Orgasm Denial

A New Year

Posted by cagedmonkey on January 13, 2021
Posted in: Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . Leave a Comment

So let me start off by saying – hello again, everyone! It’s been a crazy last few months for us; we’ve tried to do our best to post to the blog when possible, but it’s been admittedly spotty due to everything being so freaking crazy (both at work and at home).

We are going to try to update you guys on more detail over the next little while, but here’s a quick rundown of how things are going with us:

  • We had to move our blog to a new server (so if you find any old posts with dead or broken links, please let us know)
  • ML got me a new cage to wear for Christmas!
  • We’ve been able to stay safe and healthy so far
  • No, I STILL have not had an orgasm since last year

I’ll talk about that last one in a bit, but first a little more catch up on what we are hoping to do with the blog over the next year or so. Moving to the new server, while necessary, was also something we wanted to do in order to give ourselves more freedom with our content. We are hoping to do more podcasts – in fact, we have one that needs to be posted, we just need to find an option for hosting/uploading that works better than our current situation. We are also hoping to interact with you guys more – we really love our readers and our audience, and it’s so much fun to know you guys are enjoying what we do. Hopefully we will have more details on that soon.

Speaking of more details: it’s getting VERY close to the 1 year anniversary of my last orgasm; I’ve gone well past my previous record of 299 days of denial. I probably should be getting excited due to the anticipation… but honestly, I’m not feeling that way. Not because I don’t want to cum – trust me, I do, VERY badly – but mainly because I have a strong feeling that My Lady is not going to allow me to cum at the 1 year mark. She’s been having too much fun teasing and denying me to stop right now, and I can tell that she wouldn’t mind pushing me further.

I would love nothing more to be able to have an orgasm this coming Monday (our anniversary, and also the 1 year mark), but I have a feeling that ML is just going to smile and tell me that it’s not time yet. I would honestly be more surprised if she lets me cum!

Mail Chastity: What’s in it for Her?

Posted by Lady M on September 24, 2020
Posted in: D/s, Mail Chastity, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . 3 comments

A couple weeks ago we posted a blog post about how it’s been 226 days for Cagedmonkey since his last orgasm and a friend, at She rules the Rooster, had some really good questions I figured we should answer in a post as opposed to them getting lost in the comments section. I’m sure other people have had the thought about what I’m getting out of such a long denial period for hubby. I mean, if we were poly or into cuckolding, that answer would be easy but we aren’t so it becomes a bit more complicated in the “what does Lady M get out of it” area.

When it comes down to what I’m doing daily… My sheer extreme sexiness is what teases him, don’t you know?!?! Lmao Seriously though the daily stuff is all about the little things. I’ve pointed out in posts before and even in a podcast if I remember right about the little things. Keeping things talked about, even if it’s in text message or little flirty butt grabs when the kids aren’t around. Making him kneel in front of me while I sit on the couch… It might look innocent enough like daddy is snuggling with mom giving her a hug but to CM and I there is much more behind it.

Making sure that we both know the why’s behind the denial and the lock up are so important. Otherwise, it just becomes an afterthought and can actually become work. So talking about and knowing that I love to see and feel the frustration he is going through makes my pussy wet causes an amazing circle of turning him on which again just turns me on.

At the moment, pleasing me in some fashion is at least three times a week but we say there is so much more to intimacy than actual sex so much more becomes pleasing. CM is pleasing me daily but that wouldn’t look like him eating my pussy or making me come or any of that… It’s more like a back rub or spooning snuggle time or maybe just some boobie play time. Yes most days of the week I am having him give my pussy some mouth attention and maybe some fingering. The day to day stuff though isn’t some long intense teasing session. During the week we are usually tired and in bed early for a 4:30 or 5am wake up. So they are quick “my pussy needs good night kisses” while I run my nails across his back and butt type nights.

There are nights I make him sit or kneel at the side of the bed with his arms clasped behind him. I will take my boobs and smoosh them in his face, make him smell and lick under them so he can’t really get an idea of my day. Then I may run my nipples across his lips, not allowing him to open his mouth. It’s so fun to watch and feel his breathing as he gets so frustrated, desperately wanting to feel it in his mouth and on his tongue. He will even whimper and beg sometimes, “please.” hahaha I love it so much!

