A Mature Metal Get-a-Way

Posted by Michele on August 6, 2020
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A couple months ago, after we were already a few months into this time we are living, cagedmonkey and I decided we needed to get away. We didn’t want to go too soon so we planned it out for August 1st. Definitely thought the world would have a better handle on a virus after 8 months but whatever, we wanted a break from reality. Little did we know that this little break we planned would be one of the best trips we’ve ever taken!

Last week we hopped a plane and flew to Texas (kids, too!) to finally meet and hang out with friends we’ve known for about 7 years. The weather was warm but actually really great all week. It stayed mostly in the upper 80’s to 90 and sunny and just gorgeous. We spent the week away from other people and the hustle and bustle of the world. It was quiet and relaxing and much needed. Lots of time spent swimming, talking, laughing, enjoying amazing food and getting to know each other. The kids went lizard hunting and 4 wheeling and fishing, and so much more. It was lots of fun! I could seriously get into more but I’m sure you’re sitting there wondering why I’m telling you about some vacation we took with the kids to Texas when this blog is about chastity, right?

First of all, you know us and we like to tell you stories about how chastity fits into real life and marriage with kids. So I’ll start off with cagedmonkey did not fly to Texas caged! I know, I know, you all are disappointed with me that I didn’t send him through TSA with his steel cage on so he could be searched. Lol Honestly, I would have had no issues with him wearing it or sending it through in his bag, however, I really didn’t need a show when our kids were with us. Had we been alone, that little bit of humiliation would have been fun. TSA really is discreet and are not announcing what they find or are searching for in your bag. They are calm and quiet and very nice. So… We had an uncaged monkey for the week we were in Texas.

Now, to the most exciting part… Why Texas?!?! Well because our friends from Mature Metal are in Texas, of course!

Now you see why I mentioned the uncaged thing lol. I found it ironic that we finally get to meet the creators and makers of the cage I have hubby’s cock locked in every day and he’s not even locked in it!

We had such a fun week getting to know Mistress MM & william and we even got to see where all the magic happens! I really did think the shop would be a little bigger than it was. It totally makes sense, though, for ease and suited everything is just about in reach. One thing we noticed all over was the abundance of keys and M’s all over their house. I mean it is Mature Metal and it’s all about keeping important things locked up!

It was really wonderful hearing about how they got started and how it truly is a family owned and run business. Heck, I’m pretty sure we became family being down there lol Mistress MM even put the kids to work! Just think, next time you order a cage, your Keys could have been packed by my kid. Lol

My favorite things we learned while visiting were about Mistress MM & william as people, how they met, what their kinks are and how life is for them. And it was weirdly exciting to find out how alike Mistress MM & I are! We think so alike, like the same things and even finished each other’s sentences! It was like I found my long lost sister!

I certainly don’t want you thinking we kept it all completely vanilla while we were there with the kids. We did find some time to sneak in some impact play with our boys one night. That was lots of fun too! We even found out we like to beat the boys just about the same haha! I was able to get some good marks on cagedmonkey that night but they didn’t last too long into the next day. Maybe I needed to beat him a little longer but somebody was hungry for some ham & cheese! Hahaha

Anyway, keep an eye on the blog over the next couple days, we are working on putting up a very special podcast for your enjoyment! Also, a special thank you to our friends at Mature Metal for an amazing week and letting us into your world! Love you guys and your definitely our family now! Can’t wait to see you again soon!

Fashion Show, Part 2

Posted by JonMustWait on July 22, 2020
Posted in: Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , , , , , . 1 comment

I recently posted about ML wearing some sexy undies for me, and DAMN did she look good. I also mentioned that we had bought a couple of sexy outfits for her, but they didn’t fit her humongous boobs.

Well, great news! We went shopping again, and we got ML an outfit that fit beautifully… and ML looked absolutely amazing.

Unfortunately I wasn’t able to get any pictures…..

Just kidding! I’m not that mean.

I’m so glad that ML allowed me to post some full body shots of her in this. She looks SOOOOOOO sexy!

The way this outfit hugs her curves makes me crazy!

Fuck…. her ass is just…. I really have no way to describe what it does to me.

