Male Chastity

The clock continues to tick, and it is now about two and half weeks since my cock was locked away in the Revenge.

Two and a half weeks since I’ve been allowed to have a full erection.

Two and a half weeks since my cock has felt anything other than steel.*

*Not counting the rough, clinical scrubbing during showers… and now even THAT gets me sexually aroused…

Two and a half weeks since I have even seen my penis.

Think about that and really process it for a second – it’s really hard to imagine that long of a time period without having any access at all to your main source of sexual pleasure. Two weeks doesn’t sound all that long when it’s just an idea; when you’re actually living through it, it feels like an eternity.

I started thinking this morning about which is is more valuable to me at the moment – being able to see my penis or having it touched. Obviously, I’m missing ML’s touch on my cock in a bad way… hell, I’m even missing my own, or even just the softness of my underwear! But, to be honest, I really do enjoy seeing my cock when it’s nice and hard. Yes, I have a big cock and yes I’m proud of it, and yes it’s REALLY nice to see it in action.

So, if I had the choice between the two, would I trade one for the other?

Conceptually, either way could work: ML could simply blindfold me when (if???) she lets me out of my cage, not allowing me to see my fully hard penis; or, she could allow me to see my penis but only while restrained, and use toys on me to tease and edge me without giving me skin-to-skin contact. It can be done, the question is which would I choose if given the opportunity…

It’s not an easy answer.

Being able to see my cock would be nice, but being teased with toys only would drive me crazy – after all, I would be denied feeling ML’s pussy for the duration of the game, which would be really tough to take. Not seeing my cock doesn’t preclude me from having sex with ML, but could also put me in some very strange-feeling situations – I can very easily see ML tweeting or posting pics of my cock being teased or toyed with in various ways, but not allowing me to sneak a peek at the pics. How humiliating would it be for all of our readers and followers to be able to see my cock and the things she does to it, meanwhile I’m the only one who can’t?

If forced to choose, I would probably end up giving up my right to see my cock – I don’t think I could handle not having the skin-to-skin connection with ML, it’s just too fucking good to give up.

And now, my mind immediately begins to wonder just how long I would be able to handle that type of situation…

ML and I have tried to go an entire year denying me orgasms, and fell a couple months short. Do I think I could go a year without seeing my cock at all? I don’t know, that is pretty extreme. But, I guess if it came down to it, I would have to. It’s not like it would cause any major physical or mental harm to me, which is usually my standard for safewording these days. I guess if ML were to decide to try this out, I would have no choice but to hang on for the ride as best as I could.

It’s been weeks since my hubby has been locked in the Steelworxx Revenge. He hasn’t seen his penis and the only thing it’s felt is that steel around it. I find that pretty fantastic lately. This is literally the longest he’s ever been locked in the device without it being removed. Usually I’d be worried that it was getting stinky or might develop sores from the constant touching of the cage… But this time I just told him I don’t know when I’m unlocking him so he’d better keep care of it! 🙂

I’m really enjoying what being locked in the Revenge is doing to CM. He’s so overly horny and sexual and touchy. Usually that takes a good while of being in the Jail Bird but, it’s happened way faster this time around in the Revenge. I love how it feels like he wants me so bad he can hardly stand it. Like he’s aching for me and NEEDS to have me.

It’s not so much that need he even needs intercourse with me. He has said, “I just need to please you!” Which is very interesting. He just needs some kind of sexual connection and he’s not so much begging to get out and have sex but more just wanting to touch my body, kiss me and my body, feel my sexual bits. He wants to see and feel that I’m turned on. He very much loves being able to eat my pussy, to make me cum and to give me that level of pleasure.

Now, I’m not locked up and denied orgasm or even access to my intimate parts so I’m not feeling that overly crazy horny-all-the-time feeling. That’s not a bad thing at all it just means that “pleasing me,” like he so desperately wants to do, isn’t always about sex or getting me horny or anything. Sometimes it’s more of a turn on to feel him just rub his hands on my body, almost avoiding the intimate parts. Just touching and gently running his fingers over me as if to activate my nerves all over and give me lots of the good feels. This morning was a great example of that. Just as we were about to get up, I sat on the side of the bed and he slid behind me and just ran his hands all over my upper torso and kissed my neck… It felt wonderful. It wasn’t him trying to get me all horny so we could have sex… It was sensual. That sensual stuff has much more of an effect on me than anything. Don’t get me wrong, I love him coming up and grabbing my ass or cupping my huge boobs but, the sensual stuff is by far more effective.