I’ll be honest with you… I have in no way been counting how many orgasms I’ve had. I just have them when I have them and when I want them. Most nights our pleasing and teasing is a short thing so I don’t even really want to cum. It’s more work on a woman than you think lol. It takes a lot of thinking and then there’s this whole body muscle tightening thing that goes on. With my chronic pain, orgasms tend to last a few days within my muscles and make things sore so it’s just as good to enjoy the pleasing than to have some intense orgasms all the time. If I were to really think about it is probably been about 1 a week average… So you figure that out… About 300 days divided by 7 lol!

Anyway, thanks for the comment and I do apologize for the delay in getting it posted… It’s sat in my drafts and been worked on as much as I can when I get a moment! I appreciate you reading and being subscribed! If you haven’t checked out She Rules the Rooster, yet, what are you waiting for? It’s always fun to see how other people live their lifestyle… Get on it!

226 Days Without Orgasm

Posted by Lady M on September 1, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, FemDom, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 10 comments

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to go a year without an orgasm? I’d imagine quit a few of our readers have thought that, tried it or done it!

The longest I made it – yes me… I couldn’t handle it last time – was 299 days. Cagedmonkey probably could have held out longer but I struggled with the connection of cumming together. There is something about feeling that feeling at the same time. I missed being filled up. The last time we tried doing a one year… or longer denial we also tried to do a lot more locked up time. So I made it quite clear that this time I’d be using him as much as I wanted. It has definitely helped this time around because we are already 226 along and I’m no where near feeling a disconnect. We are intimate at least a few times a week, one way or another. So that makes it that much easier to keep him denied.

Plus, I do absolutely love how crazy horny he is. He’s so sweet and loving too! I really do love that just touching me or even sitting and talking and being cute and fun and lovey dovey gets him all hard. He, most times, is struggling in his cage but sometimes I have him unlocked so he’s usable.

Recently, we got a Double Locking Cockring from Mature Metal which is super fantastic for having him available but still locked in something. That way he’s constantly feeling my control over that big cock of his. It doesn’t hurt that the Cockring kinda forces him be hard for a long time, and not just any hard, but super hard hard lol!

So much enjoyment out of this denial, like I said, it’s been much easier this time keeping him aching to cum. I have no doubt he will not orgasm again until sometime in 2021!

Committing to the Cage

Posted by cagedmonkey on August 10, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Medical, Orgasm Denial, Pictures. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 3 comments

After coming back from our vacation, (shameless promo link for our Mature Metal podcast!) I’ve been trying to focus more on wearing my cage as much as possible. Over the past few months, it’s been difficult to wear the cage 24/7 due to my back pain. Yes, my back surgery was successful, but (thanks to COVID concerns) I was not able to go through a full rehab-type regimen after surgery. This has made my recovery a little rough at times.

Specifically, it was very difficult for me to wear the cage overnight because I would often wake up to very painful cage-erections. They would really hurt, and not in the good “sexual confinement” way. After an extremely bad night, ML and I decided to have me take the cage off at night until things got better.

To be honest, My Lady was able to enjoy the situation by having easy access to morning sex… and, damn, do we have good morning sex! But I still felt that ML was being deprived of her total control of my cock. So over the past couple of days, we’ve decided to try the 24/7 lock up again and see how i handle it.

Good news report: I’ve been wearing the cage since Friday, and it feels great.

Yes, I’m still getting those “4am wake up” erections in the cage… but I’ve decided that I just need to figure out how to deal with them. So now, I’ll change position to take pressure off of my back or something, which usually works enough so I can get back to sleep. Most of all, I’m realizing how badly I miss being locked up for My Lady. Yes, I’m still crazy horny because I haven’t cum all year, but there’s a different intensity to having my erections denied as well. I already feel it building up over the past couple of days, and I’m glad it’s back.

It might take a little while before I can get start wearing it for weeks at a time, but I’m honestly looking forward to it. I know how much ML enjoys having me wear it according to her desires, and I’m excited about getting back to that.

