Medical

Committing to the Cage

Posted by cagedmonkey on August 10, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Medical, Orgasm Denial, Pictures. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 3 comments

After coming back from our vacation, (shameless promo link for our Mature Metal podcast!) I’ve been trying to focus more on wearing my cage as much as possible. Over the past few months, it’s been difficult to wear the cage 24/7 due to my back pain. Yes, my back surgery was successful, but (thanks to COVID concerns) I was not able to go through a full rehab-type regimen after surgery. This has made my recovery a little rough at times.

Specifically, it was very difficult for me to wear the cage overnight because I would often wake up to very painful cage-erections. They would really hurt, and not in the good “sexual confinement” way. After an extremely bad night, ML and I decided to have me take the cage off at night until things got better.

To be honest, My Lady was able to enjoy the situation by having easy access to morning sex… and, damn, do we have good morning sex! But I still felt that ML was being deprived of her total control of my cock. So over the past couple of days, we’ve decided to try the 24/7 lock up again and see how i handle it.

Good news report: I’ve been wearing the cage since Friday, and it feels great.

Yes, I’m still getting those “4am wake up” erections in the cage… but I’ve decided that I just need to figure out how to deal with them. So now, I’ll change position to take pressure off of my back or something, which usually works enough so I can get back to sleep. Most of all, I’m realizing how badly I miss being locked up for My Lady. Yes, I’m still crazy horny because I haven’t cum all year, but there’s a different intensity to having my erections denied as well. I already feel it building up over the past couple of days, and I’m glad it’s back.

It might take a little while before I can get start wearing it for weeks at a time, but I’m honestly looking forward to it. I know how much ML enjoys having me wear it according to her desires, and I’m excited about getting back to that.

Nipple Torture (Not the Good Kind)

Posted by cagedmonkey on January 19, 2020
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ML and I have been trying out some different piercings for my nipples – mainly because I’ve had to take them out for my back MRIs, but also because we’ve been trying to see if we like the look of anything different there. We’ve tried different types of bars with different colored/sizes balls, and even recently tried rings.

A secondary goal of trying the new piercings was to try to reduce the amount of scar tissue on my nipples. Because the original bars I had in were so short, the balls had pulled up against my skin and made little “nubs” on my nipples.

It seemed to be working for a while, and I was even liking the look of the new piercings. But then I started to notice some issues with them – I was starting to have reactions to them (itchy, not healing properly, etc.).

I first noticed the reactions to bars that were titanium… or, at least, the Amazon seller claimed they were titanium. Then I had a problem with the rings that were supposedly surgical steel – seriously, wtf? I didn’t have a problem with other steel bars, why such issues with the rings?

ML and I are working under the assumption that the stuff she bought online wasn’t necessarily titanium or steel, that they were maybe something less inert and I reacted to it. From now on, we are only going to get our stuff from shops that can vouch for their materials. We haven’t given up on the rings completely, we just need to be less trusting of the internet, lol.

At the moment, I have plastic placeholders in my nipples (since I have an MRI Monday morning anyway). Hopefully these will give my nipples a chance to chill out a little and relax.

Rough Nights

Posted by cagedmonkey on January 7, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Medical, Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 5 comments

Things are in an interesting place in the MinaC household. On the one hand, both ML and I are anticipating another try for a full year of orgasm denial – while I know I will eventually be horribly desperate to cum by the end of it, we both miss the intensity and the crazy horniness that it brings to both of us. My Lady is particularly excited about incorporating more ruined orgasms into the mix, which will hopefully somewhat fulfill her desire to see me cum without giving me the pleasure of a full orgasm. It’ll also most likely drive my frustration even stronger (another positive in ML’s eyes).

On the other hand, certain “situations” have developed that have put some limits on my ability to wear my chastity cage, specifically overnight. I’ve been experiencing some pretty severe back pain over the past few months, which was confirmed as a herniated disc by MRI.

Wearing the cage at night often leads to middle-of-the-night erections that cause such bad pain that I can’t sleep. Now, before y’all start in with the “OMG chastity caused your herniated disc!” BS —

— I’m almost 100% sure I injured it during our recent move. Just because it hurts now because of it, doesn’t mean it originally caused it. If you break your ankle skiing, it’s gonna hurt if you walk on it; you didn’t break your ankle by walking on it.

It’s kind of a bummer to not be able to wear the cage indefinitely at this time; I feel like I’m taking away ML’s choice in how long I wear the cage (to be fair, it was ML’s decision to allow me to sleep cageless for now). I would really like to wear the cage for days or even weeks at a time if she desires – my desperation for just a simple erection can get very intense – but it’s just not doable right now.