Something I don’t want any of you to forget is that “pleasing” your partner isn’t about what you want or what you think they want. It is one hundred percent about what makes your partner feel good, about what turns THEM on. That may not necessarily even mean touching them. Maybe they love the sexual and sensual stuff but maybe they are “turned on” and made to feel good when you make dinner or bring them flowers or just do anything for them that fills that part of them and gives them those feelings of love and being thought of. I’ve found that the sexiest thing, and thing that pleases me the most, is when I know that my likes, wants and desires have been considered. I am pleased when I’m thought of and something is done because CM knows it’s what I would want and not what he wants me to want. 🙂

This latest lockup stint in the Revenge is certainly bringing up some new things. First, I’m finding out that my penis really does enjoy the feel of at least anything besides steel on it (i.e. clothes, skin, even if I’m still locked in a chastity cage); and when I don’t have that softer touch, I start to lose my mind really quickly.

Second, I discovered, unfortunately, that I can make it through an exercise class while wearing the Revenge (I was really hoping for some sort of problem in order to have an excuse to be unlocked).

Now, it’s another new territory I’ll be stepping into: I have a doctor’s appointment on Thursday, and My Lady still had no intention of unlocking me.

In the past, ML has allowed me to take my cage off for doctor appointments and such in order to avoid any awkward moments (more for the doctor than for me, if anything). This time around, I’m meeting with a new doctor – she sees her already, but I haven’t switched over yet. Although she hasn’t mentioned anything about our kinky lifestyle, ML thinks she’s “cool” if it were to have to come up in discussion.

The good thing is that I doubt that I’ll be examined that closely at this appointment; I don’t think my cage will be discovered. But what if it does?

“Well,” ML answered when I asked her that very question, “you’ll have a little explaining to do, won’t you?”

Well, yeah, I guess I will!

Honestly, one of the reasons we’ve been looking for a new doctor is that we felt we needed to find a physician that was somewhat understanding to the things we do – not necessarily “kink friendly” but at least somebody we would feel comfortable sharing our lifestyle details due to health reasons. Both ML and I are getting up in years, and we want to stay healthy and horny for as long as possible.

But is this how I envisioned talking to my doctor about male chastity?

Coming up on almost two weeks straight locked in the Revenge, and I’m really getting agitated. I need to be unlocked soon, my cock is in bad need of ANY kind of attention.

But, on the other hand…

It’s weird. Part of me is SOOOO turned on by how ML has kept me locked for so long this time. Part of me actually is starting to like how it feels when my cock struggles against the steel of the Revenge. Part of me (dare I say it) wants ML to keep me locked even longer…..

What am I saying?!?

It feels like Stockholm Syndrome, in a way, where I’ve come to love the cage while still wanting out of it. It’s kind of stressing me out, because I really don’t know how to feel about what may happen:

– If ML keeps me in the Revenge, will I feel ignored and isolated?

– If ML lets me out, will I wish she would have pushed me further?

It’s at times like this that I need to remind myself that I’m the sub – I need to focus on what ML Lady wants and be satisfied by that. If she unlocks me, it’s good because she wants my penis out; if she keeps me in, it’s good because she wants to keep controlling my cock.

One thing I do realize is that if ML continues to keep me locked (which, I’ve come to realize writing this post, wouldn’t be that terrible of a thing), I am hoping that she realizes that I may come to need more sexual attention by other means. There aren’t many options for that with my cock locked away, but I will most likely need something to keep me from feeling ignored. Both of us have been very busy lately, which makes it difficult to make time for sex; but even if it’s just a few moments of me serving her sexual needs (or her teasing my non-locked body parts), it goes a long way towards knowing she still wants me in a sexual way even though my cock is not available.

