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Sex Ready aka Cock on Demand

Posted by Lady M on December 3, 2018
Posted in: FemDom, Sex. Tagged: , , , , . 1 comment

I was having a quick conversation with cagedmonkey this morning and told him I was horny and wanted sex later this evening. I made the comment that I needed him “sex ready” for later so when he gets home he’s to unlock his cock. That way when I’m ready and want it, it can be hard in an instant for me to use.

There are times where I let hubby out and want him sex ready, so to speak, but I may decide not to use him, I may decide to tease the hell out of him instead. Sometimes having him out and ready is better than having to wait for him to get unlocked and wiped down (even in an open cage he can get sweaty in there).

The other morning could have been one of those mornings, where I was completely horny and ready to take that big cock and having him sex ready would have helped the situation. You know how it is… When you want it right then and there and don’t want to wait? Yeah, then… Having a big hard cock ready on demand is awesome! 🙂

Best FemDom Comic

Posted by Lady M on December 2, 2018
Posted in: FemDom, Fetish. Tagged: , , . 1 comment

I’ve been part of chastityforums.com for a long time and there is a thread on the forums about cartoons or comics related to chastity and femdom. I saw recently someone posted this awesome comic. I feel like this is one of the best FemDom comics I’ve seen.

What are some of the better chastity or femdom, or even bondage, comics you’ve seen?

Horny Dreams

Posted by Lady M on November 30, 2018
Posted in: FemDom, Orgasm Denial, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , . 2 comments

I don’t often dream or, I should say, I don’t often remember my dreams. When I do remember, they aren’t typically sex dreams. Let me tell you… Last night I vividly remember some very intense, teasy, sex dreams! I wish I could remember exact scenes in my dream but, I more remember the feeling of the dream. I remember feeling sexy and wanted and how it felt to tease and keep CM aching and then having full blown, letting him cum, sex with him! I remember the feeling of cumming so hard with him. Oh it was amazing!!! Needless to say, I am very horny this morning and hubby’s butt felt so good when I gave it a squeeze before he left. I totally would have had some hard sex with him if I wasn’t sick and having my lady cycle.

It’s kinda interested that I would dream about stuff like that because over the past week or so I’ve been telling hubby about how bad I want to make him cum! He’s been denied since June and I get so excited thinking about when I finally do allow him to. Having that power of deciding the moment I’ll give him that pleasure. That moment I’ll allow him to explode and feel all the sexual pleasure from it.

I was telling him about all the ways I could possibly make him cum. I even mentioned doing it privately in his clothes, in a public setting, and making him sit in it afterwards. It would be such a privately humiliating thing. We’ve never done anything like that but it could be fun hehe 🙂

I am extremely excited that it’s the end of the year, simply because that means I will be making him cum soon. That also means I get to have lots of wonderful sex with him without having to worry about him stopping or accidentally cumming while I had be him denied.

Put a Plug in it

Posted by Lady M on November 9, 2018
Posted in: Male Chastity, Pictures, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 3 comments

Today I had cagedmonkey wear the plug all day… Just to give him an all day reminder of what I control. While he was locked and plugged I decided to send him some pics too. I love how he reacts when I send him sexy pics and there is nothing he can do about it. I love hearing how horny he gets because of it and how he struggles in the cage.

A little cleavage fun 🙂

And then a little more than cleavage fun hehe I hope you all enjoy, just as much as hubby did!

The Beauty I See & the Control I Have

Posted by Lady M on November 5, 2018
Posted in: D/s, Female Led Relationship, Male Chastity, Wife Led Marriage. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 2 comments

It seems like CM is always posting pics about what he wakes up to in the morning. How he thinks I’m beautiful and loves my body and boobs and all that. Well he’s not the only one that gets to wake up to complete sexiness beside him in the morning. This was my view yesterday morning as I woke up. I had to stop and tell him to freeze so I could take my own picture. I love how he looks, especially locked in his cage for me.

I love sleeping next to him naked. I love the way his skin feels. I love how he’s the perfect amount of warmth when I need it. I love how we can sleep all entangled up with each other and we both feel so incredibly comfortable. It’s amazing that we can snuggle up so close and fall asleep together like that.

I know at first I was a little worried about how I’d feel about him getting his nipples pierced but I really do like them and I love playing with them and making him squirm when I grab and pull on them. They really are fun and I look forward to finding fun ways to incorporate them into play. His nipple rings and cage really are extremely sexy.

So yesterday, I was feeling better than I had in a while so I decided it was time to take back control of things. Things with my house, my life, my kids and my hubby. It was time to get this house back in shape and cleaned up. I was almost like a drill sergeant, in a way, getting things going. At one point I told hubby I was sick of feeling like crap, sick of hurting and being sick and feeling like I was not in control. I told him, in a half whisper right at his mouth with my lips barely brushing his, that I was taking back my control, of the house, the kids and of him. I told him exactly what he would do to help clean. How he’d do laundry and anything else I asked and I even told him he could “shut his little fucking mouth” about how I went about getting this house back together. Lol it was surprising to me that I finally felt strong enough and good enough to use that tone with him.