The weird thing is that when I get sexually aroused in the cage, it doesn’t lead to the pain that the mid-sleep ones do. It’s almost as if it’s a different type of erection that occurs. This is good – at least My Lady gets to see my cock struggling in its cage while she teases me. That’s one of her favorite things about keeping me in chastity!

So, depending on how we decide to address my back pain issue (surgery is a definite possibility in the near future), things may get better quickly or maybe not-so-quickly. I’m just hoping for some improvement in the future. I want ML to be able to keep me in the cage for as long as she wants, not as long as I can manage.

A New Frontier

Posted by cagedmonkey on March 12, 2019
Posted in: Chastity Device, Female Led Relationship, Health, Male Chastity, Medical. Tagged: , , , , , . 1 comment

This latest lockup stint in the Revenge is certainly bringing up some new things. First, I’m finding out that my penis really does enjoy the feel of at least anything besides steel on it (i.e. clothes, skin, even if I’m still locked in a chastity cage); and when I don’t have that softer touch, I start to lose my mind really quickly.

Second, I discovered, unfortunately, that I can make it through an exercise class while wearing the Revenge (I was really hoping for some sort of problem in order to have an excuse to be unlocked).

Now, it’s another new territory I’ll be stepping into: I have a doctor’s appointment on Thursday, and My Lady still had no intention of unlocking me.

In the past, ML has allowed me to take my cage off for doctor appointments and such in order to avoid any awkward moments (more for the doctor than for me, if anything). This time around, I’m meeting with a new doctor – she sees her already, but I haven’t switched over yet. Although she hasn’t mentioned anything about our kinky lifestyle, ML thinks she’s “cool” if it were to have to come up in discussion.

The good thing is that I doubt that I’ll be examined that closely at this appointment; I don’t think my cage will be discovered. But what if it does?

“Well,” ML answered when I asked her that very question, “you’ll have a little explaining to do, won’t you?”

Well, yeah, I guess I will!

Honestly, one of the reasons we’ve been looking for a new doctor is that we felt we needed to find a physician that was somewhat understanding to the things we do – not necessarily “kink friendly” but at least somebody we would feel comfortable sharing our lifestyle details due to health reasons. Both ML and I are getting up in years, and we want to stay healthy and horny for as long as possible.

But is this how I envisioned talking to my doctor about male chastity?

Say YES to Ejaculation!

Posted by cagedmonkey on January 13, 2019
Posted in: Male Chastity, Medical, Orgasm Denial, Sex. Tagged: , , , , . 2 comments

ML and I had some garden variety quickie sex last night – which is to say that we had some pretty damn good quickie sex last night… hell, all of our sex is good, tbh. Anyway, ML doesn’t have me denied at the moment, so she allowed me to cum at the end when I was ready.

I had a nice good cum, and this time I pulled out to cum on ML’s tummy… and I actually did cum on her tummy!

I’m pretty sure I’ve written about this (I searched to put in a link, but couldn’t find it), but for a refresher: I haven’t been cumming a lot for the past few years. I’m talking volume-wise, not frequency-wise… obviously I haven’t been cumming as much frequency-wise, thanks to ML’s desires. But when ML does let me cum, I don’t cum a lot.

I’ve had some people suggest that it’s the orgasm denial that’s to blame, but I don’t think that’s it – when we first started playing with chastity and orgasm denial, I was still cumming a respectable amount. Another reader said that maybe it’s my vasectomy that has lowered my cum volume, but I also disagree for a similar reason – I was cumming normal amounts right after my vasectomy, as well.

After looking into “retrograde ejaculation” (the official term for “my dick doesn’t shoot cum”), I think the culprit is my high blood pressure meds which I started a few years ago.

Anyways… back to my original reason for posting.

It was really nice to actually see my load of cum on my wife’s tummy. I kinda wish I had taken a picture, just for posterity. I’ll have to do that next time. Hopefully, ML will keep my non-denial time going just a little bit longer. 🙂

Product Review: Gillette Venus Silk Expert IPL

Posted by cagedmonkey on August 21, 2018
Posted in: Advice, Health, Male Chastity, Medical, Pictures, Reviews. Tagged: , , , , . 4 comments

Very soon after I started wearing a chastity cage, ML and I made the decision to try shaving my cock and balls. At first it was a comfort decision – shaving allowed me to avoid hairs getting inadvertently plucked and/or tugged on – but we discovered that we both thought I looked pretty damn sexy shaved down there. Since then, I still shave for comfort, but also because ML likes to have me nice and smooth. Nowadays, I get itchy and uncomfortable if I go a week or so without shaving.