Just like last time, ML really enjoyed watching my reaction to taking these pictures. I couldn’t take my eyes off of her beautiful body, she looked incredible! I also couldn’t help the reaction of my cock getting hard, which ML also liked seeing. She wanted me to fuck her while wearing the lingerie… how could I say no? 🙂

The sex only lasted for a few minutes – ML looked so fucking good in that outfit, I was ready to cum almost within seconds! But I tried hard to last just a little bit longer, and somehow (I have no idea how!) I succeeded… temporarily. I ended up trying to pull out and ended up ruining my orgasm all over the mattress!

If ML had planned to ruin my orgasm, it would have made for a super hot sexy pic to see the cum from ruined orgasm on her tummy while wearing that outfit. But, to be honest, the ruined orgasm was a complete mistake!

I’ve really been enjoying these fashion shows, and I LOVE seeing My Lady wearing these sexy outfits. We are looking at some more things to buy, so hopefully we can pick some new outfits and do some more photo shoots after our upcoming special “mini-vacation.”

Oh, we didn’t tell you about that? Oh yeah, we should really tell you about that…. stay tuned. 🙂

Holding It

Posted by JonMustWait on July 4, 2020
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Cagedformymistress asked the following question on Twitter in response to my last post:

How are you even managing to have your cock in her pussy and not cum?

I get asked this a lot, actually. For starters, it’s not easy. Just this morning, ML and I had some “sneak away” sex while the kids were doing their regular morning breakfast/Youtube routine, and her pussy felt soooooo damn good. We haven’t had PIV sex for a couple of days, and she’s usually super tight under those circumstances. Plus, she wanted it from behind – her ass up against my hips, her pussy squeezing my cock nice and tight… damn I wanted to cum so badly.

But yeah, I had to stop. Because it’s still at least another 6 months before I get to cum….

Oh yeah, right! The question of how I don’t cum during sex…. sorry, got a little off track there.

The first thing to know is that I have experience with knowing how far I can push myself before losing it. Even before starting this blog, ML and I had fun with some low-key orgasm denial (she’s always been a cock tease, tbh). Because of this, I know when I need to slow down thrusting (or, in some cases, stop entirely) to avoid cumming. ML knows my tone of voice in these situations, can sense when it’s a true emergency, and allows me to take my time… although, sometimes she forces me to go a little longer and then pull out if she wants me to ruin my orgasm with her pussy (that’s a new favorite torture of hers).

The other thing to consider is that I usually can’t spend a lot of time with my cock as actually inside her pussy – if I did, there would be no chance of avoiding an accident. I almost always need to stop fucking her after a minute or less of actual sex. The short gifs you see on the blog aren’t just a small clip of us fucking, it’s pretty much all I can handle.

So, now you know the secret – I’m able to avoid cumming because I know when to stop, and I know not to push my luck for too long. I’m lucky that ML doesn’t mind that I can only give her sex for a couple of minutes maximum. She actually enjoys the fact that her pussy feels so good that it would make me cum in 20 seconds if I didn’t stop. Besides, if she didn’t want it this way, she wouldn’t keep me in this hyper-horny teased and denied state.

Fashion Show

Posted by JonMustWait on June 30, 2020
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So I had been teasing on Twitter about buying ML some sexy lingerie. One of my three purchases finally came in the mail, but unfortunately didn’t fit very well when she tried it on – when it came down to it, her boobs were just too damn big.

A problem I’m sure many men wish their woman 5had.

There are two other ones I bought that still haven’t been delivered, so I guess we’ll see how those go when they get here. I’m the meantime, I did promise sexy outfit pics…. so ML was nice enough to model some panties for me that she had gotten a while back (before we moved) and she had never tried on.

And DAMN did she look good.

One of the first ones ML tried on for me was this pair of low-riding panties with and interesting pattern of straps in the back:

This one is so nice because it shows so much of her sexy ass!

(By the way, fair warning: there will be a lot of pics of ML’s ass in this post, so if you have a heart condition where seeing that amazingly-shaped butt is going to cause a health problem, you should look away now.)

