Product Review: Gillette Venus Silk Expert IPL

Posted by JonMustWait on August 21, 2018
Posted in: Advice, Male Chastity, Product Reviews. Tagged: , , , , . 4 comments

Very soon after I started wearing a chastity cage, ML and I made the decision to try shaving my cock and balls. At first it was a comfort decision – shaving allowed me to avoid hairs getting inadvertently plucked and/or tugged on – but we discovered that we both thought I looked pretty damn sexy shaved down there. Since then, I still shave for comfort, but also because ML likes to have me nice and smooth. Nowadays, I get itchy and uncomfortable if I go a week or so without shaving.

The only time this presents a problem is if ML is wanting to keep me locked up for a good long time. I have two choices:

1) don’t shave during the lockup, and let 2+ weeks worth of pubic hair grow in, or

2) attempt to shave around the cage

Shaving around the cage isn’t that big a problem by itself, but it gets kinda bad when the hairs begin to grow back… especially in areas where the cage usually sits. I’ve had to deal with a few ingrown hairs here and there, which wasn’t exactly pleasant. So, to avoid all of this hassle, I decided to go with a more “long term” solution to hair removal.

Now, this is going to sound kinda weird, considering I post pictures of my cock to this blog on a fairly regular basis, but I am actually really shy; I’m not really interested in going to some salon to have laser hair removal done on my balls. Instead, I looked for something that I could do at home.

Which brings us to…

The Gillette Venus Silk Expert IPL system!

Now, before I start my review, I would like to say that the instruction manual does clearly state that this product should NOT be used on the genital area… however, I did my due diligence and researched a bit and found that people have used it for just this very purpose. I also did the “test area” bit where I give it a try on a small patch of skin first, and I experienced no problems. With all of that said, I would still use caution and understand that there is some risk involved in using a product in ways other than suggested by the manufacturer.

How Does It Work?

BEHOLD, THE POWER OF SCIENCE!

Laser hair removal uses the melanin in hair to treat the follicle and prevent hair regrowth. The laser reacts with the melanin found in the hair to create heat, which actually damages the root of the hair and the follicle itself. Melanin is a pigment which makes both skin and hair darker; because of this, the laser is more effective with darker hair. Also, laser treatment cannot be performed on people with darker skin because the laser can react with the pigment in their skin (instead of the hair) and cause burns and injury.

It isn’t immediate or perfect, and it takes time for the effect to be visibly noticeable… which is why some people give bad reviews on these products, it’s due to their unreasonable expectations.

How Do You Use It?

It is actually very easy to use. The device itself has skin tone detectors on it, which can sense when the device is applied properly to the skin; if the laser window isn’t flush to the skin, it won’t activate. It works like a safety, preventing bad application of the laser. It also helps prevent skin burns from the laser – if your skin is too dark, the laser will not turn on. The Venus Silk Expert can either be used in individual spots (which is the technique I’ve been using), or a continuous technique for larger areas like your legs or chest.

Does It Hurt?

Um…. kinda, I guess? I mean, it’s nowhere near like getting a tattoo, and not even in the same universe as getting a piercing… but it’s not 100% painless. It’s sort of like touching something that’s hotter than you expect it to be, but not hot enough to seriously burn you – it stings, but it lasts for an EXTREMELY short time. It’s definitely not as bad if you are prepared for it – the first time I used it, I went to the spot right above my cock. After using the laser, I thought there was no way I’d be able to actually do it on either my cock or my balls; but once I was ready for it, I got through it fine. Overall, it really isn’t a big deal.

Does It Work?

To be fair, it’s too early too tell. Dumbass me was so excited to get started, I forgot to specifically take “before” pics, but here are a couple from a while ago where I was particularly shaggy:

Here is a pic of me now, just before doing my second week of treatment:

It’s only been a week, but it honestly does look a little better – there seems to be less hair growth, and less thickness. I have no idea how “grown out” that before pic was, but it’s not looking too bad at the moment. I’ll be posting more pics as I continure the treatments, but this is obviously a long-term project – the instruction manual says that results can sometimes take up to 12 weeks to be apparent, so it may take some time to see the full results.

