The other morning, I got out of bed before Cagedmonkey and he sent me this absolutely sexy picture of him laying there. I just love it, I love the way he looks, his tattoo (such an amazing reminder of our relationship and dynamic) and even the sheets… It’s all so sexy and beautiful and poetic to me.
Anyway, I seriously just wanted to share!
A couple weeks ago we posted a blog post about how it’s been 226 days for Cagedmonkey since his last orgasm and a friend, at She rules the Rooster, had some really good questions I figured we should answer in a post as opposed to them getting lost in the comments section. I’m sure other people have had the thought about what I’m getting out of such a long denial period for hubby. I mean, if we were poly or into cuckolding, that answer would be easy but we aren’t so it becomes a bit more complicated in the “what does Lady M get out of it” area.
When it comes down to what I’m doing daily… My sheer extreme sexiness is what teases him, don’t you know?!?! Lmao Seriously though the daily stuff is all about the little things. I’ve pointed out in posts before and even in a podcast if I remember right about the little things. Keeping things talked about, even if it’s in text message or little flirty butt grabs when the kids aren’t around. Making him kneel in front of me while I sit on the couch… It might look innocent enough like daddy is snuggling with mom giving her a hug but to CM and I there is much more behind it.
Making sure that we both know the why’s behind the denial and the lock up are so important. Otherwise, it just becomes an afterthought and can actually become work. So talking about and knowing that I love to see and feel the frustration he is going through makes my pussy wet causes an amazing circle of turning him on which again just turns me on.
At the moment, pleasing me in some fashion is at least three times a week but we say there is so much more to intimacy than actual sex so much more becomes pleasing. CM is pleasing me daily but that wouldn’t look like him eating my pussy or making me come or any of that… It’s more like a back rub or spooning snuggle time or maybe just some boobie play time. Yes most days of the week I am having him give my pussy some mouth attention and maybe some fingering. The day to day stuff though isn’t some long intense teasing session. During the week we are usually tired and in bed early for a 4:30 or 5am wake up. So they are quick “my pussy needs good night kisses” while I run my nails across his back and butt type nights.
There are nights I make him sit or kneel at the side of the bed with his arms clasped behind him. I will take my boobs and smoosh them in his face, make him smell and lick under them so he can’t really get an idea of my day. Then I may run my nipples across his lips, not allowing him to open his mouth. It’s so fun to watch and feel his breathing as he gets so frustrated, desperately wanting to feel it in his mouth and on his tongue. He will even whimper and beg sometimes, “please.” hahaha I love it so much!
I’ll be honest with you… I have in no way been counting how many orgasms I’ve had. I just have them when I have them and when I want them. Most nights our pleasing and teasing is a short thing so I don’t even really want to cum. It’s more work on a woman than you think lol. It takes a lot of thinking and then there’s this whole body muscle tightening thing that goes on. With my chronic pain, orgasms tend to last a few days within my muscles and make things sore so it’s just as good to enjoy the pleasing than to have some intense orgasms all the time. If I were to really think about it is probably been about 1 a week average… So you figure that out… About 300 days divided by 7 lol!
Anyway, thanks for the comment and I do apologize for the delay in getting it posted… It’s sat in my drafts and been worked on as much as I can when I get a moment! I appreciate you reading and being subscribed! If you haven’t checked out She Rules the Rooster, yet, what are you waiting for? It’s always fun to see how other people live their lifestyle… Get on it!
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to go a year without an orgasm? I’d imagine quit a few of our readers have thought that, tried it or done it!
The longest I made it – yes me… I couldn’t handle it last time – was 299 days. Cagedmonkey probably could have held out longer but I struggled with the connection of cumming together. There is something about feeling that feeling at the same time. I missed being filled up. The last time we tried doing a one year… or longer denial we also tried to do a lot more locked up time. So I made it quite clear that this time I’d be using him as much as I wanted. It has definitely helped this time around because we are already 226 along and I’m no where near feeling a disconnect. We are intimate at least a few times a week, one way or another. So that makes it that much easier to keep him denied.
Plus, I do absolutely love how crazy horny he is. He’s so sweet and loving too! I really do love that just touching me or even sitting and talking and being cute and fun and lovey dovey gets him all hard. He, most times, is struggling in his cage but sometimes I have him unlocked so he’s usable.