Next, she tried on a pair of purple lacy panties:

And it wasn’t just her ass that was looking good in them:

I couldn’t help but take a peek.

Then she tried on a pair of burgandy panties that were just beautiful on her:

I swear, the shape of her ass when she bends over like that drives me crazy! At this point, I was way too turned on to only take pics:

I mean, can you really blame me? How could I resist this?

The last outfit ML tried on was this flower patterned baby doll nighty:

I mean, seriously? THIS is my wife? Just…. I don’t know what to say, other than “DAMN, THAT ASS!” And that outfit made everything look good:

I couldn’t help it this time either, I needed to fuck her. ML was so turned on by how excited I was seeing her in these outfits, her pussy was literally soaked:

Out of all of them, I think the burgandy one was my favorite. The nighty looked really nice, with the ruffles framing her ass so well… but the burgandy ones were just hot as fuck!

Which one was your favorite? Let us know in the comments!

The Kink Mindset

Posted by JonMustWait on June 25, 2020
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Admittedly, it’s super hard lately to keep ourselves in the kink frame of mind… especially with everything that’s been going on lately. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I’m horny just about every single day. After all, going 5+ months without an orgasm will do that to you. It’s just that it’s not that easy to keep sex, orgasm denial, and chastity on the forefront of your mind with all of the things out there to be worried about.

But we’re trying.

ML is still keeping me locked up as much as possible (as much as my recovery from back surgery will allow), and is teasing me as often as she can (tough to get a good groove going when the kids go to bed so late with no school the next day). She’s still amazingly good at ruining my orgasms, and of course she still has her beautiful tits and sexy ass.

So that’s all good news.

More good news is that we’ve actually been working on making time for special things – not only for us personally, but also for this blog. We’ve got a couple of new toy reviews that will be coming up soon, and some new sexy outfits for ML to do some photo shoots with. Annnnnnnnd…. we are also putting together a VERY special surprise for our podcast fans this summer, so stay tuned for a can’t-miss episode!

In these uncertain times (God, I HATE that phrase), it’s important to hold onto the things that are normal when you can. And we’ll be doing our best to get back to normal here at Monkey In A Cage, as soon as we can!

Mail Chastity: Ruined Orgasm

Posted by Michele on March 30, 2020
Posted in: Mail Chastity, Male Chastity. Tagged: , , . 8 comments

I got a great comment on my last post which included a question I didn’t want to just answer in a reply. I feel like I have a little more to say on the subject than just a few words to be lost in the comment section of the blog.

Philip wrote:

I have a question that I do not recall being discussed in your blog. CM has often edged himself as required but would you Lady M ever instruct him to ruin his own orgasm and do you CM feel you could manage to do this? Personally I think I would find it very difficult and I dare not even hint at the idea to my wife!

It’s interesting to have this question asked because, I do enjoy so very much giving Cagedmonkey a good ruined orgasm. I love, even more, getting him so worked up and crazy during denial that he starts begging for one. I love hearing him moan and whimper and react to teasing and feeling how horny he is. So horny, that he would even want to get that close to orgasm only to have it completely unfulfilled and ruined.

Now to get to the point of answering the question… I do not recall that I have ever had him ruin himself, but himself. I really haven’t even had him stroke or edge himself (without me there) until recently. I struggled a lot with allowing him out of his cage while I wasn’t there. He’s proven, over the past 7 years, that I can trust him to obey me and follow my rules and only do what I tell him to do when he is out of the cage and not with me.

I think one of the other reasons he hasn’t done this on his own is that I enjoy it so incredibly much! Though, he has been the one to actually ruin himself before. I’ve had him both stroke and have sex with me and get himself to a ruined orgasm. A couple of weeks ago I had him fuck my pussy right to the point where he pulled out and his cock just dripped a ruined orgasm on my belly. It was awesome, it makes me so happy I just can’t help but giggle!

Philip, I hope this answers your question and helps you understand my side of this. I don’t know if hubby feels differently when I’m the one ruining him or if he is made to ruin himself. It must take a hell of a lot of self control to do as he is told and to force himself to ruin an orgasm… He could easily just go further and enjoy it but, instead, he obeys because he knows that I enjoy it so much.

