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He Knows Just What I Need

Posted by Lady M on August 8, 2015
Posted in: D/s, Female Led Relationship, Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , , . Leave a Comment

I have been very stressed out with all of this moving stuff and trying to pack while still taking care of the kids and the house and functioning in this living space. Not to mention the kid with the medical issues having bigger issues this past week. Then the “normal” kid is having behavior issues, likely because of the move. I have a lot on me and my patience wears thin very quickly these days.

Yesterday, by the afternoon, I had lost all patience and was getting more and more irritable with things. As I said, the medical stuff was crazy and I just started to lose it. Cagedmonkey heard me starting to get very frustrated while he was trying to sleep in the bedroom and asked if I needed him to wake up. Normally, I would say no but I’m trying to change my “I don’t need help” way about myself and actually admit that there are times I need help. So I told him yes, I did want him to get up, even if it was just to take on some of the craziness with the kids.

Just before coming out of the bedroom, I was texting him telling him how frustrated I was and he texted me back and said, “Would you like to come here and take some of that out on my butt before I get up?”

Really?!?!

I love how he knows just what I need! I didn’t even text back, I ran down the hallway with a big smile on my face, went in the bedroom and spanked his sexy little ass for each of my frustrations.

My subby hubby is so amazing and this whole D/s and FLM thing is great because I get to take back my power and control with the help of my wonderful hubby when I feel like it’s been stripped away by the craziness of everyday life.

Even When I’m Not in the Mood

Posted by Lady M on August 7, 2015
Posted in: Male Chastity, Marriage, Oral Sex. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

Last night I wasn’t really in much of a sex, tease, denial or any play kind of mood. With all the packing that needs to be done while still taking care of the regular house stuff, dishes, laundry, kids, etc I’m just feeling overwhelmed and not really “in the mood.” However, what I love about our relationship now is that, even when I’m not in the mood, I can still enjoy sexual intimacy and even quickly become in the mood.

Last night was cagedmonkey’s first night back to work after a long week and a half off. It has been so nice having him home and sleeping in bed with him and everything. It was hard to send him off to work again. Anyway, we were sitting there watching tv and he played some video games and, like I said, it wasn’t a particularly sexy time.  Just before it was time to get ready to go cagedmonkey had asked to taste me. Of course he could taste me! It really only took about 10 seconds of him gently kissing and licking my pussy for me to reach down, grab the back of his head and start grinding my pussy against his face.

That is what I love about us now. I really wasn’t at all feeling a desire but just something so little can flip that switch and all of a sudden I’m using his face as a fuck toy and rubbing my now wet pussy all over him just before he’s ready to walk out the door to work.

It’s just lovely, isn’t it?

The 70 mph Blog Post

Posted by Lady M on August 4, 2015
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We are driving back home right now so I thought I’d take a sec to write. Cagedmonkey’s mom’s service was really wonderful. A very long day driving down and being at the funeral home all day and night but still a great time to remember a wonderful woman. We really will miss her. She was such a loving mother and grandma.

Anyway, we had to drive all morning and be at the funeral home in dressy up clothes all day yesterday so I let go of my “no look, no touch” thing slightly. I allowed cagedmonkey to unlock in the morning yesterday and be comfortable and cageless for the day. There certainly was no sexy happenings though with how tired we were, unfortunately.

Now that we will be back home and not traveling for a couple weeks we will get back to the “no look, no touch.” Not that cagedmonkey was all touching himself or even had a hint of a boner but it will still be nice to have him back in his trusty armor! 🙂

Everything in Life Changes

Posted by Lady M on August 2, 2015
Posted in: Marriage, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 4 comments

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If you’ve been following along here on our journey you probably recall that cagedmonkey did the whole job hunting thing recently. Since we haven’t taken the time to post about all of the changes going on here, I thought I’d do that now.

A couple months ago now cagedmonkey started looking for a new job. For the past, almost, 4 years he’s been working midnights and furthering his education so that he could advance his career. Unfortunately there wasn’t an opportunity for him to advance at his current place of employment so he had to look elsewhere. Well a few weeks ago he did just that. He accepted a position for a supervisor job making more money and working on a day shift! So amazing! I’m super happy about that because that means I get cagedmonkey back in my bed every night! 🙂 This wasn’t an easy thing for cagedmonkey. He’s been at his job for over 12 years and he loves where he works. This is a positive change and a wonderful opportunity.

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What all that means is that we are relocating this whole production from New York to West Virginia! We will be on the east side of WV near the Virginia border. If you’re near there, please let us know, we really do love meeting new friends! First we will be dealing with all of this funeral stuff and then we will be busting some booty to pack up this apartment and move two and a half weeks after that.

As I mentioned yesterday about how we might have less posts coming up soon, I realized that it might be a little longer than that with a lull because of this move. Soon the toys will be packed away – certainly not the Chastity Cage haha – and we will have a lot less time for play but we will do our best to keep you up on the happenings around here. I certainly have no intentions of not teasing the hell out of CM over the course of all this. 🙂

Forever in Our Hearts and Never Forgotten

Posted by Lady M on August 1, 2015
Posted in: Marriage. Tagged: , . 10 comments

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I’ve been trying to figure out how to write this post all day. Last year, cagedmonkey was the one who wrote for me when I couldn’t. This morning we got the phone call that his mother has passed away. It’s been a sad day but a day of relief as well. His mom was not doing well the past couple of months. We’ve been traveling a bit to NYC recently knowing that she was not well.