Recently, we got a Double Locking Cockring from Mature Metal which is super fantastic for having him available but still locked in something. That way he’s constantly feeling my control over that big cock of his. It doesn’t hurt that the Cockring kinda forces him be hard for a long time, and not just any hard, but super hard hard lol!
So much enjoyment out of this denial, like I said, it’s been much easier this time keeping him aching to cum. I have no doubt he will not orgasm again until sometime in 2021!
It was over seven years ago that Cagedmonkey and I started this chastity journey. No, we didn’t start out in steel nor a custom device. However, seven years ago was when we purchased our first steel custom device from Mature Metal and that changed everything about our journey.
I was chatting yesterday with Mistress MM at Mature Metal and we got to talking about CM’s cage sizes so I had to go look up my old emails from our last cage purchase. It ended up being exactly 5 years from yesterday that we had purchased our most recent cage.
As you can see, this cage, is a Jail Bird like he always wears but we had an extra ring added to the cage itself. I really like the look of this cage. It’s definitely my favorite out of all of our cages.
Since it’s been 5 years since we have gotten anything new… I was thinking about possibly getting a new cage or maybe looking at the locking cock rings and other fun stuff william makes. I’m pretty interested in the base ring with the dildo option. That would certainly keeps things exciting without having to remove the cage.
Cagedmonkey wrote recently about committing to the cage and I have to say, I’m actually very happy to have him back in 24/7. There is something about it that just makes it so that much more exciting and intense. I told him, the next time we have sex, I may still not let him out. I certainly do love how big and buldgy he gets through the cage bars.
Cagedmonkey and I had the wonderful pleasure of spending time with the Beauty and the brains behind Mature Metal male chastity devices. Featured here in this special edition, extended length, podcast are not only us but Mistress MM, herself and william!
Thank you again for having us and also agreeing to chat with us a bit about your company and yourselves! We love you guys and can’t wait to see you again for more fun times in Texas! Hehe
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A couple months ago, after we were already a few months into this time we are living, cagedmonkey and I decided we needed to get away. We didn’t want to go too soon so we planned it out for August 1st. Definitely thought the world would have a better handle on a virus after 8 months but whatever, we wanted a break from reality. Little did we know that this little break we planned would be one of the best trips we’ve ever taken!
Last week we hopped a plane and flew to Texas (kids, too!) to finally meet and hang out with friends we’ve known for about 7 years. The weather was warm but actually really great all week. It stayed mostly in the upper 80’s to 90 and sunny and just gorgeous. We spent the week away from other people and the hustle and bustle of the world. It was quiet and relaxing and much needed. Lots of time spent swimming, talking, laughing, enjoying amazing food and getting to know each other. The kids went lizard hunting and 4 wheeling and fishing, and so much more. It was lots of fun! I could seriously get into more but I’m sure you’re sitting there wondering why I’m telling you about some vacation we took with the kids to Texas when this blog is about chastity, right?
First of all, you know us and we like to tell you stories about how chastity fits into real life and marriage with kids. So I’ll start off with cagedmonkey did not fly to Texas caged! I know, I know, you all are disappointed with me that I didn’t send him through TSA with his steel cage on so he could be searched. Lol Honestly, I would have had no issues with him wearing it or sending it through in his bag, however, I really didn’t need a show when our kids were with us. Had we been alone, that little bit of humiliation would have been fun. TSA really is discreet and are not announcing what they find or are searching for in your bag. They are calm and quiet and very nice. So… We had an uncaged monkey for the week we were in Texas.
Now, to the most exciting part… Why Texas?!?! Well because our friends from Mature Metal are in Texas, of course!
Now you see why I mentioned the uncaged thing lol. I found it ironic that we finally get to meet the creators and makers of the cage I have hubby’s cock locked in every day and he’s not even locked in it!
We had such a fun week getting to know Mistress MM & william and we even got to see where all the magic happens! I really did think the shop would be a little bigger than it was. It totally makes sense, though, for ease and suited everything is just about in reach. One thing we noticed all over was the abundance of keys and M’s all over their house. I mean it is Mature Metal and it’s all about keeping important things locked up!
It was really wonderful hearing about how they got started and how it truly is a family owned and run business. Heck, I’m pretty sure we became family being down there lol Mistress MM even put the kids to work! Just think, next time you order a cage, your Keys could have been packed by my kid. Lol
My favorite things we learned while visiting were about Mistress MM & william as people, how they met, what their kinks are and how life is for them. And it was weirdly exciting to find out how alike Mistress MM & I are! We think so alike, like the same things and even finished each other’s sentences! It was like I found my long lost sister!