Unlike waiting for my next chance to cum, I’m in no rush, lol.

Nipple Q’s

Posted by JonMustWait on July 28, 2018
Posted in: Advice, Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 5 comments

It’s been about two weeks since I got my nipples pierced, and lots of people have been asking the usual questions that come along with poking a hole in your body and putting a metal bar through it. I thought it would help for those who were curious (as well as those who may be thinking about doing it themselves) to answer some of them here.

Here we go!

Did it hurt?

Uhhh…… yeah! Some dude shoved a needle through my nips, of course it hurt! I actually have a pretty high pain tolerance, so it wasn’t horrible, but other people might find it overwhelming. It’s MUCH more painful than a tattoo, but only for a quick few seconds.

The other part of this question is if they still hurt – at this point, they don’t hurt much anymore. It feels like they’ve healed up pretty well by now; except for some itching her and there, they feel completely normal. Every once in a while I’ll forget and catch one on my seat belt, but it’s like “mini toe stub” type of pain: hurts for a moment because it’s so unexpected, then goes away quick. They only really hurt when they are supposed to…

Like this.

Do your nipples stay hard now?

Yeah, they do! Before the piercings, my nipples would get pretty hard and pokey… but they wouldn’t stay that way. Now they are pretty much always some level of hard. It’s kinda like having a constant semi-hard erection – they aren’t always perky, but they aren’t as soft as they used to be either.

In response to this, I’ve started wearing some looser fitting shirts to work. I’m not embarrassed about my nipples, per se, but I’d rather avoid questions about my nips at work while I can.

Are they more sensitive now?

Holy fuck, YES!

I had sensitive nipples to start with, but now it’s just absolutely ridiculous. When ML plays with my nipples, it drives me absolutely insane now – my toes curl, I lose my balance, and I can’t stop my body from squirming. They are like buttons that when touched get my cock hard instantly, and the tingly sensation I feel when they are lightly teased hangs around for endless minutes afterwards. During sex, when ML rubs and squeezes them, I can’t help but moan loudly and I have to stop to avoid cumming inside her.

This may have been a big mistake.

ML has been saying that she’s excited to get me tied up nice and good so she can spend some time playing with her “new toys.” Today, Grandma has taken the kids overnight until Sunday afternoon. She might just get her wish…

Tease With These

Posted by JonMustWait on July 26, 2018
Posted in: Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 1 comment

My Lady really does love to tease me. And she knows exactly what works to get me all worked up.

The other day, I had off from work and was home alone. ML decided to spend her down time at work teasing the fuck out of me with pictures of her tits. Her gigantic, beautiful tits.

It’s things like this that make it clear that we are perfect for each other. She loves being a cocktease, and I love it when she teases me. Also, her boobs are what I consider the absolute perfect pair of tits: huge, soft, big thick nipples… and mine to play with!

Well… I do share them with ML. )~

New Permanent Steel

Posted by Michele on July 16, 2018
Posted in: In Real Life. Tagged: , , , . 1 comment

I think it was about a month ago when CM and I were talking with someone about having piercings. I have had some piercings in the past and currently only have my ears and tongue still pierced. I’ve had nipples, eyebrow and nose done as well and CM has never had a piercing. The conversation got us thinking about CM and would I like any piercings on him. I don’t personally like the look or anything of penis piercings so thats not something I’d have him do. We started talking about where he could be pierced and what would be the point, etc. That got us onto his nipples, perhaps those would look nice and they might even help to make his nipples a lot more sensitive. So, if you follow us on Twitter, I had asked our followers to show me their nipple piercings so I could get a feel for how they looked. I could never see hubby with facial piercings – plus working in a hospital thats probably not the best idea. I realized I didnt like the hoops in a guy nipples but I did like the look of small bars horizontally through the nipple. I know, I know… sometimes I think too much but with any kind of body modification I want to make sure it’s something I’m going to like or there is no point in getting it.