Fashion Show, Part 2

Posted by cagedmonkey on July 22, 2020
Posted in: Orgasm Denial, Pictures, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 1 comment

I recently posted about ML wearing some sexy undies for me, and DAMN did she look good. I also mentioned that we had bought a couple of sexy outfits for her, but they didn’t fit her humongous boobs.

Well, great news! We went shopping again, and we got ML an outfit that fit beautifully… and ML looked absolutely amazing.

Unfortunately I wasn’t able to get any pictures…..

Just kidding! I’m not that mean.

I’m so glad that ML allowed me to post some full body shots of her in this. She looks SOOOOOOO sexy!

The way this outfit hugs her curves makes me crazy!

Fuck…. her ass is just…. I really have no way to describe what it does to me.

Just like last time, ML really enjoyed watching my reaction to taking these pictures. I couldn’t take my eyes off of her beautiful body, she looked incredible! I also couldn’t help the reaction of my cock getting hard, which ML also liked seeing. She wanted me to fuck her while wearing the lingerie… how could I say no? 🙂

The sex only lasted for a few minutes – ML looked so fucking good in that outfit, I was ready to cum almost within seconds! But I tried hard to last just a little bit longer, and somehow (I have no idea how!) I succeeded… temporarily. I ended up trying to pull out and ended up ruining my orgasm all over the mattress!

If ML had planned to ruin my orgasm, it would have made for a super hot sexy pic to see the cum from ruined orgasm on her tummy while wearing that outfit. But, to be honest, the ruined orgasm was a complete mistake!

I’ve really been enjoying these fashion shows, and I LOVE seeing My Lady wearing these sexy outfits. We are looking at some more things to buy, so hopefully we can pick some new outfits and do some more photo shoots after our upcoming special “mini-vacation.”

Oh, we didn’t tell you about that? Oh yeah, we should really tell you about that…. stay tuned. 🙂

Holding It

Posted by cagedmonkey on July 4, 2020
Posted in: Mail Chastity, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Sex. Tagged: , , , , , , . 2 comments

Cagedformymistress asked the following question on Twitter in response to my last post:

How are you even managing to have your cock in her pussy and not cum?

I get asked this a lot, actually. For starters, it’s not easy. Just this morning, ML and I had some “sneak away” sex while the kids were doing their regular morning breakfast/Youtube routine, and her pussy felt soooooo damn good. We haven’t had PIV sex for a couple of days, and she’s usually super tight under those circumstances. Plus, she wanted it from behind – her ass up against my hips, her pussy squeezing my cock nice and tight… damn I wanted to cum so badly.

But yeah, I had to stop. Because it’s still at least another 6 months before I get to cum….

Oh yeah, right! The question of how I don’t cum during sex…. sorry, got a little off track there.

The first thing to know is that I have experience with knowing how far I can push myself before losing it. Even before starting this blog, ML and I had fun with some low-key orgasm denial (she’s always been a cock tease, tbh). Because of this, I know when I need to slow down thrusting (or, in some cases, stop entirely) to avoid cumming. ML knows my tone of voice in these situations, can sense when it’s a true emergency, and allows me to take my time… although, sometimes she forces me to go a little longer and then pull out if she wants me to ruin my orgasm with her pussy (that’s a new favorite torture of hers).

The other thing to consider is that I usually can’t spend a lot of time with my cock as actually inside her pussy – if I did, there would be no chance of avoiding an accident. I almost always need to stop fucking her after a minute or less of actual sex. The short gifs you see on the blog aren’t just a small clip of us fucking, it’s pretty much all I can handle.

So, now you know the secret – I’m able to avoid cumming because I know when to stop, and I know not to push my luck for too long. I’m lucky that ML doesn’t mind that I can only give her sex for a couple of minutes maximum. She actually enjoys the fact that her pussy feels so good that it would make me cum in 20 seconds if I didn’t stop. Besides, if she didn’t want it this way, she wouldn’t keep me in this hyper-horny teased and denied state.

Mail Chastity: Ruined Orgasm

Posted by Lady M on March 30, 2020
Posted in: Mail Chastity, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , . 8 comments

I got a great comment on my last post which included a question I didn’t want to just answer in a reply. I feel like I have a little more to say on the subject than just a few words to be lost in the comment section of the blog.