I am the one who should control this house and control him, he gave me that control over 5 years ago. He chose to hand me his keys and trust that I could competently control him. I felt a lot of power yesterday and I felt in control and I needed it. My illness does not control me.

I Guess it’s Going to be a NOvember

Posted by Lady M on October 29, 2018
Posted in: Ass Play, Chastity Device, D/s, FemDom, Male Chastity, orgasm control, Tease & Denial. Tagged: , , , , , . 5 comments

Football and Cheer season is juuuuuuust about over here in Monkeyland lol. We’ve had a very long season that felt like it’s gone on forever. We actually have one more cheer competition coming up this weekend but football and practice is done. Which means no more reason for my super horny, long denied, hubby to take off his cock cage. I don’t regret it at all since our kids won’t be young forever and I know that they will look back and remember that we were very involved parents when it comes to their sports and other activities. Now that we have time to get a little more back into our kink, I did some thinking today. We won’t have a ton of time but more than we did and, like I mentioned, now there isn’t the excuse of coaching to remove the cage.

This morning I realized that I’m really wanting CM to remember just who owns him and his body and his sexual pleasure. I also want him to remember what is important in this dynamic. That’s my pleasure and what I want. What I want for about the next month is to have CM locked him his cage 24/7. He needs that intense reminder that I control his cock and I’d I want it locked it will be locked and if I want it out it will be out.

The other part of this will be that each evening he will be having some kind of ass play while his cock is locked. That could mean he’ll wear one of our butt plugs – the njoy’s or even the remote plug – or he could be instructed to use a toy on his ass and maybe the wand as well to get his cock dripping precum from his cage. On the nights, when possible, I will likely have him get out the little tripod or selfie stick and take me some really slutty pictures. It would be so humiliating to have to take pics & video of himself violating his own ass because I told him to. Then I can choose to show friends the pictures or maybe even post them on the blog.

I did explain to him that I want him to do this for me and use these toys to keep his ass ready for me… You know, should I have a need to use his ass for something it would be ready. I know, after a couple weeks of being used daily with no use of his penis he might get to a point of wanting to stop… And it won’t stop until I say it stops. He really has no choice in the matter.

So, hopefully, we have a few exciting weeks coming up here in November! 🙂

Feedback & Questions

Posted by Lady M on October 28, 2018
Posted in: Conversations, Mail Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . Leave a Comment

We got some awesome feedback today about the podcast and a couple questions, as well, that I figured I’d take a moment to answer. We always appreciate when our readers or listeners give us feedback or just want to write and say, “Hi!” Don’t be shy! 🙂

Love it! The punishment /funishment thing to me is one of countless blurred outlines of that classic BDSM conundrum… if I want to be punished then how can it be a punishment? In my head, it still can be – especially (to your point) if you know your partner and love them enough to exploit that knowledge.

Love getting feedback like this. This is why we love having the conversations we do on our podcast. Having a relationship, kinky, vanilla or whatever really does come down to communication and knowing your partner. Amazing things can happen when you know, just as this gentleman states, how to exploit the knowledge!
I confess that I’ve only listened to a couple podcasts now (just found you guys on Friday), so I apologize if you’ve gone over all of this stuff many times before, but man I have so many questions 😛 Feel free to ignore them…
That’s ok… some times answering things again is a good thing for someone who is new around here. We have answered these before here in the blog and possibly on the podcast but I don’t mind answering them again.
Do you still control / keep other guys in chastity besides caged M? If so, how many? How do you find the time and energy to keep up with that?
I no longer have “subs on the side” and there are two reasons for this. A) I tend to be a bit too intense for most people and they end up not handling being dominated by me very well. The whole fantasy vs reality thing… I make things very real and the intensity of the reality becomes too overwhelming. When I have subs I put my whole self into it and when boys get overwhelmed by me I tend to get myself hurt in the process. And then, B) well like you mentioned, time. I just don’t have it anymore. When I was a stay at home mom I had a lot more time to spend focusing on kinky things. Now I work outside the home, have to take care of my home, kids and they are very active kids and we are involved parents… It leaves very little time for extracurricular activities.
I remember hearing caged M adamantly defining a limit about physically playing with other people, but that you guys might role play with the idea from time to time. How does that generally look for y’all?
There is a really great post here on the blog about Pseudo-cuckolding that you may find helpful in regards to this question. We do not play outside our marriage… At least not with men. We have talked in the past couple years about me having an Alpha sub female to play with but so far we haven’t found anyone that fits.

For me, chastity is inextricably linked with cuckolding, but the reality of that fantasy carries potentially damaging emotional remnants… I’m so curious on how you guys feel about that and if the implication exists in some form within your D/s dynamic.