So what all this brings us to is that on Wednesday last week, when CM & I were off work and had out “date day” not only did we get in about a hour or so of play time I also took him to get MY nipples pierced.

I say it that way because they are for me… I didnt get them pierced for him, I did it for me, so I have something to play with and to make his nipples more sensitive for me. Plus they really do look hot on him!

It took me a few days to not be like WOW there are bars in your nipples lol because I’ve never seen CM as the type to have piercings, at all. I never saw him as one to have tattoos either and now he’s got a bunch and I love them!! A couple of his tattoos are mine or ours and have so much meaning! These nipple piercings also have a bit of meaning. It’s not something he did on his own for his own reasons. He has them for me. He truly has given himself to me in so many ways… he’s locked in a steel cage for me and now he’s got steel bars through his nipples for me. Once they heal completely I cant wait to play with them and pull on them and figure out all the wonderful things we can do with them!!

I couldn’t help but lick them and rub them since they are so new and sensitive… I’m sure I’m going to have so much fun with them when they are finally healed!

Happy 4th!!!!

Posted by JonMustWait on July 4, 2018
Posted in: Male Chastity, Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , . 3 comments

Today marks 242 years since the adoption of the Declaration of Independence. Coincidentally, today is also one month since the start of my latest (and what will be longest?) bout of orgasm denial. There’s really no connection there, other than the fact that I seem to be obsessed with all things sexual lately due to being so horny.

ML has yet to re-attempt a long lockup time, but I have a feeling it’s coming soon. The question is whether or not I am looking forward to it, also. With the caveat of saying that I love absolutely everything we do, I’m not sure if I’d rather have my dick out or locked away at certain times.

Sometimes it feels like I’m just torturing myself by hoping for time out of the cage. After all, I know I’m not going to get an orgasm no matter what attention my cock gets, so it’s just going to end up as one big frustrating tease. Sometimes I wonder if I’m better off staying in the cage until My Lady wants to use me.

But then I remember how damn good My Lady’s pussy feels on my cock.

It really is amazing, and totally worth the frustration of being repeatedly denied. I am very lucky that ML feels the same way about me, instead of only wanting me out of the cage to torment me… although, sometimes, that is her goal for releasing me.

Feelings for the Cock

Posted by Michele on June 25, 2018
Posted in: KeyHolder, Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , , , . 10 comments

The other day Cagedmonkey posted an update about our current chastity and denial situation. We had mentioned that starting at his birthday he’d locked for an extended period and denied for a hell of a lot longer. Well, like he updated, the whole lock up thing didn’t go as planned!

If you know my history at all, you know around 3 weeks of having him locked, I start to desperately miss that big cock and feeling it inside me. Well, CM had only been locked 2 weeks when we went to NY for the weekend. We had such an amazing weekend, so loving and sexual and teasy and by the time we got home I was really missing the feeling of his cock, so while I wasn’t planning on having him out, in the heat of a very sexy moment I made him get out of his cage – that was a huge feat since he was rock hard in that cage – and give me the cock I so desperately needed. 🙂

Then comes the next day… I felt so bad, I felt like I’d let him down because I know sometimes we talk about pushing further or doing things longer, harder, more intense and I just couldn’t. There comes this point where I need to feel that connection with him physically and emotionally. Where I need to have him completely and without a cage in between us. However, I still felt bad and like I wasn’t good enough. I got into the “I’ll never be able to give him what he wants” thoughts and I’m worthless, yadda yadda yadda.