So I attended my exercise class tonight with the Revenge locked on….

So there goes my last excuse for being unlocked….

This is good, in a way. This way, ML won’t feel like she NEEDS to unlock me for any reason other than just wanting my cock out of the cage. Only her desire will get me out.

But this also sucks, because she seems perfectly content with keeping me in here at the moment for who knows how long. She is being sexually pleased by my tongue/hands/fingers… does she really need my cock right now? How long until she does?

It’s been a week since ML locked my penis in the Revenge, hiding it away from being touched or even seen in any meaningful capacity. Although I’m not 100% on this, I’m pretty sure that this is the longest I’ve been locked 24/7 in the Revenge – we have tried before, but hygiene issues have led to me being let out at smaller intervals. This time, though, I’m being extremely diligent about keeping the inside of the cage clean as much as possible; I’m scrubbing the inside as best as I can each day with soap and water (and making myself extremely horny in the process).

My penis is in there, somewhere… I assume…

Things have been… okay, I’d say. I mean, it should go without saying that I’m extremely desperate for some sort of sexual attention…. preferably with my unlocked penis, but I’ll take anything right now. It’s not about me, though, it’s about My Lady’s satisfaction… and she seems more than satisfied at this point in time.

Take last night for example: after a little bit of kissing in bed, ML directed me to fuck her pussy… only with the Revenge still on. I will say that fucking ML with the Revenge on is different from using the Jailbird. With the JB, I can feel her wet, warm pussy all over my cock but I can’t get hard to fully enjoy it. When the Revenge is involved, it’s a different kind of frustration because I can’t feel anything at all except the steel around me. I still get hard in the cage when I see how much ML is enjoying herself, but I don’t get any of the other great feelings from being inside her.

After a little bit of cage fucking, ML needed to cum, so she used the wand in combination of my fingers to get a nice good orgasm or two. Before we went to sleep, though, she made sure to tell me that the reason she got so turned on and needed to cum was because she kept reminding herself that I couldn’t feel anything while I was fucking her. Frustration for me equals satisfaction for her.

I am hoping that she soon realizes that I can’t feasibly stay as long in the Revenge as I would in the Jailbird (if she thinks I’m making it three weeks straight in this thing, she’s nuts). Even if she lets me out, I won’t be able to touch or see my cock, as we are planning on doing a “no look, no touch” game for the next little while. I just wonder when the first time we get to try it out will be. For now, I am left wondering when ML will decide to take my cock out of this cage… and how she plans to tease and torment it when she does.

ML and I had some garden variety quickie sex last night – which is to say that we had some pretty damn good quickie sex last night… hell, all of our sex is good, tbh. Anyway, ML doesn’t have me denied at the moment, so she allowed me to cum at the end when I was ready.

I had a nice good cum, and this time I pulled out to cum on ML’s tummy… and I actually did cum on her tummy!

I’m pretty sure I’ve written about this (I searched to put in a link, but couldn’t find it), but for a refresher: I haven’t been cumming a lot for the past few years. I’m talking volume-wise, not frequency-wise… obviously I haven’t been cumming as much frequency-wise, thanks to ML’s desires. But when ML does let me cum, I don’t cum a lot.

I’ve had some people suggest that it’s the orgasm denial that’s to blame, but I don’t think that’s it – when we first started playing with chastity and orgasm denial, I was still cumming a respectable amount. Another reader said that maybe it’s my vasectomy that has lowered my cum volume, but I also disagree for a similar reason – I was cumming normal amounts right after my vasectomy, as well.

After looking into “retrograde ejaculation” (the official term for “my dick doesn’t shoot cum”), I think the culprit is my high blood pressure meds which I started a few years ago.

Anyways… back to my original reason for posting.

It was really nice to actually see my load of cum on my wife’s tummy. I kinda wish I had taken a picture, just for posterity. I’ll have to do that next time. Hopefully, ML will keep my non-denial time going just a little bit longer. 🙂

Cagedmonkey has been denied orgasm since the beginning of June. He’s extremely horny, super achy and pretty much always begging for an orgasm. He desperately wants some relief.