I certainly don’t want you thinking we kept it all completely vanilla while we were there with the kids. We did find some time to sneak in some impact play with our boys one night. That was lots of fun too! We even found out we like to beat the boys just about the same haha! I was able to get some good marks on cagedmonkey that night but they didn’t last too long into the next day. Maybe I needed to beat him a little longer but somebody was hungry for some ham & cheese! Hahaha
Anyway, keep an eye on the blog over the next couple days, we are working on putting up a very special podcast for your enjoyment! Also, a special thank you to our friends at Mature Metal for an amazing week and letting us into your world! Love you guys and your definitely our family now! Can’t wait to see you again soon!
I got a great comment on my last post which included a question I didn’t want to just answer in a reply. I feel like I have a little more to say on the subject than just a few words to be lost in the comment section of the blog.
Philip wrote:
I have a question that I do not recall being discussed in your blog. CM has often edged himself as required but would you Lady M ever instruct him to ruin his own orgasm and do you CM feel you could manage to do this? Personally I think I would find it very difficult and I dare not even hint at the idea to my wife!
It’s interesting to have this question asked because, I do enjoy so very much giving Cagedmonkey a good ruined orgasm. I love, even more, getting him so worked up and crazy during denial that he starts begging for one. I love hearing him moan and whimper and react to teasing and feeling how horny he is. So horny, that he would even want to get that close to orgasm only to have it completely unfulfilled and ruined.
Now to get to the point of answering the question… I do not recall that I have ever had him ruin himself, but himself. I really haven’t even had him stroke or edge himself (without me there) until recently. I struggled a lot with allowing him out of his cage while I wasn’t there. He’s proven, over the past 7 years, that I can trust him to obey me and follow my rules and only do what I tell him to do when he is out of the cage and not with me.
I think one of the other reasons he hasn’t done this on his own is that I enjoy it so incredibly much! Though, he has been the one to actually ruin himself before. I’ve had him both stroke and have sex with me and get himself to a ruined orgasm. A couple of weeks ago I had him fuck my pussy right to the point where he pulled out and his cock just dripped a ruined orgasm on my belly. It was awesome, it makes me so happy I just can’t help but giggle!
Philip, I hope this answers your question and helps you understand my side of this. I don’t know if hubby feels differently when I’m the one ruining him or if he is made to ruin himself. It must take a hell of a lot of self control to do as he is told and to force himself to ruin an orgasm… He could easily just go further and enjoy it but, instead, he obeys because he knows that I enjoy it so much.
So much of his submission is just because he loves making me happy and doing what I want him to makes me happy.
Although life has been exceptionally busy, we are still around. It seems like 2020 has started out one of the craziest years of our lives. With injuries, kid issues, hubby’s surgery, “vacation” and then this whole thing going on in the world. It’s a bit unbelievable actually. It’s even comical at times.
We’ve had zero to little time to think about anything kinky in the past few months. You’d think that with hubby and I having essential jobs we’d be even more stressed out… Funny thing is, since I’m working from home right now I’ve had way more time to think about hubby and chat with him and tease him through text. I can even sneak away (since schools are closed and the kids are gone too!) sometimes and get pictures and have been turned on and excited to drive him crazy!
Hubby has still been denied since our anniversary in January and it’s still my plan to keep him orgasm denied for the year. I’ve enjoyed having him out of his cage enough to edge for me sometimes, and to have sex with him when I feel like it. He’s been doing something recently again and that’s getting on his knees for me. When we started this whole thing he would get on his knees every day and tell me who’s he was, that he was mine and no one else. Lately, he’s been doing that and I love it!
He’s also been taking time to kiss and love and worship different parts of my body. He’s remembering that it’s not all about intercourse and that sex can be in many forms. It’s feels extremely good to have him loving all the parts of me! It’s been a lot of fun finding time to get in those little things that remind each other that we are still enjoying our life together. That we still enjoy the kinky, even if we can’t get as kinky as we want due to the kids being older.
I know we both miss it and wish we had time for it… The kids won’t be kids forever, they won’t need us forever. I’m trying to remember this is temporary. They are only ours to enjoy and do things with for a few more years and if we keep pushing them away we will miss these last few years. I DO want time for hubby and I but I know the time we do get together will grow as the kids get even older.
