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Where Have You Been?

Posted by Lady M on July 12, 2016
Posted in: Male Chastity. Tagged: , , . 11 comments

I’ve had a few people contact me asking where I’ve been. I haven’t been making my normal rounds on the websites, haven’t been commenting as much or anywhere near Twitter. I want to let you all know that I am sick and not feeling well at all right now. I, once again, have drug resistant E Coli which takes a little bit to get rid of. The doctors are checking everything out to see what the cause is (hopefully) and today I had a CT scan done. I won’t know results for a few days and then I have some other testing and procedures to go through.

Anyway, I am on antibiotics now and hopefully I will be feeling a bit more myself shortly. Don’t get into to much trouble without me lol! 

What Does Chastity Mean?

Posted by cagedmonkey on June 27, 2016
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Pictures, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 26 comments

Literal answer to rhetorical question alert!

chas·ti·ty
ˈCHastədē/
noun
the state or practice of refraining sexual intercourse.

As I was putting my cage on after shaving yesterday, I started thinking about exactly what this is that ML and I are doing. It’s easy to call it “chastity” but is it really that?

As you can see from the definition above (thank you, Google), chastity usually involves less (or perhaps even no) sex. Since ML began locking my cock in a cage, we’ve been have more – and BETTER – sex than ever. That’s like the opposite of chastity!

My Lady is in complete control of when and how much sex we have. And keeping my cock locked up all to herself gets her pretty damn horny, so we end up having sex pretty often. The cage doesn’t even stop her from having my cock when she wants it – she will have sex with even even while I’m caged, and she loves every minute of torturing me like that.

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You cannot imagine how frustrating it is to feel her warm wet pussy on my cock, yet I’m still unable to get hard. My cock certainly tries, but always fails. ML has has many orgasms on my caged cock as I throb helplessly against the steel. It often feels like I could cum, but it’s only wishful thinking. I’m left as frustrated as ever, often with a painfully full cage as ML drifts off into blissful post-orgasmic sleep.

So, we will continue to call it “chastity,” even though it’s something different at the heart if it. It’s not about refraining from sex; if anything, it drives us to want it more. For us, it’s about control. ML controls me sexually, not just my orgasms but even my erections. She will have sex with me when she wants, whether she allows me to have a erection or not.

Not Quite Half Way

Posted by Lady M on June 21, 2016
Posted in: Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 8 comments

Today, for some odd reason, out of no where I was having a bit of “drop.” I was feeling off and emotional and REALLY missing cagedmonkey while he was at work. I could feel my thoughts race, it felt like a roller coaster. I even caught myself wondering if I should just make him cum and forget this whole denial thing. I missed him so much today that my mind was racing through ways I could feel him… Making him cum is a huge way to feel him and connect with him. It’s been 173 days since he’s had an orgasm… He’s not quite half way there yet.

I don’t really want him to cum and I’m feeling much better this evening but this whole thing isn’t that easy on a wife who happens to be a keyholder to her one and only love. Who she happens to REALLY, REALLY like sex with! Haha I really am living how incredibly horny cagedmonkey is, how badly he wants to cum when he’s being teased and edged. I will say that I don’t feel there is much difference between how horny he gets at 3 or 4 months to how horny he is now… Just sayin’

It might be time to do some extended lock up. Perhaps some No look, No touch? What do you think?

An Online Keyholder and Task Master/Mistress

Posted by Lady M on June 2, 2016
Posted in: D/s, FemDom, KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 2 comments

Recently I started working with Mistress Ivey on her new journey at Ivey’s Keys. It’s been quite fun and even a learning experience working with my subs. I am very much enjoying the interaction, the tasks and ask of the people in general.
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What We Offer Submissives
This is a “Member’s Only” website and we have a great deal to offer. As a paid member you have access to the entire site, not just the blog area. You can get a Keyholder who will Control your Orgasms, you Chastity (if you want), give you tasks to perform, a shoulder to cry on, and a spanking when you need it. You will be able to visit the Daily Task Master, Play our Chastity & Orgasm Control Games, Watch our Tease & Denial Videos, and Join our Submissive’s Group! You will be able to send Private Messages to your Keyholder or anyone you want to communicate with.

What We Offer Keyholders
As a Keyholder, you will be in charge of one or more submissives who will do their very best to please you. Even to the point of paying Tributes for allowing them to be Locked in Chastity or even earning Orgasms . As a Keyholder you have greater access to certain parts of the website. You will be able to access our Tasks Library and submit Posts as well as secret pages designed to make your key holding easier and more effective.

Once you have paid your membership fee at PayPal you will sent to our
Official Registration Page. Once you register the entire site will open up to you.

Membership has it’s privileges!