Philip wrote:

I have a question that I do not recall being discussed in your blog. CM has often edged himself as required but would you Lady M ever instruct him to ruin his own orgasm and do you CM feel you could manage to do this? Personally I think I would find it very difficult and I dare not even hint at the idea to my wife!

It’s interesting to have this question asked because, I do enjoy so very much giving Cagedmonkey a good ruined orgasm. I love, even more, getting him so worked up and crazy during denial that he starts begging for one. I love hearing him moan and whimper and react to teasing and feeling how horny he is. So horny, that he would even want to get that close to orgasm only to have it completely unfulfilled and ruined.

Now to get to the point of answering the question… I do not recall that I have ever had him ruin himself, but himself. I really haven’t even had him stroke or edge himself (without me there) until recently. I struggled a lot with allowing him out of his cage while I wasn’t there. He’s proven, over the past 7 years, that I can trust him to obey me and follow my rules and only do what I tell him to do when he is out of the cage and not with me.

I think one of the other reasons he hasn’t done this on his own is that I enjoy it so incredibly much! Though, he has been the one to actually ruin himself before. I’ve had him both stroke and have sex with me and get himself to a ruined orgasm. A couple of weeks ago I had him fuck my pussy right to the point where he pulled out and his cock just dripped a ruined orgasm on my belly. It was awesome, it makes me so happy I just can’t help but giggle!

Philip, I hope this answers your question and helps you understand my side of this. I don’t know if hubby feels differently when I’m the one ruining him or if he is made to ruin himself. It must take a hell of a lot of self control to do as he is told and to force himself to ruin an orgasm… He could easily just go further and enjoy it but, instead, he obeys because he knows that I enjoy it so much.

So much of his submission is just because he loves making me happy and doing what I want him to makes me happy.

New Year, Same Us

Posted by Lady M on January 17, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

With the start of the new year – in more ways than one, wink wink – we’ve seen a slight uptick in our blog visits. Okay, maybe it’s because we actually got up off our butts, stopped being lazy, and started posting again…. but who really cares about the why, right? Anyway, we’ve also had some new followers, both here and on Twitter, so we figured it would be a good idea to go oover a little basic Q&A on what we are all about. And, to help us out with the “Q” portion of that equation, one of our followers wrote to us asking us some things about our relationship.

johnsk writes:

I am fascinated by this. Single guy here from USA. Although my cock is not large, I cannot get even the largest ring to fit. I have tried lube, etc. Very frustrating.

I’ll allow it.

The most common device I wear is the Jailbird from Mature Metal. I use an oval base ring, which may end up helping in your case. I know that I had trouble with the circular rings of other cages (although the Revenge ring is circular, and that one works fine).

Moving on to johnsk’s actual questions:

How often are you allowed to orgasm? Is it strictly her decision or a joint decision?

When and how I get to orgasm is 100% her choice. The frequency of my orgasms can vary depending on My Lady’s mood – sometimes it will be every few weeks, sometimes every few months. I have been cumming a lot more often than I am used to these past couple of weeks, but that is going to come to a stop VERY soon – ML and I are planning to once again try at a complete year of orgasm denial for me starting from our anniversary, which…..

*checks notes*

…. is TOMORROW!!!!

johnsk continues:

I also wonder if you employ butt plugs and spanking in conjunction with chastity.

ML is certainly a big fan of spanking me, although we haven’t had much opportunity to do so recently. As expected, spankings tend to generate a lot of noise; and, as a married couple with two children, it gets difficult to find time for that. Butt plugs are much easier to be discreet with, and ML will have me wear one from time to time.

johnsk finished:

Thanks for a great site on this topic.

And thanks for reading! We really do enjoy posting and doing all of this blog stuff – not just because we are kinky fuckers who like to show off all of the fun stuff we are doing, but also because we like the education aspect of all of this. There are a lot of sites that preach a specific kind of chastity play, and claim that it’s the “right way to do it” and no other way is “real” chastity… well, that’s all bullshit. Chastity can be whatever it means to you: you can lock up your cock without having a keyholder, you can have a single keyholder, or even a committee! You can be in chastity for an hour, a day, or a week… or longer, even. There’s no wrong answer, as long as it works for you.

