ever had him ruin himself, but himself. I really haven’t even had him stroke or edge himself (without me there) until recently. I struggled a lot with allowing him out of his cage while I wasn’t there. He’s proven, over the past 7 years, that I can trust him to obey me and follow my rules and only do what I tell him to do when he is out of the cage and not with me.

I think one of the other reasons he hasn’t done this on his own is that I enjoy it so incredibly much! Though, he has been the one to actually ruin himself before. I’ve had him both stroke and have sex with me and get himself to a ruined orgasm. A couple of weeks ago I had him fuck my pussy right to the point where he pulled out and his cock just dripped a ruined orgasm on my belly. It was awesome, it makes me so happy I just can’t help but giggle!

Philip, I hope this answers your question and helps you understand my side of this. I don’t know if hubby feels differently when I’m the one ruining him or if he is made to ruin himself. It must take a hell of a lot of self control to do as he is told and to force himself to ruin an orgasm… He could easily just go further and enjoy it but, instead, he obeys because he knows that I enjoy it so much.

So much of his submission is just because he loves making me happy and doing what I want him to makes me happy.

Still Around

Posted by Lady M on March 25, 2020
Posted in: Male Chastity, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . 6 comments

Although life has been exceptionally busy, we are still around. It seems like 2020 has started out one of the craziest years of our lives. With injuries, kid issues, hubby’s surgery, “vacation” and then this whole thing going on in the world. It’s a bit unbelievable actually. It’s even comical at times.

We’ve had zero to little time to think about anything kinky in the past few months. You’d think that with hubby and I having essential jobs we’d be even more stressed out… Funny thing is, since I’m working from home right now I’ve had way more time to think about hubby and chat with him and tease him through text. I can even sneak away (since schools are closed and the kids are gone too!) sometimes and get pictures and have been turned on and excited to drive him crazy!
Hubby has still been denied since our anniversary in January and it’s still my plan to keep him orgasm denied for the year. I’ve enjoyed having him out of his cage enough to edge for me sometimes, and to have sex with him when I feel like it. He’s been doing something recently again and that’s getting on his knees for me. When we started this whole thing he would get on his knees every day and tell me who’s he was, that he was mine and no one else. Lately, he’s been doing that and I love it!

He’s also been taking time to kiss and love and worship different parts of my body. He’s remembering that it’s not all about intercourse and that sex can be in many forms. It’s feels extremely good to have him loving all the parts of me! It’s been a lot of fun finding time to get in those little things that remind each other that we are still enjoying our life together. That we still enjoy the kinky, even if we can’t get as kinky as we want due to the kids being older.

I know we both miss it and wish we had time for it… The kids won’t be kids forever, they won’t need us forever. I’m trying to remember this is temporary. They are only ours to enjoy and do things with for a few more years and if we keep pushing them away we will miss these last few years. I DO want time for hubby and I but I know the time we do get together will grow as the kids get even older.

As bad as this whole thing is in the world, it’s been a blessing for us as a couple and a time for us to reconnect to our tease and denial and fun times. It’s also helped to open some communication and while we know we don’t have an the crew time in the world we at least have been able to talk about what we are missing and what we’d like to be doing.

Nipple Torture (Not the Good Kind)

Posted by cagedmonkey on January 19, 2020
Posted in: Medical, Pictures. Tagged: , , , , , , . Leave a Comment

ML and I have been trying out some different piercings for my nipples – mainly because I’ve had to take them out for my back MRIs, but also because we’ve been trying to see if we like the look of anything different there. We’ve tried different types of bars with different colored/sizes balls, and even recently tried rings.

A secondary goal of trying the new piercings was to try to reduce the amount of scar tissue on my nipples. Because the original bars I had in were so short, the balls had pulled up against my skin and made little “nubs” on my nipples.

It seemed to be working for a while, and I was even liking the look of the new piercings. But then I started to notice some issues with them – I was starting to have reactions to them (itchy, not healing properly, etc.).

I first noticed the reactions to bars that were titanium… or, at least, the Amazon seller claimed they were titanium. Then I had a problem with the rings that were supposedly surgical steel – seriously, wtf? I didn’t have a problem with other steel bars, why such issues with the rings?

ML and I are working under the assumption that the stuff she bought online wasn’t necessarily titanium or steel, that they were maybe something less inert and I reacted to it. From now on, we are only going to get our stuff from shops that can vouch for their materials. We haven’t given up on the rings completely, we just need to be less trusting of the internet, lol.

At the moment, I have plastic placeholders in my nipples (since I have an MRI Monday morning anyway). Hopefully these will give my nipples a chance to chill out a little and relax.

New Year, Same Us

Posted by Lady M on January 17, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

With the start of the new year – in more ways than one, wink wink – we’ve seen a slight uptick in our blog visits. Okay, maybe it’s because we actually got up off our butts, stopped being lazy, and started posting again…. but who really cares about the why, right? Anyway, we’ve also had some new followers, both here and on Twitter, so we figured it would be a good idea to go oover a little basic Q&A on what we are all about. And, to help us out with the “Q” portion of that equation, one of our followers wrote to us asking us some things about our relationship.

johnsk writes:

I am fascinated by this. Single guy here from USA. Although my cock is not large, I cannot get even the largest ring to fit. I have tried lube, etc. Very frustrating.