We have seen how a lot of times people automatically think chastity = cuckolding but we try hard to get across that that’s not necessarily true. That chastity is not specifically one thing or another. It doesn’t have to be this or that. Just because someone is in chastity does not mean the partner goes out fucking other people. Chastity is exactly what the couple wants it to be. It certainly CAN be all those things or none of them. It’s up to the couple to decide what chastity is for them.
Thanks so much for sharing your story so openly and responding : ) I fucking love the internet.
Thank you, so much, for the great feedback and the questions. Hopefully I’ve successfully answered them but please feel free to ask whatever else you want to ask! 🙂 and yeah the internet is pretty awesome!

Podcast Episode 11 – Rewards & Punishments

Posted by Lady M on October 27, 2018
Posted in: D/s, Podcast. Tagged: , , , , , . Leave a Comment

Maybe you’ve noticed we have some missing numbers in our Episode count. Don’t worry, we aren’t going crazy we actually had to do that on purpose! We had a couple of podcasts that were going to get posted ahead of this one but we have had a change in plans so we just went with this one. So pardon the numbers and just go with it. You will also notice, during this podcast, that it was recorded at the end of July. Sorry it’s taken so long to get posted. There is a whole story there that we will not get into!

Anyway, as you can tell, from the title, this podcast covers things like Rewards, Punishments and even goes over “funishments.” I hope you enjoy it, even with it’s delay.

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New Permanent Steel

Posted by Lady M on July 16, 2018
Posted in: Female Led Relationship, Pictures. Tagged: , , , . 1 comment

I think it was about a month ago when CM and I were talking with someone about having piercings. I have had some piercings in the past and currently only have my ears and tongue still pierced. I’ve had nipples, eyebrow and nose done as well and CM has never had a piercing. The conversation got us thinking about CM and would I like any piercings on him. I don’t personally like the look or anything of penis piercings so thats not something I’d have him do. We started talking about where he could be pierced and what would be the point, etc. That got us onto his nipples, perhaps those would look nice and they might even help to make his nipples a lot more sensitive. So, if you follow us on Twitter, I had asked our followers to show me their nipple piercings so I could get a feel for how they looked. I could never see hubby with facial piercings – plus working in a hospital thats probably not the best idea. I realized I didnt like the hoops in a guy nipples but I did like the look of small bars horizontally through the nipple. I know, I know… sometimes I think too much but with any kind of body modification I want to make sure it’s something I’m going to like or there is no point in getting it.

So what all this brings us to is that on Wednesday last week, when CM & I were off work and had out “date day” not only did we get in about a hour or so of play time I also took him to get MY nipples pierced.

I say it that way because they are for me… I didnt get them pierced for him, I did it for me, so I have something to play with and to make his nipples more sensitive for me. Plus they really do look hot on him!

It took me a few days to not be like WOW there are bars in your nipples lol because I’ve never seen CM as the type to have piercings, at all. I never saw him as one to have tattoos either and now he’s got a bunch and I love them!! A couple of his tattoos are mine or ours and have so much meaning! These nipple piercings also have a bit of meaning. It’s not something he did on his own for his own reasons. He has them for me. He truly has given himself to me in so many ways… he’s locked in a steel cage for me and now he’s got steel bars through his nipples for me. Once they heal completely I cant wait to play with them and pull on them and figure out all the wonderful things we can do with them!!

I couldn’t help but lick them and rub them since they are so new and sensitive… I’m sure I’m going to have so much fun with them when they are finally healed!

Feelings for the Cock

Posted by Lady M on June 25, 2018
Posted in: KeyHolder, Male Chastity, orgasm control. Tagged: , , , , , , . 10 comments

The other day Cagedmonkey posted an update about our current chastity and denial situation. We had mentioned that starting at his birthday he’d locked for an extended period and denied for a hell of a lot longer. Well, like he updated, the whole lock up thing didn’t go as planned!

If you know my history at all, you know around 3 weeks of having him locked, I start to desperately miss that big cock and feeling it inside me. Well, CM had only been locked 2 weeks when we went to NY for the weekend. We had such an amazing weekend, so loving and sexual and teasy and by the time we got home I was really missing the feeling of his cock, so while I wasn’t planning on having him out, in the heat of a very sexy moment I made him get out of his cage – that was a huge feat since he was rock hard in that cage – and give me the cock I so desperately needed. 🙂

Then comes the next day… I felt so bad, I felt like I’d let him down because I know sometimes we talk about pushing further or doing things longer, harder, more intense and I just couldn’t. There comes this point where I need to feel that connection with him physically and emotionally. Where I need to have him completely and without a cage in between us. However, I still felt bad and like I wasn’t good enough. I got into the “I’ll never be able to give him what he wants” thoughts and I’m worthless, yadda yadda yadda.

The point of this post is to let other women know that this happens… The most important reason for this post is to remind women we are in charge and ultimately we decide when, if and how our guys are locked up and even more importantly, this post is to remind everyone how important communication is. When I started to feel this way I told Cagedmonkey, right away, how I was feeling. I didn’t want it to continue to grow when it was much easier to talk about and work through and not put my feelings on him. I certainly can feel like I’m letting him down but knowing that he’s not let down and that he’s all good with what happened, and good with whatever happens, makes getting through the feelings that much better.