Time Passes

Posted by cagedmonkey on May 21, 2016
Posted in: Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , . 6 comments

So the past couple of weeks haven’t been all that easy. Getting acclimated to living in someone else’s house hasn’t exactly been “smooth.” It’s difficult for me to relax and feel comfortable when I’m not in my own environment. Sex aside, it’s been a difficult transition. It will be better in a couple of weeks when we finally get our apartment.

Focusing on the sex – despite the situation, ML has found ways to keep me sexually frustrated. Whether it’s waking me up with a teasing handjob or having me fuck her with my caged cock until she cums all over me, her teasing has been very effective. And, unlike the apartment situation, it’s only going to get worse as time goes by.

It’s getting close to five months into the year and still no orgasms for me; ML is still determined to have me go cum-less for 2016. I’m not even halfway through the year and I’m already dying for an orgasm. My balls are almost constantly sore and feeling very full. At this point, I really need a good draining – whether or not I get an orgasm with it kinda doesn’t matter. I mean, obviously it does… obviously I’d love a nice hard intense orgasm right about now. After 142 days, who wouldn’t?

Marked for Life

Posted by cagedmonkey on April 17, 2016
Posted in: Chastity Device, D/s, Female Led Relationship, Health, Male Chastity, Medical, Pictures, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , . Leave a Comment

(First off, apologies for the lack of posting lately; it’s been very busy here at the LMnC household getting ready for the upcoming move)

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It’s so interesting how chastity has changed my life.

I never thought that seeing dents in my cock would make me feel sexy, but they do. I love the look of the marks that my chastity cage leaves on me after I take it off. It reminds me that, even though I might be unlocked, My Lady still owns my cock. She still controls it, whether it’s free from confinement or underneath steel bars. The effect is still there.

It was truly fortunate that My Lady found chastity and decided to give it a try. That decision changed so many things in our lives for the better – our sex life improved, along with our emotional bonds with each other. It’s a part of our lives that we would never take away.

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It kind of reminds me of my chastity tattoo. It has become one of my favorites that I have, for that reason – it symbolizes the choice I made to turn control of my sexuality over to ML. She chose the design, she chose the location, and I accepted it… and it couldn’t have been more perfect.

It’s so perfect, sometimes I think to myself: were we destined for this? Is this exactly how we were meant to be with each other? Were we fortunate, or was this situation blissfully unavoidable?

When I get thoughts like these, I can’t help but think of my “chastity scar.”

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That right there, is where the base ring of my chastity cage sits. It’s very faint, but you can see the skin is raised very slightly and barely discolored. It’s not a major injury or anything, it doesn’t even hurt or cause discomfort. It’s the result of my fairly large cock struggling against the bars and ring of my chastity cage. I never really expected it to happen, but now it’s a part of me.

It’s funny how chastity has changed me – from the “in the moment” feelings, to the changes I hoped would occur, and even those changes that I never could have expected. It’s also amazing how pretty much all of these changes are for the better.

Good Morning Edge

Posted by Lady M on April 5, 2016
Posted in: Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . 12 comments

It’s now been over 3 months since cagedmonkey has been denied. I’ve had so much fun teasing him, edging him and using him for my pleasure. For the last month, maybe, I’ve gotten so much enjoyment out of edging him first thing in the morning. It used to be that it took him a bit to get going first thing in the morning and that was always the time we could have longer sex. It used to be that he couldn’t cum right away in the mornings… Well… I get him right to the edge and on the verge of a ruined orgasm almost every morning now… In a matter of a minute. Probably not even a full minute sometimes, seconds!

I seriously enjoy hearing the torment in his moans and the begging under his breath. It really turns me and I even get to the point of giggling. Sometimes I giggle so hard and even bust out laughing because I’m seriously loving how much I am controlling him. Right then in that moment, he is putty in my hands. I can make him what I want him to be. I love it so much!!!!

When I’m not using his cock and teasing and edging him, I leave him caged. That doesn’t mean I’m not teasing him at all while caged, I’m just doing it in a much different way. He usually ends up with a pretty big “rooty” after I’ve had time driving him crazy, taking his cage in my pussy and cumming all over it while he desperately wants to feel my pussy squeezing his cock and all he feels is the hard steel bars of his Jail Bird.

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Look how his big cock pushes so hard against that cage, pulling it away from his body, yanking on his horny aching balls! I’m smiling right now just thinking about it!

Mail Chastity: The Blue Balls Experience

Posted by cagedmonkey on March 6, 2016
Posted in: Chastity Device, Mail Chastity, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . Leave a Comment

Joey, one of our readers, wrote to us the following:

Mr monkey, 
I’m just curious what’s the longest mrs monkey has ever kept you locked up in chastity?

First of all, there’s no need for formalities. 🙂

I’m guessing that by the “longest” I’ve been locked up, you mean the longest 24/7 chastity term I’ve gone through without being released.