So much of his submission is just because he loves making me happy and doing what I want him to makes me happy.

Still Around

Posted by Michele on March 25, 2020
Posted in: Male Chastity, Tease/Orgasm Denial. Tagged: , , , . 6 comments

Although life has been exceptionally busy, we are still around. It seems like 2020 has started out one of the craziest years of our lives. With injuries, kid issues, hubby’s surgery, “vacation” and then this whole thing going on in the world. It’s a bit unbelievable actually. It’s even comical at times.

We’ve had zero to little time to think about anything kinky in the past few months. You’d think that with hubby and I having essential jobs we’d be even more stressed out… Funny thing is, since I’m working from home right now I’ve had way more time to think about hubby and chat with him and tease him through text. I can even sneak away (since schools are closed and the kids are gone too!) sometimes and get pictures and have been turned on and excited to drive him crazy!
Hubby has still been denied since our anniversary in January and it’s still my plan to keep him orgasm denied for the year. I’ve enjoyed having him out of his cage enough to edge for me sometimes, and to have sex with him when I feel like it. He’s been doing something recently again and that’s getting on his knees for me. When we started this whole thing he would get on his knees every day and tell me who’s he was, that he was mine and no one else. Lately, he’s been doing that and I love it!

He’s also been taking time to kiss and love and worship different parts of my body. He’s remembering that it’s not all about intercourse and that sex can be in many forms. It’s feels extremely good to have him loving all the parts of me! It’s been a lot of fun finding time to get in those little things that remind each other that we are still enjoying our life together. That we still enjoy the kinky, even if we can’t get as kinky as we want due to the kids being older.

I know we both miss it and wish we had time for it… The kids won’t be kids forever, they won’t need us forever. I’m trying to remember this is temporary. They are only ours to enjoy and do things with for a few more years and if we keep pushing them away we will miss these last few years. I DO want time for hubby and I but I know the time we do get together will grow as the kids get even older.

As bad as this whole thing is in the world, it’s been a blessing for us as a couple and a time for us to reconnect to our tease and denial and fun times. It’s also helped to open some communication and while we know we don’t have an the crew time in the world we at least have been able to talk about what we are missing and what we’d like to be doing.

Nipple Torture (Not the Good Kind)

Posted by JonMustWait on January 19, 2020
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ML and I have been trying out some different piercings for my nipples – mainly because I’ve had to take them out for my back MRIs, but also because we’ve been trying to see if we like the look of anything different there. We’ve tried different types of bars with different colored/sizes balls, and even recently tried rings.

A secondary goal of trying the new piercings was to try to reduce the amount of scar tissue on my nipples. Because the original bars I had in were so short, the balls had pulled up against my skin and made little “nubs” on my nipples.

It seemed to be working for a while, and I was even liking the look of the new piercings. But then I started to notice some issues with them – I was starting to have reactions to them (itchy, not healing properly, etc.).

I first noticed the reactions to bars that were titanium… or, at least, the Amazon seller claimed they were titanium. Then I had a problem with the rings that were supposedly surgical steel – seriously, wtf? I didn’t have a problem with other steel bars, why such issues with the rings?

ML and I are working under the assumption that the stuff she bought online wasn’t necessarily titanium or steel, that they were maybe something less inert and I reacted to it. From now on, we are only going to get our stuff from shops that can vouch for their materials. We haven’t given up on the rings completely, we just need to be less trusting of the internet, lol.

At the moment, I have plastic placeholders in my nipples (since I have an MRI Monday morning anyway). Hopefully these will give my nipples a chance to chill out a little and relax.

New Year, Same Us

Posted by Michele on January 17, 2020
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With the start of the new year – in more ways than one, wink wink – we’ve seen a slight uptick in our blog visits. Okay, maybe it’s because we actually got up off our butts, stopped being lazy, and started posting again…. but who really cares about the why, right? Anyway, we’ve also had some new followers, both here and on Twitter, so we figured it would be a good idea to go oover a little basic Q&A on what we are all about. And, to help us out with the “Q” portion of that equation, one of our followers wrote to us asking us some things about our relationship.

johnsk writes:

I am fascinated by this. Single guy here from USA. Although my cock is not large, I cannot get even the largest ring to fit. I have tried lube, etc. Very frustrating.