The only time this presents a problem is if ML is wanting to keep me locked up for a good long time. I have two choices:

1) don’t shave during the lockup, and let 2+ weeks worth of pubic hair grow in, or

2) attempt to shave around the cage

Shaving around the cage isn’t that big a problem by itself, but it gets kinda bad when the hairs begin to grow back… especially in areas where the cage usually sits. I’ve had to deal with a few ingrown hairs here and there, which wasn’t exactly pleasant. So, to avoid all of this hassle, I decided to go with a more “long term” solution to hair removal.

Now, this is going to sound kinda weird, considering I post pictures of my cock to this blog on a fairly regular basis, but I am actually really shy; I’m not really interested in going to some salon to have laser hair removal done on my balls. Instead, I looked for something that I could do at home.

Which brings us to…

The Gillette Venus Silk Expert IPL system!

Now, before I start my review, I would like to say that the instruction manual does clearly state that this product should NOT be used on the genital area… however, I did my due diligence and researched a bit and found that people have used it for just this very purpose. I also did the “test area” bit where I give it a try on a small patch of skin first, and I experienced no problems. With all of that said, I would still use caution and understand that there is some risk involved in using a product in ways other than suggested by the manufacturer.

How Does It Work?

BEHOLD, THE POWER OF SCIENCE!

Laser hair removal uses the melanin in hair to treat the follicle and prevent hair regrowth. The laser reacts with the melanin found in the hair to create heat, which actually damages the root of the hair and the follicle itself. Melanin is a pigment which makes both skin and hair darker; because of this, the laser is more effective with darker hair. Also, laser treatment cannot be performed on people with darker skin because the laser can react with the pigment in their skin (instead of the hair) and cause burns and injury.

It isn’t immediate or perfect, and it takes time for the effect to be visibly noticeable… which is why some people give bad reviews on these products, it’s due to their unreasonable expectations.

How Do You Use It?

It is actually very easy to use. The device itself has skin tone detectors on it, which can sense when the device is applied properly to the skin; if the laser window isn’t flush to the skin, it won’t activate. It works like a safety, preventing bad application of the laser. It also helps prevent skin burns from the laser – if your skin is too dark, the laser will not turn on. The Venus Silk Expert can either be used in individual spots (which is the technique I’ve been using), or a continuous technique for larger areas like your legs or chest.

Does It Hurt?

Um…. kinda, I guess? I mean, it’s nowhere near like getting a tattoo, and not even in the same universe as getting a piercing… but it’s not 100% painless. It’s sort of like touching something that’s hotter than you expect it to be, but not hot enough to seriously burn you – it stings, but it lasts for an EXTREMELY short time. It’s definitely not as bad if you are prepared for it – the first time I used it, I went to the spot right above my cock. After using the laser, I thought there was no way I’d be able to actually do it on either my cock or my balls; but once I was ready for it, I got through it fine. Overall, it really isn’t a big deal.

Does It Work?

To be fair, it’s too early too tell. Dumbass me was so excited to get started, I forgot to specifically take “before” pics, but here are a couple from a while ago where I was particularly shaggy:

Here is a pic of me now, just before doing my second week of treatment:

It’s only been a week, but it honestly does look a little better – there seems to be less hair growth, and less thickness. I have no idea how “grown out” that before pic was, but it’s not looking too bad at the moment. I’ll be posting more pics as I continure the treatments, but this is obviously a long-term project – the instruction manual says that results can sometimes take up to 12 weeks to be apparent, so it may take some time to see the full results.

Unlike waiting for my next chance to cum, I’m in no rush, lol.

Nipple Q’s

Posted by cagedmonkey on July 28, 2018
Posted in: Advice, Medical, Orgasm Denial, Pictures, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 5 comments

It’s been about two weeks since I got my nipples pierced, and lots of people have been asking the usual questions that come along with poking a hole in your body and putting a metal bar through it. I thought it would help for those who were curious (as well as those who may be thinking about doing it themselves) to answer some of them here.

Here we go!

Did it hurt?

Uhhh…… yeah! Some dude shoved a needle through my nips, of course it hurt! I actually have a pretty high pain tolerance, so it wasn’t horrible, but other people might find it overwhelming. It’s MUCH more painful than a tattoo, but only for a quick few seconds.

The other part of this question is if they still hurt – at this point, they don’t hurt much anymore. It feels like they’ve healed up pretty well by now; except for some itching her and there, they feel completely normal. Every once in a while I’ll forget and catch one on my seat belt, but it’s like “mini toe stub” type of pain: hurts for a moment because it’s so unexpected, then goes away quick. They only really hurt when they are supposed to…

Like this.

Do your nipples stay hard now?

Yeah, they do! Before the piercings, my nipples would get pretty hard and pokey… but they wouldn’t stay that way. Now they are pretty much always some level of hard. It’s kinda like having a constant semi-hard erection – they aren’t always perky, but they aren’t as soft as they used to be either.