As bad as this whole thing is in the world, it’s been a blessing for us as a couple and a time for us to reconnect to our tease and denial and fun times. It’s also helped to open some communication and while we know we don’t have an the crew time in the world we at least have been able to talk about what we are missing and what we’d like to be doing.
With the start of the new year – in more ways than one, wink wink – we’ve seen a slight uptick in our blog visits. Okay, maybe it’s because we actually got up off our butts, stopped being lazy, and started posting again…. but who really cares about the why, right? Anyway, we’ve also had some new followers, both here and on Twitter, so we figured it would be a good idea to go oover a little basic Q&A on what we are all about. And, to help us out with the “Q” portion of that equation, one of our followers wrote to us asking us some things about our relationship.
johnsk writes:
I am fascinated by this. Single guy here from USA. Although my cock is not large, I cannot get even the largest ring to fit. I have tried lube, etc. Very frustrating.
I’ll allow it.
The most common device I wear is the Jailbird from Mature Metal. I use an oval base ring, which may end up helping in your case. I know that I had trouble with the circular rings of other cages (although the Revenge ring is circular, and that one works fine).
Moving on to johnsk’s actual questions:
How often are you allowed to orgasm? Is it strictly her decision or a joint decision?
When and how I get to orgasm is 100% her choice. The frequency of my orgasms can vary depending on My Lady’s mood – sometimes it will be every few weeks, sometimes every few months. I have been cumming a lot more often than I am used to these past couple of weeks, but that is going to come to a stop VERY soon – ML and I are planning to once again try at a complete year of orgasm denial for me starting from our anniversary, which…..
*checks notes*
…. is TOMORROW!!!!
johnsk continues:
I also wonder if you employ butt plugs and spanking in conjunction with chastity.
ML is certainly a big fan of spanking me, although we haven’t had much opportunity to do so recently. As expected, spankings tend to generate a lot of noise; and, as a married couple with two children, it gets difficult to find time for that. Butt plugs are much easier to be discreet with, and ML will have me wear one from time to time.
johnsk finished:
Thanks for a great site on this topic.
And thanks for reading! We really do enjoy posting and doing all of this blog stuff – not just because we are kinky fuckers who like to show off all of the fun stuff we are doing, but also because we like the education aspect of all of this. There are a lot of sites that preach a specific kind of chastity play, and claim that it’s the “right way to do it” and no other way is “real” chastity… well, that’s all bullshit. Chastity can be whatever it means to you: you can lock up your cock without having a keyholder, you can have a single keyholder, or even a committee! You can be in chastity for an hour, a day, or a week… or longer, even. There’s no wrong answer, as long as it works for you.
So, thanks to johnsk and all of our other readers/followers! We look forward to you visiting us as we continue our fun far into the future.
After Cagedmonkey wrote his post the other day about Looking Ahead he asked me a question. He wrote “if we are going to try to do a year denial, what do you want from it? What would you like to see happen, what would you like to do/see/try?”
My answer isn’t so simple, it’s almost like there isn’t words to describe what I want. I did end up telling him, physically, I want to see him so horny he struggling against the bars of the cage, I want to see him aching and his cock leaking precum like it has during past denial periods. I understand there will need to be some amounts of trading line there was in the past but I do think the denial in general helps to move that along. I want to physically see him desperate and wanting. I want him so horny that he will find any way to turn me on, sexual and non-sexual. Not things that turn me on the way he wants me turned on but more thinking about my needs and desires and turning me on in ways that I want to be turned on.
When I started thinking about his question more, I realized it wasn’t so much about that stuff that I wanted. It wasn’t necessarily what I wanted to see or do and that it was more about what I wanted to feel during this denial. I want to feel irresistible and not just sexually. I want to feel his frustration. I want to feel loved and woed and made a fuss over. I want to feel thought of and made to feel important. I want to feel the gratitude of him being locked in a cage and denied and teased. I want to feel his need, his aches, his desires.
Don’t get me wrong, I want to tease him and drive him nuts and make him want things and flaunt in front of him what he is being denied. I want to make him do daily things as a reminder of who he belongs to and who he serves sexually. I want my mornings to begin with kisses to my pussy, so the very first thing he smells & tastes in the morning is me. He has much better days when they start off that way. I want to try to get in some impact play, I love the feel and sound of spanking him so even if it’s once in a month, I want it. I’d like to try to get in more bondage, more forced things… If he’s bound he can’t really not be used for my sexual pleasure.
Anyway… So there’s a lot that goes into the answer of what do I want from chastity and denial… And most of it is feelings.
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