I’ll allow it.

The most common device I wear is the Jailbird from Mature Metal. I use an oval base ring, which may end up helping in your case. I know that I had trouble with the circular rings of other cages (although the Revenge ring is circular, and that one works fine).

Moving on to johnsk’s actual questions:

How often are you allowed to orgasm? Is it strictly her decision or a joint decision?

When and how I get to orgasm is 100% her choice. The frequency of my orgasms can vary depending on My Lady’s mood – sometimes it will be every few weeks, sometimes every few months. I have been cumming a lot more often than I am used to these past couple of weeks, but that is going to come to a stop VERY soon – ML and I are planning to once again try at a complete year of orgasm denial for me starting from our anniversary, which…..

*checks notes*

…. is TOMORROW!!!!

johnsk continues:

I also wonder if you employ butt plugs and spanking in conjunction with chastity.

ML is certainly a big fan of spanking me, although we haven’t had much opportunity to do so recently. As expected, spankings tend to generate a lot of noise; and, as a married couple with two children, it gets difficult to find time for that. Butt plugs are much easier to be discreet with, and ML will have me wear one from time to time.

johnsk finished:

Thanks for a great site on this topic.

And thanks for reading! We really do enjoy posting and doing all of this blog stuff – not just because we are kinky fuckers who like to show off all of the fun stuff we are doing, but also because we like the education aspect of all of this. There are a lot of sites that preach a specific kind of chastity play, and claim that it’s the “right way to do it” and no other way is “real” chastity… well, that’s all bullshit. Chastity can be whatever it means to you: you can lock up your cock without having a keyholder, you can have a single keyholder, or even a committee! You can be in chastity for an hour, a day, or a week… or longer, even. There’s no wrong answer, as long as it works for you.

So, thanks to johnsk and all of our other readers/followers! We look forward to you visiting us as we continue our fun far into the future.

Rough Nights

Posted by cagedmonkey on January 7, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Medical, Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 5 comments

Things are in an interesting place in the MinaC household. On the one hand, both ML and I are anticipating another try for a full year of orgasm denial – while I know I will eventually be horribly desperate to cum by the end of it, we both miss the intensity and the crazy horniness that it brings to both of us. My Lady is particularly excited about incorporating more ruined orgasms into the mix, which will hopefully somewhat fulfill her desire to see me cum without giving me the pleasure of a full orgasm. It’ll also most likely drive my frustration even stronger (another positive in ML’s eyes).

On the other hand, certain “situations” have developed that have put some limits on my ability to wear my chastity cage, specifically overnight. I’ve been experiencing some pretty severe back pain over the past few months, which was confirmed as a herniated disc by MRI.

Wearing the cage at night often leads to middle-of-the-night erections that cause such bad pain that I can’t sleep. Now, before y’all start in with the “OMG chastity caused your herniated disc!” BS —

— I’m almost 100% sure I injured it during our recent move. Just because it hurts now because of it, doesn’t mean it originally caused it. If you break your ankle skiing, it’s gonna hurt if you walk on it; you didn’t break your ankle by walking on it.

It’s kind of a bummer to not be able to wear the cage indefinitely at this time; I feel like I’m taking away ML’s choice in how long I wear the cage (to be fair, it was ML’s decision to allow me to sleep cageless for now). I would really like to wear the cage for days or even weeks at a time if she desires – my desperation for just a simple erection can get very intense – but it’s just not doable right now.

The weird thing is that when I get sexually aroused in the cage, it doesn’t lead to the pain that the mid-sleep ones do. It’s almost as if it’s a different type of erection that occurs. This is good – at least My Lady gets to see my cock struggling in its cage while she teases me. That’s one of her favorite things about keeping me in chastity!

So, depending on how we decide to address my back pain issue (surgery is a definite possibility in the near future), things may get better quickly or maybe not-so-quickly. I’m just hoping for some improvement in the future. I want ML to be able to keep me in the cage for as long as she wants, not as long as I can manage.

What do you want out of Chastity and Denial?

Posted by Lady M on December 27, 2019
Posted in: FemDom, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , .

After Cagedmonkey wrote his post the other day about Looking Ahead he asked me a question. He wrote “if we are going to try to do a year denial, what do you want from it? What would you like to see happen, what would you like to do/see/try?”

My answer isn’t so simple, it’s almost like there isn’t words to describe what I want. I did end up telling him, physically, I want to see him so horny he struggling against the bars of the cage, I want to see him aching and his cock leaking precum like it has during past denial periods. I understand there will need to be some amounts of trading line there was in the past but I do think the denial in general helps to move that along. I want to physically see him desperate and wanting. I want him so horny that he will find any way to turn me on, sexual and non-sexual. Not things that turn me on the way he wants me turned on but more thinking about my needs and desires and turning me on in ways that I want to be turned on.