She’s no longer in pain and no longer suffering through her days barely functioning. She’s in a much better place, with God and we are all happier for that. She was a great little lady with a lot of love that she gave so freely. We will certainly miss her craziness! 🙂

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Thank you to those who have already shared their condolences, we appreciate it more than you know. We do have to travel again now to be with our family so there will likely be a bit of a quiet here with the blog. I wouldn’t want anyone to think we’ve just up and disappeared! We’d never do that!

Friday Night Drinking and Domination

Posted by Lady M on July 31, 2015
Posted in: D/s, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . 4 comments

Tonight Cagedmonkey and I have been enjoying a few drinks. Ok, well, I’ve been making him drink a lot more than me and he’s pretty drunk haha. I mean how could he turn me down when I’m making him take shots like this?
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It’s really cute how he gets. He gets extremely submissive. Especially when, all night, I’ve been making him periodically drop to his knees and eat my pussy, or I’ve been climbing up on the couch rubbing my wet dripping pussy all over his face. I’ve squirted on him a few times too tonight, so he’s sitting here naked, drunk, covered in my pussy juices and locked in his cage. Even I can smell me on him, just sitting next to him.
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Soon it will be time to take him to the bedroom and there we will see what other fun things we can get up to. 🙂

Cagedmonkey Inked Again

Posted by Lady M on July 30, 2015
Posted in: Marriage. Tagged: . 1 comment

Right now cagedmonkey is getting his entire back tattooed and I’m sitting here watching. It’s a pretty involved tattoo but it has a lot of meaning for him in particular. It’s something he put together and he’s wanted for a long time. I’m proud of him for going through with this and getting this tattoo.
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Granted this particular design has much more meaning for him personally than it does me, or anyone else for that matter, but I still love the meaning. Just like our chastity Lock and Key tattoos mean so very much to us or our matching cross tattoos. Each of those mean something to us both and to us individually.
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Anyway… Not sure how much playtime there will be the next few days but I’m sure whatever there is we will certainly write about it. Last night was quite a lovely night but it deserves it’s very own post! 🙂

It’s Been 3 Weeks

Posted by Lady M on July 21, 2015
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In the grand scheme of things 3 weeks doesn’t seem like much but that’s where cagedmonkey is in the 24/7 wearing of his Jail Bird. We usually get here and I’m the one dying to take him out. It seems my stamina is getting a little better, though, today in horny as hell and I really want to rip that thing off of him and ride him raw. Haha 🙂

He’s been begging an awful lot and it’s damn sexy I must say. Really wants out of that cage. In sure it doesn’t help that I’m almost constantly getting him hard whether we are together or not. If we aren’t I send him naughty pics and I just love that he’s been so incredibly drippy lately. I miss him telling me how he gushed precum on the way to work.

Anyway, I’m contemplating taking him out this weekend and giving him a bit of a surprise! Especially since he’s off work all week next week. I know we will find time to have some playtime fun!

Mail Chastity: Control and Training

Posted by Lady M on July 18, 2015
Posted in: D/s, Mail Chastity, Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 2 comments

We were recently asked a bunch of questions from a guy on Fetlife and they were such wonderful questions that I knew we had to take the time to answer them here. Since there are so many, we will be breaking them up over a couple Mail Chastity posts. We are also doing this because some are aimed at me, being the one in control and some to cagedmonkey, being the one controlled and locked in chastity.

Please feel free to ask us anything you like, we really do love interacting with our readers and answering questions. Any questions are ok from general to personal. What would you like to know?

A gentleman from Fetlife asks:

What is it like to have that control over a man?

The best way I can describe this feeling is that it feels powerful. Emotionally I feel strong, empowered, important, wanted, desired and needed. Physically I feel this tingling sensation, this warm rush comes over me and the feelings of power flow through my body. My heart beats a little faster and it’s almost like I can feel my blood pumping through my veins. Sometimes it’s even a bit overwhelming and I have to stop myself and back up for a second or two.

We’ve only been doing this, at this intensity level, for a couple years and only recently have I allowed my natural aggressiveness come out so it can still get overwhelming for me at times. But, cagedmonkey and I both say, this isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon so we have plenty of time to enjoy this I the time that is right for us.

How long did it take to train him to withhold orgasm…because you do allow him sex, right?

First of all, yes, I do allow him sex. Our “sex” happens daily but it’s not the same sex we had before chastity. It’s much more intimate and meaningful and doesn’t necessarily include intercourse. Sometimes we have intercourse. Sometimes we have intercourse, daily. It just depends on what is happening or how I’m feeling because I’m in control of our sexual pleasure.

As for training, there wasn’t much actual training other than practice. Orgasm denial was something cagedmonkey experimented with before he and I met and it’s something we’ve played with the entire 15 years we’ve been together. The past two years there has been a lot of edging and denial and I think, over time, he gets better and better at recognizing his orgasm and where the edge is and he’s learned that feeling of going too far.

I do think a man could be trained in time, with repeated edging and denial, to be able to hold off longer and longer. Denial also makes holding off that much harder. It’s a bit of a double edged sword but possible.

I hope this helped answer his questions and if any of our Dom/Domme readers would like to add their thoughts, please feel free to leave a comment!

Can’t Hide It Sometimes

Posted by Lady M on July 17, 2015
Posted in: Chastity Device, KeyHolder, Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , . 2 comments

Yesterday, cagedmonkey got out of the shower and came out into the living room in his tshirt and underwear. While I think it’s super sexy, I had to point out that he needed to be careful. He happened to be wearing a pair of white microfiber boxers and, well, they hug in just the right places!
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I do love catching a glimpse of his cage like that but we also need to be careful of stuff like that so the kids don’t. It’s awesome seeing him locked up, for me.