I did have this brilliant and devious plan to finally give him his long awaited orgasm. I wanted to make sure he experienced a really great intense orgasm. I wanted it to be memorable for him so that he really felt it, not only physically, but mentally. I kept thinking, what could I do to him to really create this moment that would really stick in his mind. I came up with something I was quite proud of. 🙂 haha

As you may have read, Cagedmonkey and I will often visit our local munch. We had planned to make sure that we would attend the December munches because they are always fun. The first one we collect toys for the Toys for Tots program and then the second munch is always the group’s Kinky Gift Exchange. It’s always a lot of fun this time of year. So my plan for this amazing orgasm involved the munch, so to speak. 🙂

I had come up with a fantastic way to integrate a little humiliation, if you will, into this final release. While hubby and I are definitely not into public humiliation, I thought adding some privately, public humiliation into this release would give him that intense, lasting memory I was hoping for. My plan was to have hubby drive to munch, unlocked, while I was playing with and stroking his cock the whole way. Then in the parking lot I was going to finally make him cum, right in his clothes, and then make him walk into munch and sit there, the whole time, covered in his long awaited orgasm. He’d have to sit there knowing it was all over inside his clothes, possibly leaking through his pants or shirt. Knowing that anyone could see at any moment. I also had no plans of letting him use the rest room… No way did I want him accidentally cleaning up his mess.

To add a little fun to the mix I would have, perhaps, mentioned it to a few close friends at munch that he was sitting in his 6+ month orgasm goo. Hehe 🙂

However, none of that was able to happen because hubby ended up having to work the evening of the munch and I went alone. He couldn’t come to munch and that meant he couldn’t cum. So, sorry that your orgasm got “ruined” my love!

I’m going to have to come up with some other intense and memorable way to make him cum now, does anyone have any ideas? Feel free to comment! 🙂

Happy Thanksgiving! Who among us doesn’t love dorky holiday-themed blog posts? 🙂 Today, we both want to talk about what we are thankful for in our lives sexually, since we can’t really talk about these things at the dinner table with family!

He Said:

The thing I’m most thankful for is that I somehow lucked into finding someone who enjoys the exact same kinks that I do. Female domination and orgasm denial were always things that excited me (chastity was a later development), and I’m extremely lucky to have married someone who shares those interests. I’ve seen so many people struggle to find a partner who shares their kinky desires, and I’m glad I never had to do that.

I’m also thankful that ML enjoys playing with, teasing, and using my cock. She could very easily lock my cock up and ignore it for however long she chooses, but that’s not her style. She enjoys edging me, making me crazy, instructing me to fuck her until she cums on my cock while denying me the whole time.

Lastly, I’m thankful that I married a wonderful woman who connects with me emotionally and sexually… and she has fucking incredible tits, too! Damn, they are awesome. 🙂

She Said:

I’m incredibly thankful to have a submissive husband. I’m completely and utterly a control freak. I need things to be in order and how I want them. I also need to know that I am wanted, desired and loved. Having a subby hubby, that I control and keep denied and achy and horny for me, is only natural. It fits who I am and what I need, exactly. It fills my love tank nice and full.

I will admit that I’m also very thankful for my hubby’s large cock. If his cock wasn’t so big, we could easily be in a cuckold situation where I’d need some big thick cock satisfaction. I don’t think I could actually do that so, I’m thankful that his cock is amazing and completely satisfying.

I’m so thankful to be married to a man that can handle the amount and level of teasing I give out. I am, by no means, easy when it comes to teasing and edging and denying him. He takes it all, anything I want to do to him or make him endure and I am incredibly thankful for his strength and resilience! 🙂

I really do love that My Lady keeps my cock locked up in a chastity cage. It can be frustrating at times, but I love that she keeps it controlled and that it’s hers and that it only gets hard when she allows it. I love that she wants it that way, too, and that she’s not just “doing it for me.”

But then again…

It is a nice feeling to wake up in the morning fucking rock hard and NOT have steel bars digging into the throbbing horny flesh of my cock. 🙂