When I started thinking about his question more, I realized it wasn’t so much about that stuff that I wanted. It wasn’t necessarily what I wanted to see or do and that it was more about what I wanted to feel during this denial. I want to feel irresistible and not just sexually. I want to feel his frustration. I want to feel loved and woed and made a fuss over. I want to feel thought of and made to feel important. I want to feel the gratitude of him being locked in a cage and denied and teased. I want to feel his need, his aches, his desires.

Don’t get me wrong, I want to tease him and drive him nuts and make him want things and flaunt in front of him what he is being denied. I want to make him do daily things as a reminder of who he belongs to and who he serves sexually. I want my mornings to begin with kisses to my pussy, so the very first thing he smells & tastes in the morning is me. He has much better days when they start off that way. I want to try to get in some impact play, I love the feel and sound of spanking him so even if it’s once in a month, I want it. I’d like to try to get in more bondage, more forced things… If he’s bound he can’t really not be used for my sexual pleasure.

Anyway… So there’s a lot that goes into the answer of what do I want from chastity and denial… And most of it is feelings.

A Look Ahead

Posted by cagedmonkey on December 22, 2019
Posted in: FemDom, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Pictures. Tagged: , , , , , , .

My last denial stint was a little unexpected, both in its beginning and its length. ML was letting me cum on a fairly regular basis, which for me meant that I had two or three orgasms in the same week. We were moving into our new house, and I figured we would be doing the “let’s fuck in the different rooms of the house to celebrate” thing. I was only partially right, though – while we did have sex in different areas of the house, I only got to cum once in the new house.

That was at the beginning of September. I honestly wasn’t ready for a 3-month-plus denial, but My Lady doesn’t have an obligation to warn me ahead of time when I won’t be cumming for a while. It’s nice to know (so I can savor my last orgasm as much as possible), but not necessary.

My last orgasm was about a week or so ago, and I have a feeling it was sort of unplanned from ML’s standpoint. We had just woken up after sleeping in a little bit on the weekend. I woke up feeling a little horny and a teeny bit slutty, so while ML was getting dressed I kneeled on the bed in front of her and started playing with my nipple piercings.

I must have looked pretty damn good, because ML came over and began to stroke my cock – ML had allowed me to sleep unlocked the night before. She played with my cock as I teased my nipples. I begged her to let me cum; to my surprise, she said yes! It only took a few more strokes for me to cum all over the bed sheets. Only moments later, ML was walking out of the room, smiling over her shoulder as she told me to get the bed sheets in the laundry.

So what’s next?

Well, that’s honestly a tough question to answer. ML and I have both expressed a desire to try for another full year of denial… I know, why do I put myself through this? As far as chastity goes, we should like to do some more longer lock-ups as well. One thing that is making hard to think about things in the near future is that I may have some health-related situations coming up that might get in the way of any horny play.

Don’t get all worried about me: this isn’t like the last time I got everyone panicked, but it’s still something that will require us to think about how we will handle our chastity and orgasm denial during it. I do know that if we need to take a break, it’ll only be temporary; we have way too much fun with all of this to stop any time soon… or at all!

Mail Chastity: How to Become A Good Keyholder

Posted by Lady M on November 26, 2019
Posted in: Advice, Female Led Relationship, KeyHolder, Mail Chastity, Male Chastity, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , . 2 comments

I received a message from another keyholder on chastityforums.com. She is a bit new to all this, in general, and is struggling with how to be a KH and a good one at that. So here is a bit of what she wrote and my response.

“My ‘vanilla self’ is constantly fighting with ‘the KH self’ I’m sure [my hubby] would like me to become. I’m not even sure how to make this change. Do you have any ideas to help me in my quest to transition from vanilla to a true KH in every sense of the word?”

First of all… This isn’t about you becoming something your hubby wants you to be. This is about you both enjoying this the way YOU enjoy it, whatever way that may be. Please do me a favor and don’t try to be and do things that are not natural. What you do should feel good and exciting to you. If you fake it, it will become work and then you could easily build resentment by trying to live up to his expectations… Do what you enjoy and are comfortable with. You are in charge, you hold the key, literally – he should not be in charge through you when it comes to chastity or keeping him locked etc. That is called “topping from the bottom” and that’s not ok. It is perfectly fine to communicate – if you know me at all I’m huge on communication – so talk and listen to each other. Get to know what you like, what you think you like, what you don’t like, what feels good both physically and mentally. Decide from there what YOU want to implement in your relationship.

Don’t be afraid to try things if they are not a hard No! You may like them or maybe not and you have the choice, as the one in charge, to say yes that’s good we will do that or no that felt bad or uncomfortable and we are not doing that! It’s all good. In the beginning it’s all about talking and trying and figuring out what works and feels good. Don’t be afraid to say no or change your mind either… Try hard to remember, in most situations, he is the one that asked you for this and decided to give you control. He doesn’t want to decide what happens with his sexual desires, his orgasms, his pleasure. He wants you to be in control of it all. 🙂

In regards to how to be a good keyholder, please feel free to listen to Episode 3 of our podcast. It’s about praise and reassurance and it’s just me talking to other keyholders and I think it might be helpful!

Good luck!