The longest ML has kept me constantly locked was a little over three weeks – to be honest, I’m not sure of the exact amount of days because we’ve done it a few times already. Each of the last two times, we’ve set out aiming for a month but we never quite make it that long. ML just can’t go on that long without my cock 😉

Joey also asks:

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ow exactly does blue balls feel to you and do you ever get them?

After two months of not cumming, of course I get them!

The good thing is that it’s not a constant feeling that I deal with all day long. I really only feel it when I’m sexually aroused – which is to say that I feel it whenever My Lady is near me. 🙂 It’s not the painful agony that most guys expect or imagine; I would describe it more as an ache, kind of how a minor muscle bruise would feel. And much like a bruise, the ache gets deeper the more you pay attention to it – that’s one of the reasons ML takes every opportunity to remind me of my situation.

Thanks for the questions, Joey!

Are We Crazy?

Posted by cagedmonkey on January 1, 2016
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Sex, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 12 comments

ML and I have asked each other that at least three times already today, as we think about what this New year holds for us. We are expecting so much change in the next twelve months (we’ll be moving into a new house, as well as adding some exciting new features to our blog), but many things will stay the same (we will both continue to be horny fuckers who can’t keep our hands off each other).

And, oh yeah, that other important thing… My Lady is going to deny me orgasms for the entire year.

ML and I have been taking the last week to enjoy just being free from worrying about an accidental cum, having some good hot sex and throwing in some romantic love making just for the hell of it. 🙂 I’ve had more orgasms in the past week than I’ve had over the past few months – which doesn’t say a lot, considering I was denied since the end of October. But in the back of our minds the whole time was that one thought – “Are we really insane for trying this?”

It hasn’t really hit either of us yet that my orgasm last night was the last one I’m going to have for a VERY long time. ML doesn’t have to worry about that, she’ll be cumming whenever she wants, with my help or without it. But she does have to deal with the fact that I won’t be cumming, since she does actually like it. I, on the other hand, am going to be suffering through it. The only question is how long will it take me to truly want this to end.

Ok, maybe there is one more question.

Are we crazy?

Maybe No More?

Posted by cagedmonkey on December 23, 2015
Posted in: D/s, Female Led Relationship, FemDom, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Sex, Tease & Denial, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , . 3 comments

Looking ahead to the looming start of my next period of orgasm denial – longer than I have ever been denied, longer than I ever thought I would be – has got me thinking about a few things. I’ve been thinking about the difference between what I want vs. what I need, as well as what it means to truly submit to My Lady.

Many of our readers out there (and ML, as well!) would agree that it is not easy being ML’s sub: it is not easy to be locked in chastity, it is not easy to be teased so intensely, and it is not easy to be held in strict orgasm denial throughout it all. She is a special and unique keyholder, and it takes a special and unique level of commitment and determination to endure her treatment. I’ve been questioning my level of commitment to submitting to ML lately, mainly because of certain aspects of our initial chastity agreement.

Way back when we started living this chastity lifestyle (over… 2 years ago? Holy shit, it was over two years ago!), we crafted a chastity agreement that allowed us both to have input on how our FLR would take shape. The spirit of that agreement guides every aspect of our D/s dynamic, even if we don’t follow each and every clause to the letter (for example, it’s been a long time since we’ve written in our communication book, only because we’ve grown to be so comfortable communicating with each other directly). One of the clauses that ML has been very gracious to uphold has been the use of the “Maybe Day.”

To explain the Maybe Day clause quick and simple: ML gives me a date when she plans to let me cum next, and will let me know if she decides to push me significantly past that date. She can choose whatever date she wishes, and can choose to extend it for any reason, but she is required to let me know when it will be or how much longer I will have to wait.

Looking back on it, I wanted to put that clause in our agreement because of my trust issues. When things were difficult between ML and me, there was never any telling when our next sexual encounter would be. I was scared that ML’s interest might fade once again if there was no date to hold her accountable. I needed even just a small guarantee that I wasn’t going to be left and forgotten about. I wasn’t ready for such an open-ended situation.

I think I’m ready for that now.

Over the past two years, I can’t remember too many nights where ML and I weren’t sexual in some way with each other. I even recently posted about how just a knowing glance across the room can be our way of “having sex.” The level of passion is certainly there, and it’s stronger than it’s ever been. I don’t think I need to be worried that ML will lose sexual interest in me anymore. I probably have to be more worried about ML driving me insane with TOO MUCH sexual attention!

With My Lady’s agreement, I would like to do away with the concept of Maybe Day for good. I realize that this opens me up for denial periods longer than I’d ever expect with absolutely no warning whatever, but I am ready to submit to her that deeply.

(This post is the first that ML will be hearing of these thoughts, so I am very curious to see what her reaction is. Wish me luck!)