The point of this post is to let other women know that this happens… The most important reason for this post is to remind women we are in charge and ultimately we decide when, if and how our guys are locked up and even more importantly, this post is to remind everyone how important communication is. When I started to feel this way I told Cagedmonkey, right away, how I was feeling. I didn’t want it to continue to grow when it was much easier to talk about and work through and not put my feelings on him. I certainly can feel like I’m letting him down but knowing that he’s not let down and that he’s all good with what happened, and good with whatever happens, makes getting through the feelings that much better.

Update

Posted by JonMustWait on June 22, 2018
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Hi everybody!

We’ve been slacking a bit on the posts lately because we’ve been so busy here and there; we also took a little road trip last weekend and also took the time to visit some friends, which ended up being a very fun time! I’m sure you’ll be “hearing” about it pretty soon!

With that said, many people have been asking us how things are going since starting the longer lockup and even lengthier denial. Well, I think it’s not a big surprise that I’m horny as fuck at the moment. 🙂

The longer lockup didn’t go as long as My Lady had planned for it to go – she was initially looking for at least a month, but it was only a little more than two weeks before she let me out for sex. I know, it’s such a pain that she wants my cock inside her so badly, ammirite? My Lady was feeling a little down about the whole thing, thinking that she let me down in some way, but I was MORE than happy to get my cock in her pussy. 🙂 Seriously, I don’t get “disappointed” by things like that anymore, mainly because I don’t set expectations that I feel NEED to be filled, or else it won’t live up to my fantasy… I mean, I’m basically living a fantasy as is, why would I need anything more than what I already have? As long as ML is happy with what transpires, then that is all that I want.

As far as orgasms go: I still haven’t cum since my birthday, after a weekend where I had more orgasms than I’ve had over the past 3 years combined at least. ML was trying to make me cum so much to the point where I wanted to stop, but I think she underestimated what these last 5 years have done to me! I’m not sure how many times I came (maybe somewhere in the teens, perhaps?), but after so many years of extreme denial I felt like I could definitely do more. It might take 20 or 30 before I feel sufficiently caught up. 🙂

Orgasm denial has never been a major problem for ML to deal with, at least during the first handful of months; we got through six months pretty easily during our last long run…or, maybe I should say she got through easily, I was out of my mind desperate to cum after two. This time around, we are taking a “let’s see what happens” approach to it all: ML wants to go at least six months, then who knows? Going for a full year or orgasm denial would be an amazing milestone, but if it doesn’t happen, then no biggie. And, on the flip side, if she feels like she wants to go more than a year…. um, well, that would be a big biggie for me, but I guess I would have to go along with it.

Mail Chastity: Punishment

Posted by Michele on June 3, 2018
Posted in: Advice, Mail Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . 3 comments

D & J are a couple that read our blog. They recently sent an email asking for help with appropriate punishment. I’m extremely lucky in having a very good boy who does not push the boundaries so punishment doesn’t not come up often. It’s not something I enjoy having to do.

D & J wrote:

This weekend I have gone away for a few days, on Thursday night my cage worked itself off and I couldn’t get it back on as the key is 2.5 hrs away.
On Thursday night I edged myself once, haven’t done anything else but this is a serious infraction in our relationship.
Previous punishments have been whipping, and a few minutes with clover clamps. Extending chastity has never been a punishment as my wife has never set a time frame to extend until now.
Can you suggest an appropriate punishment please?

My suggestion for punishment may not be like others since I’m not too big into giving them. When it comes to punishment for us I take things away from Cagedmonkey, such as parts of my body, pleasing me or even playing video games. There have been times where I took away chastity and any attention to his penis. Those things really are punishment for him because he enjoys our play and taking that away is really the best way to keep him in line. I don’t really use spanking, etc for punishment as that is more “funishment.”

So the reason for this post is to ask our readers what their suggestions would be in this situation for punishment. What have you or your Mistress done as punishment in this situation? If you haven’t been in this situation, what would you do? What do you feel is an appropriate punishment for edging without permission?