So, thanks to johnsk and all of our other readers/followers! We look forward to you visiting us as we continue our fun far into the future.

Rough Nights

Posted by cagedmonkey on January 7, 2020
Posted in: Chastity Device, Male Chastity, Medical, Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 5 comments

Things are in an interesting place in the MinaC household. On the one hand, both ML and I are anticipating another try for a full year of orgasm denial – while I know I will eventually be horribly desperate to cum by the end of it, we both miss the intensity and the crazy horniness that it brings to both of us. My Lady is particularly excited about incorporating more ruined orgasms into the mix, which will hopefully somewhat fulfill her desire to see me cum without giving me the pleasure of a full orgasm. It’ll also most likely drive my frustration even stronger (another positive in ML’s eyes).

On the other hand, certain “situations” have developed that have put some limits on my ability to wear my chastity cage, specifically overnight. I’ve been experiencing some pretty severe back pain over the past few months, which was confirmed as a herniated disc by MRI.

Wearing the cage at night often leads to middle-of-the-night erections that cause such bad pain that I can’t sleep. Now, before y’all start in with the “OMG chastity caused your herniated disc!” BS —

— I’m almost 100% sure I injured it during our recent move. Just because it hurts now because of it, doesn’t mean it originally caused it. If you break your ankle skiing, it’s gonna hurt if you walk on it; you didn’t break your ankle by walking on it.

It’s kind of a bummer to not be able to wear the cage indefinitely at this time; I feel like I’m taking away ML’s choice in how long I wear the cage (to be fair, it was ML’s decision to allow me to sleep cageless for now). I would really like to wear the cage for days or even weeks at a time if she desires – my desperation for just a simple erection can get very intense – but it’s just not doable right now.

The weird thing is that when I get sexually aroused in the cage, it doesn’t lead to the pain that the mid-sleep ones do. It’s almost as if it’s a different type of erection that occurs. This is good – at least My Lady gets to see my cock struggling in its cage while she teases me. That’s one of her favorite things about keeping me in chastity!

So, depending on how we decide to address my back pain issue (surgery is a definite possibility in the near future), things may get better quickly or maybe not-so-quickly. I’m just hoping for some improvement in the future. I want ML to be able to keep me in the cage for as long as she wants, not as long as I can manage.

What do you want out of Chastity and Denial?

Posted by Lady M on December 27, 2019
Posted in: FemDom, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , .

After Cagedmonkey wrote his post the other day about Looking Ahead he asked me a question. He wrote “if we are going to try to do a year denial, what do you want from it? What would you like to see happen, what would you like to do/see/try?”

My answer isn’t so simple, it’s almost like there isn’t words to describe what I want. I did end up telling him, physically, I want to see him so horny he struggling against the bars of the cage, I want to see him aching and his cock leaking precum like it has during past denial periods. I understand there will need to be some amounts of trading line there was in the past but I do think the denial in general helps to move that along. I want to physically see him desperate and wanting. I want him so horny that he will find any way to turn me on, sexual and non-sexual. Not things that turn me on the way he wants me turned on but more thinking about my needs and desires and turning me on in ways that I want to be turned on.

When I started thinking about his question more, I realized it wasn’t so much about that stuff that I wanted. It wasn’t necessarily what I wanted to see or do and that it was more about what I wanted to feel during this denial. I want to feel irresistible and not just sexually. I want to feel his frustration. I want to feel loved and woed and made a fuss over. I want to feel thought of and made to feel important. I want to feel the gratitude of him being locked in a cage and denied and teased. I want to feel his need, his aches, his desires.

Don’t get me wrong, I want to tease him and drive him nuts and make him want things and flaunt in front of him what he is being denied. I want to make him do daily things as a reminder of who he belongs to and who he serves sexually. I want my mornings to begin with kisses to my pussy, so the very first thing he smells & tastes in the morning is me. He has much better days when they start off that way. I want to try to get in some impact play, I love the feel and sound of spanking him so even if it’s once in a month, I want it. I’d like to try to get in more bondage, more forced things… If he’s bound he can’t really not be used for my sexual pleasure.

Anyway… So there’s a lot that goes into the answer of what do I want from chastity and denial… And most of it is feelings.