I’ll allow it.

The most common device I wear is the Jailbird from Mature Metal. I use an oval base ring, which may end up helping in your case. I know that I had trouble with the circular rings of other cages (although the Revenge ring is circular, and that one works fine).

Moving on to johnsk’s actual questions:

How often are you allowed to orgasm? Is it strictly her decision or a joint decision?

When and how I get to orgasm is 100% her choice. The frequency of my orgasms can vary depending on My Lady’s mood – sometimes it will be every few weeks, sometimes every few months. I have been cumming a lot more often than I am used to these past couple of weeks, but that is going to come to a stop VERY soon – ML and I are planning to once again try at a complete year of orgasm denial for me starting from our anniversary, which…..

*checks notes*

…. is TOMORROW!!!!

johnsk continues:

I also wonder if you employ butt plugs and spanking in conjunction with chastity.

ML is certainly a big fan of spanking me, although we haven’t had much opportunity to do so recently. As expected, spankings tend to generate a lot of noise; and, as a married couple with two children, it gets difficult to find time for that. Butt plugs are much easier to be discreet with, and ML will have me wear one from time to time.

johnsk finished:

Thanks for a great site on this topic.

And thanks for reading! We really do enjoy posting and doing all of this blog stuff – not just because we are kinky fuckers who like to show off all of the fun stuff we are doing, but also because we like the education aspect of all of this. There are a lot of sites that preach a specific kind of chastity play, and claim that it’s the “right way to do it” and no other way is “real” chastity… well, that’s all bullshit. Chastity can be whatever it means to you: you can lock up your cock without having a keyholder, you can have a single keyholder, or even a committee! You can be in chastity for an hour, a day, or a week… or longer, even. There’s no wrong answer, as long as it works for you.

So, thanks to johnsk and all of our other readers/followers! We look forward to you visiting us as we continue our fun far into the future.

Rough Nights

Posted by JonMustWait on January 7, 2020
Posted in: Male Chastity. Tagged: , , , , . 5 comments

Things are in an interesting place in the MinaC household. On the one hand, both ML and I are anticipating another try for a full year of orgasm denial – while I know I will eventually be horribly desperate to cum by the end of it, we both miss the intensity and the crazy horniness that it brings to both of us. My Lady is particularly excited about incorporating more ruined orgasms into the mix, which will hopefully somewhat fulfill her desire to see me cum without giving me the pleasure of a full orgasm. It’ll also most likely drive my frustration even stronger (another positive in ML’s eyes).

On the other hand, certain “situations” have developed that have put some limits on my ability to wear my chastity cage, specifically overnight. I’ve been experiencing some pretty severe back pain over the past few months, which was confirmed as a herniated disc by MRI.

Wearing the cage at night often leads to middle-of-the-night erections that cause such bad pain that I can’t sleep. Now, before y’all start in with the “OMG chastity caused your herniated disc!” BS —

— I’m almost 100% sure I injured it during our recent move. Just because it hurts now because of it, doesn’t mean it originally caused it. If you break your ankle skiing, it’s gonna hurt if you walk on it; you didn’t break your ankle by walking on it.

It’s kind of a bummer to not be able to wear the cage indefinitely at this time; I feel like I’m taking away ML’s choice in how long I wear the cage (to be fair, it was ML’s decision to allow me to sleep cageless for now). I would really like to wear the cage for days or even weeks at a time if she desires – my desperation for just a simple erection can get very intense – but it’s just not doable right now.

The weird thing is that when I get sexually aroused in the cage, it doesn’t lead to the pain that the mid-sleep ones do. It’s almost as if it’s a different type of erection that occurs. This is good – at least My Lady gets to see my cock struggling in its cage while she teases me. That’s one of her favorite things about keeping me in chastity!

So, depending on how we decide to address my back pain issue (surgery is a definite possibility in the near future), things may get better quickly or maybe not-so-quickly. I’m just hoping for some improvement in the future. I want ML to be able to keep me in the cage for as long as she wants, not as long as I can manage.