Please comment here in the comment section so D & J can read your responses!! Thanks 🙂

You’ll Cum When I Say So

Posted by Michele on June 2, 2018
Posted in: KeyHolder, Male Chastity, Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , . 6 comments

This weekend is Cagedmonkey’s birthday weekend. His actual birthday is on Monday, so I decided the weekend before I would spend overloading him on orgasms. My plan is to try to make him cum so much he’s actually asking me to STOP making him orgasm. Once he’s to the point that he can’t physically orgasm anymore, I plan to use the vibrator to overstimulate him as much as possible.

You may be wondering why I plan to do this and the simple answer is that, starting on his birthday, he’s going to be locked and denied for an indefinite amount of time. I’m thinking a good 6 months of denial sounds good to start. Once we get there I may, or may not, make him go another 6. 🙂 The actual lock up won’t be that long but I am planning on having him go 24/7 for a good chunk of time. I want him aching in the pit of his stomach, desperately needing to get hard and even wanting to orgasm.

I can’t wait to flaunt the fact that I get to have as many orgasms as I was, as much as I want, and even get to make him provide me the pleasure of those orgasms. I very much love to see and feel how frustrated he is when he’s aching for sexual attention and so jealous of my orgasms and the orgasms of others! It’s fun when friends brag to him about the orgasms they get to have when he’s locked and denied and wanting one so bad.

It should be a fun year 🙂

Mail Chastity: How to be a Good Submissive

Posted by Michele on May 24, 2018
Posted in: Advice, Mail Chastity. Tagged: , , , , , . 3 comments

Not too long ago I got asked this question and while I get asked questions frequently, I wanted to put this particular question in its own Mail Chastity post. It’s such a loaded question and it will take much more than a paragraph to answer. As a matter of fact I could do a whole podcast on this question alone. So anyway, here is what I was asked:

“Good morning Lady M! …what makes a good submissive. I am curious as to your personal opion.“

I have many opinions on what makes a good submissive but the super short, honest answer is – being what your Dominant wants.

That answer is also so incredibly vague! No one, absolutely no one can tell you how to be a good sub. The reason I say that is because every single Dom is their own person and every single sub is their own. They all have wants, needs and desires. The ultimate in being a good Dom or sub is having a Dom or sub that compliments your needs, wants and desires. What it takes to be a good sub is getting to know the person you want to be submissive to. Making sure you know what they want and expect out of a submissive. Once you know that and have learned those boundaries then you know exactly how to be a good sub. It takes work and communication, on both sides, to really understand what the other would consider good.

Let me give you an example of what I mean. I am a very loving, mothering Domme. I am also a very service driven Domme. I enjoy being in control and taking care of people. I like being the one to dictate how Cagedmonkey’s day will be, making his lunch and helping him know what to expect from his day. I also get extremely fulfilled by someone doing things for me, without my asking (most of the time), because they thought of me and wanted to make things easier or less for me. You know those times when CM will be home from work and do dishes or clean and vacuum the living room because he just knows I’m at work too and it will be helpful and make less for me to do when I get home… Those things, in my eyes, make him a good submissive husband. However, that’s only one side of being “good.” I also love that CM is exactly what I need sexually. When I’m feeling hardcore, rough and aggressive, I love that he can take what I am needing to give. When I’m feeling loving and cuddly, I love that he can hold me and love me and be that for me. When I want to be pleased sexually, CM is there to please me how I need it. Whether that’s eating my pussy, making me cum, or just being my sex toy to hump and play with. Those things make him a good sub for me.

What makes him good for me, though, may not be good for someone else. Someone else may want certain rituals daily, tasks that must be completed, hard rules that must be followed or there will be punishment. There are also subs out there that have that need. Strict rules to follow with punishment if they are not. Following those rules and taking that punishment would be what makes them a good submissive.

Basically, what I’m saying is… It takes getting to know someone and communicating to find out what will make you a good sub. I hope, in some way, for some one, this was helpful. There is no one way, no right or wrong way. The whole thing comes down to what works in the relationship and in the dynamic.