In response to this, I’ve started wearing some looser fitting shirts to work. I’m not embarrassed about my nipples, per se, but I’d rather avoid questions about my nips at work while I can.

Are they more sensitive now?

Holy fuck, YES!

I had sensitive nipples to start with, but now it’s just absolutely ridiculous. When ML plays with my nipples, it drives me absolutely insane now – my toes curl, I lose my balance, and I can’t stop my body from squirming. They are like buttons that when touched get my cock hard instantly, and the tingly sensation I feel when they are lightly teased hangs around for endless minutes afterwards. During sex, when ML rubs and squeezes them, I can’t help but moan loudly and I have to stop to avoid cumming inside her.

This may have been a big mistake.

ML has been saying that she’s excited to get me tied up nice and good so she can spend some time playing with her “new toys.” Today, Grandma has taken the kids overnight until Sunday afternoon. She might just get her wish…

Smoooooooooth

Posted by cagedmonkey on February 20, 2018
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Medical. Tagged: , , , . 5 comments

Before ML and I started our chastity play, I never really considered shaving my pubic hair. It was just something that was there, and there was no reason to get rid of it. Besides, bald balls and a hairless cock… that’s for European men and porn stars, right?

Even when chastity came into the picture, it wasn’t something that ML and I thought about. ML didn’t think she’d like it very much – she thought it would be too “boyish” to not have any hair down there. But after wearing the cage for a while – and getting plenty of pubic hairs accidentally plucked by the cage – I brought the idea up to ML; I needed her permission, after all, considering it is HER cock.

We soon found out that we both REALLY liked having me shaved. Not only was it much more comfortable with the cage, but it made me a lot more sensitive to touch. And ML thought my cock looked really sexy… and HUGE!

Those first few shaves were very nervewracking – anytime you put a sharp metal object near your private parts is going to be a little scary. But I got used to it, and now it’s not too big of an issue. The biggest problem nowadays involves our attempts for longer lockups.

When the cage is on, I’m not able to shave as well as when the cage is off (duh). I have either two options: 1) shave what I can reach, which ends up leaving me with uncomfortable hairs, or 2) slide the cage back and forth to get”underneath” it, which leads to razor irritation and some ingrown hair issues.

Recently, I’ve been on a search for a more “permanent” solution. Electrolysis would obviously be great; but not only is it super expensive, but it involves electro-zapping the hair follicles… near my dick. And I thought shaving was scary…

Laser treatment sounds like a happy medium – not too painful, not too expensive, but effective for longer than shaving. But do I really want to go to some place to have a stranger work my bits over with a ray gun?

Then I came across this home laser hair remover while searching the internet for options. It’s got good reviews and seems easy to use. It shows mostly women using it, but they don’t need to know I’m using it in my balls. I won’t be picking it up anytime soon, though – $400 is a pretty hefty price tag.

Now, if someone wanted to get it for us as a gift… not that I’m suggesting that… 😉

It would be nice to have a way to achieve longer term hair removal, so ML and I can try longer cage times without worrying about shaving. But for now, I’ll be using a blade.

Edgemas On Hold

Posted by cagedmonkey on December 19, 2017
Posted in: Health, Medical. Tagged: . 11 comments

ML and I haven’t really had a lot of time to write lately… no, we aren’t occupied with incredible horny sex games or anything like that. It’s a much more mundane reason – we are both sick.

Kinda sucks, but we are actual people and it happens from time to time. Right now, we are just focusing on trying to feel better before Christmas and avoid getting the kids too sick in the process.

The Seriousness (Update)

Posted by cagedmonkey on July 4, 2017
Posted in: Family, Medical, Off Topic. Tagged: , , , . 5 comments

It was brought to my attention that, after my cliffhanger of a revelation about my health status, I never posted a follow up on the blog. I did send out some updates on Twitter, but not all of our blog readers follow us on Twitter, so some people were left in the dark.

So, shoot me.

There… all better now?

So, the good news is that after that post I found out that things weren’t as serious as they could have been: some labs test results I received were looking really bad, so it’s not like I went completely overboard over something small – it was a legitimate concern. However, follow up tests showed that I must have grabbed an invincibility powerup at some point – despite the really bad looking lab results, my organs were in pretty good shape with no major damage showing.

At that point, good news was good news, but I wasn’t out if the woods yet: I still needed to go through some treatment in order to prevent any further damage…

I’m about halfway through the treatment/meds process, and things are going very well so far… great news!

I know, I’ve been kinda secretive with some details, and I’m not quite sure why… none of the details would be particularly identifying or anything. I guess I don’t want to get TOO deep into this stuff on a chastity/orgasm denial/sex blog. But it’s important to show that we are real people who deal with real life problems, and who enjoy real life successes and real life happiness, aside from all the kinky sex stuff we write about.